Zamkati
- 1. Masitepe anu akagwirizana
- 2. Pamene ufikira mnzako kuposa wina aliyense
- 3. Akakhala mnzanu woyankha mlandu
- 4. Mukakhala ndi "timayankhula"
- 5. Mukatseka mapulogalamu anu azibwenzi pa intaneti
- 6. Mukamakhulupiriradi wina ndi mnzake
Pali zambiri zolembedwa pazizindikiro zakuti banja lanu likupita kukhothi lakusudzulana masiku ano kuti ndi ochepa omwe akuyang'ana njira ina-mukamapita kuguwa.
Mukudziwa bwanji kuti ubale wanu ukhala kosatha? Pankhani yovina pachibwenzi, pamakhala magawo ena osonyeza kuti kulumikizana kukuyenda molunjika kuukwati. Kodi mukukumbukira anu?
Kulumikizana ndi za mphindi ndikusunthira kudzipereka kumaphatikizapo njira zina. Pomvera malumbiro aukwati dzulo paukwati wa oyamba kumene ndidawamva akugawana 'mphindi' zomwe aliyense amamva kuti ubale wawo umalimba komanso mphindi ya aliyense kuti amadziwadi kuti ndi iyeyo.
Mukakumbukira zokumbukirazo, zitha kuphatikizira chimodzi kapena zingapo zotsatirazi, zambiri zomwe ndidaziwona dzulo.
1. Masitepe anu akagwirizana
Paulendo wopita kulumikizano pali zovuta. Mukayamba kumaliza malingaliro a wina ndi mnzake, ganizirani zosowa za wina ndi mnzake ndikukhala nangula wina ndi mnzake pali mayendedwe komweko. Zikuwoneka kuti sizimakonda, Dana adalengeza. .
"Pa nthawiyo m'mawa wina adayika zovala zanga m'thumba lake loyeretsera youma pomwe ndidadziwa kuti akhala kanthawi".
Kwa Stu, mphindi ija idafika pomwe Dana adayitanitsa kuti apite kwa dokotala mwachangu patsiku lomwe amakhala ndi msonkhano waukulu wabizinesi. Ndi munthawi izi pomwe "Ine" timakhala "ife" ndipo "inu" timakhala "ife"; sitimayo ikupanga.
2. Pamene ufikira mnzako kuposa wina aliyense
Mukazindikira kuti mumafikira mnzanuyo kuposa wina aliyense, mumazindikira kuti mnzanu ndiye mnzanu wapamtima. Poyambirira, maubale onse ndiosokonekera ndipo malinga ndi Dr. Helen Fisher, chikondi ndichizolowezi choledzera. Ndinu anthu ofunikira kwambiri kwa wina ndi mnzake ndipo nthawi zina mumakhala anthu okhawo kwakanthawi m'miyoyo ya wina ndi mnzake. Okwatiranawo amalemekezana — koyambirira koyambirira — kupatula ena, ndi chisonyezo chakukula kwa zombo zingapo.
Maanja akadzichotsa okha, ngakhale kwakanthawi, kudziko lawo, sichizindikiro choyipa nthawi zonse. Ndikokwanira kuti alowenso mdziko lawo mosiyana, tsopano ngati awiri awiri osati aliyense payekhapayekha. Kusintha kwawo kapena ubale wawo woyamba ndi chisonyezo chakuti atenga gawo limodzi moyo wawo limodzi.
Malinga ndi Peter. .
"Ndidazindikira kuti ndikamupatula Jan ndekha ndipo ndimada nkhawa kuti izi sizabwino koma patadutsa miyezi ingapo ndidamuperekanso m'magulu anga. . . ndipamene ndidadziwa kuti akhala nawo kwakanthawi kwakanthawi ”.
Kwa Jan, zinali zina. .
"Nditauzidwa za ntchito yayikulu ya mano yomwe idafunikira ndidapita kwa Peter m'malo mwa amayi anga."
3. Akakhala mnzanu woyankha mlandu
Pomwe kuvina kukupitilira, masitepe amalumikizidwa kwambiri. Muubwenzi wopanga, othandizana nawo amakhala mnzake wothandizirana wina ndi mnzake. Amayang'anitsana omwe ndi gawo labwino komanso lotanthauzira za ubale ndi abwenzi. Iwo amene amachita izi ali ndi udindo kwa wina ndi mnzake poyamba. Malembo a "GM" ndi "GN" ndi gawo la izi, kulandira tsikuli ndikuvomereza kupatukana koyambirira. Ubale womwe ukutenga izi ndi zizindikilo zakuti zinthu zikuipiraipira.
