Zamkati
- Kuyesa kukhala padera muli pabanja
- Kukhala mosiyana ngakhale mukukondana kungakhale lingaliro labwino
Pali kusalana mu maubale komwe kuyenera kusweka, kuti tithe kupita patsogolo ngati chitukuko.
Kuchepetsa chiweruzo. Opanda malingaliro. Zikafika pazokhudza mtima.
Kukhala mchikondi, koma ndikukhala m'malo osiyana, kungakhale yankho kwa mamiliyoni a anthu omwe akufuna kulumikizana kwakukulu komanso mtendere wamkati nthawi yomweyo.
Pafupifupi zaka 20 zapitazo, mayi wina adabwera kudzandifunsa chifukwa ukwati wake udali ku gehena.
Amakhulupirira mwamphamvu kuti azikhala limodzi kwamuyaya, mukadzakwatirana ... Koma anali akulimbana ndi zovuta zamamuna ake, komanso lingaliro loti anali otsutsana mwachilengedwe.
Adakana kulowa nane ntchito, chifukwa zidali kwa iye ... Chibwenzicho chikhoza kumira kapena kusambira chifukwa cha zomwe anasankha kunena ndi kuchita.
Patatha pafupifupi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi tikugwira ntchito limodzi, ndipo sabata iliyonse ndikupukusa mutu wanga pamene amalowa ndikundiuza nkhani zambiri zakomwe akuwoneka kuti sakugwirizana, ndidapereka zomwe sindinanenepo kwa aliyense pantchito yanga isanakwane . Ndinamufunsa, ngati iye ndi mwamuna wake angakhale omasuka ku nthawi yoti azikhala okhaokha atakwatirana, koma m'malo ogona osiyana.
Poyamba, adabwerera m'mbuyo modabwa, sanakhulupirire zomwe ndimanena.
Momwe timayankhulira nthawi yonseyo, ndidayamba kufotokoza chifukwa chomwe ndimaganiza kuti ichi ndi chinthu chokha chomwe chingapulumutse banja lawo. Kulungamitsidwa kwanga koyamba kwa iwo kukhala okhaokha akakwatirana kunali kosavuta ... Iwo anali ndi zaka zambiri zokumana limodzi zomwe sizimagwira. Ndiye bwanji osayesa zosiyana?
M'malingaliro mwanga, anali oti atha kusudzulana, bwanji osapereka lingaliro la china chonga kukwatiwa koma kukhala motalikirana, lomwe linali lingaliro lomwe lili kunja kwa bokosilo mwayi. Ndi mantha akulu, adapita kunyumba kukagawana ndi mwamuna wake. Anadabwa kwambiri kuti iye amakonda malingalirowo!
Kuyesa kukhala padera muli pabanja
Kodi okwatirana akhoza kukhala motalikirana?
Madzulo amenewo adayamba kufunafuna kondomu mtunda wa kilomita imodzi kuchokera kwawo.
Pasanathe masiku 30 adapeza malo oti azikhalamo, chipinda chogona chaching'ono, kanyumba, ndipo anali wokondwa pang'ono koma wamantha kuti agwiritsa ntchito ufulu wake watsopano kupeza mnzake.
Koma ndinawauza kuti asayine mgwirizano, kuti akhale amodzi okha, palibe zochitika zam'malingaliro kapena zochitika zakuthupi zomwe zimaloledwa.
Kuti, ngati m'modzi ayamba kusochera, amayenera kuuza wokondedwa wawo nthawi yomweyo. Tinalemba izi zonse. Kuphatikiza apo, ili likhala mayeso.
Pamapeto pa masiku 120, ngati sizikugwira ntchito, ngati atapezeka kuti ali pachisokonezo komanso sewero amatha kusankha zomwe adzachite kenako.
Pambuyo pake kukhala mosiyana atakwatirana, iwo atha kusankha kupatukana, asankha kusudzulana kapena asankhe kubwerera limodzi kuti awombere komaliza.
Koma nkhani yonseyi ndi nthano chabe. Ndizokongola. Pasanathe masiku 30 onse anali okonda madongosolo osiyana.
Amakhala pamodzi mausiku anayi pa sabata pachakudya ndipo amakhala kumapeto kwa sabata pafupifupi limodzi.
Mwamuna wake adayamba kugona Loweruka usiku, kuti athe kukhala Loweruka tsiku lonse komanso Lamlungu lonse limodzi. Kukhala mosiyana atakwatirana kunawathandiza onse awiri.
