Zamkati
- 1. Nonse ndinu anthu okhazikika
- 2. Inu ndi mnzanu mumagwirizana pamlingo woyambira
- 3. Simukugwirizana mwanjira yathanzi
- 4. Nonse muike patsogolo wina ndi mnzake
- 5. Mumayamikirana mzing'onozing'ono tsiku lililonse
- 6. Ndinu odzipereka kwambiri ku ubale
- 7. Pali maziko okhulupirirana pakati panu
- 8. Mumalandilana kwathunthu
- 9. Mumagawana pakukula kwauzimu kwa wina ndi mnzake
Ubale wabwino ndi ubale wokhazikika. Tonsefe timadziwa maanja omwe amamenya nkhondo ngati amphaka ndi agalu tsiku lina, kuti adzakhale okondana ngati omwe angokwatirana kumene tsiku lotsatira. Amakhala m'mphepete mwa chisudzulo kapena kudzitama chifukwa cha chikondi chawo chatsopano kwa onse omwe angamvere.
Anthu okwatiranawo alibe mgwirizano wolimba; Mgwirizano wawo sikuti umakhala wanthawi yayitali, kapena, ngati uli, umadzaza ndimasewera, misozi, komanso kusasangalala. Palibe amene amasangalala kukhala pachibwenzi chosinthasintha zochitika. Zitha kukupangitsani kukhala ndi nkhawa, mantha komanso osatetezeka. Tonse tili ndi ufulu wosangalala ndi ubale wosalala, wachikondi komanso womwe umatipangitsa kukhala otetezeka. "Khola" silikutanthauza "wotopetsa". "Khola" limakhutiritsa, limalimbikitsa moyo komanso maziko a ubale wolimba komanso wachikondi.
Nawa maupangiri 9 othandiza okuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi ubale wolimba:
1. Nonse ndinu anthu okhazikika
Kuti apange ubale wolimba, awiriwa akuyenera kukhala okhazikika okha. Izi zikutanthauza kuti agwira ntchito mwakhama kuti akhale achikulire okha. Aphunzira ndikuphatikiza maphunziro ofunikira pamoyo. Ngati ali ndi zovuta zomwe sizinasinthidwe, agwiritsa ntchito izi kudzera kuchipatala kapena ndiupangiri wodalirika. Apanga miyoyo yosangalatsa komanso yopindulitsa. Anthu okhazikika akabwera limodzi, ubale womwe umatsatira umakhala wabwinobwino.
2. Inu ndi mnzanu mumagwirizana pamlingo woyambira
Kupanga kapena kusunga ubale wokhazikika kumafunikira kuti onse awiri azigawana mfundo zofanana.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti amavomerezana pazinthu zina zofunika, monga momwe amaonera ndalama, ndale, banja, maphunziro, kukhulupirika, kugonana komanso kuchuluka kwake, zosankha pamoyo wawo monga kudya bwino, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi komanso kusuta.
Mabanja omwe akusemphana ndi chilichonse mwazimenezi atha kukhala ndi mikangano muubwenzi wawo, ndikupangitsa kusakhazikika. Mwachitsanzo, mumaona kuti kuchiza thupi lanu moyenera ndikofunikira. Mumagwira ntchito pafupipafupi, mumakhala kutali ndi chakudya chamafuta, ndipo simusuta. Ngati muli ndi mnzanu yemwe amakhala tsiku lonse akusuta ndudu ndikudya maswiti, izi sizikulimbikitsa kumverera kolimba muubwenzi wanu. Makhalidwe anu oyambira amatsutsana. Kusunga ubale wolimba kumakhala kovuta pankhaniyi.
3. Simukugwirizana mwanjira yathanzi
Anthu okwatirana omwe ali ndi ubale wolimba amalankhulana mokoma mtima komanso mwaulemu.
