Kodi Mukuvutika Ndi Kusavomerezeka?

Zamkati

• Chifukwa chiyani kuli kovuta kubwerera mu "sandbox"?
• Malingaliro awiri olakwika okhudza kukhudza kwaumunthu
• Zochita zantchito: Kubwereranso mubokosi lamchenga

Kukhudza ndiye koyamba kwa malingaliro omwe amakula mwa khanda laumunthu ndipo limakhalabe lofunika kwambiri pamalingaliro amoyo wathu wonse. Kuthana ndi zovuta kumakhudza momwe munthu akumvera, chitetezo cha mthupi, komanso thanzi lathu.

Kafukufuku wambiri pamutuwu wachitika ndi ana obadwa kumene kapena okalamba, kuwonetsa mayanjano olimba pakati pa kusakhudzidwa ndi kusintha kwa malingaliro, mulingo wachisangalalo, moyo wautali, komanso zotsatira zathanzi.

Pamene ana ndi okalamba sakhudzidwa, malingaliro awo, malingaliro awo, ndi thanzi lawo lonse zimavutika. Koma kafukufuku waposachedwa pa akulu wayamba kuwonekera, kuwonetsa zomwezo.

Ngakhale kugwirana pang'ono kumabweretsa kusintha kwakuthupi ndi kwamaganizidwe. Kukhudza koyenera kumatha kutsitsa kuthamanga kwa magazi, kugunda kwa mtima, komanso milingo ya cortisol ndipo kumalumikizidwa ndi malingaliro abwino komanso olimbikitsa. Komanso, anthu omwe amakhudzidwa pafupipafupi amatha kulimbana ndi matenda, kukhala ndi matenda ochepera amtima komanso kusinthasintha kwamaganizidwe. Tikamaphunzira zambiri zakukhudza, ndipamenenso timazindikira kuti ndizofunika kwambiri pamoyo wathu wamthupi komanso wamaganizidwe.

Mabanja omwe ali pamavuto nthawi zambiri amasiya chizolowezi chogwirana. Tikudziwa kuti maanja omwe sagwirana kwa nthawi yayitali amavutika chifukwa chakuchepa. Ngati achikulire samakhudzidwa pafupipafupi amatha kukwiya kwambiri. Kulandidwa kosalekeza kumatha kubweretsa mkwiyo, nkhawa, kukhumudwa, komanso kukwiya.

Chifukwa chiyani kuli kovuta kubwerera mu "sandbox"?

Mukakhala okhumudwa kapena mnzanu amachita zomwe zakukhumudwitsani, mwina simungafune kuti zikukhudzani kapena kukukhudzani. Kuphatikiza apo, ngati mukuganiza kuti kukhudza konse kungayambitse zogonana ndipo simuli mumkhalidwewo, mutha kupewa, ngakhale kubweza, mnzanu akafuna kukugwirani.

Mumasiya kubwerera mu "sandbox" kuti mukasewere, mumakhala okwiya kwambiri, zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti musasewere; mumakwiya kwambiri, ndipo mumamva ngati kuti mumakhudza / kukhudzidwa ngakhale pang'ono, zomwe zimakupangitsani inu kapena mnzanu kukwiya kapena kukwiya. Ngati izi zikumveka bwino kwa inu, mwalowa mkombero woyipa womwe ungayambitse kukhudzidwa. Nthawi zina, zimakhala zovuta kudziwa yemwe kapena zomwe zimayambira. Chomwe chikuwonekeratu, ndikuti iyi si njira yabwino yopezera ubale wabwino.

Mtundu wina woyipa umayamba pamene mnzanu akuwona kukhudza ngati njira yocheperako yaubwenzi, mokomera mitundu ina, yomwe imawonedwa ngati yopambana, monga kucheza nthawi yayitali limodzi kapena kukondana. Zoonadi, palibe olamulira oyandikana nawo, koma mitundu yosiyanasiyana yaubwenzi.

Koma ngati muwona "kukhudza" kocheperako, mwina simungamupatse mnzanuyo, mukuyembekezera nthawi yabwino kapena kukondana. Zoyipa zomwe zikuchitika pambuyo pake ndizodziwikiratu: Mukangogwiranagwirana thupi, sipamakhala kulandirana mawu kapena nthawi yabwino. Ndipo zimangopita. Siziyenera kukhala choncho.

Malingaliro awiri olakwika okhudza kukhudza kwaumunthu

1. Kukhudza thupi nthawi zonse kumayenera kutsogolera kukugonana komanso kugonana

Kukondana komanso kusangalala ndi zolaula ndi zinthu zovuta koma osati zachilengedwe monga momwe tingaganizire. Ambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa zogawana matupi awo. Kuphatikiza apo, malo ogulitsira mahomoni omwe amalimbikitsa kukhumba komanso chilakolako chofuna kugonana munthawi yoyamba yaubwenzi satha. Ndipo pamwamba pake, anthu amasiyanasiyana malinga ndi momwe amagwirira ndikugonana komwe angafune. Ena amafuna zambiri, ena amafuna zochepa. Izi si zachilendo.

Zokhudzana: Kodi Amuna Ndi Akazi Amachita Zogonana Nthawi Zingati?

Zinthu zimasokonekera pamene maanja omwe ali ndi chilakolako chosiyana chogonana ayamba kupewa kugwiranagwirana. Amasiya kusewera; amasiya kugwirana nkhope, mapewa, tsitsi, manja, kapena msana.

