Zamkati
- 1. Khalani omasuka wina ndi mnzake
- 2. Khalani tcheru pamene wokondedwa wanu akulankhula
- 3. Khalani owona mtima kwa wina ndi mnzake
- 4. Onetsetsani kuti mukuyankhulana pamasom'pamaso
- 5. Kukhudzana ndi thupi ndikulankhula
- 6. Osamudula mawu kapena kuukira
Kuyankhulana kumanenedwa kukhala gawo lofunikira kwambiri pamgwirizano uliwonse, kaya ndi ubale wapamtima kapena womwe uli ndi anzanu, ogwira nawo ntchito, banja komanso ana.
Malingana ngati mutha kuyankhula nawo momasuka m'njira yochepetsera mikangano ndi kusamvana, mutha kukulitsa chikondi ndi ulemu pakati pa nonse zomwe ndizofunikira kuti mukhalebe ndiubwenzi wabwino.
Maluso oyankhulirana amunthu amakhudza momwe amathandizira kuthana ndi mavuto ndikupanga chidaliro muubwenzi wawo.
Maluso oyankhulana osayanjana bwino amatha kubweretsa chisokonezo komanso mikangano yokhazikika yomwe pang'onopang'ono imayambitsa njira yothetsera ubalewo.
Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti muzitha kukambirana momasuka ndi wokondedwa wanu za mutu uliwonse.
Njira 6 zowonetsetsa kuti mumalumikizana bwino muubwenzi wanu zatchulidwa pansipa zomwe zingathandize kuwongolera ubale wanu panjira yabwino yopambana.
1. Khalani omasuka wina ndi mnzake
Ndi zachilengedwe kuti mutha kumalankhula ndi mnzanu chilichonse komanso chilichonse popanda kukayika.
Kungakhale mutu uliwonse monga ndalama, ana, ndale, mabanja, kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, muyenera kuyankhula nawo mukudziwa kuti mutha kufotokoza momasuka malingaliro anu ndikufotokozera malingaliro anu osawopa kuti angadzakugwetseni kapena kukuwopsezani.
2. Khalani tcheru pamene wokondedwa wanu akulankhula
Patsani mnzanu chidwi chanu chonse. Onetsetsani kuti mumamvetsera mwatcheru ndikuchotsa zida zanu zonse zapa media kuti mnzanu adziwe kuti akumva.
Imeneyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yodziwitsa mnzanu kuti mumakonda zambiri zawo. Zitha kuthandizanso kuyang'anitsitsa maso ndikudalira pafupi nawo kuti muwonetsetse kuti muli ndi chidwi chenicheni ndikutumiza uthenga wolumikizana.
3. Khalani owona mtima kwa wina ndi mnzake
Si chinsinsi kuti kusunga zinsinsi kuchokera kwa mnzanu sikuli bwino konse.
Mukakhala m'banja, nonse muyenera kukhala owonamtima kwa wina ndi mnzake ndikugawana zonse, mosasamala kanthu za zabwino kapena zoipa. Ngakhale nthawi zina chowonadi chitha kukhala chowawa, ndikofunikira kuti muvomereze zolakwa zanu ndikupepesa mukalakwitsa m'malo mopanga zifukwa.
Izi zingawoneke zovuta pakadali pano koma pakapita nthawi, izi zingolimbitsa ubale wanu.
4. Onetsetsani kuti mukuyankhulana pamasom'pamaso
Kukambirana pamasom'pamaso mitu yofunikira ndi njira imodzi yabwino yopewera kusamvana kosafunikira komanso kulumikizana kosafunikira.
Ndibwino kukhala ndi kukambirana pamasom'pamaso pomwe nonse mumatha kupatsana chidwi komanso kuwerenga mawu omwe sananenedwe kudzera mthupi lawo.
Kuphatikiza apo, njirayi ndiyabwino kwambiri m'malo mongolankhula kudzera pamalemba kapena maimelo pomwe izi zingapangitse mnzanu kutanthauzira mawu anu molakwika.
5. Kukhudzana ndi thupi ndikulankhula
Ngakhale mutakhala wolimba motani kapena momwe mumalankhulira, manja ang'onoang'ono monga kumugwira mnzanu kapena kumugwira dzanja atha kupita kutali.
Kuyanjana ndikofunikira kwambiri chifukwa kumalimbikitsa kutulutsa kwa oxytocin yomwe ndi hormone yomwe imalimbikitsa chikondi, kumverana chisoni ndi chifundo pakati pa okondana awiri. Itha kuthandizanso kuthana ndi nkhawa ndikulimbikitsa mgwirizano.
Kuphatikiza apo, zolankhula zamthupi zomwe zimawonetsa mnzanu kuti mumamvetsera ndikofunikira.
Khalani tsonga, yang'anani maso ndi kugwedeza mutu. Mverani kuti mumvetse osati kungoyankha. Lemekezanani wina ndi mnzake pomvetsera ndi kuyankha moyenera kuti muthetse mikangano ndi kusagwirizana ndikuthandizira kumanga mgwirizano.
6. Osamudula mawu kapena kuukira
Pewani kusokoneza pamene wina akulankhula!
Choyamba, kusokonezedwa kumapangitsa kuti mayendedwe azitha kusokonekera ndikupangitsa kuti gulu lisalankhule zomwe akufuna.
Chachiwiri, mnzake akhoza kumva kukhala wokwiya kapena wosamva chifukwa chakusokonezedwa pakati.
Chifukwa chake, zimathandiza kupewa kuyankhula pakati ndikudikirira nthawi yanu, ngakhale simukugwirizana ndi mnzanuyo ndikuganiza kuti zomwe akunenazo ndi zabodza komanso sizolondola.
Kuchita izi sikungokuthandizani kuti mumve mfundo zawo zonse komanso kuthandizanso kukambirana kolimbikitsa, komanso kupita patsogolo.
Kuphatikiza apo ngakhale nthawi zina mawu amatha kukhala okhwima komanso opweteka, osangomuuza mnzanu. M'malo mowapangitsa kuti azimva kuti akuukiridwa, yambani njira yokambirana mwachikondi yomwe siyingawateteze.
Kukulunga
Maluso olumikizana ndiubwenzi siabwinobwino kwa aliyense. Muyenera kuphunzira njira yanu malingana ndi kumvetsetsa kwanu ndi mnzanu. Ndiwo ubale wanu ndipo mumawudziwa bwino, gwiritsani ntchito maupangiri ndi malangizo omwe mukudziwa kuti adzagwira bwino ntchito pachibwenzi chanu.