Zamkati
- 1. Sikuti ndi "upangiri" wokha
- 2. Sasankhana
- 3. Mutha kupeza chithandizo chokhazikika
- 4. Alipo wina woti athetse mkangano
- 5. Zomwe mukunena zimakhala zachinsinsi
- 6. Amadzipereka kupanga zinthu bwino
- Upangiri wapabanja pa intaneti
Munthu wina dzina lake John Steinbeck nthawi ina anati "Mukudziwa upangiri. Mumangofuna ngati zigwirizana ndi zomwe mumafuna kuchita. ” Pali zonyoza pamawu amenewo, koma mukudziwa chiyani? Palinso zowonadi zingapo mmenemo.
Ndipo moona mtima, ichi ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe anthu ena okwatirana amazengereza kupeza upangiri wa maukwati kapena upangiri waubwenzi kuchokera kwa mlangizi waluso kapena wothandizira.
Chifukwa chake, ndi liti pamene muyenera kuwona mlangizi wa mabanja?
Ngati ubale wanu ukuwonongeka ndipo mukuyesera kupeza njira zothetsera mavuto aubwenzi, ndiye kuti muli ndi zifukwa zonse zopita kukalandira upangiri waukwati.
Komabe, chifukwa maanja mwina sanalandire upangiri waukulu kwambiri kuchokera kwa abale ndi abwenzi ndipo atha kuwopa kuti angalandire chimodzimodzi pazokambirana za maukwati.
Kapenanso ndichifukwa chakuti m'modzi kapena onse awiri amamva ngati mnzawoyo walakwitsa pomwe ali olondola ndipo sakufuna kumva phungu akuwauza mosiyana.
Komabe chowonadi ndichakuti pali mitundu yonse ya zinthu zabwino zomwe zingabwere chifukwa chopeza upangiri waukwati.
Pali zabwino zambiri zomwe mwina simunaganizirepo musanawerenge nkhaniyi; omwe mwachiyembekezo asintha malingaliro anu panjira yolangizira maukwati komanso momwe zingapindulitsire inu, mnzanu komanso banja lanu.
1. Sikuti ndi "upangiri" wokha
Chinthu choyamba kukumbukira ponena za kupita kukaonana ndi mlangizi wa maukwati kapena wothandizira ndikuti mudzalandira zambiri kuposa upangiri wa wina.
Aphungu aluso ali ndi ziyeneretso zomwe zawapatsa chilolezo chochita nawo gawo lawo. Kuyambira pamabuku mpaka pamayeso mpaka pakuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, pali zinthu zosiyanasiyana zomwe alangizi a mabanja angathe kuchita zomwe zingathandize kuti banja lanu likhale labwino.
2. Sasankhana
Mwinamwake mudamvapo wina akunena kuti musamayankhulepo za mavuto am'banja mwanu ndi abale anu chifukwa adzawakumbukira kale mutakhululuka ndikuyiwala.
Chifukwa chake ndichifukwa amakukondani. Koma mlangizi wazokwatirana amabwera m'banja lanu mosakondera. Sakuyikira munthu m'modzi kuposa winayo. Cholinga chawo chachikulu ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mbali zonse amasangalala. Limene limayankha funso lakuti, “kodi uphungu wa maukwati ngopindulitsa?”
Koma tisanalowemo pazifukwa zoperekera upangiri waukwati, tiyeni timvetsetse kaye kuti ndi nthawi yanji yolangiza zaukwati.
- Pakakhala kukangana kosalekeza
- Pamene chikondi ndi kugonana zimasungidwa ngati chilango
- Pomwe malingaliro abodza amakudutsani
- Pomwe palibe mgwirizano wazachuma
- Mukamakhala ndi moyo wanu wosiyana, mochuluka ngati ogona nawo, osangokhala okwatirana
- Pamene nonse musunge zinsinsi kwa wina ndi mnzake
3. Mutha kupeza chithandizo chokhazikika
Ngakhale mutakhala ndi mnzanu wapamtima yemwe mumakonda kucheza naye, chowonadi ndichakuti ali ndi moyo komanso ndandanda yawo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mwina sangapezeke nthawi zonse. Koma ndi mlangizi waukwati, mutha kukonza nthawi yanu. Ndipo popeza mukuwalipira, dziwani kuti phungu wanu adzawona nthawi yanu komanso ndalama zanu kukhala zofunika kwambiri.
