Zamkati
- Kodi narcissist ndi chiyani?
- Chifukwa chiyani zimamveka ngati kukangana ndi wankhanza ndizopanda pake?
- Kodi ena mwa maukadaulo omwe narcissists amagwiritsa ntchito pokangana ndi ati?
- 1. Anthu achiNarciss amakonda kupambana
- 2. Adzapewa kuyankha mafunso achindunji
- 3. Amachotsa mkangano
- 4. Mwala wamiyala ndiofala kwa anthu ochita zachiwerewere
- 5. Nthawi zambiri a Narcissist amagwiritsa ntchito ziyerekezo pokangana
- 6. Kuyatsa magetsi
- Kodi mumakangana bwanji ndi wankhanza?
- 1. Osatchula mawu oti "chabwino" kapena "cholakwika"
- 2. Musatenge nyambo
- 3. Kupambana ndi munthu wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kungafune kumvetsetsa momwe akumvera
- 4. M'malo mongogwiritsa ntchito "Inu" kapena "Ine," gwiritsani ntchito "Ife"
- 5. Kupambananso munthu wamankhwala osokoneza bongo
- Kukulunga
Tonsefe mwina timadziwa kapena tinakumana ndi wamisala nthawi ina m'miyoyo yathu. Ena aife tidali pachibwenzi ndi wachisembwere.
Kaya wamisala ndi munthu amene mumagwira naye ntchito, munthu amene mumacheza naye, kapenanso mnzanu, kudziwa njira zabwino zothetsera mkangano ndi kothandiza kungakhale kothandiza mkangano ukabuka.
Muyenera kudziwa kuyambira pachiyambi kuti kukangana ndi wankhanza kungakhale chinthu chopanda pake. Mwakutanthawuza, ma narcissists nthawi zonse amaganiza kuti ali olondola ndipo sadzabwera konse kukuwonetsani (kapena ngakhale kuwamvera!).
Kodi narcissist ndi chiyani?
Tiyeni tiyambe ndikutanthauzira chomwe wamisili ndi. Mosiyana ndi zomwe anthu ambiri amaganiza, si matenda omwe amapezeka.
Ndi zikhalidwe zingapo zomwe zimachitika mosalekeza, zomwe zimadziwika kwambiri ndi kudzikonda.
Ngati mukukumbukira nthano yanu yachi Greek, Narcissus anali mwana wamwamuna yemwe anali wokongola kwambiri ndipo adayamba kudziwonetsa padziwikiro chake padziwe lamadzi.
Kuchokera ku nthano iyi kumabwera mawu akuti Narcissist, munthu yemwe cholinga chake chachikulu ndicho iwo okha.
Makhalidwe ena omwe amapanga umunthu wankhanza ndi awa:
- Osamvera chisoni ena
- Amanyenga ndipo amapezerapo mwayi kwa ena kuti akwaniritse zofuna zawo
- Okhutira kuti nthawi zonse amakhala olondola, ndipo ena onse akulakwitsa
- Amadziona ngati apamwamba kuposa onse owazungulira
- Wodzikuza
- Chikhulupiriro ndi chapadera ndipo kusankhaku sikumamvetsedwa ndi aliyense
- Kukula, kudzikweza, kumakokomeza zomwe akuchita bwino komanso maluso (nthawi zambiri amanama)
- Kusinthasintha, kukwiya, kusinthasintha
- Kukhala ndi ufulu
- Kusowa kofunikira kwambiri
- Kusowa chisoni pamene mukukhumudwitsa ena
- Chiwawa kwa nyama ndi anthu
- Osadandaula za zotsatirapo
- Kunyoza ulamuliro; akuganiza kuti ali pamwamba pa lamulo
- Khalidwe losasamala, lowopsa osaganizira za chitetezo cha ena
- Njira yachinyengo, kuphatikiza kuzunza ena
- Kusasamala, ulemu komanso nkhanza
Zonsezi zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuti mupeze lingaliro lamtundu uliwonse mukamakangana ndi wankhanza.
Ndikofunikira, chifukwa chake, kuti muphunzire maupangiri akukangana ndi wankhanza. Pogwiritsa ntchito malangizowa, mutha kukangana ndi wolemba nkhani zamatsenga kuchokera pa masewera olimbitsa thupi osakhutira ndi (njira) yokhazikitsira zokambiranazo moyenera.
