Zamkati
- 1. Taya zikwangwani ndi zikumbutso zako
- 2. Kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi anthu ena
- 3. Muzisintha
- 4. Yesetsani kukhala kutali
- 5. Osalankhula za izi
- 6. Pitani paulendo
- 7. Lembani buku kapena pangani chilichonse cholenga
- Mutha kupeza chikondi kwina kulikonse - osataya chiyembekezo
Kodi mwawonapo kanema "Chikondi Chenicheni"? Ndi kanema yabwino yokhudza mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya chikondi. Chimodzi mwazomwezi ndizokhudza chikondi chomwe sichinaperekedwe, ndipo munthu wamkulu mu nkhaniyi arc ali mchikondi ndi mkazi wa mnzake wapamtima. Anayigwira ndi kalasi.
Chikondi chosabwezedwa chimabwera m'njira ziwiri, chikhumbo chosakwaniritsidwa, komanso ubale woletsedwa.
Chikhumbo chosakwaniritsidwa ndi pamene mumakondana ndi wina, ndipo nawonso sakukondani. Nonsenu simuli pabanja, koma munthu winayo samakuonani chimodzimodzi.
Lachiwiri ndi pamene mmodzi kapena nonse muli odzipereka. Amathanso kukhala wachibale kapena wina yemwe sangathe kulowa pachibwenzi, ngati wansembe.
Nazi zina zolimbitsa konkriti zokumana ndi chikondi chosafunsidwa. Mutha kuzikwaniritsa kapena kuthana nazo.
1. Taya zikwangwani ndi zikumbutso zako
Chikondi chimatha kukhala chizolowezi, ndipo chikatero, chitha kubweretsa chinthu chosayenera ndi chowopsa.
Chifukwa chake, pita kozizira kozizira. Chotsani kapena kutaya zithunzi zawo zonse ndi zinthu zina zomwe zimakukumbutsani za munthu ameneyo. Anthu amasunga tizinthu tating'onoting'ono tomwe timayimira chinthu chosakondedwa monga mpango womwe mudagawana nawo, zithunzi, ndi zinthu zina zachilendo zomwe mumpsompsona ndi kukumbatirana poganiza za moyo wamaloto ndi munthu ameneyo.
Chotsani izo, zonsezo. Kutaya kwina kulikonse komwe sungabwererenso. Osachiwotcha, kusewera ndi moto pomwe malingaliro anu siabwino.
2. Kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi anthu ena
Mukukondana ndi winawake, koma simungakhale limodzi, ndipo ndizomvetsa chisoni. Koma anthu ambiri amakondana koposa kamodzi pa moyo wawo wonse. Chifukwa chake, sikutha kwenikweni kwa dziko lapansi kwa inu. Ingotuluka ndi kukakumana ndi munthu wina.
Ngati mulibe chiyembekezo china, pitani mukakumane ndi anzanu akale ndikusangalala ngati masiku akale. Mukupita kwa nthawi, ngati simukukhala pansi pa thanthwe, mudzakumananso ndi mwayi wokondana naye.
3. Muzisintha
Chifukwa chake, wina samakukondani, mwina chifukwa choti mumalankhula kwambiri kapena zochepa. Zitha kukhala chifukwa mumavala ngati zokwawa kwathunthu ndikuyiwala kutsuka tsitsi lanu.
Dziyang'anireni nokha ndikusintha zinthu kuti zikhale bwino. Phunzirani maluso atsopano kapena pukutani zakale. Samalirani mawonekedwe anu ndi ukhondo. Gwiritsani ntchito thanzi lanu lonse ndi thupi lanu.
Amuna ndi akazi amakopeka wina ndi mnzake.
Si msewu wopita mbali imodzi. Chitani zomwe mungathe kuti mukhale bwenzi labwino. Ichi ndichifukwa chake anthu ena sangayikidwe pomwe miyala yamiyala imakhala ndi akazi omwe afola kuti agone nawo.
Khalani munthu amene amuna kapena akazi anzawo amakhumba.
4. Yesetsani kukhala kutali
Mu kanema wachikondi kwenikweni, onse abwenzi apamtima ndi mkazi amaganiza kuti munthu wamkulu amadana ndi mkazi wake. Ndi chifukwa chakuti amayesetsa kupewa.
Ndi njira yabwino yopewera zochitika zochititsa manyazi pomwe msungwanayo azindikira kuti amamukonda ndikuwononga chibwenzi. Mu kanema, pamapeto pake adatero, ndipo adatseka nkhaniyo pakati pawo.
