Zamkati
- Khalani otetezeka pogonana
- Osapanga zisankho zazitali kutentha kwakanthawi
- Dzizungulirani ndi chithandizo
- Pitani mukaone katswiri
- Osayesa kubwezera
- Khulupirirani chidziwitso chanu
Kungakhale mtunda wamaganizidwe. Kungakhale kusakhala pachibwenzi. Kungakhale kunyong'onyeka.
Pali zifukwa zambiri za kusakhulupirika, koma zotsatira zake nthawi zonse zimakhala zofanana: zoopsa.
Kusakhulupirika kumasokoneza banja mosiyana ndi zochitika zina zilizonse zomwe zingachitike m'banjamo. Pali zomwe zimachitika posakhulupirika komanso zopweteka chifukwa chakuswa malonjezo aukwati. Palinso machitidwe olakwika omwe angasinthe maubwenzi apabanja kwamuyaya.
Funso ndilakuti: timachita bwanji? Kodi timayang'ana bwanji kusakhulupirika m'maso ndi kuchiritsa ubale wathu ndi ife tokha kuchokera kumenya? Ndi njira yodzaza ndi chisoni komanso yosungulumwa yoyenda pambuyo pa chigololo yakula mutu woyipa. Tiyenera kukhala okonzeka ndi zida zathupi komanso zamaganizidwe athu kuti tidziteteze.
Zikachitika muubwenzi wanu, mvetsetsani kuti palibe zabwino chinthu choti muchite kapena mulingo woyenera njira yoti mutenge. Muyenera kuganizira zomwe zingakuthandizeni komanso banja lanu. Ndi zomwe zanenedwa, pali zinthu zina zapadziko lonse lapansi zomwe mungaganizire kuti zitheke mosadukiza momwe zingathere.
Khalani otetezeka pogonana
Kaya ndinu omwe mwatulutsidwa kapena mosemphanitsa, onetsetsani kuti nonse mukuyesedwa ma STD. Kukhala m'banja kumatanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala ndi bwenzi limodzi lokha logonana nalo, ndipo wina akachita zachinyengo, zimabweretsa mwayi kuti onse mwamuna ndi mkazi akhudzidwe.
Musamagonane mosadziteteza mpaka mutatenga nthawi kuti muyesedwe. Ngakhale abwenzi akewo anali opepesa bwanji, sizoyenera kuti mukhale pachiwopsezo chotenga china kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe anali kugona naye mwachisawawa.
Osapanga zisankho zazitali kutentha kwakanthawi
Chikhulupiriro cha banja sichingaganizidwe pakadutsa masiku ochepa kapena milungu ingapo kusakhulupirika kukuwonekera. Tengani nthawi yanu pochita izi ndikuwonetsetsa kuti chisankho chilichonse chomwe mungapange sichinachitike chifukwa chodana kapena chikondi. Timakonda kukhala okonda kutengeka, koma muyenera kutenga kanthawi kuti malingaliro anu azilingalira zomwe zikuchitika.
Lolani fumbi likhazikike, pezani zidziwitso zonse poyera, ndipo pangani chisankho kutengera zomwe zingakuthandizeni kwakanthawi. Ngati mwabedwa, mwina muyenera kuchoka ndikukhala ndi nthawi ya "ine". Ngati ndinu obera, mwina muyenera kuwona wothandizira ndikumvetsetsa bwanji mwazichita. Mwanjira iliyonse, ubale ndi banja zidzafunika nthawi kuti zithe. Musafulumire kukhalabe muukwati kapena kuwerama nthawi yomweyo. Lolani kuti nthawi idutse ndikuwona momwe mukumvera.
Dzizungulirani ndi chithandizo
Kaya ndi abwenzi komanso abale, wophunzitsa moyo, kapena wothandizira, dzipezereni pafupi ndi anthu omwe angakukwezeni. Ngakhale mutakhala limodzi ndi mnzanu, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri ngati nonse mukuyesetsa kuthana ndi zopweteketsa mtima zokha. Inu nonse muyenera kufikira anthu omwe mungawadalire ngati phewa lolimba lodalira.
Ngati mungaganize zosiya chibwenzi chanu, kukhala pafupi ndi anthu omwe mumawakonda ndikofunikira kwambiri. Kuyesera kupyola munthawi zovuta zokhazi kumakhala kowawa. Anthu omwe amakhala osakhulupirika amakonda kulimbana ndi kudzidalira, kutengera kukula kwa cholakwacho. Muyenera kuwonetsetsa kuti anthu omwe akuzungulirani akukumbutsani za momwe muliri wamkulu. Osadutsamo nokha.
Pitani mukaone katswiri
Ponena za chithandizo, pezani wothandizira wabwino kapena mlangizi yemwe angakuthandizeni kudutsa nthawi zovuta izi. Kudziwa kwawo kumakhala kokhazikika komanso kosaweruza mukamawafotokozera zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wanu.
Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mukuyesetsa moona mtima kupulumutsa ukwati, wothandizira sayenera kukambirana. Amakumana ndi zovuta ngati izi kuti apeze zofunika pamoyo, ndipo ali ndi zidziwitso ndi machenjerero omwe anthu ambiri angaganize kuti angawagwiritse ntchito.
Ngati mukuchoka paukwati ndipo mukuyambiranso, wothandizila akhoza kukhala wofunikira pakuchiritsa kwanu. Mupita kukakwatirana komwe mudadalira munthu wina pazinthu monga chikondi, kuyamikiridwa, komanso kukhala woyenera. Wothandizira kapena mlangizi adzakuthandizani kuti mukhale othandizira anu pakapita nthawi.
Osayesa kubwezera
Ili ndiye lingaliro lopambana. Ngati mukufuna kugonana kapena kulumikizana ndi munthu wina osati mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu kuti muthe kubwezera, mukuwononga zambiri kuposa kuchiritsa chibwenzi ndi inu nokha. Mawu oti “diso diso” sakugwira ntchito apa. Kusakhulupirika ndi tsoka palokha; kubwezera kugonana ndikuchulukirachulukira pamavuto amenewo. Yesetsani kulimbitsa malingaliro anu m'njira yabwinobwino.
Khulupirirani chidziwitso chanu
Padzakhala abwenzi ambiri ndi abale anu omwe adzayesetsa kukudziwitsani zomwe muyenera kuchita mukadzakhala osakhulupirika. Tengani upangiri wawo (moyenera momwe mungathere), koma sungani mawu omwe ali mkati mwamutu wanu mpaka voliyumu yoyenera.
Inu ndi inu mumangodziwa zomwe zili zoyenera kwa inu komanso zomwe zingakusangalatseni. Ngati mnzanu walakwitsa kuti mukhululukire, chitani zomwezo. Ngati iwo adachita china chomwe chidzasinthe momwe mumawaonera, ndikupangitsani kuti musawakhululukire, ndiye kuti muchokepo.
Palibe yankho limodzi lolondola, chifukwa chake musawononge masiku anu kuyesa kupeza yankho. Chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muzindikire zomwe mukufuna komanso zomwe zingakusangalatseni. Palibe chitsimikizo kuti mnzanu sadzabwereranso. Palibe chitsimikizo kuti banja lanu lidzayambiranso kukonda ngakhale atapanda kutero. Dzikhulupirireni nokha komanso mwachibadwa ndikupanga chisankho chabwino kwambiri.