Zamkati
- 1. Kusakhulupirika
- 2. Kusiyana kogonana
- 3. Makhalidwe ndi zikhulupiliro
- 4. Magawo amoyo
- 5. Zovuta
- 6. Kupanikizika
- 7. Kunyong'onyeka
- 8. Nsanje
- 9. Kuyesera kusintha wina ndi mnzake
- 10. Mavuto olumikizirana
- 11. Kusowa chidwi
- 12. Nkhani zachuma
- 13. Kusayamika
- 14. Ukadaulo wazanema komanso zapa media
- 15. Nkhani zodalira
- 16. Khalidwe lodzikonda
- 17. Nkhani za mkwiyo
- 18. Kusunga zigoli
- 19. Kunama
- 20. Zoyembekeza zosatheka
Pali mavuto ambiri omwe ali mbanja ndipo ambiri akhoza kupewedwa, kukonza, kapena kuthetsedwa pogwiritsa ntchito njira ndi maluso osiyanasiyana.
Onani mavuto omwe banja limakumana nawo omwe ali pabanja, ndipo phunzirani kuthana ndi mavutowa asanawonongere ubale wanu.
1. Kusakhulupirika
Kusakhulupirika ndichimodzi mwazovuta zapa banja m'mabanja. Zimaphatikizaponso kubera komanso kukhala ndi zochitika m'maganizo.
Zochitika zina zomwe zimaphatikizidwa ndi kusakhulupirika ndizoyimira usiku umodzi, kusakhulupirika, maubale apaintaneti komanso zochitika zazitali komanso zazifupi. Kusakhulupirika kumachitika mu ubale pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana; Ili ndi vuto lomwe anthu ambiri akuvutika kuti apeze yankho.
2. Kusiyana kogonana
Kukondana ndi thupi nkofunika kwambiri muubwenzi wa nthawi yayitali komanso ndizomwe zimayambitsa mavuto omwe banja limakhalapo nthawi zonse, mavuto azakugonana. Zovuta zakugonana zitha kuchitika pachibwenzi pazifukwa zingapo zokutira njira yamavuto ena okwatirana.
Vuto lofala kwambiri logonana m'banja ndikutaya kwa libido. Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti azimayi okha ndi omwe amakumana ndi mavuto ndi libido, koma amuna nawonso amakumana ndi zomwezi.
Nthawi zina, mavuto azakugonana atha kukhala chifukwa chakukonda mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu. Munthu m'modzi m'banjamo atha kusankha zinthu zosiyana zogonana kuposa mnzakeyo zomwe zingapangitse mnzake kukhala osasangalala.
3. Makhalidwe ndi zikhulupiliro
Zachidziwikire, padzakhala kusiyana ndi kusagwirizana m'banja, koma zosiyana zina ndizofunika kuzinyalanyaza, monga zikhulupiliro zoyambirira ndi zikhulupiriro. Mwamuna kapena mkazi akhoza kukhala ndi chipembedzo chimodzi ndipo winayo angakhale ndi chikhulupiriro chosiyana.
Izi zitha kubweretsa kusamvana pakati pamavuto ena omwe mabanja amakhala nawo.
Monga momwe mungaganizire, izi zitha kubweretsa zovuta zazikulu pamzere pamene wina atopa kuchita zinthu padera, monga kupita kumalo osiyanasiyana olambirira.
Mavuto amtunduwu amakhala ofala kwambiri m'mabanja azikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana. Kusiyana kwina kumaphatikizanso mfundo zoyambira.
Izi zikuphatikiza momwe ana amaleredwera komanso zomwe adaphunzitsidwa ali ana, monga tanthauzo la chabwino ndi cholakwika.
Popeza aliyense samakula ndi zikhulupiriro zomwezo, chikhalidwe, ndi zolinga, pali malo ambiri okambirana ndi mikangano muubwenzi.
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4. Magawo amoyo
Anthu ambiri samalingalira magawo awo amoyo zikafika pachibwenzi.
Nthawi zina, mavuto am'banja amachitika chifukwa choti onse awiri ndi ochepa ndipo amafuna zambiri kuchokera kwa wina.
Imeneyi ndi nkhani yodziwika pakati pa okwatirana omwe ali ndi kusiyana kwakukulu ngati ndi amuna okalamba ndi akazi achichepere kapena akazi achikulire komanso achichepere.
Makhalidwe amasintha pakapita nthawi ndipo maanja sangakhalebe ogwirizana monga kale. Mabanja omwe ali ndi zaka zosiyana, omwe ali m'magawo osiyanasiyana amakumana ndi vuto lapa banja lofananali.
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5. Zovuta
Maanja akakumana ndi zovuta, zimangowonjezera zovuta m'mabanja awo am'banja.
