Zamkati
- 1. Mvetsetsani kuti si vuto lanu
- 2. Fufuzani thandizo lazamalamulo
- 3. Pangani moyo wanu kukhala watsopano
- 4. Dzizungulirani ndi omwe amakupangitsani kumva bwino
Sizachilendo kuti munthu azunzidwa mosiyanasiyana, komabe, nkhanza zapabanja zimawonjezera vuto ili.
M'malo mochokera kuzinthu zakunja, nkhanza izi zimachokera pamalo omwe amayenera kukhala otetezeka, ofunda komanso odzaza ndi chikondi. Talingalirani za izi, ngakhale mutakhala ndi abwana kapena anzanu ankhanza kwambiri padziko lapansi, mumatha kupeza bata kwanu, ngakhale simukuyenera kupilira kuzunzidwako, pomwepo.
Bwanji mukanakhala mulibe pogona komanso mulibe chithandizo chilichonse.
Mosakayikira, izi zidzasiya chizindikiro chokhalitsa chomwe chingakhale chopinga ngakhale nkhanza zitatha. Kuti musiyane ndi izi, muyenera kuyamba Chaputala 2 cha moyo wanu, komabe, chinthu choterocho nchosavuta kuchimasula, komanso sizotheka popanda chitsogozo cha akatswiri.
Ndili ndi malingaliro komanso osapanganso zina, nazi maupangiri ndi upangiri angapo obwera kuchokera kuzomwe akatswiri adakumana nazo, komanso anthu enieni omwe adapirira izi kale
1. Mvetsetsani kuti si vuto lanu
Chinthu choyamba chachikulu chomwe muyenera kukumana nacho ndikudzizindikira kuti kuzunzidwa kumeneku sikunali vuto lanu.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zomwe ozunza amakonda kuchita, ngati njira yodzilungamitsira komanso njira zodzitetezera, ndikukopa wovutitsidwayo kuti zonsezi mwina zinali zolakwika zawo. Vuto lalikulu kwambiri ili ndikuti wovutikayo nthawi zambiri amadzipeza kuti sangathe kumvetsetsa chidani chakhungu chosavomerezeka, chomwe chimapangitsa kuti azitha kulingalira za wozunzayo.
Chida china chamaganizidwe chomwe wozunza amagwiritsa ntchito ndichokopa potengera lingaliro loti zonsezi ndi zakanthawi. Mwachitsanzo, mnzake wozunza angagwiritse ntchito zochitikazo ngati chowiringula, zomwe zimapatsa wozunzidwayo chiyembekezo chabodza kuti zinthu zitha kubwerera momwe zidalili chisanachitike chiwawacho.
Kuopsa kwakukulu kwa njirayi ndikuti, wovutikayo atapeza mphamvu komanso kulimba mtima kuti apulumuke m'manja mwa omwe amamuzunzayo, akhoza kunenedwa kuti sanayese / kupirira kwakanthawi kokwanira.
Pomaliza, sizinthu zonse zopanda chilungamo zomwe zimachokera kwa wozunza. Nthawi zina, munthu amakumana ndi kusazindikira kwa anzawo komanso abale.
Nthawi zambiri, anthuwa amatsutsa wozunzidwayo posankha womuzunza poyamba. Ndikofunikira kuti kunenazi, ngakhale kuli koopsa komanso koopsa sikomwe kumayambitsa udani kapena nkhanza koma kusazindikira kwenikweni. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti musakafune akatswiri othandiza kuti muthane ndi vuto lodziimba mlandu.
2. Fufuzani thandizo lazamalamulo
Pomwe ena akhoza kunyalanyaza kufunikira kwamalamulo pankhaniyi, makamaka mu ichi chomwe chimatchedwa Chaputala 2 pomwe wozunzidwayo ali patali kale ndi womuzunza.
