Zamkati
Vuto lalikulu lomwe limakhalapo pakulankhulana ndikuti, abwenziwo amauzana malingaliro awowo. Pamene akumvetsera malingaliro a wokondedwa wawo, akuyembekezera mwayi wawo kuti apeze "air time", kuti afotokozere momwe akuonera, kapena kutola zibowo pa zomwe amva kumene. Chifukwa sichilimbikitsa chidwi kapena kutsegulira zosankha za momwe zokambiranazo zikuchitikira, izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala zotsutsana komanso zopatsa chidwi. Malingaliro achidwi ndi mafunso achidwi amayamikira zomwe mnzakeyo akufuna kunena zisanachitike.
Chifukwa chomwe alangizi, othandizira, ndi akatswiri amisala mwina amafunsa mafunso ambiri ndikuyankha kochepa ndichifukwa chakuti ndiudindo wawo kufuna kudziwa. Pamwamba pa izo, kufunsa funso lamtundu umodzi ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wabwino ndi wina aliyense. Funso ndi lotseguka, lotsimikiza, ndikuyitanitsa. Pomwe amalankhula za momwe zimathandizira kukhala ndi chidwi ndi ana, ndikufuna kukambirana zaubwino wofunsa mafunso okhudzana ndi maubwenzi achikulire.
Alendo omwe akumana nawo mwina amafunsa mafunso achidwi chifukwa akuyesera kuti adziwe zambiri za anzawo. Ngati anthu omwe angokumana nawo kumene amakopeka ndi kugonana, atha kuyamba kufunsa mafunso okhudzana ndi zomwe anzawo akufuna. Koma taganizirani zomwe zingachitike ngati palibe mafunso achidwi omwe anafunsidwa (ndipo munthu m'modzi sanakopeke ndi mnzake, kapena sanachite chidwi ndi kugonana) ndipo palibe mnzake amene anatsegula mutuwo asanayesere kulowa pabedi. Mwachitsanzo,
George: "Ndikufuna kugona nanu."
Sandy: "Ayi, sindikuganiza choncho."
G: “Bwerani. Kulekeranji?"
S: "Ndati ayi."
G: "Ndiwe gay?"
S: "Ndatha."
Kuti mumve bwino momwe izi zingayendere bwino, yerekezerani magawo amacheza awa:
| Njira Yotseka | Njira Yotseguka Kapena Yachidwi |
| “Malo ako kapena anga? Umandisangalatsa. Kodi umandikonda inenso? ” “Ndine wokondwa kuti takumana. Si choncho? ” “Ndipita konsati Lachisanu. Kodi mukufuna kubwera? ” “Siyani kunena choncho. Sikuthandiza. ” “Zili bwino izi?” “Kodi simukukumbukira ....?” "Kodi mukufuna kuyankhula za ...?" “Ndine gay, sichoncho iwe?” | "Mukuganiza bwanji zakukhala kwathu limodzi mpaka pano? Kodi mukufuna kuchita chiyani tsopano? ” “Ndikudabwa kuti ndichifukwa chiyani timawona zochitika zathu mosiyana. Chonde nenani zambiri za momwe mumawonera. ” ”Ndikufuna ndidzayankhulanso zambiri nthawi ina. Kodi muli ndi mwayi wotani? ” “Kodi tingasunge bwanji malingaliro athu omwe tikukambiranawa?” “Zikukuyenderani bwanji izi? Kodi tingachite chiyani mosiyana kuti ntchito igwire bwino tonsefe? ” "Anthu ochulukirachulukira azindikira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Mukuganiza chiyani?" |
Tsegulani mafunso pamafunso otsekedwa
Sikuti mafunso otseguka amakhala abwinoko kuposa mafunso obisika. Sindikunena kuti simuyenera kufunsa mafunso otseka. Koma ndikofunikira kuzindikira kuti mafunso otseguka amakhala achidwi kwambiri, osamvana kwenikweni, ogwirizana, ndipo, zowona, amakhala otseguka komanso oitanira kuubale wopitilira. Mu funso longa, "Tingapange chiyani mosiyana kuti izi zigwire ntchito bwino pakati pathu?" kufunsa momasuka kumatha kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati chida chokonzera kusamvana kapena kusamvana. Osati zokhazo, mafunso onse otseguka komanso otsekedwa atha kuphatikizidwa kuti apange kulumikizana koyenera. Izi ndichifukwa choti mafunso otsekedwa ali ndi njira yakutsogolera chidwi ku mitundu ina yazambiri. Kumbali inayi, mafunso otseguka amakhala ndi chisonkhezero champhamvu kwa omwe akukambirana nawo nthawi yomweyo akamatsegulira gawo pazomwe sananene. Kuphatikiza mafunso onse otseguka komanso otsekedwa, mwachitsanzo, titha kunena monga:
“Ndikudabwa kuti mukumva bwanji pazomwe zachitika lero mpaka pano (mawu achidwi). Lero zakhala bwanji kwa inu? (funso lofuna kudziwa lomwe limavomereza momveka bwino). Kodi mudacheza ndi ndani ndipo mumasangalala? (funso lotsekedwa lokhala ndi mayankho ochepa). Kodi maubalewa akhala akutukuka motani? (funso lotseguka) ”.
Zomwe mungayese kuchita, ngati mwalimbikitsidwa ndi mwayi wopeza malingaliro ndi malingaliro amnzanu, ndikusiya "kunena" zochuluka ndikulankhula kuti "mufunse" mafunso achidwi (pogwiritsa ntchito mawu anu) monga:
- "Chinachitika ndi chiyani?"
- “Mukumva bwanji za inu?”
- “Kodi ukuganiza kuti ena amamva bwanji?”
- “Kodi muli ndi malingaliro otani kuti muthane ndi vutoli?”
Onetsetsani kuti mukugwiritsa ntchito “What” ndi “How” poyambitsa mafunso otseguka, koma musaiwale kuti amagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati gawo la zokambirana zomwe nthawi zina zimaphatikizapo kufunsa mwabata. Izi zitha kukhala zofunikira pakusungitsa chidwi chanu kapena chitsogozo chanu pokambirana.
Tebulo lotsatirali likufotokozera mwachidule maubwino ndi mafanizo a njira zotseguka komanso zotseka.
| Kutseka | Tsegulani |
| Cholinga: Kunena maganizo kapena kuuza | Cholinga: Kuwonetsa chidwi |
| Kuyambitsa - “Kodi titha kuyankhula?” | Kusintha - "Kodi mukufuna kuchita chiyani tsopano?" |
| Kusunga - "Kodi tingalankhule zambiri?" | Kusamalira - "Zikukuyenderani bwanji?" |
| Kunena malingaliro - "Sindimakonda amuna ogonana amuna okhaokha." | Mgwirizano - "Tingathe bwanji izi?" |
| Kunena zosankha zochepa - "Malo ako kapena anga?" | Kutsimikizira - "Ndiuzeni zambiri." |
| Kukhazikitsa udindo - "Kodi mungakonde kutero?" | Kusonkhanitsa uthenga - “Mukumva bwanji?” |
Pali zovuta zina pamitundu yonse yayikulu yolumikizirana, koma ichi ndi chinthu choti ndikuphimba positi yanga yotsatira.