Zamkati
- 1. Anthu ambiri samvetsera kwambiri
- 2. Mawu ali ndi matanthauzo osiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana
- 3. Kuyankhulana kumawoneka kwachilengedwe ndipo nthawi zambiri kumangotengeka
- 4. Timalankhulana mosalankhula kwambiri kuposa pakamwa, zomwe zimatha kuyambitsa mikangano
Ngakhale ambiri angawonongeke poganiza zokhala ndi upangiri wa maanja ena, silolakwika konse ayi, chifukwa maubale ndi ovuta ndipo kulumikizana, makamaka, kumatha kukhala kovuta.
Upangiri woyankhulana kwa mabanja ungateteze chibwenzi.
Chifukwa chake ndizomveka kupeza chifukwa chake upangiri wolumikizirana kwa maanja ungathandize ubale wanu lero.
1. Anthu ambiri samvetsera kwambiri
Anthu ambiri zimawavuta kumvera.
M'malo mwake, mwachibadwa amafuna kulankhula kapena kufotokoza zakukhosi ndipo pamene sakulankhula, azingoganiza za momwe akumvera ndi zomwe adzanene kapena zomwe adzanene motsatira. Pamafunika luso kuti munthu aphunzire kumvetsera bwino.
Ichi ndiye choyambitsa chachikulu cha kusamvana m'banja, makamaka pakakhala kukangana kale, kudzudzula kapena kunyalanyaza ubale.
Mwina mumakhala ndi mikangano yambiri kapena kukhumudwa ndi wokondedwa wanu chifukwa mumawona ngati sakumvera, kapena mwina mumanenedwa kuti simukumvera.
M'malo molola kuti kukhumudwitsana, mikangano, ndi mikangano zikule, bwanji osalingalira zophunzira momwe angayankhulirane bwino kudzera kulangiza kwa mabanja. Mutha kusangalala ndi mtendere womwe mudzapeze chifukwa chake!
2. Mawu ali ndi matanthauzo osiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana
Timatenga mawu mopepuka, poganiza kuti tikudziwa tanthauzo lake ndikuti tanthauzo la liwu lililonse limafanana kwa aliyense.
Koma ngati mungasankhe mawu angapo osasinthika, makamaka mawu omwe amafotokoza kutengeka, ndikufunsa anthu ochepa tanthauzo la mawuwo kwa iwo (popanda iwo kutanthauzira dikishonale) mwayi ndiwoti onse atha kusintha pang'ono tanthauzo.
Onani zina ndikufunsani anthu tanthauzo la mawu omwe amangogwiritsa ntchito kufotokozera liwu loyambirira ndiye kuti mupeza kuti kumasulira kwa munthu aliyense kuli kutali kwambiri ndi komwe adayambirako kotero kuti mutha kuwona mwadzidzidzi chifukwa chomwe mumakhala chisokonezo momwe timalumikizirana ndi kulumikizana.
Nthawi zina mumatha kuwona mnzanu akuyankha zomwe mwalankhula mwanjira yomwe ikuwoneka kuti ndiyopamwamba kwambiri komanso yodabwitsa kwa inu, ndipo zikuyenera kukhala chifukwa tanthauzo la mawuwo ndilosiyana kwambiri ndi mnzanu kuposa momwe lilili kwa inu .
Upangiri wolankhulana kwa mabanja ungakuthandizeni nonse, ngati banja, kumvetsetsa momwe kusankha kwanu kwamawu kumayambitsira kukondana komanso kukuphunzitsani momwe mungapezere njira yolumikizirana bwino mtsogolo.
3. Kuyankhulana kumawoneka kwachilengedwe ndipo nthawi zambiri kumangotengeka
Chifukwa chakuti timaphunzitsidwa kulumikizana pogwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo ndi mawu kuyambira pomwe timabadwa, titha kutenga njira yolankhulirana mopepuka yomwe imatha kukopa anthu omwe timayandikana nawo nthawi zina.
Sitidziwa nthawi zonse momwe timapwetekera wina ndi mnzake ndi mawu athu, kapena momwe sitimamvetsetsana njira yolumikizirana. Ndipo kulumikizana molakwika pakati pa omwe timawakonda nthawi zonse kumayambitsa mikangano ndi kusokoneza ubale wanu - nthawi zambiri pachabe!
Kodi sizingakhale bwino kuphunzira kulumikizana bwino ngati banja kuti musayang'anire nkhani zoterezi muubwenzi wanu?
Upangiri wolumikizirana kwa maanja ukhoza kukhala imodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe mumapanga m'moyo wanu komanso ubale wanu.
4. Timalankhulana mosalankhula kwambiri kuposa pakamwa, zomwe zimatha kuyambitsa mikangano
Kodi mudalankhulapo ndi mnzanu kapena wachibale wapabanja ndipo mwadzidzidzi mnzanu akufunsani yankho lanu kapena akutsutsa nkhope yanu?
Mwinanso mudakumbatira mikono yanu mosazindikira, ndikupukusa maso kapena kuzengereza nthawi yayitali funso lofunikira likafunsidwa, ndipo zinali zochulukirapo kuti mnzanu azigwira chifukwa zikuwoneka kuti mumachita zinthu ngati izi nthawi zonse.
Vuto lofala kulumikizana limatha kusiya 'wolakwayo' atakwiya ndikudodometsedwa, pambuyo pake, adachita chiyani?
Njira zathu zolankhulirana zopanda mawu zitha kutigwetsera m'mavuto, nthawi zina pamavuto akulu mobwerezabwereza!
Ngakhale simunatanthauze kulumikizana ndi mnzanu momwe mumachitira, mutha kudzipeza mumavuto mobwerezabwereza ngati simukudziwa zomwe mukuchita zomwe zikukwiyitsa wokondedwa wanu.
Zachidziwikire, mutha kukhumudwitsidwa ndi kukwiya kwa mnzanu zomwe zitha kuyambitsa mikangano yambiri ndi mikangano yosafunikira!
Siziyenera kukhala motere ngakhale mutagwiritsa ntchito upangiri woyankhulana kwa maanja ngati chida chokuthandizani nonse kuzindikira momwe mumalankhulirana mosazindikira komanso osalankhula komanso kuti muphunzire kusintha momwe mumalumikizirana osalankhula kapena kuphunzira kumvetsetsa kulankhulana kopanda mawu kochokera kwa mnzanu.
Lingaliro lomaliza
Munkhaniyi tangophatikiza zifukwa zinayi zakuti upangiri woyankhulana kwa mabanja ungakhale wofunikira kwambiri pachibwenzi chilichonse komanso chuma chamtengo wapatali muubwenzi wanu, koma pali ena ambiri komwe adachokera.
Ngati muli anzeru ndikuyamba kuphunzira kulumikizana bwino ndi mnzanu, mupeza njira zina zambiri zomwe tingalankhulire molakwika komanso momwe tingawongolere. Kukusiyani muubwenzi wamtendere komanso wachimwemwe pomwe nonse mumalankhulana bwino ndipo ngati sichoncho chifukwa chofunira kufufuza upangiri woyankhulana kwa maanja omwe sitikudziwa!