Simungapeze zotsatira zomaliza zomwe mumayembekezera chifukwa wamisala sangatenge nawo gawo pazokambirana pagulu lomwe cholinga chake ndikupeza zomwe mungagwirizane, koma mudzakhala ndi maluso ena othandiza mukamaphunzira zomwe munganene kwa wankhanza.
Komanso Penyani:
Chifukwa chiyani zimamveka ngati kukangana ndi wankhanza ndizopanda pake?
Kukangana ndi narcissist ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi mikangano yabanja nthawi zonse.
Tiyeni tiyambe ndi mfundo zitatu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti kukangana ndi wankhanza kukhale kosiyana.
- Mukamakangana ndi wankhanza, dziwani kuti ali ndi chidwi chofuna kupambana kuposa chowonadi.
- Narcissists amakonda kusunthira cholakwacho. Amakonda kuimba mlandu chilichonse chomwe chimakulowererani kuti mupewe kudzichitira zoipa.
- Njira zamkangano zaku Narcissist ndizosiyana pang'ono. Sakusamalirani za inu kwambiri, choncho alibe chidwi chobwerera m'mbuyo.
Kodi ena mwa maukadaulo omwe narcissists amagwiritsa ntchito pokangana ndi ati?
1. Anthu achiNarciss amakonda kupambana
Kumbukirani kuti ochita zachiwerewere akufuna kupambana, kuwongolera, ndikukuyikani m'malo mosasamala kanthu za mtengo wake.
Adzayatsa mafuta, miyala yamiyala, kunama, kusokoneza, kukuwa ndi kukuwa pofuna kukuvulaza mumtima komanso mwakuthupi nthawi zina.
2. Adzapewa kuyankha mafunso achindunji
Adzakumenyani ndi zomwe anthu amachitcha mawu akuti saladi (mawu angapo osamveka) ndipo ndizomwe zimayang'anira nkhaniyo.
Adzachoka pamutu, kukakambirana. Mwadzidzidzi muwona kuti mutu wasintha.
Njira zotsutsana za narcissist zonsezi ndikuti akuchepetseni ndikusokonezeni kuti pamapeto pake mudzasiya kukangana chifukwa chokhumudwa. Kenako, wamisala adzamva ngati apambana.
3. Amachotsa mkangano
Narcissists ndi omenyera nkhondo. Ngati awona kuti sangatsutsane ndi zomwe mumanena, amayamba kuyang'ana china chilichonse, chosafunikira, kapena chosagwirizana.
Mwachitsanzo, asintha kuyang'ana kwamawu omwe mudagwiritsa ntchito, kalembedwe kanu, zolinga zanu, ndi zina zambiri.
4. Mwala wamiyala ndiofala kwa anthu ochita zachiwerewere
Mwala wamiyala wa Narcissist ndi njira ina yodziwika bwino yochitira nkhanza, komwe amakana mwadzidzidzi kugwirizana, kumvetsera, kulumikizana nanu.
Mukapeza kuti mukukangana ndi wankhanza ndipo angosankha kuchoka mchipinda kapena kukuimitsani kwa masiku angapo, mwaponyedwa miyala.
5. Nthawi zambiri a Narcissist amagwiritsa ntchito ziyerekezo pokangana
Izi zikutanthauza kuti amakulitsa machitidwe osayenera omwe amachokera kwa inu. Njira yodziwika yochitira nkhanza anzawo, amawadzudzula anzawo chifukwa cha zovuta zawo m'malo motenga udindo wawo.
6. Kuyatsa magetsi
Kuyatsa gasi ndi siginecha ya siginecha ya narcissist! Apa ndipamene amakupangitsani kuganiza kuti ndinu openga, okhudzidwa kwambiri, kapena oyerekeza zinthu.
"Nthawi zonse mumatenga chilichonse kwenikweni !!!" wamankhwala adzanena akakupweteketsani mtima mukamakangana. Sangakhale ndi udindo wokhumudwitsa.
Kodi mumakangana bwanji ndi wankhanza?
Ngakhale simungapambane motsutsana ndi wankhanza, malangizowa athandiza kuyambitsa kukambirana pamodzi ndikukhumudwitsidwa pang'ono momwe mungathere.
