Zamkati
- Mgwirizano wa Amayi ndi Ana - Wabwinobwino komanso wankhanza
- Matenda a Narcissistic
- Kodi Muli ndi amayi okonda zachiwerewere?
- Kodi mayi wowonda zachiwerewere amawononga chiyani?
Kukula ndi mayi wamwano kumatha kusiya zotsatira za moyo wonse kwa mwanayo. Ngakhale ubale uliwonse wa mayi ndi mwana umakhala ndi zonena zake, monga momwe tidzakambirane, pali kusiyana pakati pamaganizidwe abwinowa ndimatenda.
Vuto lodzikweza ndi matenda amisala, sizomwe mungafotokozere za munthu amene amadzikonda komanso wodzikonda.
Mwakutero, zimakhudza aliyense amene akukhala ndi munthu woteroyo, makamaka amene ali pachiwopsezo ngati mwana.
Mgwirizano wa Amayi ndi Ana - Wabwinobwino komanso wankhanza
Narcissism imagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri pama psychology mkati mwa masukulu amisala yamaganizidwe (mayina akulu ake anali Freud, Adler kapena Jung). Mwakutero, zitha kukhala zovuta kumvetsetsa ngakhale kwa akatswiri amisala omwe siomwe amaphunzitsidwa. Ngakhale zili choncho, mfundo zina zikapepuka, zimakhala zoonekeratu kwa aliyense.
Ndi chikhalidwe chomwe chili pakati pa mayi ndi mwana, ndizovuta kuti mayi aliyense alole kupatukana kwa mwana wamwamuna kapena wamkazi. Mwanayo anali gawo losagawanika kwa miyezi isanu ndi inayi. Pambuyo pake, khanda silingakhale ndi moyo wopanda chisamaliro chake (zowonadi sitikulankhula za milandu yomvetsa chisoni yomwe mayi sangathe kapena sangasamalire mwana wake).
Pamene mwana akukula, amafunikirabe chidwi. Koma, imafunanso kudziyimira pawokha.
Mayi aliyense amakhala ndi zovuta kuti asiye. Mwanjira ina, mgwirizano wapakati pawo ndiwosokonekera mwanjira ya mayi kumamuwona mwana kukhala gawo lake. Komabe, amayi ambiri amasangalala ndi ntchito yayikulu yomwe adachita polera munthu wodziyimira pawokha woyenera komanso wachimwemwe. Amayi achiwerewere samatero. M'malo mwake, salola kuti izi zichitike.
Matenda a Narcissistic
Monga tanena kale, umunthu wamankhwala osokoneza bongo ndimavuto aboma. Zizindikiro zake zazikulu ndizodzidalira, kusowa chisoni komanso kulephera kupanga ubale weniweni ndi anthu. Anthu okonda zachiwerewere amakonda kunyenga anzawo, amachita zachinyengo, ndi ouma mtima komanso amwano. Amakhala osasamala, opupuluma, ndipo amakonda kutengera chiopsezo.
Kuphatikiza apo, zisonyezo zonse zakusokonekera kwa umunthu ndizokhazikika pamagawo onse amoyo, komanso m'moyo wonse wamunthu. Zomwe zikutanthawuza mfundo ina yofunikira - mavuto amunthu wamba kuphatikiza yovuta, ndi ovuta kuchiza. M'malo mwake, akatswiri ambiri amawona kuti ndizosatheka. Kungodziwa maluso ena olumikizirana komanso ofewa amatha kuphunziridwa, koma maziko amakhalabe ofanana.
Kodi Muli ndi amayi okonda zachiwerewere?
Ambiri aife takumanapo ndi munthu wamiseche, ndipo ambiri timadziwanso wina yemwe ali ndi vuto laumunthu wamankhwala osokoneza bongo. Komabe, tikakumana ndi wina ndikuwona kuti ali ndi mikhalidwe yotere, tithawa. Kapenanso, tidzakhala ndi mwayi wochita izi.
Tsoka ilo, azimayi oonera anzawo ali ndi ana. Ndipo ndi ana awa omwe sangathe (nthawi zambiri) kumadzimasula okha kuchokera kwa amayi awo.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti amayi anu ali ndi vutoli, kapena ali ndi mikhalidwe yankhanza, mutha kutenga mafunso ngati poyambira. Komabe, ngati mukuganizirabe njirayi chilichonse chitanenedwa pamwambapa, mwina mukunena zowona. Tsoka ilo, anthu ambiri amadziwa kuti makolo awo ndi narcissists mu psychotherapy, chifukwa ambiri mwa iwo omwe amafunikira thandizo ngati atakula ndi ana a makolo omwe ali ndi vutoli.
Kodi mayi wowonda zachiwerewere amawononga chiyani?
Wina akhoza kudabwa chifukwa chake munthu wodzikonda ngati ameneyu angafune kukhala ndi mwana, atapatsidwa kuchuluka kwa kudzimana komwe kumafunikira kuti amulere.
Ngakhale zili choncho, osayiwala zomwe zimalimbikitsa munthu wamatsenga - kukhala wamkulu. Ndipo kukhala ndi mwana kumawapatsa njira zosiyanasiyana kuti akwaniritsire izi.
Kuchokera pazowonjezera zokongola, kuwombera kwachiwiri kuti achite bwino, mpaka kufikira kutalika kwa moyo wake wonse kudzera m'moyo wa mwana wake.
Mwana wamayi wokonda zachiwerewere amayembekezeredwa kuchita bwino kwambiri mgulu lililonse la moyo wawo. Sakuyenera kupitilira amayi, komabe. Koma, ayenera kukhala opanda vuto komanso kusangalatsa amayi munjira iliyonse. Komabe, palibe chomwe chidzakhale chabwino mokwanira. Zotsatira zake, ana a amayi onyentchera amakula mosatekeseka kwambiri.
Wachikulire yemwe anali ndi (kapena adakali ndi) mayi wonyansa ali pachiwopsezo chokhala wokondweretsa anthu mpaka kukhala wokonda kuchitiridwa nkhanza, nkhanza zapabanja, ndi mitundu yonse yazunzo ndi zoyipa. Ana ambiri a amayi oledzera adzasokonezeka m'maganizo ndipo amadziona kuti ndi achabechabe. Kukhala ndi mayi wamanyazi kumasiya zipsera zoyipa, koma, mosiyana ndi iye, mwanayo ali ndi mwayi wochira ndi chithandizo cha akatswiri.