Zamkati
- 1. Simukumva kusangalala
- 2. Mwatopa kwambiri
- 3. Zosayanjanitsika ndizokwera
- 4. Kusiyana kwa kulumikizana kukukulira
- 5. Kumenya nkhondo nthawi zonse
- 6. Kusakhala pachibwenzi
- 7. Palibe kukhulupirirana
- 8. Kukulitsa nsanje
- 9. Anzanu amati kupatukana
- 10. Mukukhala ku Utopia
Chibwenzi changa chatha? Kodi tiyenera kutha? Kodi pali zizindikiro zakuti chibwenzi chatha?
Kuthetsa ... aah ... tiyeni tingovomereza mawu omwewo ndizosokoneza. Chibwenzi chanu chikasokonekera, ndizovuta kwambiri kuvomereza zowona kuti muyenera kutha. Ndizomvetsa chisoni komanso zowononga izi!
Koma mungadziwe bwanji ngati ili nthawi yoyenera kuthetsa ubale ndi chikondi cha moyo wanu, munthu amene mumaganiza kuti simungakhale opanda iye? Ndilo gawo lovuta kwambiri komanso losokoneza ubale.
Mumangokakamira mnzanu - zivute zitani.
Zilibe kanthu kuti mukumva kuti mwasiyidwa pachibwenzi, mulibe chidwi kuchokera kumapeto ena, nthawi zoyipa, umbuli, chidani, mumangoganiza kuti uwu ndiye ubale womwe mukuyenera kukhalamo. Ayi! Imani pomwepo! Ganiziraninso mozama.
Onaninso:
Kuti musavutike kumvetsetsa nthawi yothetsa chibwenzi ndi mnzanu kapena nthawi yoti muthetse chibwenzi, tiyeni tiwone zina mwazizindikiro za kutha kwa banja:
1. Simukumva kusangalala
Mukukumbukira pomwe zonse zidayamba ndipo mumamva kuti muli mumlengalenga wachisanu ndi chiwiri? Kuthamanga kwa adrenaline kunakupindulirani nthawi imeneyo!
Nanga bwanji tsopano? Palibe chisangalalo komanso chisangalalo. Ngakhale wokondedwa wanu ali pafupi, simukumva kusangalala kwanu. Ndi chifukwa chakuti simukusangalala.
China chake mkati mwako chikupangitsa kuti usiye ubalewu.
Chabwino, tonsefe tili ndi gawo lathu la mkwiyo ndikukhumudwitsidwa muubwenzi nthawi ina m'moyo. Koma ngati zikuchitika mosasintha ndikuwoneka kuti sizikutha, sizolondola.
Ngati simungathe kuthana ndi zazing'ono, izi ndizo ubale ukatha ndipo ndi nthawi yosunthira patsogolo.
2. Mwatopa kwambiri
Chibwenzi chimayenera kukulimbikitsani munjira yabwino. Ngati mukumva kutopa nthawi zonse, osakhoza kunyamula nokha, ndichizindikiro chachikulu kuti muyenera kutha.
Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala chifukwa cha nthawi ino m'moyo wanu. Atha kukhala wosakwanira m'maganizo.
Mukudziwa kuti maubale ndi njira ziwiri. Ngati wina akupereka ndipo wina sakuyankha, sizikuthandiza.
Pezani izi mwachangu momwe mungathere kuti muchepetse kuzunzidwa.
3. Zosayanjanitsika ndizokwera
Mwadzidzidzi simutha kuwona komwe ubalewu ukupita. Zifukwa zingakhale zambiri. Chifukwa chachikulu ndichakuti nonse simukugwirizana. Ngati zokonda zanu pamoyo zimasiyana, chibwenzi chanu sichitha.
Malingaliro osiyanasiyana a onse awiriwa amabweretsa mavuto pakati pawo. Kunyengerera kumawoneka ngati lingaliro losatheka.
Chibwenzi chimangokhala chogawana zolinga limodzi. Ngati mulibe, kutha ndi chisankho chabwino.
4. Kusiyana kwa kulumikizana kukukulira
Kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi chanu, mudali okondwa kwambiri komanso otengapo gawo.
Nthawi zonse ndimadikirira kuyimba kapena uthenga. Ndipo zimawonekera nthawi iliyonse, popanda chokhumudwitsa chilichonse, pomwe lingaliro lililonse ndi nkhani zimakambidwa mwatsatanetsatane; mnzanu atakhala womvera.
Koma tsopano, mnzanu nthawi zambiri amakhala alibe nthawi yokwanira yoti mukhale nanu. Mumamva kusungulumwa.
Chifukwa chiyani mukukhala moyo wanu wokhumudwa pomwe kulibe kuyankhulana pakati panu nonse. Kutha ndi chisankho pankhaniyi.
5. Kumenya nkhondo nthawi zonse
Mikangano yakanthawi, kusamvana, ndi mikangano ndizofala kwambiri pachibwenzi chilichonse.
