Zamkati
- 1. Nkhani zandalama
- 2. Kusakhulupirika ndi kukhulupirirana
- 3. Mavuto okondana
- 4. Kuthetsa mikangano
- 5. Kugwiritsitsa zakale zowawa
Palibe amene angakane kuti chisudzulo ndi chovuta. Ndi gawo lomwe palibe amene angafune kuti atengepo m'moyo wawo, koma nthawi zina zinthu zimaipiraipira kotero kuti iyi ndiyo njira yokhayo yotsalira banja. Kupatukana kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe mumakonda kale ndikugawana zokumana nazo zosangalatsa zambiri nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa chisoni komanso chisoni.
Komabe, kusudzulana ndichinthu chomwe sichimachitika mwachangu. Pali zochitika zambiri zakale zomwe pang'onopang'ono zimatsegula njira yothetsera banja kwa okwatirana aliwonse.
Kutchulidwa pansipa ndi ndewu zisanu zomwe zitha kupangitsa kuti banja lithe. Izi zitha kukhala zothandiza kwa banja lililonse kuthana ndi mavuto osudzulana ndikudzitchinjiriza kuti lisadzafike nthawi yovuta imeneyi.
1. Nkhani zandalama
Chuma akuti ndicho chimayambitsa kusudzulana kwa mabanja ambiri.
Nthawi zambiri, anthu okwatirana sadziwa za mbiri ya chuma cha anzawo asanakwatirane, ndipo patangopita nthawi pang'ono atakwatirana ndi pomwe amapeza momwe amachitira ndi anzawo ndalama, momwe amawonongera ndalama, ndi zina zambiri.
Zotsatira zake, mnzake atha kukhala wowononga ndalama zochulukirapo pomwe m'modzi wa iwo amangokhalira kusunga. Chifukwa cha izi, mikangano imabuka pakati pawo yokhudza ndalama. Wina angafune kukhala ndi ufulu wowonjezera ndi kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama pomwe wina akhoza kumangokhalira kukangana ndi mnzake za ndalama zawo zosasamala.
Pamapeto pake, zonsezi zimabweretsa banja lomwe lingasankhe kupatukana njira.
2. Kusakhulupirika ndi kukhulupirirana
Kudalirana kumawerengedwa kuti ndi maziko a banja.
Anthu awiri omwe sakhulupirirana akhoza kukumana ndi mavuto aukwati. Okwatirana ayenera kukhala machitidwe othandizira wina ndi mnzake, okhawo amapita akafuna kukambirana, kufunafuna chithandizo, chilichonse.
Palibe aliyense mwa omwe akuyenera kupatsana chifukwa choti asawakhulupirire chifukwa ndizovuta kuti wina ayambenso kumukhulupirira akaphwanyidwa kapena mwinanso zosatheka kuti ayambenso kukhulupirirana. Zinthu zimangoipiraipira ngati m'modzi wa iwo akuchita zibwenzi zapabanja.
Ndizabwino kuti mnzake azimva kupusitsidwa ndi kukhumudwa ndikusankha kupatukana ndi mnzake wonyengayo.
3. Mavuto okondana
Chinthu chimodzi chomwe chimasiyanitsa maubwenzi achikondi ndiubwenzi ndikubwenzi, makamaka kukondana.
Sizachilendo kukhala otanganidwa ndi zochita zambiri pamoyo, koma ndikofunikanso kuwonetsetsa kuti inu ndi mnzanu mumakhala ndi nthawi yabwino wina ndi mnzake, tsiku ndi tsiku.
Kungakhale kungokambirana kumapeto kwa tsiku, komabe ndi njira yabwino yosonyezera wokondedwa wanu kuti mumawakonda ndipo mumawakonda kupezeka kwawo m'moyo wanu.
Chachiwiri, kusakwanirana kungapangitse okwatirana kukayikira za chibwenzicho; atha kumadzifunsa ngati pali vuto nawo kapena ngati wokondedwa wawo sawakondanso. Zinthu zimangotsika pansi ngati kusowa kwaubwenzi kumeneku kukupitilira muukwati.
4. Kuthetsa mikangano
Njira ina yolimbanirana ndikusudzula banja lanu ndikuwonetsetsa kuti simukugwirizana.
Ndi zachilendo komanso zathanzi kuti maanja amenyane ndikukangana nthawi zambiri koma nthawi zambiri amakhala achangu, osapweteka komanso osavuta kuthana.
Mabanja omwe amasankha kusanena zodandaula za anzawo amangokhalira kuwononga chibwenzi chawo.
Mabanja onse azitha kulumikizana bwino ndikukambirana mavuto amtundu uliwonse popanda kukayika. Mavuto osathetsedwa nthawi zambiri amakhala omwe amasokoneza mabanja ndikupangitsa kuti banja lithe.
5. Kugwiritsitsa zakale zowawa
Kukhululukirana ndi kiyi mbanja.
Tonsefe tili ndi zolakwika ndipo tonsefe timalakwitsa koma ndikofunika kuti tiphunzire kunyalanyaza ndi kukhululuka kuti tipeze zomwezo kwa ena. Maanja agwirizana kuti apanga zonse zomwe angathe kuti banja lawo liziyenda bwino ngakhale atakhala ndi mikangano.
Maphwando onsewa azikhala osavutikira wina ndi mnzake pazinthu zazing'ono monga kuyiwala kutsuka mbale ngakhale inali nthawi yawo kapena kusankha kusakhala nawo paphwando chifukwa samamvera.
M'malo mwake, maanja akuyenera kumvetsetsa ndikulemekeza china chawo china mwanjira ina; Tinthu tating'onoting'ono tomwe timadzaza mavuto ambiri omwe angabweretse chisudzulo.
Kusudzulana kumakhala kosokoneza, ndipo maanja onse akufuna kupewa izi zivute zitani.
Palibe amene amakwatirana kuti adzasudzulane pamapeto pake. Ndikofunikira kuti anthu apabanja apewe mikangano ndi mikangano nthawi zonse pazinthu zomwe zatchulidwazi kuti banja lawo likhale lolimba ndikulithandiza kuti likhale losangalala.