Zamkati
- Wosokonekera - vuto la umunthu
- Kodi kholo la narcissist ndi chiyani?
- Kodi kulera nawo limodzi ndi narcissist ndizotheka?
- Njira zothanirana ndi kholo la narcissist
Kukhala ndi banja lathunthu ndichinthu chomwe tonsefe takhala tikulota. Komabe, pakhoza kukhala zinthu zambiri zomwe zitha kutsogolera banja m'njira zosiyanasiyana ndipo njira yabwino kwambiri yolerera ana ndi kudzera mu kulera ana.
Iyi ndi njira yabwino kwa makolo onse kukhalabe m'miyoyo ya ana awo ogawana nawo udindo wolera mwana.
Tonsefe timamvetsetsa kufunikira kokhala ndi makolo onse kulera mwana koma bwanji ngati kholo lanu limodzi ndi nkhanza?
Kodi palinso njira zotsimikizika zochitira ndi kholo la narcissist?
Wosokonekera - vuto la umunthu
Tamva mawu akuti narcissist nthawi zambiri ndipo nthawi zambiri, akugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa anthu opanda pake kapena odzidalira kwambiri. Zitha kukhala kuti zidafotokozedwera ndi zina mwazinthu zazing'ono za wankhanza koma sizo tanthauzo lenileni la mawuwo.
Wolemba zamatsenga weniweni samangokhala wopanda pake kapena wongodzikonda, koma ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto laumunthu ndipo amayenera kuchitidwa motero. Anthu omwe amapezeka ndi Narcissistic Personality Disorder kapena NPD ndi anthu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito moyo wawo watsiku ndi tsiku pogwiritsa ntchito njira zopusitsira, mabodza, komanso chinyengo.
Sangathe kukhala ndiubwenzi wapamtima ndi okwatirana kapena ana chifukwa cha chinyengo chawo, mabodza, kusamvera ena chisoni, komanso malingaliro awo ozunza anzawo.
Tsoka ilo, si anthu onse omwe amapezeka kuti ali ndi vutoli chifukwa amatha kubisa zizindikiro zawo ndi akunja. Zachisoni, ndi anzawo apamtima kwambiri komanso abale awo omwe amadziwa izi ndipo adzakumana ndi zowononga zowononga.
Kodi kholo la narcissist ndi chiyani?
Ndizovuta kuthana ndi wokonda zachiwerewere koma mungatani ngati muli ndi ana kale? Kodi pali njira zochitira ndi kholo la narcissist? Kodi ndizotheka kuti akhalebe muubwenzi ndi ana awo ngakhale ali ndi vuto la umunthu?
Kholo lokonda zachiwerewere ndi munthu amene amawona ana ake ngati zidole kapena mpikisano.
Sangawalole kuti apitirire ufulu wawo komanso adzawakhumudwitsa ndi chitukuko chawo. Cholinga chawo chokha ndichakuti iwo ndi akulu komanso momwe angathandizire chidwi chawo ngakhale zitakhala kuti banja likuvutika.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zowopsa kwambiri zomwe mungalowemo ndikuzindikira kuti mnzanu ndi wankhanza.
Kodi mungalole bwanji ana anu kuleredwa ndi munthu amene ali ndi vuto la umunthu wake? Zisankho zikhala zolemetsa kwambiri ndi izi. Nthawi zambiri, kholo limasankhabe kulolera nawo ana akuyembekeza kuti pali mwayi woti wokonda chiwerewere angasinthe.
Kodi kulera nawo limodzi ndi narcissist ndizotheka?
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti muubwenzi wamtundu uliwonse womwe tili nawo, tiyenera kuphunzira kuzindikira mbendera zofiira makamaka m'matumbo mwanu pakukuwuzani kuti china chake sichachilendo.
Zimakhala zosiyana tikamayesetsa kukonza ubale wathu ndi okwatirana koma kuwachita nawo monga kholo limodzi ndi gawo latsopano. Palibe kholo lomwe likufuna kuti ana awo akule ndi malo opondereza osatengera kutengera lingaliro lofanana ndi kholo lawo lachiwerewere.
Ngati kholo limodzi lingasankhe kukhala, pali zifukwa zina zofunika kuziganizira chifukwa cholemetsa chopanga ntchito yolera ana ndi udindo waukulu.
- Kodi mudaganizapo zamomwe mungathandizire ana anu kuti azimva kuti amakondedwa komanso kuti amakondedwa ngakhale kholo lanu silikugwirizana?
- Kodi ndi nthawi yoyenera kuti awafotokozere za vuto la kholo lawo lachiwerewere?
- Kodi ndi njira ziti zomwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kukuthandizani pochita ndi kholo lachiwerewere?
- Kodi pali njira zina zodzitetezera nokha ndi ana anu ndi nkhanza za kholo linanu?
- Mungagwiritse ntchito mpaka liti?
- Kodi mukuchita zoyenera polola kuti munthu wamankhwala osokoneza bongo akhale gawo la moyo wa mwana wanu?
Njira zothanirana ndi kholo la narcissist
Tikufuna thandizo lonse lomwe titha kulandira ngati titasankha kukhalabe muubwenzi wamtunduwu.
Muyenera kudziphunzitsa kuti muzitha kuthana ndi kholo lanu limodzi.
- Khalani olimba mtima ndikupeza thandizo lonse lomwe mukufuna. Fufuzani uphungu kwa inu nokha kuti muzitha kuthandizidwa ndi munthu yemwe wodziwa kuthana ndi zovuta zamtunduwu. Osayesa kutenga kholo lanu kuti lipite nanu - sizigwira ntchito.
- Musalole kuti athandize anthu ena kukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu olakwa kapena kuwasonyeza kuti inu ndi amene muli ndi vutoli.
- Khalani chitsanzo ndikuphunzitsani ana anu za kudzisamalira osati mwakuthupi komanso m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo. Ziribe kanthu zomwe kholo lawo lachiwerewere limawauza, mulipo kuti mukhale bwino.
- Musawonetse kusatetezeka kwanu ndi kholo lanu. Ndiwosamala kwambiri, ngati angapeze zofooka zilizonse kuchokera kwa inu - azigwiritsa ntchito. Khalani wotopetsa ndikukhala patali.
- Osamasukanso nawo. Ingoyankha mafunso okhudzana ndi mwana wanu ndipo musalole kuti njira zopusitsira anthu zibwere kwa inu.
- Ngati kholo lanu lachiwerewere limamugwiritsa ntchito mwana wanu kuti mumvere mlandu pabanja lanu - musalole kuti zifike kwa inu.
- Onetsani kuti muli ndi mphamvu pazochitikazo. Khalani ndi nthawi yoyendera, musalole kuti kholo lanu limakulamulirani kapena kuti likulimbikitseni kuti muzichita zomwe akufuna.
- Adakali aang'ono, yesani njira ina momwe mungafotokozere ana anu momwe zinthu ziliri komanso momwe angachitire ndi zomwe anakumana nazo ndi kholo lawo lachiwerewere.
Kulera mwana sikophweka, bwanji ngati mukulera limodzi ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi NPD?
Sizovuta konse kuchita ndi kholo la narcissist, osalola kuwalola kupitiliza kukhala gawo la miyoyo ya ana anu.
Zimatengera kudzidalira konse, kuleza mtima, komanso kumvetsetsa kuti athe kuphunzitsa makolo mofananamo ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto la umunthu. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, bola ngati mukuwona kuti mwana wanu akuchita bwino ndiye kuti mukugwira ntchito yayikulu!