Zamkati
- Ana amachita bwino ngati angathe
- Lolani ana apange njira zawo
- Tsatirani njira yothandizirana kuthetsa mavuto
Monga akulu, tonsefe timakonda malingaliro athu kumvedwa, kuvomerezedwa ndikuvomerezedwa. Kumbali ina, monga akulu, nthawi zambiri timalephera kuzindikira kuti ana ndi achinyamata amamva chimodzimodzi. Kuzindikira kuti ngakhale ana aang'ono ngati zaka zinayi amayamikira kutsimikizika komanso mwayi wofotokozera malingaliro awo, zingatithandizire osati kungophunzitsa ana ndi achinyamata kuthana ndi mavuto, komanso zingapangitse mgwirizano ndi moyo wosavuta wanyumba.
Poganizira izi, Dr. J. Stuart Abalon ndi Dr. Ross Greene adakhazikitsa The Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) Institute (2002) ku department of Psychiatry ku Massachusetts General Hospital. Kutsatira izi, Dr Abalon wa ThinkKids.org kudzera mu kafukufuku wake, wapititsa patsogolo ndikulimbikitsa njira yothandizirana yothetsera mavuto (CPS) yothana ndi zovuta ndi ana komanso achinyamata. Njira ya Dr Abalon ndiyothandiza makamaka kwa ana ndi achinyamata omwe mwamwambo timaganiza kuti "amaphulika." Njira ya CPS yatsimikiziridwa kuti ikuthandiza ana, achinyamata komanso makolo awo kuthana ndi vuto pomulola mwanayo kapena wachinyamata kuti apange ndi kufotokozera mayankho awo pamavuto omwe akumana nawo kunyumba, kusukulu kapena kusewera. Njirayi yapezeka kuti ndi yothandiza kwa ana ndi achinyamata omwe ali ndi zovuta zosiyanasiyana pamalingaliro, mayanjano komanso machitidwe m'malo osiyanasiyana kuphatikiza banja. Kugwiritsa ntchito njirayi kungathandize kwambiri kuti pakhale nyumba yosangalala yomwe ili ndi mavuto ochepa ndipo zimatsimikizika kuti zimaphunzitsa luso logwirizana.
Ana amachita bwino ngati angathe
Dr. Abalon ananenetsa kuti "ana amachita bwino ngati angathe," mwa kuyankhula kwina, tikapereka zida ndi maluso, ana amatha kuchita bwino. Lingaliro ili ndi losiyana kwambiri ndi malingaliro achikhalidwe omwe ana amachita bwino akafuna. Ana onse amafuna kukhala abwino ndipo amafuna kuti aziwoneka ngati abwino, koma ena amalimbana kwambiri kuposa ena chifukwa alibe maluso othetsera mavuto omwe angawathandize kuti akhale "abwino."
Lolani ana apange njira zawo
Cholinga chachikulu cha njirayi ndi kulola ana kuti apange njira zawo zothetsera mavuto omwe amakumana nawo kunyumba kapena m'malo ena. Wamkuluyo ayamba kukambirana mosaweruza popanda kuweruza ponena kuti, "Ndazindikira kuti ...... zili ndi chiyani?" Ndikofunikira kudikirira yankho popanda kumusokoneza. Ndikofunikanso kutsimikizira mwana kapena wachinyamata kuti "alibe mavuto." Wamkulu amatsatira pofotokoza nkhaniyi (kachiwiri - osatsutsa, osakondera; ingotchulani vutolo), kenako afunseni mwanayo kapena wachinyamata momwe akumvera, kapena zomwe akuganiza pankhaniyo. Kudikirira moleza mtima panthawiyi ndikofunikira kwambiri ndipo zimatha kutenga nthawi. Ndikofunikanso kugwiritsa ntchito kumvetsera mwachidwi kuti mwana kapena wachinyamata adziwe kuti mukumvetsera malingaliro awo mosamala.
Wamkulu akangodziwa bwino za malingaliro a mwanayo kapena wachinyamata, amatha kufunsa mwanayo kapena wachinyamata ngati ali ndi malingaliro othetsera izi. Izi zitha kutenga nthawi inanso ndipo malingaliro aliwonse opangidwa ndi mwanayo kapena wachinyamata ayenera kumvedwa, kuyamikiridwa ndikuvomerezedwa. Njirayi ili ndi magawo atatu otchedwa pulani A, dongosolo B ndi dongosolo C, ndizokhazikika pamphamvu ndipo zatsimikiziridwa mwasayansi kukhala ndi maubwino enieni amitsempha. Nthawi zambiri ayi amagwiritsidwa ntchito panthawi yazovuta kwambiri kapena zachiwawa koma mwamphamvu pamene mwana kapena wachinyamata amatha kumvetsera ndikulankhula nawo mogwirizana. Ngakhale njirayi imakwaniritsidwa, makolo omwe amaphunzira kugwiritsa ntchito njirayi moyenera azigwirira ntchito ana awo komanso achinyamata powaphunzitsa momwe angathetsere mavuto awo osaphulika kapena kuwonetsa machitidwe ena osayenera.
Tsatirani njira yothandizirana kuthetsa mavuto
Njira yothandizirana kuthana ndi mavuto imatenga nthawi ndikuchita bwino koma ndiyofunika kuyesetsa. Amayi ndi abambo omwe amagwiritsa ntchito CPS nthawi zambiri amadabwa momwe njirayi imayambira kusintha momwe iwonso mavutowa amathandizira m'malo onse amoyo wawo. Chida chambiri chodziwira zambiri za momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito CPS chikupezeka patsamba la Dr Stuart Abalon www.thinkkids.org.
Mabuku awiri pamutuwu ndi Mwana Wophulika ndi Ross Greene; buku lothandiza polera ana "osachedwa kukhumudwa, ana osasinthasintha," ndi Anatayika Kusukulu, buku lina lolembedwa ndi Dr. Greene lomwe limalongosola chifukwa chomwe ana omwe amaphunzira kusukulu amatsutsidwa ndikulimbana ndi "ming'alu." Mabuku onsewa ndi ofunika kuwawerenga ngati mukulera mwana wovuta, wokhumudwa kapena wophulika msanga kapena wachinyamata.