Zamkati
- Zizindikiro za Borderline Personality Disorder
- Kuphunzira mphamvu za ubale wokonda wina yemwe ali ndi BPD
- Zina mwazikhalidwe za BPD zitha kuwononga chibwenzi
- Nkhani zomwe zimabwera chifukwa choopa kusiyidwa
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) ndi mtundu wamatenda amisala omwe amakumana kulikonse kuyambira 1.6% mpaka 5.9% ya akulu aku US.
Anthu ambiri amapezeka kuti ali nawo ali achichepere. Tsoka ilo, ndiyo nthawi m'moyo pomwe anthu ambiri amaliza maphunziro awo, kuyamba ntchito zawo, ndipo nthawi zambiri amasangalala ndi zibwenzi zawo zoyambirira.
Kodi ndi ziti zokhudza BPD? Kwenikweni, BPD ili ndi zizindikilo zisanu ndi zinayi zosiyana, ndipo matenda amapezeka ngati munthu ali ndi zizindikilo zosachepera zisanu.
Zizindikiro za Borderline Personality Disorder
- Kuopa kusiyidwa
- Maubwenzi osakhazikika
- Chithunzi chokhazikika kapena chosuntha
- Kusinthasintha kwamalingaliro
- Kudzipweteketsa
- Mkwiyo wophulika
- Kudzimva wopanda pake
- Kumva kuti sakugwirizana ndi zenizeni
- Kudzimva wopanda pake
Tsopano, monga mukuwonera, awa ndi ena azizindikiro zazikulu.
Monga momwe mungaganizire, ena, ngati si onse, atha kuwononga ubale wamtundu uliwonse womwe munthu wapezeka ndi BPD atha kukhala nawo. Takhala tikufunsana ndi anthu omwe apezeka ndi BPD ndi anzawo kuti aphunzire zambiri za momwe akuyendera pamoyo wawo.
Kuphunzira mphamvu za ubale wokonda wina yemwe ali ndi BPD
Leslie Morris, wazaka 28, ndi wojambula bwino pa magazini yayikulu yapadziko lonse lapansi. Mnzake, Ben Crane, wazaka 30, ndi wochita bizinesi. Leslie anapezeka ndi BPD ali ndi zaka 23.
Amawonana ndi psychotherapist kawiri pamwezi pamisonkhano yake ya Cognitive Behaeve Therapy, ndipo pakadali pano samamwa mankhwala. Leslie adayamba, "OMG. Simungakhulupirire zaka zisanu zapitazi, ayi, zaka zisanu ndi zitatu zapitazi.
Ndinatenga nthawi kuti ndipeze matenda anga. Anthu nthawi zonse amati ndimakwiya, koma ndikawotcha mbiri yanga pamaso pa abwana anga chifukwa adatsutsa chimodzi mwazithunzi zanga, adandiperekeza kutuluka mnyumbayo. Nkhani yayitali: Pamapeto pake ndinapezeka ndi BPD. ”
Wolemba ntchito a Leslie anali ndi nkhawa ndipo amamugwiritsa ntchito ntchito kuchipatala komanso kuchipatala.
Ben adalowerera, "Ndidakondana ndi Leslie nditakumana naye mu gallery. Kukonda kwambiri luso la zojambulajambula kunali ngati chinthu chomwe ndinali ndisanaonepo.
Koma titangoyamba kupita kokayenda, nkhawa zake zidandivuta, ndipo amapitilizabe kundinena kuti ndikufuna kumusiya kotheratu. Sindinkafuna chilichonse, koma amapitilizabe. Zinali zovuta kumutsimikizira kuti ndikufuna kupitiriza chibwenzicho.
Ndimakhala nthawi yayitali ndikufufuza bizinesi yatsopano, chifukwa chake ndidagwiritsa ntchito maluso anga ofufuza ndipo ndidachita kafukufuku ndikupeza njira zopitilira ndi iye. ”
Chifukwa chake ubale wa Leslie ndi Ben udathandizidwa ndi zoyeserera za Ben kuti adziwe zamatenda a mnzake. Akadali olimba, koma tiyeni tiwone ubale womwe sunakhalenso wabwino.