Mavuto ndi mavuto ena omwe mabanja angakumane nawo. Zochitika zambiri zowopsa zomwe zimachitika ndikusintha kwa moyo.
Kwa anthu ena apabanja, mavuto awa amakhala mavuto chifukwa mmodzi wa iwo sakudziwa momwe angathetsere mavuto omwe ali nawo.
Mwamuna kapena mkazi sangadziwe kapena kumvetsetsa momwe angagwirire popanda mnzake chifukwa ali kuchipatala kapena pogona. Nthawi zina, wokwatirana naye angafunike chisamaliro cha usana ndi usiku, kuwapangitsa kuti azidalira mnzawoyo.
Nthawi zina, kupsyinjika kumakhala kwakukulu kwambiri ndipo udindowo umakhala waukulu kwambiri kuthana nawo, chifukwa chake ubale umazungulira mpaka pansi kutha.
Onerani kanemayu akulankhula pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana zomwe banja lingasokonezeke:
6. Kupanikizika
Kupsinjika ndi vuto lomwe banja limakumana nalo lomwe maanja ambiri amakumanapo kamodzi m'banja. Kupsinjika muubwenzi kumatha kuyambitsidwa ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana, kuphatikiza ndalama, banja, malingaliro, ndi matenda.
Mavuto azachuma amayamba chifukwa cha mnzanu kutha ntchito kapena kutsitsidwa pantchito. Kupsinjika kuchokera kubanja kungaphatikizepo ana, mavuto ndi mabanja awo, kapena banja la wokwatirana naye. Kupsinjika kumayambitsidwa ndi zinthu zosiyanasiyana.
Kupanikizika komwe kumayendetsedwa ndikusamalidwa kumatha kubweretsa nkhawa.
7. Kunyong'onyeka
Kunyong'onyeka ndimavuto apabanja koma osasamala.
Pakapita nthawi okwatirana ena amatopa ndi ubale wawo. Amatha kutopa ndi zomwe zimachitika m'banjamo. Zikatere, zimayamba kutopetsa ubalewo chifukwa zakhala zikudziwikiratu. Mwamuna ndi mkazi amatha kuchita zomwezo tsiku lililonse kwa zaka zambiri osasintha kapena osayatsa.
Kuthetheka nthawi zambiri kumakhala kuchita zinthu zokha zokha nthawi ndi nthawi. Ngati chibwenzi chikusowa zochitika zokha, pamakhala mwayi wosungulumwa womwe ungakhale vuto.
8. Nsanje
Nsanje ndi vuto linanso lofala m'banja lomwe limapangitsa kuti banja lisinthe. Ngati muli ndi mnzanu wansanje kwambiri, kukhala nawo komanso kukhala nawo pafupi kumakhala kovuta.
Nsanje ndi yabwino kuubwenzi uliwonse pamlingo winawake, bola ngati si munthu amene akuchita nsanje mopambanitsa. Anthu oterewa adzakhala opondereza: atha kufunsa omwe mumalankhula nawo pafoni, chifukwa chiyani mumalankhula nawo, mumawadziwa bwanji komanso kuti mwawadziwa nthawi yayitali bwanji, ndi zina zambiri.
Kukhala ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wansanje yopambanitsa kungasokoneze chibwenzicho; zovuta zambiri pamapeto pake zidzathetsa chibwenzi chotere.
9. Kuyesera kusintha wina ndi mnzake
Vuto lofala laubwenzi limachitika pamene maanja alumpha malire a okondedwa awo poyesa kupanga zikhulupiriro zawo.
Zimachitika kuti kunyalanyaza malire a mnzanu kumatha kuchitika mosazindikira; kubwezera chochokera kwa mnzanu yemwe akuukiridwayo nthawi zambiri kumakhazikika pakapita nthawi.
10. Mavuto olumikizirana
Kuperewera kwa kulumikizana ndimavuto omwe amapezeka m'banja.
Kuyankhulana kumaphatikizapo mawu amawu komanso osalankhula, ndichifukwa chake ngakhale mutadziwa wina kwa nthawi yayitali, kusintha pang'ono pankhope panja kapena mtundu wina uliwonse wamayendedwe amthupi kumatha kuzindikirika molakwika.
Amuna ndi akazi amalankhulana mosiyanasiyana ndipo atha kulumikizana mosayenera, ndipo ngati nkhani zoterezi zimaloledwa kukula m'banja, ndiye kuti kupatulika kwaukwati kuli pachiwopsezo.
Kulankhulana bwino ndi maziko a chipambano m'banja.
11. Kusowa chidwi
Anthu ndi zolengedwa ndipo amakhala ofunitsitsa chidwi kuchokera kwa ena owazungulira, makamaka omwe ali pafupi nawo.
