Zamkati
Chibwenzi ndi gawo limodzi la moyo, nthawi yomwe timayamba kukhala ndi chidwi ndi anyamata kapena atsikana, ndi zomwe timafuna mpaka tsiku lomwe timamwalira, ngakhale okwatirana omwe ali ndi thanzi labwino amakhalabe pachibwenzi.
Komabe, kukondana ndi winawake sikukupatsani mwayi wapadera wokhala nawo wonse. Zimangotanthauza kuti ndinu ocheperako komanso ochezeka kuposa abwenzi.
Kukhazikitsa malire pachibwenzi nthawi zonse ndibwino. Kudziwa njira zosiyanasiyana zokhalira pachibwenzi kungathandizenso kuwonetsetsa kuti simukuthamangira kuzinthu, sungani omwe ali osimidwa motalikirana, ndipo musadzipangire nokha zolephera.
Anthu ambiri amakhala pachibwenzi kuti angopeza zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa mnzake ndikuwataya ngati zopukutira zakale atamaliza. Ndichifukwa chake Aliyense ayenera kutsatira malamulo oyambira chibwenzi kuti apewe mbuna zaubwenzi wokhala ndi malire muubwenzi pambuyo pake.
Kupanga ndikukhazikitsa malire muubwenzi wapabanja ndi msewu waminga, anthu ochepa amawawona ngati cholepheretsa kukula kwa banjali chifukwa zinthu zambiri sizimanenedwa.
Osatsimikiza momwe mungakhalire malire oyanjana bwino? Onani vidiyo iyi yanzeru:
Malire azachuma pomwe ali pachibwenzi
Pachikhalidwe, mwamunayo amayenera kulipira zonse zomwe zimachitika pazochitika zokhala pachibwenzi kuti akope mkaziyo. Ikuwonetsanso kuthekera kwawo kwachuma monga wopezera mkazi wamtsogolo ndi ana ake. Ndiye palinso amuna ambiri omwe amangofuna kudzionetsera kuti akope akazi.
Amayi ena amagwiritsanso ntchito zithumwa zawo kuti akondweretse kuchokera kwa abambo, komanso, pali amuna ambiri omwe amachita zomwezo.
Kuteteza chuma chanu kuchokera kwa anthu omwe mwachinyengo amagwiritsa ntchito chikondi ndi kukondana kuti atole chikwama chanu ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe muyenera kukhazikitsira malire pa chibwenzi.
Chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kukumbukira ndi osakhala owolowa manja kwambiri, ngakhale mutakwanitsa kutero. Mukufuna kuti munthuyo akukondeni, osati ndalama zanu.
Momwe mumakhalira mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi chibwenzi, ziyenera kukhala zaka khumi mutakwatirana, mwanjira imeneyi ziyembekezo zimakwaniritsidwa.
Palinso maanja omwe ali ndi mapangano ovomerezeka (monga prenup) pomwe akukhalira limodzi kuti adziteteze ku chisokonezo chogawana zinthu. Ndalama ziyenera kusungidwa zake, zake, komanso limodzi.
Kambiranani za makonzedwe ndikupanga malire abwino muubwenzi pankhaniyi ndi momwe zingasinthire mutakwatirana.
Onaninso:
Malire akuthupi pachibwenzi
Chibwenzi chimadzetsa chiwerewere.
Anthu ena amachitanso izi asanakwatirane, ndipo akazichita pafupipafupi, zimawapangitsa kuti azikhazikika. Pali maanja ena omwe amangokhalira kukondana, kenako maziko, mpaka pamapeto pake amatsogolera kugonana, nthawi zina ngakhale ukwati usanachitike.
Mabanja amapangidwa ndi anthu awiri osiyana, lingaliro lawo la kukhala pachibwenzi ndi kugonana mwina silingafanane.
Wina akhoza kukhala wankhanza kwambiri poyendetsa zinthu zogonana mnzake asanakhale wokonzeka. Kutsogolera mnzanuyo kumatha kubweretsa kusamvana ndi zokhumudwitsa zomwe zitha kutha kwa chibwenzicho.
Ndikofunika kukambirana za kugonana munjira yachibwenzi zinthu zisanatenthe komanso zikulemera.
Palinso magawo osiyanasiyana ogonana.
Sikuti aliyense amakhala womasuka ndi kugonana kovuta, makamaka ndi zidole, feteleza zachilendo, komanso zibwenzi zingapo.
Kukakamiza mnzanu kuti adutse pomwe mukugwiritsa ntchito chibwenzi mosasunthika ngati chiphaso kumatha kubweretsa chibwenzi choipa.
Pangani malire azakugonana komanso zakuthupi, zimateteza maubwenzi ku zovuta.
Palinso anthu omwe ali ndi zovuta zopezera anzawo pagulu. Kwa iwo, kuwonetseratu zachikondi, poyera poyera ndikulumphana malire muubwenzi.
Sizisintha momwe amamukondera munthuyo, samangokhala omasuka ndikuwonetsa chikondi pagulu. Ndikofunika kuti phwando lokalipa limvetsetse msinkhu wopotoza umasiyana munthu ndi munthu, makamaka poyera.