Zina mwazikhalidwe za BPD zitha kuwononga chibwenzi
Kayla Turner, wazaka 23, ndi wophunzira ku yunivesite yayikulu kumadzulo. Chibwenzi chake chakale, Nicholas Smith, ndi womaliza maphunziro ku yunivesite yomweyo.
Kayla anapezeka ndi BPD ali ndi zaka 19. Iye anati, "Nicholas ndiye ubale wanga woyamba wachikondi weniweni. Ndinali wamisala, wokonda kwambiri naye. Ndinkafuna kukhala naye kwamuyaya. Zinali ngati m'makanema. Ndimaganiza kuti ndapeza mnzanga weniweni, ndipo tikhala limodzi mpaka kalekale. ”
Tsoka ilo, ataphulika pagulu komanso ngozi imodzi usiku, Nicholas adasiya zinthu. Iye anafotokoza kuti, “Kayla anali wosangalatsa, wongobwera monganso wina aliyense amene sindinadziwepo. Usiku wina anatiuza kuti tipite ku Chicago. Kunali nyengo yachisanu ndi zina ngati makumi awiri pansipa. Ndinayesa kumutsimikizira kuti sichinali chinthu chanzeru, koma adalowa mgalimoto yake ndikuyamba. Ndinatsatira galimoto yanga mpaka tonse tinayima chifukwa kutseka kwa mseu.
Pamenepo, ndinazindikira kuti kaya ndimva bwanji za iye, ndiyenera kutuluka. ”
Tsoka ilo, zina mwazikhalidwe za BPD, kupupuluma, kudzidzimutsa, komanso kusinthasintha kwamalingaliro, zidathetsa ubalewu. Nicholas adati, "Ndidamuopa Kayla.
Nkhani zomwe zimabwera chifukwa choopa kusiyidwa
Kuyendetsa usiku nyengo yotentha sikunali kwanzeru kunena pang'ono. Sindingathe kukhala ndi munthu amene amanyalanyaza chitetezo changa ngakhale ndinkasangalala kukhala naye. ”
Gardenia Clark ndi wolandila alendo wazaka makumi atatu wokhala ndi mawonekedwe owoneka bwino komanso matenda a BPD.
Chibwenzi chake chamakono, Bill Tisdale, sakudziwa kuti ndi chibwenzi chake chachitatu mwezi uno, komanso sakudziwa kuti wamuwongolera kuti aganize kuti ndi chibwenzi chake choyamba nthawi yayitali.
Amangonamizira amuna omwe amakhala nawo pachibwenzi, ndipo samamvetsetsa chifukwa chake maubwenzi ake satenga nthawi yayitali; Kulowerera ndi kutuluka kwa zibwenzi nthawi zonse kumamupangitsa kuti aziopa kusiyidwa, koma amaganiza kuti "wotsatira" ndiye "ameneyo."
Amavomereza kuti adachita zachinyengo m'mbuyomu nati, "Chabwino, ndidabera. Osati zambiri. Ndipo mwina sunganene kuti ndi kubera, koma ndawona anyamata angapo nthawi imodzi. ”
Bill adalankhula koyamba, "Ndili wodabwitsidwa kuti munthu wokongola komanso wolimba ngati Gardenia apita ndi wophunzira ngati ine. Tangotuluka kamodzi. Anandiuza kuti sanakhale pachibwenzi nthawi yayitali. Ndikumva wodala! Ndikuyembekezera kumapeto kwa sabata lino pamene tikupita ku konsati ya heavy metal. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazomwe timakonda, ndipo popeza ndikudziwa wotsatsa kudzera mu bizinesi yanga yodyera, tili ndi matikiti abwino. Wodalitsika kwambiri! ”
Sizitengera wopepuka kuti awone kuti ubalewu sukhala motalika kwambiri.
Gardenia wasankha kuti asalandire chithandizo chilichonse cha matenda ake, ndipo pakadali pano zizindikiro zake zikupitilira. Bill sakudziwa kuti alidi wotani. Mwina apeza kuleza mtima kuti athane naye, koma atha kusiya chifukwa kuli zambiri m'mbale yake.
Monga tikuwonera, pamakhala zovuta zomwe munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD amachita ndi mnzake. Ngati winayo akufuna kupitiriza chibwenzicho, pali mwayi wophunzirira ndikukula.