Sikuti mawu onse achikondi ndiowona. Ena amafesa kusakhutira mwinanso kusudzulana kumene.
‘Ndi nyengo yaukwati. Ndipo ngati muli ngati anthu ambiri mwina mumadabwa kuti ndi angati mwa maanja omwe amayenda pamsewu adzapanga - makamaka ngati muli m'modzi mwa mabanja omwe akuyenda pamsewu!
Monga china chilichonse m'moyo, zikhulupiliro ndi ziyembekezo zimakhudzana kwambiri ndi ngati banja litha kupanga kapena ayi.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake nditawona mndandanda wamakalata okonda zachikondi ndiukwati ndidayamba kuda nkhawa. Zambiri mwazolembazi zimalimbikitsa chikondi ndi ukwati kwambiri kotero kuti aliyense amene angawaike pamtima amakhala ndi nthawi yovuta (kapena yosatheka) yosungitsa ukwati wawo.
Ndiloleni ndikupatseni zitsanzo zingapo.
“Ndipamene umadziwiratu kuti wina amakukonda. Amazindikira zomwe mukufuna ndipo amakupatsani - popanda inu kufunsa. ” Adriana Trigiani
OMG! Zowonadi ?! Ichi ndi njira yokhayo yatsoka. Maukwati amatenga ntchito ndikusungabe chikondi chimatenga ntchito. Kulakalaka kwachikondi kwatsopano kumatha pakapita nthawi ndikuyembekeza kuti mnzanu apitiliza kuwerenga malingaliro anu ndikudziwatu zomwe mukufunikira panthawi yomwe mukuzifuna ndizo zinthu zakumenyera nkhondo komanso malingaliro owonongedwa.
Chikondi chosatha chimafuna kuti banja liphunzire kulumikizana pazinthu zonse - makamaka zinthu zomwe akanakonda kuchokera kwa wina ndi mnzake.
"Sindinadziwe kupembedza mpaka nditadziwa kukonda." Henry Ward Beecher
Nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndimawerenga mawuwa pokhudzana ndiukwati m'mimba mwanga mudatembenuka. Mwamuna kapena mkazi akalambira mnzake kapena akuyembekeza kuti azipembedzedwa, amakhala kutali kwambiri muubwenzi. Yemwe akupembedzedwa amaikidwa pamiyala ndipo amayembekezeredwa kukwaniritsa zomwe sizingachitike. Amene amalambira nthawi zambiri amadzimva kuti ndi otsika poyerekeza ndi mnzawo. Ukwati umayenda bwino kwambiri (komanso mosavuta) mukakhala pakati pa awiri ofanana - osati ngati wokwatirana ali wamkulu kuposa mnzake.
“Palibe nthawi kapena malo achikondi chenicheni. Zimangochitika mwangozi, kugunda kwamtima, munthawi yochepa, yopumula. ” Sarah Dessen
Pamwamba, mawu awa ndi okongola. Vuto limabwera pamene maanja amakhulupirira kuti iyi ndi njira yokhayo yomwe chikondi chenicheni chimawonekera kapena kuti chiyenera kupitiliza kuwunikaku popanda kuchita khama.
Chikondi chenicheni sichimakhala chowopsa nthawi zonse chikamawonekera. Chikondi chenicheni chimawonekeranso ngati kumwetulira pang'onopang'ono pakati paubwenzi komwe kumakula pang'onopang'ono ndikumwetulira kosangalala. Palibe malamulo okhudza momwe chikondi chimachitikira kotero kuyembekezera zakuti pali njira imodzi yokha yodziwira kuti mumakondana kumatha kubweretsa zopweteketsa mtima ndikusowa chikondi cha moyo wonse.
"Kupezeka kwanu sikunandiphunzitse kukhala ndekha, zangowonetsa kuti tikakhala limodzi timakhala mthunzi umodzi pakhoma." Doug Fetherling
YIKES! Kodi pali wina aliyense amene akumva kusuta akawerenga izi?
Banja lililonse lathanzi liyenera kukhala ndi nthawi yokhala limodzi komanso mosiyana. Ndi mwa okwatirana okha kukhala munthu wathunthu komanso wathunthu payekha kuti athe kubweretsa onse kuukwati ndipo sayembekezera kuti wina awamaliza (zomwe tonsefe timadziwa kuti ndi njira yatsoka).
Sikuti mawu onse achikondi okhudzana ndi chikondi ndiukwati amakupangitsani ukwati wosangalatsa. Ena mwa iwo ndi okongola ndipo amalankhula zoona.
“Sindikufuna kuti ndizikopeka ndi anthu ena. Ngati wina andikonda, ndikufuna kuti andikonde, osati momwe akuganizira. ” Stephen Chbosky
Kukhala 100% inu popanda aliyense wa inu kubisala kuseri kwa chigoba ndiye njira yotsimikizika yodziwira ngati chikondi chanu ndi chowonadi. Ndipo icho chitha kukhala chinthu chovuta makamaka pakapita nthawi chifukwa tonse timasintha ndikukula. Chifukwa chake vuto ndilopitiliza kulankhulana ndikuphunzira za inu ndi mnzanu nthawi yonse yaukwati wanu.
"Kuti banja liziyenda bwino pamafunika kukondana nthawi zambiri, nthawi zonse ndi munthu m'modzi." Mignon McLaughlin
Mawu awa akuwonetsa kuyesayesa komwe kumafunika kuti ukwati ukhalebe wamoyo. Nthawi zina ndimaganizira za izi monga kudzuka m'mawa uliwonse ndikupanga chisankho chokonda amuna anga lero - ngakhale masiku omwe sindimamukonda kwenikweni.
Ndipo chimenecho ndichayeso chaukwati - kusankha kutero ngakhale sichingakhale chinthu chophweka kwambiri padziko lapansi chifukwa mwaganiza kuti ndichofunika. Aliyense amene angachite izi tsiku ndi tsiku adzakhala ndi banja labwino ngakhale zitakhala kuti mawu achikondi kwambiri angakupangitseni kuti mukhulupirire.