Zamkati
- 1. Pewani anayi omwe akupha maubale
- 2. Khalani achifundo
- 3. Dziwani kuti mnzanuyo nawonso amachita mantha
- 4. Dziwani kuti ichi ndi chiyeso chachikulu ubale wanu
- 5. Khalani womvetsera wokondedwa wanu
Miyezi iwiri kapena itatu yokhazikika kwaokha chifukwa cha mliri wapadziko lonse lapansi iyesa ubale wamphamvu kwambiri. Ngakhale anthu omwe ali ndi maukwati abwino amakhala ndi nkhawa kuti amuna kapena akazi awo atha kuwapusitsa pamapeto pake.
M'malo modandaula, ndikufuna kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino, pongoyerekeza ngati kutuluka kudzipatula nthawi yachilimweyi ndi ukwati womwe ndi wamphamvu kuposa kale lonse.
Mutha kulimbitsa banja potsatira njira zingapo zopangira banja labwino.
Ndikudziwa chifukwa ndine mkhalapakati wosudzulana. Ndimaphunzitsanso kusudzulana, pomwe ndimayesetsa kuti maanja asafunike mkhalapakati. Tsiku lililonse ndimawona njira zomwe maanja amatengera ubale wawo mopepuka, komanso zomwe angachite m'malo molimbitsa ubale wawo.
Onaninso:
Nawa maupangiri asanu okuthandizani kukonza banja lanu, kudzimva otetezeka muukwati wanu, kuthana ndi kusokonezeka kwamalingaliro muukwati komanso sungani banja lolimba nthawi yonse yodzipatula kwa COVID-19 ndikupewa matenda "omaliza".
Nayi njira yopulumutsira banja lanu.
1. Pewani anayi omwe akupha maubale
Pali nthawi zina, ngakhale m'banja losangalala kwambiri, pomwe mnzanu amakukhumudwitsani kapena kukukwiyitsani.
Kumva izi ndikwabwino.
Kugwiritsa ntchito kudzudzula, kudzitchinjiriza, kunyoza, kapena kuponyera miyala kuti muchepetse mkwiyo wanu kungapangitse kuti zovuta zomwe zakhala zikuchitika kale zikuipiraipira ndikulepheretsa zoyesayesa zanu zowongolera banja lanu.
Tsiku lina mzanga adayimbira ndi nkhani yomwe ndikuganiza kuti imapereka fanizo labwino:
Mwamuna wake adadzipereka kuti apite kusitolo kukatenga chakudya. Ankaganiza kuti zikutanthauza kuti abwera kunyumba ali ndi mkaka, mkate, komanso (ngati ali ndi mwayi) pepala la chimbudzi. M'malo mwake, adabwera kunyumba ndi malita awiri a maolivi - omwe sankafunika.
Anazindikira kuti ali ndi chisankho chomwe chingakhudze banja lake nthawi yayitali (komanso pambuyo pake):
- Amatha kunena kuti "maolivi? Mukuganiza chiyani? Kodi nditani nawo magaloni awiri amafuta? Ungakhale bwanji chitsiru chonchi? ”
- Amatha kunena kuti "zikomo, wokondedwa, ndathokoza kuti mwachita izi."
Adasankha njira yachiwiri chifukwa kusankha njira yoyamba ikadakhala njira yofulumira yopita kuofesi yanga. Posankha njirayi, amathandiziranso nsonga.
2. Khalani achifundo
Musanakwiyire mnzanu, yesetsani kudziyesa kuti muganizire ena mwachifundo.
Katswiri wazamisala, a Daniel Goldman anati: “Ndi mtundu uwu wachifundo, sitimangomvetsetsa zovuta za munthu ndikumva nawo koma timangotengeka kuti tithandizire pakafunika kutero.”
Bwenzi langa anazindikira kuti yankho la mwamuna wake linali ndi mantha komanso kulephera "kuwongolera" vutoli. Pazifukwa zina zomwe zidasankha, amafunikira magaloni amafuta.
Mukamamvera ena chisoni, kumbukirani kuti chilichonse chomwe mnzanu amachita panthawi yopatsidwayo chitha kutengera momwe abambo ndi amai amakumana ndi zovuta. Kuzindikira kumeneku kumapita kutali ngati mukufuna kukonza banja lanu ndikupewa sewero la ubale wosafunikira.