Chifukwa chomwe izi zilili zofunikira ndichakuti munthu amene akufunsidwayo akuyenera kudziwa kuti lamuloli lingathe kuwateteza. Ayenera kudziwa kuti zochita, makamaka zachiwawa, zimakhala ndi zotsatirapo zake.
Ndibwinonso ngati gulu lochitilidwa nkhanza likhozaapeze loya wawo wabanja ndi kukanikiza milandu. Mwanjira iyi, m'malo mobwerera m'mbuyo, atha kukhala ndi chidwi chodziyimira pawokha ndikubwezera. Komanso amatha kulimbana ndi omwe amakuchitirani nkhanza osagwiritsa ntchito njira zawo zachiwawa zilizonse.
Kumbukirani, komabe, kuti kubwezera ndi kutseka sichinthu chimodzi.
Zimangopitilira kunena kuti loya wamba wabanja wawona zochuluka kuposa zawo pamilandu yofananira. Chimenechi ndichinthu china choyenera kulingalira.
Mukuwona, nthawi zina mawu ochokera kwa katswiri wama psychology amatha kumveka ngati china chake chobwerekedwa m'buku. Kumbali inayi, mawu omwewo akuthandizira ndikumvetsetsa akuchokera kwa loya wanu, munthu amene mukumulipira kuti angokupatsirani uphungu walamulo, izi zitha kukhala ndi tanthauzo lina.
3. Pangani moyo wanu kukhala watsopano
Pomwe ena atha kunena za mantha ake kusiya moyo wanu wakale ndikupita mpaka kukanena kuti chikanakhala chigonjetso chomaliza kwa wovutitsidwayo.
Komabe, izi ndizolakwika momwe zimakhalira ndipo malingaliro amtunduwu amangokubwezerani kumbuyo. Ganizirani za izi, ngakhale munthawi zonse, timasintha ndikukula monga anthu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti titha kudzipeza tokha tikukonda zinthu zomwe sitinakondepo kale kapena kusiya zosangalatsa zomwe, mpaka pano zakhala zikuluzikulu m'miyoyo yathu.
Munthu akamazunzidwa m'maganizo ndi mwakuthupi, zinthu zimasokonekera. Mutha kubwera kudzayanjanitsa zinthu zomwe mumachita, malo omwe mumayendera komanso zizolowezi zomwe mumakhala nazo, zokumana nazo zina zoyipa kwambiri.
Bwanji osasiya zonsezi ndikungoyamba kumene? Kupatula apo, kodi kusintha moyo wanu sikutanthauza kulimba mtima kuposa kungolowera njira yakale yodziwika?
4. Dzizungulirani ndi omwe amakupangitsani kumva bwino
Pamapeto pake, muyenera kuyamba kuzungulira ndi anthu omwe amakupangitsani kumva bwino. Sitikungolankhula za anthu omwe amapezeka nthawi zonse koma anthu omwe mumamva bwino mukakhala nawo.
Pali ena, omwe, ngakhale ali pafupi ndipo sakanachita chilichonse kuti akuvulazeni, amangomaliza mphamvu yanu yamoyo kamodzi panthawiyo. Awa ndi omwe amatchedwa amampires okhudzidwa. Ngakhale izi zingawoneke ngati nkhanza, mwina simungakhale ndi nthawi yocheza ndi anthuwa.
Zomwe mukusowa tsopano, koposa zonse, ndizabwino. Izi zikuyenera kukhala patsogolo pa moyo wanu wonse.
Pamapeto pa tsikulo, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito chisangalalo chanu, m'malo mongokhalira kuda nkhawa ndi zomwe ena akuyembekezera kuchokera kwa inu kapena kuyesetsa kupewa kupondaponda wina.
Ngakhale izi zingaoneke zovuta kapena kutali, iyi ndiye njira yokhayo yodalirika yoti mubwerere kuzochitika zomvetsa chisonizi ndikuyambapo njira yomwe mudzakhale munthu wabwino tsiku lililonse likadutsa.