Kwa Gwen, kulengeza nkhani zamankhwala inali nthawi yofunika kwambiri. .
"Nditalandira foni kuchokera ku Doug kutsatira kuyendera kwa dokotala wake wa mafupa ndidazindikira ... munthawiyo ndidadziwa kuti Doug amandisamalira mokwanira kuti andiuze izi munthawi yake ndipo tidakhala gawo limodzi".
Kufufuzira kumeneku kwa iye chinali chizindikiro cha chikondi chake chomakulirakulira.
4. Mukakhala ndi "timayankhula"
Kulowera kuguwa kumayambitsidwa ndi kuchuluka kwa zokambirana za 'ife' -ndiko kuti, mumadziona ngati sitima ziwiri. Kuchokera pa 'Ine' kupita ku 'ife' ndikofunikira chifukwa kumatanthauzira malo a awiriwa.
Kwa Sara, inali pa ndege pomwe anali kukonzekera kunyamuka. .
"Nditamva Dan akufunsa woyang'anira ndege ngati angathe kusunthira kutsogolo chifukwa" 'tili ndi malire ochepa ", ndidamva kena kake m'mawu ake ndipo panthawiyo, ndidamuyandikira pang'ono mgulu lathu. ”
5. Mukatseka mapulogalamu anu azibwenzi pa intaneti
Amanda ataganiza zokawona match.com adadziwa kuti inali nthawi yoyenera. Amakhala komweko pulogalamuyi nthawi ndi nthawi kuti apitilize kuyimba kwatsopano ndikuyang'ana ngati Jordan ali pa intaneti. Koma tsopano samamvanso kufunikira koti atsegule zosankha zake kapena kuyang'anitsitsa mnzake.
Izi zati, kutseka mapulogalamu anu azibwenzi pa intaneti ndikuwonetsa kuti chibwenzi chanu chimangopita kuchikwati chokha, choyambirira, makamaka, kuguwa lansembe. Ngakhale anthu masiku ano akamachita zibwenzi nthawi zambiri 'amasiya zosankha zawo zili zotseguka' chifukwa ndizosavuta ndi mwayi womwe tili nawo ndi mapulogalamu azibwenzi. Izi zikangotseka mgwirizanowo umachitika mwina m'malingaliro amodzi, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimapangitsa kuti winayo azichita zomwezo.
Amanda adanena. . .
"Tidali ndi 'nkhani' ndipo ndidafunsa Jordan za kupezeka kwake pa intaneti, zomwe ndimazidziwa bwino kuchokera kumafufuza omwe amapezeka nthawi ndi nthawi. Anatinso sakufunikanso kuyang'ana ndipo akutseka akaunti yake. Kwa ine, imeneyo inali sitepe yovuta kwambiri. ”
6. Mukamakhulupiriradi wina ndi mnzake
Mwinanso chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kulumikizana kwabwino ndi lingaliro loti okhulupilira amakhulupirira wina ndi mnzake. Stephanie atazindikira kuti Jake amuthandiza kutha kumapeto kwa sabata limodzi ndi banja lake adadziwa kuti atha kumufunsa chilichonse.
"Atandiuza kuti ayamba kujowina nane, podziwa kuti kukhala kunyumba kumakhala kovuta, komanso kuti akhale nkhonya ndadziwa kuti adzakhalapo kwa nthawi yayitali".
Pamene tikuyamba kulumikizana timapezeka tikutenga upangiri wa mnzathu. Ulemu, kuyamikiridwa kapena ngakhale malingaliro osakhalitsa - 'Ndimakukhulupirira', imayamba kupezeka. Ulemu ndiwofunika kwambiri ndipo zikayamba, makamaka limodzi ndi zizindikilo zina. Zitha kutanthawuza kuti zinthu zokhazikika zikupezeka.
Zaka, kukopa, luntha ndi kuchita bwino zilibe kanthu. Ngakhale chipinda chogona; monga wogwirira ntchito zachiwerewere, sizimandidabwitsa kuti nthawi izi sizokhudza kugonana kwenikweni. Ndi nthawi zolumikizana zomwe ndizofunika. Ndi nthawi ndi zochulukirapo pamene tikukula limodzi zomwe tiyenera kugwiritsitsa ndikukumbukira.