M'malo mwake, zinthu zimatha kukhala zovuta ngati chikondi chanu chidzaonekera. Ndizovuta zomwe simukufuna kulowa. Muyenera kutaya imodzi kapena zonsezi. Ngati mphekesera zikafalikira, zimatha kutenga moyo wokha ndikusintha.
Chifukwa chake pitani kwina, ndichinthu chabwino kuchita. Imakhalanso yotetezeka kwambiri.
5. Osalankhula za izi
Mukamayankhula zambiri za izi, mumamukumbukira kwambiri munthuyo. Palinso zoopsa zowonjezerapo zakuti munthu amene mumalankhula naye azigwiritsa ntchito zomwe akunenazo.
Ngati mukufunikiradi kukambirana za izi, pitani pa intaneti kuti mukalankhulepo patsamba la zibwenzi pa intaneti. Zingakupangitseni kuwoneka ngati chitsiru chonse ndikuchotsa vutoli.
Kumbukirani mosawona komanso m'maganizo. Phatikizani malingaliro anu mmenemo. Ambiri mwa malingaliro apa ndi machitidwe chabe a konkriti kuti athe kupyola chikondi chosafunsidwa mogwirizana ndi mwambiwo.
6. Pitani paulendo
Onetsetsani kuti sizili ndi munthu amene mumakondana naye kapena aliyense wapafupi. Pitani nokha ngati mukuyenera kutero. Kukulitsa malingaliro anu ndikukumana ndi zikhalidwe zina kukuthandizani kuchotsa mutu wanu ndikukweza kufunika kwanu monga munthu.
Chofunikira kwambiri ndikukhala kutali ndi munthuyo kuti mutha kumangoganiza za iwo popanda wina kudziwa. Onetsetsani kuti mukusangalala ndikuwona, mawu, komanso kukoma kwachikhalidwe chatsopano.
Mukukondana, sichinthu choyipa, ndipo njira yosavuta yotulukamo ndiyo kukondana ndi chinthu china. Ngakhale ndi chakudya cha mumsewu chaku China kapena pizza ya Napolitano.
7. Lembani buku kapena pangani chilichonse cholenga
Ernest Hemingway ndi m'modzi mwa akatswiri olemba nthawi zonse. Buku lake "Mu Chikondi ndi Nkhondo" limafotokoza zomwe adakumana nazo pankhondo komanso chikondi chomwe sanachipatsenso. Tsoka ilo, buku lake lidatamandidwa kotero kuti adapambana mphotho ya Nobel komanso Pulitzer chifukwa cha iyo.
Sanathe kupita patsogolo chifukwa cha bukulo ndipo adadzipha.
Ululu umalimbikitsa opanga kuti apange zaluso zazikulu.
Mufilimuyi Chikondi Kwenikweni, nkhani ina yonena za munthu wamwamuna yemwe adaganiza zolemba buku atagwira mchimwene wake ndi mkazi wake akumunamizira.
Pambuyo pake adapeza chikondi cha moyo wake (kachiwiri), polemba buku lake. Ndani akudziwa, mwina ukhoza kukhala munthu ameneyo kapena Ernest Hemingway kupatula kudzipha.
Izi ndi zina mwazochita zokongoletsa kupyola chikondi chosafunsidwa ndikupulumuka pambuyo pake.
Mutha kupeza chikondi kwina kulikonse - osataya chiyembekezo
Zitsanzo zabwinozo zodutsa chikondi chosafunsidwa zidzakuthandizani kuti mupirire zowawa. Zimapweteka kale ndipo palibe chifukwa chotsutsana ndi dziko lapansi ndikudzivulaza.
Nthawi zonse mumatha kupeza wina wokonda kwambiri monga munthu ameneyo kapena koposa. Amathanso kukubwezerani momwe mumamvera.
Malingana ngati simukuchita chilichonse chopusa ngati kudzipha kapena kudzitsekera mchipinda chanu kwazaka. Ndiye, chikondi, pamapeto pake chidzachitika, ndipo ngati ungadzikonze wekha podikirira kukondana, ndiye mwayi wopeza wina wabwino angadzuke limodzi ndi kukula kwako monga munthu.
Zochita zina za konkriti zokumana ndi chikondi chosafunsidwa monga tafotokozera pano zitha kukuchotsani mumkhalidwe wowawa komanso womvetsa chisoni.