Kusamvana nthawi ndi nthawi kumatithandiza kumvetsetsa momwe wokondedwa wathu amasiyana ndi ife, zomwe zimatithandizira kukwaniritsa zomwe tikuyembekezera kuchokera kwa anzathu.
Koma mukadzipeza nokha akutsutsana pafupifupi chilichonse, chabwino, imeneyo ndi mbendera yayikulu kwambiri.
Malinga ndi kafukufuku kuti ubale ukhale wopambana, uyenera kukhala ndi mayanjano osachepera 5 pakuchita chilichonse cholakwika.
Chifukwa chake ngati muwona kuti zokambirana zanu zilizonse zimasanduka mkangano, mwina ndi nthawi yoti muganizire zothetsa chibwenzi chanthawi yayitali.
6. Kusakhala pachibwenzi
Chibwenzi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambirira kuzimiririka mukayamba kupatukana pachibwenzi.
Ngakhale kugonana kumacheperanso pakapita nthawi yayitali, koma maubwenzi oterewa akuwonetsabe kukondana kwamalingaliro ndi luntha.
Komabe, kusowa kwathunthu pachibwenzi kuyenera kufunsidwa. Yesetsani kupita ndi mnzanuyo kuti muwone ngati nonse mumamvanso chimodzimodzi ndipo simukumvanso kulumikizana.
Ngati ndi zochitikadi, muyenera kulingalira iyi ngati nthawi yoti 'mudzasiye nthawi yoti mukhale pachibwenzi'.
7. Palibe kukhulupirirana
Kukhulupirira ubale ndikomwe kumangiriza banja limodzi; ndichonso chomwe chimawapatsa mwayi kuti azikhala mwamtendere ndi maubale awo.
Kudalirana kumatha kukhala chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri kumanga komanso chosavuta kusiya. Zitha kutenga zaka kuti okwatirana azikhulupiriranadi pomwe atha kukhala otetezeka kwamphindi zochepa.
Chifukwa chake, funso lomwe muyenera kudzifunsa ndikuti, kodi mumakhulupiriranabe? Ngati sichoncho, ndi nthawi yoti mufufuze njira zokuthandizani kukhulupirirana.
Komabe, ngati mukuwona kuti chibwenzi chanu chafika poti palibe malo oti mungayambitsenso kukhulupirirana, ndiye kuti ichi ndi chizindikiro chowonekera kuti ubale wanu watha.
8. Kukulitsa nsanje
Nsanje ndi malingaliro omwe anthu amakhala nawo muubwenzi wapamtima, ndipo zatsimikiziridwa kuti zikapangidwira muyeso yoyenera, nsanje imatha kuchita zodabwitsa pachibwenzi.
Komabe, komanso mukudziwa kuti zochuluka za chilichonse sizabwino konse; momwemonso, ngati nsanje ya mnzanu kapena mnzanu yadutsa malire, zimangokhala poizoni paubwenzi wanu.
Phunzirani kuwongolera, ndipo ngati simungathe, ndiye m'malo molimbana ndi rigamarole yotsimikizira wokondedwa wanu mobwerezabwereza, muyenera kuganizira zopatukana.
9. Anzanu amati kupatukana
Anzanu apamtima nthawi zambiri amadziwa zomwe mukukumana nazo. Mumakhulupilira abwenzi anu apamtima komanso abale, zowonadi.
Koma simumvetsera kwenikweni zomwe anthu okuzungulirani akufuna kukuwuzani. Mudakusankhirani mnzanuyu. Sizingatheke, sichoncho? Cholakwika.
Nthawi zina, mukakhala pachibwenzi, simungathe kuwona zovuta momveka bwino. Simukufuna kuwawona. Mumapitiliza kunyalanyaza upangiri wa ena ndikumadzipweteketsa!
Anzanu apamtima sangakuganizireni zoipa. Mukatenga kanthawi pang'ono ndikusinkhasinkha malingaliro awo, mudzadziwa mosavuta chifukwa chomwe akukupemphani kuti muthetse chibwenzichi.
Sikukuchitirani zabwino, ndipo ubale ulibe tsogolo.
10. Mukukhala ku Utopia
Nthawi zabwino zikuwoneka kuti zakhala m'maganizo mwanu kwamuyaya. Munali okondwa komanso okhutira ndi ubalewu, kamodzi. Mumamva pamwamba padziko nthawi imeneyo. Chilichonse chimawoneka changwiro kwambiri.
Koma muyenera kuzindikira lero zinthu sizili chimodzimodzi.
Muyenera kuzindikira kuti mukukhala m'mbuyomu osati pano!
Zikhala zovuta koma zosatheka. Sambani zokumbukira zam'mbuyomu, pitirizani, ndikudzipezera moyo watsopano, bwenzi latsopano logwirizana komanso labwino! Muthokoza chifukwa chochita izi.
Kutha kwa chibwenzi sikophweka ngakhale zitakhala kuti ubale wanu watha. Ndi piritsi lowawa kumeza, ndiye ngati mukuganiza kuti ubale wanu wafika kumapeto ndiye kuti ndi chifundo chokha.