Zamkati
Ndizowunikira kuganiza za upangiri waukwati ngati labu komwe malingaliro ochokera Kum'mawa ndi Kumadzulo akusakanikirana mu kapu yayikulu ya alchemical, ndikupanga kusintha kwamphamvu, malingaliro atsopano, ndi mawonekedwe atsopano omwe titha kuwona maubwenzi.
Ngati tingasankhe kuyang'ana pa lingaliro limodzi lokha lomwe likupindula ndikubzala pakati pamunda, kungakhale kudzidalira. Nditaphunzira ndikuphunzira zaukwati mzaka makumi atatu zapitazi, ndimayamika kwambiri akatswiri omwe amatsutsa kuti luso limodzi la munthu wamkulu - kuzindikira kuti talakwitsa, kapena kugona - ndilo sine qua non a banja losangalala.
Zowonadi, matsenga ndi kuthekera kwaukwati kumafunikira kuti titengeke ndikukhala okhwima, kuti tikhale ndi udindo pakuchepetsa kwathu. Zachisangalalo, ndimawona kuti makasitomala anga amagwirizana ndi lingaliro ili. Koma chovuta ndichakuti ambiri aife timazindikira izi mwanzeru, koma ndizovuta kwambiri kuchita. Muupangiri waukwati, ndipamene tikufunsidwadi kutambasula.
Kusamalira udindo wanu
Kudzidalira ndikutenga gawo loyamba kukhala ndi zinthu zathu; Ndi luso lachibale, inde, koma choyambirira ndikudzipereka komwe timatenga kuti tikhale owona mtima ndikuzindikira chowonadi chimodzi chofunikira - tonse timadzipangira mavuto athu. (Ndipo timachita ntchito yabwino yopangira mavuto m'banja.)
Kudzipereka kumeneku sikophweka poyamba, ndipo nthawi zambiri kumakhala ntchito yovuta komanso yovuta. Ndikhulupirireni, ndimachokera zondichitikira ndipo ndikudziwa momwe zimakhalira. Ngakhale zitakhala zovuta pachiyambi, mphotho ndi chisangalalo ndizazikulu ndipo zimatisiyira chifundo chenicheni komanso kusasamala kwa iwo omwe akuyenda.
Makhalidwe onse
Ndikawona makasitomala kukhala alangizi a mabanja achi Buddha, sindimawafunsa kuti akhale Abuda, koma kungowona kulowererapo ngati gawo la zomwe Chiyero Chake a Dalai Lama chimatcha 'machitidwe apadziko lonse lapansi.' Amati machitidwe ambiri ochokera ku Chibuda atha kugwiritsidwa ntchito mosasamala kanthu za chipembedzo.
Chifukwa chake tili ndi malingaliro, m'nkhaniyi komanso yotsatira, tiyeni tiwone maluso ochokera pachikhalidwe cha Buddhist omwe angakhale othandiza makamaka potithandiza kudzidalira - kukhala osamala, kuphunzitsa otchulidwa kuti akhale amakhalidwe abwino, komanso machitidwe za chifundo.
1. Kulingalira
Tiyeni tiyambe ndi kulingalira. Pali zinthu zambiri zosangalatsa zomwe mungachite mukamachita zinthu moganizira ena, ndipo mwapeza kafukufuku wamkulu wasayansi. Mchitidwewu, womwe makamaka ndi mtundu wa kusinkhasinkha, umatithandiza kukhala okhwima komanso otha kutenga udindo wamaganizidwe athu, mawu athu, ndi ntchito zathu. Zimathandizira kukula uku ndikuchepetsanso kuti tikwanitse mwawona tokha, munthawi iliyonse yazidziwitso, zolankhula, kapena zochita.
2. Kudzizindikira
Kudzizindikira kumeneku ndikofunikira pakuphunzira kudziletsa. Sitingasinthe chilichonse chomwe sitikuchitira umboni. Phindu lachiwiri lakumvetsetsa, titachedwetsa malingaliro athu, ndikuti limapangitsa kukhala kokulira kwamkati. Awa ndi malo amkati momwe titha kuyamba kuzindikira kulumikizana pakati pa zikhulupiriro zathu, malingaliro athu, ndi zochita zathu. Momwemonso, mu Cognitive Therapy, timathandiza kasitomala kukumba kuzikhulupiriro zawo zoyipa, kufunsa ngati zili zowona, ndikuwona momwe zikhulupirirozi zimayendetsera malingaliro athu ndi machitidwe athu.
Ngati tiwonjezera luso loganizira za njirayi, sitingangokayikira zikhulupirirozi, monga timachitira mu Chidziwitso Chachidziwitso, komanso titha kukhazikitsa mawonekedwe amachiritso ndi achifundo m'malingaliro athu. Malo opatulikawa amatipangitsa kuwona komwe zikhulupiriro zathu zopanda thanzi zimachokera, momwe ziliri poizoni ndikulimbikitsa mfundo zatsopano, zachifundo, komanso zanzeru kulowa mu psyche yathu.
Mwachitsanzo, bambo nthawi zambiri amatha kukhumudwitsidwa ndikungodzudzula kwa mkazi wake, tinene, ndalama zomwe amapeza. Ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa, bamboyo amatha kumira ndikuganiza chifukwa chomudzudzulira. Mwinanso zimakhudzana ndi mtengo wapamwamba womwe amaika pazolipira ngati umuna.
Kupita mozama apeza kuti wakhala ndi chikhulupiriro cholakwika ichi kwazaka zambiri, kuyambira ali mwana mwina, ndikuti mwina pali njira ina yodziwira kudzidalira. Ndi chidwi chochita kusamala chimabweretsa, komanso ndi zikumbutso kuchokera kwa mphunzitsi wake wosinkhasinkha, apeza kuti pali gawo latsopano, losangalala, komanso lomwe silinadziwike kale lomwe limakhalapo kupitirira kudziwika kwake ngati wopezera ndalama.
Ili ndiye phindu lachitatu, la machiritso. Kupeza kwatsopano kumeneku kumapangitsa kuti munthu azikhala wotetezeka kwambiri kuzowona za mnzake, amakhala wokhwima kwambiri pazikhalidwe zomwe amaika pa anthu ndi zinthu, komanso amatha kukhala ndi moyo wabwinobwino. Munthu wodziyimira pawokha.
Munkhani yotsatira, tiwona momwe kuphunzitsa malingaliro pamakhalidwe abwino kumabweretsanso gawo lina lonse la ulemu kwa ife eni, ndi anzathu, ana, ndi abale athu. Kenako tidzapitilira muyeso wozama kwambiri wazikhalidwe zachi Buddha pazachiyanjano, zokoma mtima.