Zamkati
- Mphamvu yakumvetsera kuti mumvetsetse
- Momwe mungamvetsere bwino
- 1. Ganizirani mofatsa
- 2. Dziwani zinthu ziwiri: zokhutira ndi momwe akumvera
- 3. Onetsani kuti mukumvetsa
- 4. Khalani ndi chidwi ndikufunsani mafunso
- Khalani bwino
Ndizachidziwikire kuti kuthetsa kusamvana kapena kulumikizana ndi winawake kumafunikira kulumikizana kwabwino.
Nthawi zambiri, anthu akaganiza zolumikizana gawo loyankhulalo ndilo lomwe limabwera m'maganizo, sichoncho?
Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukufuna kuthetsa kusamvana ndi wina, ndizachilengedwe mungafune kuyamba pofotokoza kapena kudzitchinjiriza.
Nthawi zambiri zimaganiziridwa kuti luso loyambirira pothetsa kusamvana ndikupeza malingaliro anu ndikulankhula momveka bwino kuti winayo amvetse komwe mukuchokera.
Izi ndizomveka. Komabe, mobwerezabwereza njirayi imatsimikizira kukhala yokhumudwitsa komanso yopanda tanthauzo. Vuto ndiloti mumakhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi gawo loyankhula mwakuti mumayiwala gawo lomvera loyankhulana.
Zonsezi ndizofunikira, ndipo nditha kunena kuti gawo lomvera ndilofunika kwambiri pothetsa kusamvana ndikupanga kulumikizana ndi winawake.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake.
Mphamvu yakumvetsera kuti mumvetsetse
Kumvetsera mwachidwi munthu amene muli ndi chidwi chenicheni kumakhudza inuyo komanso munthu amene mukumumverayo. Kumvera wina ndikutanthauza kumvetsetsa zomwe akunena.
Cholinga chawo ndi 100% pakumvera ndikumvetsetsa zomwe akunena - osamvera pakati pomwe akumangoganizira zomwe mumakana kapena kudikirira mwachidwi kuti apume kuti muthe kuyankhula.
Kumveradi wina ndi mtima wonse ndichinthu chaubwenzi, ndipo ukakhala ndi chidziwitso zimakhazikika mwamphamvu kwa yemwe akumumvera komanso pamkhalidwewo.
Pafupifupi mosalephera, munthu amene akumveridwayo, zilizonse zomwe adayamba, ayamba kuchepa.
Momwemonso, kufewetsaku kumatha kupatsirana ndipo mudzayamba kusintha mtima wanu chifukwa mutha kumvetsetsa.
Kuphatikiza apo, pakukhazikika pang'onopang'ono, nkhawa ndi mkwiyo zimayamba kuchepa zomwe zimapangitsa ubongo kuyang'ana bwino.
Mankhwala achilengedwewa amadzafika nthawi yoti mulankhule, chifukwa mudzatha kuyankhula modekha komanso momveka bwino zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kuti muzitha kulankhulana bwino, kukulitsa nkhani yomwe ili pafupi, ndi kumva kulumikizana kwambiri pachibwenzi.
Momwe mungamvetsere bwino
Kumvetsera sikungomva mawu omwe wina akunena, koma ndikumvetsetsa munthuyo ndi mtima wazomwe akuyesera kunena. M'dziko lamalangizo, timati "kumvetsera mwachidwi".
Kumvetsera mwachidwi kumafuna chidwi ndi cholinga chathunthu.
Kumbukirani, cholinga ndikumvetsetsa bwino momwe zingathere, chifukwa chake yambirani luso ili ndichidwi chenicheni.
Nawa malangizo angapo okuthandizani kuti muzimvera bwino ndikumvetsetsa:
1. Ganizirani mofatsa
Yang'anani ndi munthu amene mukumumverayo. Yang'anani pamaso. Chotsani zosokoneza zonse.
2. Dziwani zinthu ziwiri: zokhutira ndi momwe akumvera
Mverani zomwe akunena (zokhutira) ndikuyesera kudziwa momwe akumvera. Ngati sananene zomwe akumva, dzifunseni momwe mukadamvera mukadakhala momwemo.
Kuphunzira kuzindikira momwe akumvera ndikofunikira posonyeza kuti mumamvetsetsa ndikuchepetsa mpweya.
3. Onetsani kuti mukumvetsa
Onetsani kuti mukumvetsetsa poganizira zomwe mwamva komanso momwe mukuganizira akumvera. Izi zitha kupulumutsa nthawi yochuluka pothetsa kusamvana chifukwa izi zingakupatseni mwayi kwa nonse kuthetsa kusamvana kulikonse komwe kumamenyedwa.
4. Khalani ndi chidwi ndikufunsani mafunso
Khalanibe ndi chidwi ndikufunsani mafunso ngati mukuvutika kumvetsetsa kapena ngati mukufuna kufotokoza. Kufunsa mafunso kumawonetsa kuti mukuyesera kumvetsetsa m'malo mokangana. Fufuzani musafunsane!
Mukamaliza kuchita izi ndipo mnzanu watsimikizira kuti mukumutsata bwino, ndiye kuti nthawi yanu yakwana yoti mulankhule zakukhosi kwanu.
Khalani bwino
Ndibwino kuyamba kugwiritsa ntchito luso lakumvetsera mwatcheru mukakhala kuti simukukangana kuti zikhale zosavuta kuzipeza nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukukangana.
Nawa mafunso angapo omwe mungafunsane kuti akuthandizeni kuti muyambe. Funsani funsolo kenako yesetsani kumvetsera mwachidwi yankho. Gwiritsani ntchito malangizo omwe atchulidwa pamwambapa ndikusinthana.
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"Nzeru ndi mphotho yomwe mumalandira pakumvetsera nthawi yonse yomwe mukadalankhula." - Mark Twain