Zamkati
- 1. Kodi chilankhulo chanu ndi chiyani?
- 2. Amuna muzikonda akazi anu.
- 3. Akazi muzilemekeza amuna anu.
- 4. W.A.I.T.
Pambuyo pa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi tili pachibwenzi - tinakumana m'giredi 5 koma sanandikondane mpaka zaka 11 - ndi 38 zaukwati, ine ndi mkazi wanga tikusangalala zaka zabwino kwambiri zaubwenzi wathu.
Zakhala zili zosavuta koma nthawi zina tonsefe timaganiza kuti zingakhale zosavuta kuzitcha kuti zasiya. Kodi mungayanjane ndi mnzanu?
Zotsatirazi makiyi anayi achikondi chosatha sizinatithandizire kutisunga pamodzi, iwo zinatibweretsera mgwirizano wamgwirizano ndi chisungiko zomwe timasangalala nazo lero.
Mfundo za chilengedwe chonsezi zidzakhudza banja lanu mukazitsatira.
Makiyi awa achikondi cha moyo wonse adzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa momwe mungakhalire ndi banja lomwe mwakhala mukulifuna kale.
1. Kodi chilankhulo chanu ndi chiyani?
Kuti mumvetsetse bwino mnzanu, muyenera kudzimvetsetsa bwino. Chodabwitsa chida chothandiza chomwe chingakupatseni kuzindikira kwatsopano mu zingwe zanu zamkati ndi buku la Dr. Gary Chapman, Zinenero Zachikondi 5.
Wagulitsa mamiliyoni 12 ndipo wamasuliridwa m'zilankhulo zoposa 50. Inu ndi mnzanuyo mutha kuwerengera chilankhulo chaulere kwaulere pa
Zotsatira zikuwonetsa kuti ndi zilankhulo zisanu zoyambirira zomwe mumayankhula. Komabe, pali zilankhulo zambiri m'zinenero zoyambirira.
Chitani kafukufukuyo, sindikizani zotsatira zake, ndipo kambiranani wina ndi mnzake zilankhulo zanu zapamwamba. Lankhulani za mitundu yambiri yazilankhulo zanu zachikondi ndikupatsana chitsanzo cha pomwe amalankhula chilankhulo chanu ngati mbadwa.
2. Amuna muzikonda akazi anu.
Ndizosadabwitsa kuti Baibulo limalangiza amuna kukonda akazi awo. Koma liwu loyambirira lachi Greek la mtundu uwu wachikondi ndilokwanira kwambiri kuposa liwu la Chingerezi.
Pambuyo pake, kodi mawu oti chikondi angawonetse bwanji momwe mumamvera ndi mnzanuyo komanso chakudya chomwe mumakonda, kanema, nsapato, zosangalatsa, kapena gulu lamasewera? Mtundu wachikondi chomwe Mulungu amalamula amuna kuti azisilira akazi awo ndiwosadzikonda komanso wosachita zachiwerewere.
Chikondi choterechi chimafunika nthawi zonse. Zitha kutenga ndalama, mphamvu, nthawi, kapena khama, koma zimakhala zofunikira nthawi zonse. Ndipo izi mtundu wachikondi sufuna chilichonse kuti abwezeredwe. Zosavuta? Ayi konse.
Njira yokhayo yomwe amuna angapangire chikondi chotere ndi kupitiliza kupempha thandizo kwa Mulungu. Ndipo fayilo ya Mwamuna amafunikira kwambiri kuti mkazi wake amuuze nthawi zonse akamudziwa.
Zimathandizanso kwambiri ngati mkazi adzipereka kukhala mkazi wosafuna kudzikonda-wokonda mwa kulemekeza kwathunthu mwamuna wake.
3. Akazi muzilemekeza amuna anu.
Ndizodabwitsa kuti Mulungu samauza akazi kuti azikonda amuna awo koma kuti aziwapatsa ulemu ndi kuwasilira. Kafukufuku wodziyimira pawokha komanso maphunziro aku yunivesite atsimikizira zomwe Baibulo limaphunzitsa.
Chofunikira chachikulu cha munthu, mwa kapangidwe kake, ndikumverera kulemekezedwa. Amuna, mukamayesa zilankhulo zisanu zachikondi, sinthani mawu oti chikondi ndi akuti ulemu.
Zikuthandizani kuyankha mafunso mosavuta. Akazi, simungathe kumulemekeza nokha. Sizimabwera mwachibadwa kwa inu.
Chifukwa chake, pemphani Mulungu kuti akuthandizeni. Ndipo mvetsetsani izi: malo omwe amuna anu amafunikira kwambiri kuti azimverera ndi ntchito yawo.
Amuna onetsetsani kuti mumauza akazi anu nthawi iliyonse yomwe mumamva kuti mumakulemekezani. Mumamupatsa chikondi chomwe amafunikira poyesetsa kukhala mtundu wamwamuna wosavuta kumulemekeza.
4. W.A.I.T.
Chifukwa chiyani ndikuyankhula? Mulungu adakupatsani makutu awiri ndi pakamwa chimodzi ndiye onetsetsani kuti mukuzigwiritsa ntchito molingana! Kuti mukhale womvera wabwino muyenera kupangitsa mnzanu kumva kuti akumvedwa.
Ngati mwakwatirana kwa mphindi zochepa chabe, mukudziwa bwino zomwe tili nazo zomwe tonsefe timafuna kuti anthu azimva m'malo mofuna kumvetsera. Limbani ndi chiyeso kuti mumve mfundo yanu.
Dzilangizeni nokha ku WAAT Pitirizani kufunsa mafunso mpaka mnzanu atakhutira kuti mumamvetsetsa ndikuyamikira malingaliro awo. Kumbukirani kuyankhula chilankhulo chawo chachikondi mukamamvera.
Patsani banja lanu zonse zomwe muli nazo pochita gawo lanu. Pemphani Mulungu kuti akulimbikitseni tsiku lililonse. Dziperekeni pakutsatira mfundozi ndipo mulemekeza Mulungu ndikulimbikitsa mnzanu, ana anu, abwenzi anu, ndi ena onse omwe ali nawo pagulu lanu. Tsatirani makiyi 4 awa kuti mupange ukwati womwe mudalakalaka.