Zamkati
- Kuphatikiza kwa upangiri wa akatswiri
- Katswiri wozungulira - Upangiri wabwino kwambiri pakusudzulana
- Pansi
Kuphatikiza kwa upangiri wa akatswiri
Kusudzulana ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zopweteka kwambiri zomwe munthu angapirire.
Kaya mukuganiza zosudzulana kapena mwasankha kuti zisiye, ndikofunikira kufunafuna njira yoti ikuthandizireni kusudzulana kapena kubwezeretsanso banja lanu, ngati mukufuna.
Akatswiri afotokoza momwe upangiri wa maanja ungakuthandizireni kusunga banja lomwe likuyenda bwino, kudziwa zomwe zimayambitsa kusweka kwa banja, ndikusankha zomwe mungachite - kugawanika kapena kuyanjananso.
Akatswiriwa amapereka upangiri wabwino kwambiri wosudzulana kwa maanja kumapeto onse azisangalalo.
Kwa iwo omwe akuyang'ana kuti akande pamwamba kuti amvetsetse zomwe zadzetsa mavuto m'banja ndipo akuyang'ana pakukonzanso kukhutira ndiubwenzi m'banja lawo, komanso kwa iwo omwe akufuna kuthetsa ukwatiwo.
Pali mafunso angapo ofunikira omwe amafufuza momwe banja lomwe linali losangalala limagwera pansi. Mafunso omwe amakuthandizani kumvetsetsa ngati pali njira zobwezeretsera banja losangalala kapena ayi.
Akatswiriwa awunikiranso malangizo abwino kwambiri osudzulana kuti akuthandizeni kuti muwone momwe zinthu ziliri moyenera, pomwe mukuyang'ana kutha kwaukwati.
Banja likamatha, ndikofunikira kuti musatenge katundu kuchokera kuubwenzi womwe udasokonekera kupita ku wina. Ndikofunikira kuti musakhale pamutu mwanu banja litatha, ndipo phunzirani kudzisamalira.
Chofunikanso ndikuphunzira momwe mungapulumutsire ana ku chiwonongeko cha ubale wosweka ndikupitiliza kulera moyenera.
Katswiri wozungulira - Upangiri wabwino kwambiri pakusudzulana
Werengani upangiri wabwino kwambiri wosudzulana kwa maanja ndi akatswiri kuti mumvetsetse momwe zinthu ziliri m'banja losasangalala, ndikufotokozera momveka bwino momwe mungasinthire mtsogolo.
Amanda Patterson
Funsani uphungu kwa okwatirana ndipo thandizani kuyesetsa kwanu musanayankhe kuti angosiya.
Khalani otseguka podziwa kuti upangiri wa banjali ukhoza kukonza ngakhale kuvulala koopsa pachibwenzi, monga zochitika, kusiya, komanso kumenya nkhondo nthawi zonse. Tweet izi
Pezani mlangizi wazokwatirana yemwe waphunzitsidwa mwanjira inayake yolangizira zaukwati.
Archer Wakuda
Ubwenzi monga china chilichonse m'moyo ndi luso lomwe lingaphunzire.
Pali zoyambitsa ndi zotulukapo zomwe zimasewera pachilichonse.
Ngati mukuganiza zothetsa banja, zonse muyenera kuchita ndikuwunika zonse zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala ndi zovuta zomwe mukukumana nazo pano. Tweet izi
Pambuyo pake, muyenera kungopanga zatsopano zomwe zingayambitse zotsatira zabwino zomwe mukufuna.
Koma momwe mungachitire izi?
1. Dzifunseni nokha "chifukwa chiyani" kasanu kuti mufike pachimake chomwe mwayambira pomwepo
Zomwe zimayenera kubwerezedwa kasanu ndikuti mayankho oyamba a funsoli amangovumbula zovuta zapansi.
Pafupifupi, titakumba mozama ndikufunsa chifukwa chomwe timavumbulukira, timayandikira kwambiri zomwe zimayambitsa.
Popeza sitikufuna kuthana ndi zizindikirazo, kuthana ndi zomwe zimayambitsa ndizofunikira kwambiri, chifukwa mavutowa adzapitilizabe kupezeka m'njira zina zambiri.
2. Mvetsetsani kuti maukwati abwino ndi chifukwa chakumvetsetsa kwamphamvu zaubwenzi
Pambuyo povumbula zomwe zimayambitsa mavutowa, ndimalangiza kuti ndiwalembe ndikuyamba kuthana nawo m'modzi ndi m'modzi.
Tsopano mmalo mongodzudzulana, nonse mutha kuvomera udindo pazomwe zikuchitika.
Mutha kuwona bwino momwe zinthu ziliri. Tsopano muli ndi china chake chomwe mungagwire nawo ntchito, gulu la mavuto omwe angathe kuyendetsedwa ndi kuthetsedwa.
