Zamkati
- 1. Ngati mukufuna kukambirana za mutu wina waukulu, khalani ndi nthawi yochitira izi
- 2. Yambani ndi mawu otenthetsa
- 3. Nenani zomwe muyenera kunena, ndipo pitirizani kukambirana
- 4. Onetsani amuna anu kuti mwamva zomwe wanena
- 5. Kuthetsa kusamvana: Menyani nkhondo mwachilungamo
- 6. Osamupangitsa iye kulingalira zosowa zanu
- 7. Fotokozerani zosowa zanu mwachindunji komanso momveka bwino
- 8. Amuna amachita bwino mukawapatsa zabwino chifukwa cha ntchito zawo zabwino
Kodi nthawi zina mumadzifunsapo ngati, pokambirana ndi amuna anu, samalankhula chilankhulo chanu? Zomwe akuwoneka kuti akusokonezeka mukamayankhula, mukukhulupirira kuti sakumva mawu omwe mukunenawa?
Pali mabuku osiyanasiyana omwe adalembedwa za njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe amuna ndi akazi amalumikizirana. Mukufuna malangizo amomwe mungayankhulire ndi amuna anu?
Nawa maupangiri omwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi "choletsa chilankhulo pakati pa amuna ndi akazi" ndikusunga zokambirana pakati panu ndi amuna anu.
1. Ngati mukufuna kukambirana za mutu wina waukulu, khalani ndi nthawi yochitira izi
Simungathe kuyankhula bwino ngati m'modzi wa inu akuthamangira pakhomo kuti mukagwire ntchito, nyumbayo ndi yothamanga kwambiri pomwe ana akukuwa kuti muwaganizire, kapena mwangotsala ndi mphindi zisanu zokha kuti mufotokozere wekha.
M'malo mwake, pangani usiku wamasana, ganyani wokhalamo, tulukani mnyumba kupita pamalo abata osasokoneza, ndikuyamba kuyankhula. Mutha kumasuka, podziwa kuti muli ndi maola angapo kuti mupereke zokambiranazi.
2. Yambani ndi mawu otenthetsa
Inu ndi amuna anu mwapeza nthawi yokambirana nkhani yofunika.
Mutha kukhala okonzeka kulowa pansi ndikupita kukambirana. Mwamuna wanu, komabe, angafunikire kutentha pang'ono asanayambe kumasula nkhaniyi. Mutha kumuthandiza poyambira ndi mawu ang'onoang'ono.
Ngati mukamba za ndalama zapakhomo, tsegulani zokambirana ndi "Nchiyani chimakukhumudwitsani kwambiri ndi momwe timagwiritsira ntchito ndalama zathu?" zili bwino kuposa "Tasweka! Sitingakwanitse kugula nyumba! ” Woyambawo amamuitanira mwakhama kukambirana. Zomalizazi zimasokoneza ndipo zimamupangitsa kuti adzitchinjirize kuyambira pachiyambi.
3. Nenani zomwe muyenera kunena, ndipo pitirizani kukambirana
Kafufuzidwe ka njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe abambo ndi amai amalankhulira zikuwonetsa kuti amayi amakonda kupitilirapo pofotokoza vuto kapena vuto lomwe likufunika kuthana nalo.
Mukapitilirabe, mumabweretsa nkhani zofananira, mbiri yakale kapena zina zomwe zingasokoneze cholinga chazokambirana, amuna anu atha kutuluka. Apa ndi pomwe mungafune kulumikizana "ngati mwamuna," ndikufika pamalingaliro mophweka komanso momveka bwino.
4. Onetsani amuna anu kuti mwamva zomwe wanena
Ndikofunika kuti mutsimikizire zomwe amuna anu akugawana nanu.
Amuna anazolowera kuyankhula, koma owerengeka ndi omwe amamumvera womvera akuvomereza kuti amva zomwe zanenedwa. "Ndikumva kuti mukufuna kuti tikhale oyang'anira ndalama" zikuwonetsa amuna anu kuti mumayang'ana kwambiri pazomwe akunena.
5. Kuthetsa kusamvana: Menyani nkhondo mwachilungamo
Onse okwatirana amamenyana. Koma ena amamenya nkhondo bwino kuposa ena. Chifukwa chake, mumayankhulana bwanji ndi amuna anu mukakumana ndi zovuta?
