Zamkati
- 1. Kuyika ndalama mwa mnzanu
- 2. Kuyika zosowa zanu kuti zikhale zolondola
- 3. Kusiya zakale
- 4. Osayiwala zosowa zanu
- 5. Kukhazikitsa zolinga limodzi
Umodzi muukwati ndi gawo laubwenzi wolimba komanso kulumikizana komwe okwatirana amakhala nako wina ndi mnzake komanso ndi Mulungu. Nthawi zambiri anthu okwatirana sazindikira umodzi wawo, zomwe zimawononga banja pang'onopang'ono. Ukwati sikungodzipereka kwa wokondedwa wanu, koma ulendo wopanga banja limodzi monga umodzi.
Genesis 2:24 amagawana kuti "awiriwo akhala amodzi" ndipo Marko 10: 9 amalemba zomwe Mulungu adalumikiza "asapatule munthu." Komabe, zofuna kupikisana pamoyo nthawi zambiri zimatha kusiyanitsa umodzi womwe Mulungu wakonza kuti akwatire.
Nazi njira zisanu zogwirira ntchito umodzi ndi mnzanu:
1. Kuyika ndalama mwa mnzanu
Palibe amene akufuna kukhala womaliza pamndandanda wofunikira kwambiri. Zinthu zofunika kuchita pamoyo zikayamba, ndizosavuta kuti mudziphatika ndi zinthuzi. Nthawi zambiri timapeza kuti timapereka zabwino zathu pantchito zathu, ana athu, ndi anzathu. Ngakhale kutenga nawo mbali pazinthu zabwino komanso zowoneka ngati zopanda vuto zomwe timachita m'miyoyo yathu, monga kudzipereka kutchalitchi kapena kuphunzitsa masewera a mpira wamwana, zitha kulanda nthawi yamtengo wapataliyo kwa mnzathu. Izi zitha kupangitsa kuti okwatirana azikhala ndi zotsala kumapeto kwa tsiku. Kukhala ndi nthawi yokwanira yozindikira zofuna za mnzathu wa m'maganizo, mwakuthupi ndi mwauzimu kudzakuthandizani kuwonetsa kuti mumawakonda komanso kuti ali ndi chidwi. Kuwonetsa izi kungaphatikizepo kutenga mphindi 15 kufunsa za zomwe zachitika tsiku lawo, kuphika chakudya chapadera, kapena kuwadabwitsa ndi mphatso yaying'ono. Izi ndi nthawi zazing'ono zomwe zingadzetse ndi kukulitsa banja lanu.
"Pakuti kumene kuli chuma chako, komweko udzakhala mtima wako." Mateyu 6:21
2. Kuyika zosowa zanu kuti zikhale zolondola
Nthawi ina ndidauza wodwala kuti chisudzulo chimakhala chokwera mtengo kuposa kukhala cholondola. Pofunafuna zolondola, pamapeto pake timalepheretsa kumvera zomwe mnzathu akuyesetsa kuti alankhule. Timakhala ndi malingaliro ena pamomwe timamvera, kenako timakhala onyada, ndipo tili otsimikiza kuti "tikulondola". Koma, kodi kuchita zabwino kumabweretsa mavuto otani m'banja? Ngati tilidi amodzi muukwati wathu, ndiye kuti palibe kulondola chifukwa ndife amodzi kale m'malo mopikisana. Stephen Covey ananena kuti “muziyesetsa kumvetsa zinthu kenako kuti muzimvetse.” Nthawi ina mukasemphana maganizo ndi mnzanuyo, sankhani zopereka chisankho chanu kuti mukhale wolondola, poyesetsa kumva ndi kumvetsetsa malingaliro a mnzanuyo. Ganizirani kusankha chilungamo kukhala kolondola!
“Khalani odzipereka wina ndi mnzake mwa chikondi. Muzilemekezana pakati panu. ” Aroma 12:10
3. Kusiya zakale
Kuyamba kukambirana ndi "Ndikukumbukira pomwe uda ..." kukuwonetsa kuyambika kovuta polumikizana ndi mnzanu. Kukumbukira zopweteketsa m'mbuyomu kungatipangitse kuti tizikangana nawo mtsogolo. Tikhoza kumamatira ndi chitsulo pazinthu zopanda chilungamo zomwe zatichitira. Pochita izi, titha kugwiritsa ntchito kusowa chilungamo kumeneku ngati chida ngati "zolakwitsa" zowonjezera zachitika. Kenako tikhoza kupitiliza kusowa chilungamo kumeneku, koma kuti tidzakumane nako nthawi ina tikadzakwiya. Vuto ndi njirayi ndikuti silimatitsogolera mtsogolo. Zakale zimatipangitsa kukhala ndi mizu. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kupita patsogolo ndi mnzanu ndikupanga "umodzi," ndiye kuti ikhoza kukhala nthawi yoti musiye zakale. Nthawi ina mukamayesedwa kuti mubweretse zopweteka kapena zovuta zam'mbuyomu, zikumbutseni kuti mukhalebe pakadali pano ndikuchita ndi mnzanu moyenera
“Kumbukirani zinthu zakale; usakhalenso m'mbuyomu. ” Yesaya 43:18
4. Osayiwala zosowa zanu
Kuthandizira kulumikizana ndi mnzanu kumatanthauzanso kukhala ndi chidziwitso chazomwe inu muli komanso zosowa zanu. Tikataya mwayi wodziwa kuti ndife ndani, zimatha kukhala zovuta kuti mudziwe omwe muli munthawi yaukwati. Ndibwino kukhala ndi malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu. Ndibwino kukhala ndi zokonda zakunja kwanu ndi banja lanu. M'malo mwake, kuganizira kwambiri zofuna zanu kungathandize kuti banja lanu likhale lolimba komanso labwino. Kodi izi zingatheke bwanji? Mukazindikira zambiri za zomwe amakonda komanso zomwe mumakonda, izi zimakhazikitsa maziko, kulimba mtima, komanso kuzindikira, zomwe mungabweretse muukwati wanu. Chenjerani ndi kuonetsetsa kuti zokonda izi sizitsogola ukwati wanu.
"... chilichonse chomwe mungachite, chitani zonse kuulemekeza Mulungu." 1 Akorinto 10:31
5. Kukhazikitsa zolinga limodzi
Talingalirani mwambi wokalambayo wakuti “okwatirana amene amapemphera pamodzi amakhala pamodzi.” Momwemonso, maanja omwe amakhazikitsa zolinga limodzi, amapindulanso limodzi. Sanjani nthawi yoti inu ndi mnzanu muzikhala pansi ndikukambirana za tsogolo lanu. Kodi ndi maloto ena ati omwe mukufuna kukwaniritsa m'zaka 1, 2, kapena 5 zikubwerazi? Kodi mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo wotani mukamapuma limodzi? Ndikofunikira kuti muziwunikiranso zolinga zomwe mwakhazikitsa ndi mnzanu, kuwunika ndikukambirana za ulendowu, komanso zosintha zomwe zikufunika kupita patsogolo mtsogolo.
"Pakuti ndikudziwa zolinga zomwe ndikukupangirani, akutero Yehova, ndikufuna kuti zinthu zikuyendereni bwino osati kukuvulazani, ndikukupatsani chiyembekezo ndi tsogolo." Yeremiya 29:11