Ndi kulekana komwe anali okwatirana koma osakhala limodzi, mtunda womwe onse amafunikira chifukwa mawonekedwe awo anali osiyana kwambiri, anali kusamaliridwa. Patangopita nthawi yochepa kulekanaku kuyesedwa kunakhala kulekana komaliza ... Osati kupatukana muukwati wawo koma kulekana komwe akukhala.
THei onse anali osangalala kuposa kale lonse m'miyoyo yawo limodzi.
Zitachitika izi, adabwerera kwa ine kudzaphunzira kulemba buku. Tinagwira ntchito limodzi kwa miyezi ingapo kumuthandiza kupanga zojambula zake chifukwa ndinali nditalemba mabuku ambiri panthawiyo, ndimamupatsa maphunziro aliwonse omwe ndimalandila, ndipo anali kuchita bwino ngati wolemba nthawi yoyamba.
Anandiuza kangapo, kuti ngati akuyesera kuti alembe buku ndikukhalabe mnyumba yomweyo ndi mwamuna wake, azimukakamira pafupipafupi. Koma chifukwa sanali pafupi kwambiri, adamva ufulu wokhala yekha, kuti azichita yekha, ndikukhala wosangalala yekha podziwa kuti adali ndi wina yemwe amamusamalira komanso amamukonda kwambiri ... Mwamuna wake.
Kukhala mosiyana ngakhale mukukondana kungakhale lingaliro labwino
Ino si nthawi yanga yomaliza yopangira malangizowo kuti anthu okwatirana azikhala okwatirana koma amakhala okhaokha, ndipo kuyambira nthawi imeneyo pakhala mabanja angapo omwe ndathandizapo kuti athetse chibwenzicho chifukwa adayamba kukhala mosiyana zogona.
Okwatirana omwe samakhalira limodzi. Zikumveka zachilendo, sichoncho? Kuti tisunge chikondi ndikulola kuti chikondi chikule pokhala m'misewu wina ndi mnzake? Koma zimagwira ntchito. Tsopano sizigwira ntchito kwa aliyense, koma zagwirira ntchito maanja omwe ndalimbikitsa kuti awombere.
Nanga inu? Kodi muli pachibwenzi pomwe mumakondadi wokondedwa wanu, koma simukugwirizana? Kodi ndinu kadzidzi usiku ndipo pali mbalame yoyambirira? Kodi ndinu opanga mwaluso komanso opanda mzimu ndipo ndiosamala kwambiri?
Kodi mumangokhalira kukangana? Kodi changokhala ntchito kukhala limodzi motsutsana ndi Joy? Ngati ndi choncho, tsatirani malingaliro ali pamwambawa.
Momwe mungapulumukire kukhala kutali ndi mnzanu?
Pali mabanja ena omwe adaganiza zokhala m'nyumba imodzi, koma m'modzi amakhala pansi pomwe wina amakhala pamwamba.
Banja lina lomwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito limakhala m'nyumba imodzi, koma m'modzi amagwiritsa ntchito chipinda chochezera ngati chipinda chawo chachikulu, ndipo izi zimawoneka kuti zikuthandizira kuthetsa kusiyana kwa njira yawo yamoyo pomwe amakhala limodzi. Chifukwa chake ngakhale anali okwatirana koma amakhala okhaokha mnyumba yomweyo, malo pakati pawo anali kulola ubale wawo kukula.
Anthu okwatirana omwe asankha kukhala motalikirana akupatsanso banja lawo mwayi wina posalemekezana. Kukhala okwatirana koma kukhala m'nyumba zosiyana nthawi zambiri kuli bwino kuposa kukhala ndi malingaliro osiyana mukamakhala pansi padenga limodzi, kungoti chibwenzicho chikhale chowawa. Kwa anthu okwatirana omwe amakhala okhaokha, malo omwe amapeza atha kuchitira zabwino ubale wawo. Munamvapo za mawu akuti - 'Kutalikirana Kumapangitsa Mtima Kukula?' Mumayesa izi kwa okwatirana omwe amakhala okhaokha! M'malo mwake, tifunika kuphwanya zomwe zikuchitika pakati pa maanja omwe amapita kokakhala okhaokha akakwatirana.
Chilichonse chomwe mungachite, musangokhalira kukhulupirira zopusa za maubale opusa. Chitani chinthu chapadera monga kukhala okwatirana koma kukhala motalikirana. Zosiyana. Chitani lero, ndipo zitha kungopulumutsa ubale womwe mudzakhale nawo mawa.