Ndinganene kuti mungasangalale nazo chifukwa izi zitha kukhala ntchito yaying'ono yomwe mungagwire ngati banja, ndipo izi zitha kukuyandikitsani.
Mbali inayi, mutha kuzindikiranso pano kuti chisudzulo ndi njira yoti mupitire, ndipo kumveka koteroko kumachepetsa kwambiri.
3. Yambani kupanga ndondomeko yomwe ingathetsere zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto omwe mukukumana nawo
Chifukwa chake tinene kuti tazindikira zoyambitsa; Ino ndi nthawi yoti mumvetsetse bwino - zomwe zingakhale zokambirana, maphunziro aubwenzi, ndi zina zambiri.
Mwachitsanzo - tinene kuti tadutsa 5 ndipo tidazindikira kuti palibe ubale wapabanja chifukwa banjali lidayamba kungotayana, ndipo malingaliro omwe adagawana nawo atha.
Mukapeza kumvetsetsa koyenera kwamaphunziro amomwe mungayambitsire kuyanjana muubwenzi etc. mutha kuyamba kupanga dongosolo lomwe lingapulumutse banja lanu.
Kungakhale kukambirana kowona mtima za zizolowezi zatsopano ndi malingaliro ndi kudzimana komwe mukufuna kukhala nako kwa wina ndi mnzake.
Izi zingakupangitseni kukhala olimba ngati banja ndipo pang'onopang'ono mutha kukonza zomwe zimayambitsa (kuganizira zosudzulana).
Kubwereranso ku chitsanzo chosakhala pachibwenzi - mutha kukonza kalendala chakudya chamlungu chilichonse Lamlungu ku malo odyera achikondi. Mutha kuzikonzekereratu miyezi itatu isanachitike, ndipo zotsalazo zibwera pafoni yanu ndikuwonetsani kuti mukupulumutsa banja lanu nthawi imodzi.
Mukatha kuwunika, muthanso kuzindikira kuti chovuta ndikuti m'modzi wa inu amakhala pafoni nthawi zonse. Njira zothanirana ndi izi ndikungokhazikitsa lamulo lopanda foni lomwe nonse muyenera kutsatira.
Chofunikira cha izi ndichodziwikiratu kuti anthu onse atha kuyika mbali zawo pambali ndikukhala ndi chisamaliro chokwanira kwa wina ndi mnzake kukonza zinthu ngati angawone kuwala kumapeto kwa mseuwo.
Popanda izi, nditha kuyika chibwenzicho osangowonana kapena kuyimbilana kwa sabata imodzi kuti ndiwone momwe tikumvera tikakhala kuti palibe wokwatirana naye. Kungakhale kuwonetseratu kwa momwe chisudzulo chidzakhalire kwa miyezi ingapo yotsatira.
Kupuma komweko kumatha kukhala kokwanira kuyambiranso mphamvu ndikuwona kupyola ungwiro kwa wina ndi mnzake ndikuwonanso zofunikira.
Laura Miolla
Kusudzulana sikuli kanthu koma kutha kwalamulo kwamgwirizano wamaukwati, komabe, anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti ndizolakwika. Si choncho. Chifukwa chake, chinthu choyamba chomwe ndikufuna kuti makasitomala anga achite, akaganiza zothetsa banja, ndikuzindikira ndikusiya malingaliro kapena malingaliro omwe ali nawo kale. Ngati mukuganiza kuti zidzakhala zoipa, zidzakhala. Momwemonso, ngati mukukhulupirira kuti zipanga kusintha kwabwino kwa inu ndi ana anu, ndiye pitani kuti mudziwe. Phunzirani za njira yothetsera banja ndikusankha momwe mukufuna kupita patsogolo,
sitepe ndi sitepe. Chidziwitso chimachepetsa mantha, ndipo chimakupatsani mphamvu m'malo mongokupangani kuti mukhale ozunzidwa.Tweet izi
Ilene S. Cohen
Kusudzulana ndi chinthu choyipa kwambiri kuganizira. Ndikumapeto kwa ubale wofunikira komanso wofunikira. Zimakhalanso zovuta ngati ana akukhudzidwa.
M'malo mofunsa upangiri kuchokera kwa anzanu ndi okondedwa anu omwe ali ndi zolinga zabwino, ndikofunikira kudzifunsa mafunso, kuyang'ana mkati, ndi kupeza mayankho panokha. Tweet izi
Nawu mndandanda wa mafunso ofunikira omwe mungaganizire musanasaine mapepala osudzulana:
- Kodi ndi chiyani chokhudzana ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wanga chomwe chidandipangitsa kuti ndidzipereke kwa moyo wanga wonse?