4. Alipo wina woti athetse mkangano
Chifukwa chiyani muyenera kupita ku upangiri waukwati?
Nthawi zina anthu amapita kukalandira uphungu waukwati chifukwa sakudziwa momwe angathetsere mikangano mwanjira ina iliyonse.
Chifukwa chake, pamaso pa akatswiri ophunzitsidwa bwino, pansi paupangiri wabwino wa maubwenzi, onse awiri amatha kufotokoza zosowa zawo ndi nkhawa zawo popanda wina kuwadula kapena kunyoza malingaliro awo.
Ngati onse awiri amvetsetsana wina ndi mzake, izi zokha zimatha kupanga zodabwitsana pa chibwenzi chawo.
Wonaninso mayi woyamba wa ku United States a Michelle Obama akulankhula pazomwe adaphunzira pazokambirana zawo zaukwati:
5. Zomwe mukunena zimakhala zachinsinsi
Mwa zifukwa zonse zomwe mudagawana, mwina chimodzi mwazifukwa zabwino kwambiri zopezera upangiri waluso paukwati ndi chifukwa chakuti ali ndi udindo wosunga chinsinsi chachinsinsi.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti ziribe kanthu zomwe mumagawira magawo anu (osawopseza moyo wanu kapena wa wina), ayenera kudzisunga.
Sikuti nthawi zonse zimangotsimikizika ngati mungasankhe kugawana nawo za banja lanu.
6. Amadzipereka kupanga zinthu bwino
Mukalandira upangiri kuchokera kwa anthu ena, nthawi zambiri zimangokhala choncho. Amagawana nanu zomwe akuganiza ndikusunthira kwina; kaya mkhalidwe wanu ukhala bwino kapena ayi.
Koma ndi mlangizi wa maukwati, bola ngati muli odzipereka kwathunthu pantchito yolangiza okwatirana ndikupeza njira yopezera banja lanu thanzi, momwemonso ali. Ngati izi zikutanthauza kugwirira ntchito limodzi kwa miyezi itatu kapena zaka zitatu, ali okonzeka kutsatira izi.
Kukhala ndi mlangizi waukwati kumatanthauza kukhala ndi mlangizi waluso paukwati wanu. Kunena zowona, banja lililonse liyenera kulandira chitsimikiziro ndi chilimbikitso chotere.
Upangiri wapabanja pa intaneti
Kwa iwo omwe akadali pamavuto onena ngati tikufuna uphungu waukwati kapena ayi, upangiri wapaubwenzi pa intaneti ungakhale yankho.
Upangiri waukwati pa intaneti umaperekedwa ndi akatswiri odziwika ngati LMFTs ndi MFTs ku US omwe amadziwika ndi American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) kapena akatswiri amisala omwe amakhala ndi ziphaso kudzera mu Board of Psychology (BOP) mdera lawo.
Potenga upangiri wotsika mtengo pa intaneti, maanja atha kuthana ndi zovuta zaubwenzi m'njira yopezeka, yachinsinsi komanso yosavuta.
Pali magawo azachipatala, upangiri wa maubwenzi akatswiri ndi upangiri komanso nthawi yoikidwiratu ndi akatswiri aupangiri, onse podina batani.
Chifukwa chake, izi zimapempha funso, ndi liti kuti mupeze upangiri waukwati pa intaneti?
- Mukayesa china chilichonse momwe mungathere ndipo tsopano kufunafuna njira zothandiza zobwezeretsanso chidaliro ndi chikondi muubwenzi wanu.
- Potsutsana ndi kupatsidwa uphungu pamasom'pamaso, mungatero amakonda kukhala nanu kunyumba ndipo mwina mumachita nawo msonkhano wapakanema, mameseji, kapena imelo limodzi ndi kucheza pafoni.
- Mukafuna kuyitchula kuti yatha ndikuthetsa chibwenzicho mwamtendere, koma ndi kuyang'ana njira zaukwati wa kholo kapena monga kholo limodzi.
Chifukwa chake, kodi upangiri wa maanja ndiwofunika? Kodi upangiri wa maanja umathandiza? Yankho la mafunso onse awiriwa ndi inde komanso inde.