Zamkati
- 1. Gwiritsani ntchito katswiri
- 2. Ganizirani zomwe mungasankhe
- 3. Muzithandiza ana anu kuti asamachite mikangano
- 4. Dzipatseni nthawi
- 5. Funani thandizo kwa okondedwa
- 6. Gwiritsani ntchito loya woyenera
Chisankho chololeza kusudzulana sikuyenera kuchitidwa mopepuka kapena kupangidwa popanda kuganizira mozama.
Sizingatheke kudumpha momwe chisudzulo chimakhudzira inu ndi banja lanu. Ndiye kodi mungatani kuti mupulumuke chisudzulo mwamalingaliro ndikupitiliza ndi moyo pambuyo pa chisudzulo
Munkhaniyi, tikukupatsani upangiri wotsatirawu wopulumuka kusudzulana ndikupita patsogolo m'moyo wanu wakale.
1. Gwiritsani ntchito katswiri
Kupulumuka chisudzulo kungakhale kovuta; Pambuyo pa miyezi kapena zaka zakumverera kuti mulibe wokondedwa wanu, mutha kuganiza kuti chisudzulo ndicho chokha chomwe mungachite.
Chodabwitsa ndichakuti mabanja ambiri amasankha kusudzulana popanda kufunafuna chithandizo kuchokera kwa apabanja kapena mlangizi wa mabanja.
Musanathetse banja lanu, muyenera kumaliza zonse zomwe mungasankhe kuti mukonze ubale wanu.
Palibe manyazi kufunafuna akatswiri kuti akuthandizeni kuthetsa mavuto anu. Othandizira atha kuwona zovuta zomwe zikuyambitsa magawano anu ndikupatseni njira zokuthandizani kuthana ndi mavuto anu.
2. Ganizirani zomwe mungasankhe
Osati onse osudzulana amafunikira nthawi yomwe amakhala kukhothi pamaso pa woweruza. Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mwapanga chisankho chotsimikiza kuti chisudzulo ndichabwino kwa nonse, onetsetsani kuti mwadziphunzitsa nokha pazomwe mungasankhe.
Kuyanjanitsa ndi njira yovomerezeka kwa iwo omwe ali ndiubwenzi mwamtendere ndipo amatha kulumikizana bwino ndi okwatirana.
Onetsetsani kuti mwasankha kampani yazamalamulo yomwe imapereka ntchito zoyimira pakati ndi milandu mukakumana ndi mikangano yomwe mumavutika kuyithetsa.
Woyimira mlandu wanu akuyenera kuthandizana nanu kukuthandizani kukonza zinthu mwamtendere, koma akuyeneranso kukhala okonzeka kumenyera nkhondo m'malo mwanu.
3. Muzithandiza ana anu kuti asamachite mikangano
Kwa makolo omwe akufuna kusudzulana, muyenera kuyesetsa kwambiri kuti ana anu asatengeredwe pazokambirana momwe angathere.
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kupsinjika kwa chisudzulo kumatha kusokoneza thanzi lamwana komanso lamisala.
Mosasamala zaka zawo, kufunsidwa kuti muthandize pa chisudzulo kumatha kuwononga chidaliro chawo komanso ubale wawo ndi inu kapena mnzanu kupita mtsogolo.
Ana sayenera kufunsidwa kusankha momwe nkhani zakulera zidzasamalidwira kapena momwe angagawe nthawi yawo pakati pa makolo.
Kuti athane ndi mavutowa, inu ndi kholo lanu muyenera kuphunzira kugwirira ntchito limodzi, ndipo muyenera kukhazikitsa ubale watsopano womwe ungakuthandizeni kukwaniritsa zosowa za ana anu zaka zikubwerazi.
4. Dzipatseni nthawi
Nthawi zambiri anthu okwatirana amakayikira ngati chisudzulo ndichinthu choyenera. Kukhala panokha kungakhale kowopsa, makamaka kwa iwo omwe akhala m'banja zaka zambiri.
Kuyamba moyo watsopano kumatha kukhala kovuta poyamba, ndipo muyenera kukhazikitsa njira zatsopano ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mudzatha kudzisamalira nokha.
Ngati mukukayikira zoti mwasudzulana, ndikofunikira kukumbukira chifukwa chomwe inu ndi mnzanu mudasankhira kuthetsa banja lanu.
Zitha kutenga miyezi kapena zaka kuti muzolowere moyo wanu watsopano, koma potenga nthawi yolira chifukwa cha kutha kwa banja lanu ndikupeza njira zabwino zopitira patsogolo, mutha kupeza chisangalalo choyenera.
Onani nkhani yotsatirayi ya TED pomwe David A. Sbarra, katswiri wazamisala komanso Pulofesa Wothandizira wa Psychology ku University of Arizona, akufotokoza kafukufuku wake waposachedwa pankhani yothetsa banja ndi kuchiritsa pambuyo poti mabanja apatukana.
5. Funani thandizo kwa okondedwa
Monga mnzanu, mumadalira wokondedwa wanu kuti akuthandizeni pazinthu zambiri pamoyo wanu. Kutha kwaubwenzowu kumakusiyani mukuganiza komwe mungapeze, makamaka mukamakumana ndi mavuto am'mabanja anu osudzulana.
Ngakhale zingakhale zovuta kupempha thandizo, muyenera kutembenukira kwa abale anu ndi abwenzi kuti mupeze chithandizo chomwe mungafune kuti mupulumuke chisudzulo ndikupitilira pambuyo pa chisudzulo.
Izi zitha kumveka zatsopano komanso zosasangalatsa poyamba, koma ndi chithandizo choyenera, mutha kuyesa kuthetsa chisudzulo ndikupitilira ndi moyo wanu ndikuthana ndi zovuta zomwe mukukumana nazo.
6. Gwiritsani ntchito loya woyenera
Mukapitiliza kusudzulana, mwina simukudziwa mavuto omwe muyenera kuthana nawo kapena komwe mungafunefune thandizo.
Monga loya wa anthu osudzulana ku DuPage County, kampani yanga yakhala ikugwira ntchito ndi makasitomala ambiri - ena ali ndiubwenzi wokonda kwambiri ena pomwe ena amangopatukana.
Zomwe takumana nazo zaka 25 zatithandiza kudziwa kuti mosasamala kanthu zaubwenzi wanu, chisudzulo ndi chimodzi mwazovuta kwambiri zomwe munthu angadutsemo.
Ndi loya woyenera wosudzulana wokhala mbali yanu, mutha kukhala otsimikiza kuti nkhani zamalamulo zidzayendetsedwa molondola.
Izi zikuthandizani kuti muziyang'ana kwambiri kuchiritsa ndikukwaniritsa zosowa zanu, ndipo mutha kutuluka mbali inayo mwamphamvu kuposa kale.