Malire akuthupi ndi ogonana kwa anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi amatha kuwonongeka pakapita nthawi, koma osadzikakamiza, lingalirani za mithunzi 50, onetsetsani kuti mwavomereza. Tsiku logwiriridwa ndi mlandu.
Gwiritsani ntchito chidziwitsochi kuchokera kumaubwenzi anu akale ndi zokumana nazo mukamakhazikitsa malire muubwenzi.
Kukhazikitsa malire mchibwenzi kumathandiza onse kukhala omasuka ndikuwathandiza kuti azimvetsetsana.
Kutengera malire pachibwenzi
Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu kumafuna kukondana kwambiri.
Nthawi zina zimamveka kuti umunthu wanu wonse uli m'manja mwa munthu m'modzi. Ngati ndi ubale wabwino, kumverako kumayanjanitsidwanso.
Komabe, payenera kukhala pang'ono danga lokula ndikukhwima mopitilira muyeso. Ngakhale mukumva kuti mukufuna kupereka moyo wanu wonse kwa munthu wina, simuyenera. Kukhazikitsa malire omveka bwino kumatha kukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wosangalala komanso wathanzi.
Kupereka maloto anu ochepa kuti mugwirizane ndi gawo la moyo, koma osati zonse. Zolinga zanu zoyambirira ziyenera kukhala zogwirizana ndi mnzanu komanso ubale wanu.
Sizomveka kwa munthu amene akufuna kuphunzitsa ana ku Africa kuti apange tsogolo lawo pafupi ndi munthu yemwe akufuna kukhala pulogalamu ya Google.
Bill ndi Melinda Gates adatha kuchita zonsezi, koma atasiya kulamulira Microsoft ndikukhala m'modzi mwa mabanja olemera kwambiri padziko lapansi.
Pokhapokha mutakhala mgulu la 3% lomwe lingapangitse ndalama zambiri kuposa momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito moyo wanu wonse, muyenera kukhala othandiza pokonzekera tsogolo lanu.
Mutha kudabwa kuti kulumikizana kotani pakati pa maloto anu ndi momwe mumamvera, maloto anu ndiye gwero lazokhumba zanu.
Maloto anu akamasintha pakapita nthawi, ndipo zikasintha, momwemonso zilakolako zanu zimasintha.
Kutaya maloto amenewo ndizotengeka kwambiri, kuwalowetsa m'malo mwake ndi chinthu china, mwachitsanzo, ana, kumakhudzanso kwambiri. Kugawana izi ndi wina wanu ndichofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wabwino, koma kudzisungira nokha ndi gawo limodzi lakukula kwanu.
Ubwenzi wapamtima, monga ukwati si chifukwa chothetsera kukula kwanu.
Muyenera kupitiliza kugwira ntchito maloto anu, ngakhale zina zofunika kuchita monga kulera ana zimatenga nthawi yanu yambiri.
Onetsetsani kusunga malire mu chibwenzi, banja, ndi maubale kuti musunge dzina lanu mosatengera kuti mnzanu ndi ndani. Mukamwalira, Ndikofunika kuti mukumbukiridwe pazomwe mwachita bwino ndi zomwe mumasiya, osati ngati wokwatirana naye.
Kupanga malire pakubwenzi kumapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kuteteza kusadalira kwanu ndikudzipereka kwa mnzanu.
Malire aubwenzi woyenera atha kukhala osakhalitsa kapena okhazikika kutengera momwe zinthu ziliri. Kukhala moyo wanu kwa munthu wina kumamveka bwino komanso njira yoyenera kugwiritsa ntchito moyo wanu, koma muyenera kusiyira nokha.
Kumbukirani, mukamachita bwino, ndizambiri zomwe mumapeza, ndipo ndimakwanitsa kuchita zambiri.
Monga munthu yemwe adayambitsa kampani yamapulogalamu yomwe tsopano ndi imodzi mwamakampani akulu kwambiri padziko lapansi ndikuphunzitsa ana ambiri ku Africa nthawi yomweyo.
Kukhazikitsa malire athanzi pamaubwenzi sikuyenera kuonedwa ngati kudzikonda koma ngati non–gawo loti mukhale ndi moyo wosangalala komanso wathanzi kwinaku mukuchotsa poyizoni pafupi nanu. Komabe, pokonzekera zoyembekezera mu chibwenzi ndikofunikira kuti muzikumbukiranso zomwe mnzanu akuyembekeza.
Kukhazikitsa ndi kukhalabe wathanzi, malire oyambira sikutanthauza kuchepetsa chisangalalo chanu, koma za kuteteza moyo wanu, kuti mukhalebe okhulupirika pazikhulupiriro zanu, ndikusungabe dongosolo lanu lamtengo wapatali.
Ikani malire ndi wokondedwa wanu kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi ndipo mutha kupewa mavuto onse azibwenzi omwe nthawi zambiri amayamba chifukwa chophwanya mwadala malire kapena maubale.