Akamenyana, amapewa kunyozana kapena kukumbukira zolakwa zakale. Amamamatira kumutu ndikumamvera mbali za wina ndi mnzake. Amalolezana kulankhulana popanda zosokoneza.
Amagwira ntchito molimbika kuti amvetsetse momwe winayo amawonera komwe kumayambitsa kusamvana. Anthu omwe ali m'mabanja osakhazikika amayesetsana wina ndi mnzake chifukwa chake ali olondola pomwe wina ndiolakwika. Amatseka okondedwa wawo kapena amadzitseka okha, kotero zokambiranazo sizikupita kukasankhidwa. Iwo salemekezana, ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito mawu monga akuti “khalani chete!” kapena "Simungachite chilichonse molondola!" Mikangano yawo imazungulira mozungulira, ndipo imangotha chifukwa munthu m'modzi amatopa ndikufuula konse.
4. Nonse muike patsogolo wina ndi mnzake
Mukamayenda tsiku lanu, malingaliro anu amatembenukira kwa mnzanu. Ngati muli ndi chisankho chachikulu, muyenera kufunsa mnzanuyo. Mumasaka malingaliro amnzanu pazomwe mukuchita ndi mapulani anu. Chimwemwe ndi moyo wa mnzanu ndizofunika kwambiri kwa inu.
5. Mumayamikirana mzing'onozing'ono tsiku lililonse
Kuti ubale wanu ukhale wathanzi komanso wokhazikika, mumapeza njira zokumbutsirani wokondedwa wanu momwe mumawakondera komanso momwe mumayamikirira kuti ali m'moyo wanu. Kuyambira pakumwa kapu yake ya khofi m'mawa woyamba, mpaka kutikita kokoma kosangalatsa asanagone usiku, mumawonetsa kuyamika kwanu kudzera pakukhudza, kulankhulana ndi mawu, komanso mawu achikondi ofewa, osayembekezereka.
6. Ndinu odzipereka kwambiri ku ubale
Nonse awiri munagwirizana musanakwatirane kuti kusudzulana sikungakhale kosankha. Kudziwa izi kumakhazikika muubwenzi wanu, kukulolani kuti muthe kuthana ndi zovuta kudziwa kuti ngakhale munthawi yamavuto, mudzakhala ndi chiyembekezo chodalirana.
7. Pali maziko okhulupirirana pakati panu
Ubale wokhazikika umakhala pamphumi wodalirana. Inu ndi wokondedwa wanu ndinu 100% woonamtima ndi owona kwa wina ndi mnzake. Palibe nsanje pakati panu. Mutha kukhala otseguka, osatetezeka komanso odalirika wina ndi mnzake. Kaya muli ndi mantha kapena nkhawa zotani zomwe mumagawana ndi wokondedwa wanu, mukudziwa kuti azikukondani nthawi zonse.
8. Mumalandilana kwathunthu
Anthu okwatirana omwe ali ndi maubale okhazikika amavomerezana momwe alili, pakadali pano, lero. Sanakondane ndi kuthekera kwa mnzake, adakondana wina ndi mnzake momwe analiri. Kusintha kulikonse komwe kumachitika muubwenzi - kusintha kwakuthupi, matenda, zovuta pamoyo wanu, nonse mumavomereza ndipo simumayesera kusinthana kukhala bwenzi lomwe "mumafuna mutakhala naye".
9. Mumagawana pakukula kwauzimu kwa wina ndi mnzake
Nonse a inu mukufuna kupitiriza kukula ndikukula monga anthu. Mumapatsidwa mwayi wokhala ndi thanzi labwino. Mumagawana wina ndi mnzake maphunziro amoyo omwe mumaphunzira mukamapita patsogolo, ndipo mumawombera mnzanu akakumana ndi zovuta zomwe amadzipangira. Nonse mumazindikira kuti mphatso ya moyo ndi chikondi ndi yamtengo wapatali, ndipo mumaika izi patsogolo pamalingaliro anu kuti musazione mopepuka.