Zamkati
- 1. Kulowerera kwa anthu ena
- 2. Chitani chipatso cha mzimu
- 3. Ganizirani za cholowa chanu
- Nthawi zina kupatukana ndi njira yoyenera
Nthawi yoyamba yolangiza zaukwati, funso lomwe ndimafunsidwa kawirikawiri ndi "mukuganiza kuti tisiyane"? Nthawi zambiri amafunsidwa ndi maanja omwe atopa ndi zomwe zimawoneka ngati zosatha. Akufunitsitsa atapuma ndipo amadabwa ngati kupatukana kungathandize kukhazika mtima pansi.
Kuzindikira ngati banja liyenera kupatukana sikophweka. Pali mbali ziwiri za ndalamazo zikafika pokhala patokha mutakhala m'malo opikisana. Choyamba ndikuti kupatukana kumatha kupatsanso munthu aliyense nthawi yochepetsera nkhawa zake ndikuchoka pamalingaliro okhudzidwa ndikupanga zisankho zomveka. Nthawi yokhayo ingathandize othandizana nawo kulingalira zolephera zawo muubwenzi ndi zomwe angachite pokonza banja lawo.
Kumbali imodzi yazandalama, kulekana kumatha kungopanga kuyanjana pakati pa awiriwa ngati m'modzi kapena onse atakhala ndi mpumulo womwe umawapangitsa kukhulupirira kuti kusudzulana ndi njira yokhayo yothetsera misala. Poterepa, kupatukana kungakhale njira yosavuta yochokeramo muukwati ndipo kungalepheretse maanja kugwira ntchito yovuta yofunikira kuti athetse kusamvana kwawo.
Njira Yotsutsana ndi Kupatukana
M'malo mosankha kupatukana, apa pali zinthu zitatu zomwe angachite kwa banja lomwe likukhumudwitsidwa kwambiri komanso kusamvana m'banja lawo.
1. Kulowerera kwa anthu ena
Gawo lanu loyamba ndikupeza othandizira odziwa bwino ntchito omwe aphunzitsidwa kugwira ntchito ndi maanja omwe akuvutika. Ndi mlangizi woyenera mutha kuphunzira momwe mungathetsere mavuto; sinthani ululu wam'mutu; ndikuyamba ulendo wolumikizanso. Tikakhala munthawi yayitali ndikutsitsimutsa zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuzindikira mayankho pamavuto abwenzi athu. Ndipamene phungu wopereka zolinga, wosaweruza milandu angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi zinyalala ndikuyamba kupanga malo abwino.
2. Chitani chipatso cha mzimu
Pamene maanja atsimikiza kuti ayesetsa kukonza chibwenzi chawo ndimakhala ndikuwakakamiza kufunika kokhala “odekha wina ndi mnzake” makamaka kumayambiliro pomwe chibwenzicho sichili bwino. Kuwonetsa kukoma mtima ndi kuleza mtima panthawi yobwezeretsa ukwati ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti zithandizire kukhazikitsa malo omwe mkwiyo umatha ndikukondanso kuyambiranso. Timapeza chitsanzo chabwino cha machitidwe omwe mabanja ayenera kulimbikitsana wina ndi mnzake mu Agalatiya 5: 22-23.
“Koma Mzimu Woyera amabala zipatso zotere m'moyo mwathu: chikondi, chimwemwe, mtendere, kuleza mtima, chifundo, kukoma mtima, chikhulupiriro, chifatso, chiletso; Palibe lamulo loletsa zinthu zimenezi. ”
Kusintha njira ya banja loipa kumafuna kusintha malingaliro. Zimatanthawuza kuyang'ana kupyola pazosavomerezeka zomwe zakhala mwala wapangodya wa banja kwanthawi yayitali ndikufunafuna kupeza ndikuzindikira madalitso ambiri omwe amapezeka muubwenzi komanso m'miyoyo yanu.
3. Ganizirani za cholowa chanu
Pamene munakwatirana mwina simunkaganiza zakusudzulana ngati dongosolo ladzidzidzi. Ayi, muyenera kuti mudatenga lonjezo la "tsopano ndi kwanthawi zonse" ndikuganiza kuti mwayamba ulendo womwe ungakhale moyo wanu wonse. Koma banja silimakwaniritsa zomwe mukuyembekezera mwina ndi nthawi yoti mutuluke kumanzere.
Koma kodi ndiye kuwonongeka komwe mukufuna kuvala? Kuti mwalephera pachibwenzi chanu? Bwanji ngati muli ndi ana? Kodi mufuna kuti akhulupirire kuti ukwati suyodzipereka kwa moyo wonse koma china chake chomwe mungachokere patsiku lomwe muganiza kuti simusangalalanso?
Kapenanso mwina mungasankhe kupita kukayesetsa kuti muchite zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mupulumutse banja lanu kuti tsiku lina mwana wanu wamkulu akadzabwera nadzanena kuti banja lawo likuvutika mutha kukhala chitsanzo cha momwe kulimbikira ndi khama zomwe zingatanthauze kusunga ukwati wamoyo.
Nthawi zina kupatukana ndi njira yoyenera
Tiyeneranso kudziwa kuti pali nthawi imodzi yomwe kulekana kuyenera kulimbikitsidwa ndipo ndipamene mnzao m'modzi akuvutika ndi nkhanza za m'maganizo, zakuthupi kapena zogonana. Palibe amene ayenera kukhala motere ndipo kupatukana ndi koyenera chifukwa mnzake wolakwayo amalandila thandizo kuti athetse nkhanza zawo.