Izi ndizomveka: Ngati mukuganiza kuti ngati mungakhudze mnzanu, zogonana zidzakutsatirani, ndipo inu ndi amene muli ndi chikhumbo chotsika, mudzaleka kugwira kuti mupewe kugonana. Ndipo ngati inu muli ndi chikhumbo chachikulu, mutha kusiya kugwira mnzanuyo kuti mupewe kukanidwa. Pofuna kupewa kugonana, maanja ambiri amasiya kugwiranagwirana

2. Zokondana zilizonse kapena zochitika zogonana ziyenera kubwereranso ndipo zikufunikanso chimodzimodzi nthawi yomweyo

Sikuti zochitika zonse zogonana kapena zogonana zimafuna kubwezerana. Ntchito zambiri zakuthupi ndizofuna kudziwa zomwe mukufuna ndikukhala omasuka kuzipempha, ndikudziwa zomwe mnzanu akufuna, ndikukhala omasuka kuzipereka.

Kodi mungadziganizire nokha ngati munthu amene angathe perekani kukhudza kwa mphindi zochepa popanda kuyembekeza kupeza chilichonse? Kodi mungalolere kulandira kosangalatsa zogonana komanso zosagonana popanda kukakamizidwa kuti mubweze chilichonse?

Sikuti nthawi zonse mumayenera kukhala ndi chakudya chaku China kuti musangalatse mnzanu yemwe atha kukhala wokonda nkhuku ya cashew. Mofananamo, simuyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro ogonana kapena ngakhale kudzikhudza nokha kuti mupewe msana kapena kumugwira mnzanu ngati ndi zomwe akufuna kapena kupempha. Mosiyana ndi izi, chifukwa choti mumafuna kukumbatirana kwa nthawi yayitali, kapena mukufuna kuti mnzanuyo akhudze nsana wanu kapena nkhope yanu kapena tsitsi lanu, sizitanthauza kuti iyenso akufuna zomwezo monga inu. Ndipo, koposa zonse, sizitanthauza kuti zidzapangitsa kuti mugonane.

Zogwirizana: Mavuto m'chipinda chogona? Malangizo ogonana ndi upangiri kwa okwatirana

Izi ndi izi pamene mwakonzeka kubwerera mu "sandbox" ndi "kusewera" kachiwiri ndi bwenzi lanu. Nthawi yomwe mungathe patukani kukhudzana ndi kugonana, mutha kukhala okonzeka kuchita izi:

• Gwirani ntchito zosangalatsa kwa wokondedwa wanu ngakhale simuli okonzeka kuzilandira nokha
• Landirani zokondweretsa kuchokera kwa mnzanu osaganizira kuti muyenera kubweza chilichonse
• Landirani kukhudza ngakhale mnzanu sakufuna nthawi yomweyo

Zochita zantchito: Kubwereranso mubokosi lamchenga

Mukakhala okonzeka kubwerera m'chipinda cha mchenga, gwirizanitsani malingaliro anu ndi thupi lanu, chotsani malingaliro olakwika akuti zochitika zonse ziyenera kubwereranso, ndikuyesani izi. Onani mndandanda wazomwe zachitika patsamba lotsatira. Werengani malangizo kaye

1. Malangizo pazomwe mungakhudze

• Sanjani zochitika zothandizana mogwirizana ndi mnzanu, mwachitsanzo, kodi ili ndi tsiku / nthawi yabwino kwa inu? Ndi masiku ati / nthawi zina zomwe zingakhale zabwino kwa inu?
• Yemwe akufuna kukhala wokhudza ali ndi udindo wokumbutsa mnzake kuti ndi nthawi (osati njira ina yozungulira). Ndiwe amene amakonza ndandanda ndikukumbutsa.
• Sayenera kuyembekeza kuti wokondedwa wanu abwezera. Ngati mnzanu akufuna kutembenuka ndikumugwira, amatha kudziwa ngati iyi ndi nthawi yabwino inunso.
• Sitiyenera kuyembekezera kwa mnzanu kuti nthawi yogwirayi idzatsogolera ku "zinthu zina," mwachitsanzo, kugonana.

2. Malangizo kwa maanja omwe sanagwirizane kwanthawi yayitali

Ngati simunakhudze kapena kukhudzidwa kwa nthawi yayitali, sizikhala zophweka. Nthawi yochuluka yomwe mwapewa kukhudza kapena kukhudzidwa, izi sizikhala zachilengedwe kapena zokakamizidwa kwambiri. Izi si zachilendo. Nawa malangizo ngati simunakhudze kapena kukhudzidwa kwa nthawi yayitali, kuti muyambe kupita ku a kayendedwe kabwino.

• Sankhani zinthu pamenyu, koma ndikupangira kuti muyambe ndi mindandanda 1 ndi 2.
• Yesetsani kuti musasunthire msanga kuchokera pamenyu ina kupita kwina.
• Khalani ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi osachepera awiri komanso kupitilira mphindi zisanu
• Chitani zolimbitsa thupi kangapo kufikira zitakhala zomasuka komanso zachilengedwe, musanapite pazinthu zina.

3. Njira zogwirira ntchito

• Khwerero 1: Sankhani atatu Zinthu kuchokera pamamenyu (onani pansipa) zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndizosangalatsa kwa inu.
• Khwerero 2: Funsani mnzanu kuti asagwiritse ntchito zosaposa mphindi zisanu akuchita zinthu zitatu zomwe mwasankha.
• Yambani kusewera!

Wokondedwa wanu satenga gawo lotsatira lanu ndipo mnzanuyo amafunika kuchita zofuna zake panthawi yomwe zingakukomereni, monga momwe mudafunira.

Menyu yazokhudza zochitika

Menyu 1: Osakhudzana ndi kugonana

Menyu 2: Osakhudzana ndi kugonana

Menyu 3: Zokhudza kugonana