Zamkati
- Kulankhulana bwino kumayamba ndi kumvetsera
- Zimafunanso kuti onse awiri azitsatira mutu umodzi
- Khalani ndi cholinga chothetsa vutoli
- Musalole kuti mmodzi azilamulira
- Chinsinsi chachikulu pakulankhulana bwino ndi R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Maanja nthawi zambiri amabwera kuofesi yanga kudandaula za "kulumikizana" pamavuto awo. Izi zitha kutanthauza chilichonse kuyambira pamalamulo mpaka pakakhala chete. Ndikawafunsa kuti andiuze tanthauzo la kulumikizana ndi aliyense wa iwo, mayankho nthawi zambiri amakhala osiyana kwambiri. Amaganiza kuti amalankhula kwambiri kotero amangomutulutsa; amakhulupirira kuti samayankha bwino, m'malo momangoyankha mawu amodzi kapena amangodandaula.
Kulankhulana bwino kumayamba ndi kumvetsera
Izi zimagwirira ntchito wokamba nkhani komanso womvera. Ngati womvera akuwonera masewera pa TV kapena pulogalamu yomwe amakonda, imeneyo ndi nthawi yoyipa kuti mubweretse china chake chopindulitsa ndikuyembekezera kuti zitheke. Mofananamo, kunena kuti "Tiyenera kulankhula," ndi njira yachangu kwambiri yopangira chitetezo mwa omvera. M'malo mwake, sankhani nthawi yomwe wokondedwa wanu sali pakati pa chinachake ndipo nenani, "Ingakhale nthawi iti yabwino yoti tikambirane za ______." Zikusewera mwachilungamo kuti muyike mutuwo kuti omvera adziwe mutuwo ndikudziwe ngati ali okonzeka kutchera khutu.
Zimafunanso kuti onse awiri azitsatira mutu umodzi
Kulankhulana bwino kumafunanso kuti onse awiri azitsatira nkhani imodzi yokha ya zokambiranazo. Sungani mutuwo mopapatiza. Mwachitsanzo, ngati munganene kuti, "Tikambirana za ndalama," ndizotakata kwambiri ndipo zimachepetsa mwayi wopeza chisankho. M'malo mwake, sungani. "Tiyenera kuthetsa nkhani yokhudza kulipira ngongole ya Visa." Mutuwu umayang'ana kwambiri pazokambiranazo ndikupangitsa onse awiri yankho lolunjika.
Gwiritsitsani mutu womwe ukutanthauza kuti musabweretse bizinesi yakale. Mukamanena za "zinthu" zakale, zosathetsedwa, zimasiya zomwe adagwirizanazo kumbuyo ndikuwononga kulumikizana kwabwino. Kukambirana kumodzi = mutu umodzi.
Khalani ndi cholinga chothetsa vutoli
Ngati onse awiri agwirizana ndi lamuloli, zokambiranazo zikuyenda bwino kwambiri ndipo kuthekera kungachitike. Kuvomera kuthetsa chisankho pasadakhale kumatanthauza kuti onse awiri azingoyang'ana njira zothetsera mavuto ndipo kuyang'ana kwambiri pazothetsera mavutowo kumakupatsani mwayi wothandizana monga otsutsana.
Musalole kuti mmodzi azilamulira
Njira ina yosungitsira mayankho kukambirana ndi kusalola mnzake kuti azilamulira pa zokambiranazo. Njira yosavuta yochitira izi ndikuti muchepetse wokamba aliyense pamasentensi atatu nthawi imodzi. Mwanjira imeneyi palibe amene amayang'anira zokambirana ndipo mbali zonse ziwiri zimamveka kuti zamvedwa.
Ngati zokambirana zanu zimangoyendayenda, lembani mutu womwe mwasankhawo papepala ndikuwona kuti onse akuwona. Ngati wina ayamba kusokera pamutuwu, nenani mwaulemu kuti, "Ndikudziwa kuti mukufuna kukambirana za ______ koma pakadali pano titha kuthetsa (nkhani yomwe tasankha.)"
Chinsinsi chachikulu pakulankhulana bwino ndi R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Aretha Franklin anali kunena zoona. Ndikofunikira kuti mukhalebe otanganidwa kwambiri kuti abwenzi azilemekeza malingaliro ndi malingaliro a anzawo. Ulemu umapangitsa kuti voliyumu ikhale yotsika komanso mwayi wosintha kwambiri. Mukukhala gulu. Ochita nawo masewerawa amakhala othandiza kwambiri akalemekezana. Ngati zokambiranazo zimakhala zopanda ulemu mbali imodzi kapena inayo, funsani mwaulemu chifukwa chomwe winayo akumvera - ndicho chifukwa chake zinthu zimasokonekera pakusinthana kwa anthu - ndikuthana ndi zovuta, kenako mubwerere ku mutu womwe mwasankha. Ngati munthuyo sangachite izi, ndiye kuti mupitilize kukambirana nthawi ina. Kukhala ndi malire abwino ndi malire abwino ndikofunikira kuti mupeze mayankho.
Malire amatanthauza kuti mumalemekeza ufulu wa ena. Malire abwino amatilepheretsa kuchitira nkhanza kapena kuchita ndewu. Malire abwino amatanthauza kuti mumadziwa komwe mungayanjane pakati pa CHABWINO osati CHABWINO, mwakuthupi, mwamalingaliro, m'mawu komanso m'njira zina zonse. Malire abwino amapanga maubale abwino.
Kukambirana kungakhale kothandiza kupeza mayankho omwe nonse mungavomereze. Imeneyi ndi njira yomwe aliyense amapereka malingaliro kuti athetse vutoli ndikulemba, ngakhale zitakhala kutali bwanji. "Titha kulipira ngongole ya Visa ngati titapambana lotale." Mukangolemba malingaliro onse, chotsani zomwe sizikuwoneka ngati zotheka kapena zotheka - mwachitsanzo, kupambana lottery - ndikusankha lingaliro lotsalira kwambiri.
Pomaliza, tsimikizirani mnzanu. Mukapeza malingaliro kapena malingaliro abwino, anthu amakonda kuyamikiridwa chifukwa chobwera ndi chinthu chothandiza. Kutsimikiza kumalimbikitsa mnzanu kuti apitilize kufunafuna mayankho, osati pakadali pano koma zopitilira!