Nthawi yokwatirana yonse m'banja imakhala ndi vuto lachibale lofanana 'kusasamala' pomwe awiriwo, mwadala kapena mosadziwa, amatsogolera chidwi chawo kuzinthu zina m'miyoyo yawo.
Izi zimasintha umunthu waukwati, womwe umalimbikitsa m'modzi kapena mnzawo kuti achite zinthu mopupuluma. Vutoli m'banja, ngati silingasamalire moyenera, limatha kuwonongeka.
12. Nkhani zachuma
Palibe chomwe chingasokoneze ukwati mwachangu kuposa ndalama. Ziribe kanthu ngati mutsegula akaunti yolumikizana kapena mukugwiritsa ntchito ndalama zanu padera, mudzakumana ndi mavuto azachuma m'banja lanu. Ndikofunika kukambirana momasuka za mavuto aliwonse azachuma limodzi ngati banja.
13. Kusayamika
Kusayamika, kuzindikira, komanso kuvomereza zomwe abwenzi anu amathandizira pachibwenzi chanu ndimavuto abanja.
Kulephera kwanu kuyamikira mnzanu kungasokoneze ubale wanu.
14. Ukadaulo wazanema komanso zapa media
Zowopsa zomwe zikuwonekera pazanema paukwati ndi mabanja zikuyandikira kwambiri.
Ndi kuwonjezeka kwachangu mu kulumikizana kwathu komanso chidwi chathu ndiukadaulo komanso malo ochezera, tikupita kutali ndi kulumikizana kwabwino pamasom'pamaso.
Tikudzitaya tokha mdziko lenileni ndi kuyiwala kukonda anthu ena ndi zinthu zotizungulira. Kukonzekera kotereku kwakhala vuto lodziwika bwino laukwati.
15. Nkhani zodalira
Tsopano, mavuto abanjali akhoza kuwononga banja lanu kuchokera mkati, osasiya mwayi wobwezeretsa ubale wanu.
Pulogalamu ya Lingaliro lokhulupilira muukwati lidakali lofala kwambiri ndipo, nthawi zina, zimasokoneza kwambiri banja kukayika kukayamba kulowa muubwenzi.
16. Khalidwe lodzikonda
Ngakhale kudzikonda kungathe kuthetsedwa mosavuta pakupanga zosintha zazing'ono mumalingaliro anu kwa mnzanu, zimawerengedwa kuti ndi vuto lalikulu m'banja.
17. Nkhani za mkwiyo
Kupsa mtima, kufuula kapena kukalipa, ndikudzivulaza kapena kukhumudwitsa mnzanu ndi vuto lalikulu pabanja.
Ndikuchulukirachulukira chifukwa chakunja ndi zakunja komanso kukwiya, sitingathe kuletsa mkwiyo wathu, ndipo kukalipira okondedwa athu kumatha kukhala kovulaza pachibwenzi.
Ngati mkwiyo uli vuto lomwe mumavutika nalo kulingalira zokambirana ndi mlangizi kuti muphunzire maluso okuthandizani kuti musasunge mkwiyo kuti usasokoneze ubale wanu.
18. Kusunga zigoli
Mkwiyo ukatigonjetsa muukwati zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri ndikubwezera kapena kufunafuna kubwezera kuchokera kwa mnzanu.
19. Kunama
Kunama ngati vuto lapaukwati sikuti kumangolekera kusakhulupirika kapena kudzikonda, komanso kumanamizira mabodza oyera azinthu za tsiku ndi tsiku. Mabodza awa amagwiritsidwa ntchito kangapo kupulumutsa nkhope ndipo osaloleza okwatirana nawo kukhala ndi malo okwezeka.
Maanja akhoza kunamizana za zovuta zomwe angakhale akukumana nazo kuntchito kapena m'malo ena ocheza nawo, mavuto am'banja oterewa amasokoneza ubale wawo, ndipo zinthu zikasokonekera, zitha kusokoneza banja.
20. Zoyembekeza zosatheka
Kumlingo wina, tonse timavomereza ndi lingaliro lakuti ukwati ndi wosatha, komabe, timalephera kuyika nthawi ndi kuyesetsa kuti timvetsetse anzathu tisanalowe m'banja.
Timalimbikitsidwa ndiukwati wangwiro kuchokera munkhani zomwe tidamva kapena kuchokera kwa anthu omwe timawadziwa osafunsanso ngati tonse tikufuna zinthu zomwezo m'moyo kapena ayi.
Kusagwirizana pakati pa okwatirana pazamaganizidwe amtsogolo aubwenzi kumapereka mpata wambiri wopangira ziyembekezo zosatheka kuchokera kwa bwenzi lathu.
Zoyembekezerazi, ngati sizikwaniritsidwa, zimabweretsa mkwiyo, zokhumudwitsa ndipo zimapangitsa banja kukhala njira yochokera komwe mwina sangachiritsidwe.