Mukamasemphana ndi mwamuna wanu, sungani zinthu mwachilungamo, pamfundo, ndikupita patsogolo kuti muthe kukonza. Osamakuwa, kulira, kusewera mlandu, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mawu ngati "Mumachita chilichonse [chilichonse chomwe amakukhumudwitsani]" kapena "SIMUKHALA [chilichonse chomwe mungafune kuti achite]". Mukufuna kulumikizana mwaukhondo, kuthana ndi mutu womwe umayambitsa mkangano, ndikunena zosowa zanu ndi momwe mungakonde kuthana nazo.
Kenako muperekeni kwa mwamuna wanu ndikumufunsa momwe akuwonera kusamvana.
6. Osamupangitsa iye kulingalira zosowa zanu
Ndi momwe akazi amadzimvera kuti sangathe kunena zosowa zawo.
Kuyika nkhope yabwino koma mobisa kumva kuti udani mkati ndi njira yotsimikizika yopirira. Amuna ambiri amafunsa kuti “Chalakwika ndi chiyani?” kungowauza kuti "Palibe. Palibe. ” Amuna ambiri amatenga yankho ngati chowonadi, ndikusunthira mtsogolo. Amayi ambiri, komabe, apitiliza kuthana ndi vutoli mkati, mpaka mavuto atakhazikika ndipo, ngati wophika kupanikizika, pamapeto pake amaphulika. Amuna anu sakonda kuwerenga kuwerenga, ngakhale atakudziwani bwino.
Muli ndi udindo wofotokoza zonse zomwe zikuchitika mkati mwanu. Khalani nawo.
Mwa kulankhulana moona mtima komanso moona mtima ndi amuna anu, mumayandikira pafupi kuti muthe kuthetsa mavuto omwe akukuvutani.
7. Fotokozerani zosowa zanu mwachindunji komanso momveka bwino
Izi zikugwirizana ndi nsonga nambala sikisi. Chifukwa azimayi amaphunzitsidwa kuti si chachikazi kuyankhula mwachindunji, nthawi zambiri timagwiritsa ntchito zopempha "zobisika" zomwe zimafuna kuti munthu wophwanya malamulo amvetse. M'malo mopempha thandizo lochapa khitchini, timati "Sindingayang'ane khitchini yonyansayi kwa mphindi imodzi!"
Ubongo wamwamuna wanu umangomva kuti "Amadana ndi khitchini yosokonekera" osati "Mwina ndimuthandize kuyeretsa." Palibe cholakwika kufunsa amuna anu kuti akuthandizeni. “Ndingakonde mutabwera kudzandithandiza kukonza khitchini” ndi njira yolandirika komanso yomveka bwino yopempha amuna anu kuti akuthandizeni.
8. Amuna amachita bwino mukawapatsa zabwino chifukwa cha ntchito zawo zabwino
Kodi amuna anu adathandizapo ntchito zapakhomo popanda kumufunsa?
Kodi adatenga galimoto yanu kuti ikakonzedwe kotero kuti simukuyenera? Kumbukirani kuwonetsa kuyamikira kwanu pazinthu zazing'ono komanso zazikulu zomwe amakuchitirani. Kuchokera pakuthokoza kochokera pansi pamtima mpaka pamalemba odzazidwa ndi chikondi omwe adatumizidwa pafoni yake, palibe chomwe chimalimbikitsa zochita zabwino monga kuzindikira.
Yankho limodzi mwamafunso akuti, "ungalumikizane bwanji ndi amuna ako?" ikupereka mayankho abwino ndikuzindikira mowolowa manja ngakhale zoyeserera zazing'onozi.
Ndemanga zabwino zimapangitsa zochita zabwino mobwerezabwereza, chifukwa chake khalani owolowa manja kuthokoza ndikuthokoza pantchito zabwino.
Ngakhale nthawi zambiri zimawoneka ngati abambo ndi amai samagwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo chimodzi, kugwiritsa ntchito malangizo omwe ali pamwambapa kungathandize kuthana ndi kulumikizanaku ndikuthandizani kulumikizana bwino ndi amuna anu. Ndipo monga kuphunzira chilankhulo chachilendo, mukamagwiritsa ntchito maluso amenewa, mudzatha kufotokoza bwino momwe amuna anu angamvetsere ndikuyamikira.