Amuna amathetsa mavuto kapena amakonza anyamatawo. Akuyang'ana chithunzi chachikulu. Ayenera kuti akukhala ndi nkhani zatsopano komanso zachuma. Atha kukhala kuti akupanga zolimba komanso kuchita ntchito zazikulu ngati njira yotetezera banja.
- Amayi amachita zomwe zikuyenera kuchitidwa pakadali pano. Mwina samafuna kuyang'ana chithunzi chachikulu chifukwa akusamalira zomwe zachitika posachedwa. Adzalemba zonse zomwe zikuyenera kuchitika pakadali pano.
3. Dziwani kuti mnzanuyo nawonso amachita mantha
Aliyense ali ndi mantha pompano.
Aliyense. Ngakhale sanena kapena / kapena kunamizira kuti sanatero. Mantha amatuluka m'njira zambiri, ndipo ngakhale mutakhala ndi cholinga choyenera kukonza banja lanu, inu ndi mnzanu mudzakumana ndi chimodzi, kapena mwina zochulukirapo, za izi:
- Mkwiyo
- Matenda okhumudwa
- Kuchuluka kwa nkhawa
- Kufooka kwamtima
- Kulingalira mozama pantchito
Mukawona mnzanu akuchita mochuluka mwanjira izi, imani kaye musananene chilichonse. Umu ndi momwe mantha awo akuwonekera. Ndipo kumbukirani, mwina inunso mukuchita motere. Yesetsani kuzindikira momwe nonse mumachitira, ndipo mwina mukuchita mopitirira muyeso, kuzinthu zachilendo monga kuchapa zovala, kuyeretsa nyumba, phokoso nthawi yogwira ntchito, ndi zina zambiri.
4. Dziwani kuti ichi ndi chiyeso chachikulu ubale wanu
Tikukhala mu nthawi yodabwitsa komanso yochititsa mantha, ndipo ichi chimapangitsa kukhala mayesero akulu kwambiri omwe banja lanu linakhalapo-ndipo lingakhalepo. Kuti muchite bwino banja lanu, lankhulani zomwe mukufuna, ndipo mupatseni mnzanu malo ngati angafune.
- Pezani mpata woti aliyense ayitchule yekha. Mnzanu akapita kumalo amenewo, lemekezani kufunika kwawo kuti mukhale nokha. Ngati mumakhala m'kanyumba komwe simungathe kupanga danga lanu, pangani njira yopezera nthawi yokhayo, monga kuvala mahedifoni oletsa phokoso. Lolani kuti pakhale malo muubwenzi wanu, zitha kusintha banja lanu. Danga muubwenzi wanu silodzikonda, ndichitetezo chodzipulumutsa nokha.
- Mukawona mnzanu ali wokhumudwa, wodandaula, kapena wamantha, ganizirani zazing'ono zomwe mukudziwa kuti amakonda. Jambulani iwo kusamba, kuphika makeke, kuyatsa kandulo. Ntchito zazing'ono zimathandizira kwambiri. Kulingalira bwino kumatha kukonza banja lanu, mosasamala kanthu za zipilala ndi zikho za banja.
- Khazikitsani nthawi yoti mukambirane momwe mukuchitira. Funsanani wina ndi mnzake zomwe mukufuna kuti mukhale olimba.
- Mvetserani ku zinthu zonse zomwe mnzanu amachita, muziyamikira ndikuwauza kuti ndinu othokoza.
5. Khalani womvetsera wokondedwa wanu
Kulankhula za zosowa zanu ndikofunikira. Kumvetsera kwa mnzanu nkofunikanso.
Ngati mnzanu walankhula zinazake zomwe zakukhumudwitsani, musamuyankhe mwachangu. Tengani nthawi kuti mumvetsetse yankho lanu — kodi mukuchita mopambanitsa kapena mwakwiya?
- Kodi zomwe akunena mnzanu zikuwonetsa mantha awo pompano?
- Kodi mungasonyeze bwanji kuti mukuwamvera chisoni?
Ino ndi nthawi yabwino kuyamba kufotokozera momwe mumamvera, zomwe mukuganiza, ndi momwe mungayankhire.
Ukwati ndi mwayi. Kuyeserera malangizowo asanu kumathandiza kuti banja lanu likhale lolimba komanso kulimbitsa mgwirizano wachikondi kuposa momwe mumaganizira.