1. Osatchula mawu oti "chabwino" kapena "cholakwika"
Ngati mukufuna kukonza zinthu mukamakangana ndi wankhanza, musayembekezere kugonjetsa wamisala poyesera kuwapangitsa kuzindikira kuti omwe ali ndi mlandu ndi ndani.
Narcissists samavomereza konse kuti alakwitsa chifukwa amagwiritsa ntchito kwakukulu - malingaliro osatheka kukhala angwiro - kuti apangitse kudzidalira kwawo, kuti uwawonetse kuti akulakwitsa ndikufotokozera chifukwa chake zingakhale zopanda ntchito. Amachita bwino kukuimba mlandu!
2. Musatenge nyambo
Mukamakangana ndi wankhanza, muyembekezere kuti azinena zonyansa komanso zoyipa. Amakonda kuzunza.
Afuna kupeza yankho kuchokera kwa inu. Ndi njira ina yopezera chidwi, ngakhale zili zoyipa. (Kodi izi zikukukumbutsani za kamwana kamene mumadziwa? Ndi malingaliro omwewo!)
Musagwere chifukwa cha izo ndikumira pamlingo wawo. Njira yabwino yopweteketsa wamisala (ndikupewa kumenya nkhondo yayikulu) ndikunyalanyaza nyambo yomwe akulendewera patsogolo panu.
Mukanyalanyaza chipongwe chawo osakweza nyambo, nthawi zambiri mutha kupewa mkangano wopanda pake.
3. Kupambana ndi munthu wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kungafune kumvetsetsa momwe akumvera
Chifukwa ochita zachiwerewere amakula chidwi, kugwiritsa ntchito kumvera ena akamakangana ndi wankhanza ikhoza kukhala njira yothandiza. Auzeni kuti mumvetsetsa ndikumvetsetsa momwe akumvera.
Izi nthawi zambiri zimatha kutsitsa mkangano chifukwa omwe amalimbikitsa nkhanza amatha kukhazika mtima pansi posonyeza kuti mumamvetsetsa. “Uyenera kuti unakwiya kwambiri. Ndikumvetsa mmene mukumvera. ”
4. M'malo mongogwiritsa ntchito "Inu" kapena "Ine," gwiritsani ntchito "Ife"
Odzudzula a Narcissist akusintha ndikofala, koma atha kumvera mukamagwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo cha "ife" mukamakangana ndi wankhanza.
Mwachitsanzo, taganizirani kuti mukulimbana ndi mwamuna wankhanza.
Mumadziteteza, ndipo nonse awiri muli mgulu lomwe likukulirakulira pazinthu zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi mutu wapachiyambi (chifukwa kusokonekera pamikangano kumakhala kofala kwa narcissists). Lekani mkanganowu mwa kunena china chabwino chomwe chimaphatikizira "ife":
“Ndimakukondani, ndipo inunso mumandikonda. Chomaliza chomwe ndikufuna kuchita ndikukuvulazani kapena kutsutsana nanu. Ndikuganiza kuti tonse tinachotsedwa. Tiyeni tipsompsonane ndipo tipange mgwirizano. ”
5. Kupambananso munthu wamankhwala osokoneza bongo
Njira yabwino kwambiri yomenyera wonyoza ndikulamulirabe malingaliro anu. Izi zimafuna kuleza mtima, kupuma mwakuya, ndi gulu linalake lodzitchinjiriza chifukwa ochita zachiwerewere ali ndi luso lokukwiyitsani.
Mukamayang'anira momwe mukumvera komanso chilankhulo chanu, mumachotsera munthu wankhanza, ndipo amasiyidwa ndi zochita zake.
Adzasokonezeka pamene akudalira inu kuti muwonjezere moto wake. Njira yabwino yoyankhira wamankhwala osayankha ndikumvera.
Kukulunga
Mukadzipeza nokha kuti mukukangana ndi wankhanza, kugwiritsa ntchito malangizowa kukuthandizani kuti musayankhulane motalikirana.
Kuthana ndi mkwiyo wawo posalowerera ndale, kunyong'onyeka, kapena kusamvana. Mukamachita izi, mudzapewa kuthira mafuta pamoto wawo ndikudzipulumutsa pamaganizidwe ena a narcissists olimbikitsa kudzidalira kwawo.
Ngakhale simungapambane "kukangana" ndi wankhanza, mutha kuchita nawo zonsezi ndikusungabe kukhulupirika kwanu. Ndipo kumeneko ndi kupambana palokha!