- Kodi ndingachite chiyani mosiyana, ngati chilipo, kuti banja lino liziyenda bwino?
- Kodi ndangokhala wokwiya pakadali pano, kapena kodi chisudzulo ndichinthu chomwe ndikufuna?
- Kodi ndathandizira bwanji kuti banja lithe?
- Zomwe sindinayesere?
- Kodi ndine wotetezeka ndi mnzanga wapano?
- Kodi ndapereka zochuluka kwa wokondedwa wanga pazinthu zomwe sindingathe kuzikambirana ndi ine?
- Ngati ndasankha kusudzulana, ndingatani kuti ndikonzekere bwino, makamaka ngati ana akukhudzidwa?
- Ganizirani za banja liti lomwe mungafune, kukambirana, mogwirizana, ndi zina zambiri?
- Ganizirani kufikira akatswiri kuti mudziwe momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito banja lanu?
- Ganizirani za mtundu wanji wa munthu yemwe mukufuna kukhala munthawi imeneyi, komanso zolinga zanu zazitali.
Dr. Margaret Rutherford
Zinthu zisanu zofunika kuziganizira mukamaganizira zosudzulana
Ganizirani mozama momwe mungathere ngati kusasangalala kwanu kukugona pazinthu zomwe simunadziwikepo nokha.
Dziwani ngati mukuyembekezera kuti banja lidzayenda bwino popanda kulidyetsa.
Dziwani kuti ndinu gawo lavutolo, ndipo ngati simukuyankha, mudzathetsa vutolo muukwati wanu wina. Tweet izi
Pezani malingaliro oyenera kuchokera kwa othandizira m'malo modalira abale ndi abwenzi omwe mwina ali ndi zolinga.
Lankhulani ndi loya kuti muzindikire zomwe zikukhudzidwa.
Karen Finn
Kuganizira zosudzulana ndikosiyana ndi kusankha kusudzulana. Kuganizira za chisudzulo kukuwonetsa kuti banjali silikukayika ngati ntchito yofunikira yopulumutsa ukwati wawo ndiyofunika. Tweet izi
Pofuna kuthana ndi kusatsimikizika, banjali liyenera kufufuza mafunso awiri:
Kodi amanyadira khama lawo lothandiza kuti banja liziyenda bwino? Ngati sichoncho, ndiye kuti kugwira ntchito ndi mlangizi wa mabanja ndi gawo lotsatira. Ndikosavuta kuwonetsetsa kuti chisudzulo ndi yankho lolondola chifukwa banjali lidayesetsa koposa kudziyerekeza okha pambuyo pa chisudzulo.
Kodi moyo wawo usintha bwanji atasudzulana?
Kusudzulana sikophweka. Ndichimodzi mwazovuta kwambiri zomwe zachitika. Kupyola izi ndikupanga moyo watsopano kumatenga ntchito - zambiri.
Palibe mayankho osavuta kwa maanja omwe akuganiza zothetsa banja. Komabe, potenga nthawi yowunika njira zokhalira limodzi kapena kupatukana kuchokera kumakona ambiri momwe angathere, banja lililonse lingapeze yankho labwino kwambiri m'banja lawo.
Nando Rodriguez
Kuganizira zosudzulana si nkhani wamba, ndipo iyenera kuganiziridwa mbali zonse panthawi yomwe onse awiri sanayambitsidwe.
Ndipo m'malingaliro "osayambitsidwa "wa, pangani zokambirana mkati mwa chidwi ndi kuwolowa manja ndikufunsani mafunso awiri otsatirawa (ndikukhala" okondweretsedwa "mayankho ngakhale atakhala kuti ndi otani).
Kodi mwakhala mukubweza chiyani
Mfundo ya funsoli ndikuti mupeze mwayi woti "muwonekere" kwa munthuyu. Pali "njira yakukhalira" muukwati yomwe mwakumana nayo kwa mnzanu - itha kukhala yosangalatsa komanso yopanda malire, choncho sangakuuzeni zinthu zina kuwopa kuyatsa gawo limodzi mwamagawo anu.
Chifukwa chake, samapatula kusungulumwa, mantha, kapena mavuto azachuma. Kodi mudayamba mwadzifunsapo kuti chifukwa chiyani muukwati wanu, mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu amangokhalira kuchita zinthu yekha?
Kugula zakudya, kuyenda maulendo ena, kapena kuchita zina ndi zina? Kodi mwina muku "onetsani" ngati osachita nawo chidwi? Mukuwonetsa kuti "Sindikusamala za inu komanso zosowa zanu," chifukwa chake aphunzira kukhala okha m'banja. Tweet izi
Zowonadi "mverani" momwe mumawonetsera ndikukhala nawo. Sizochuluka kwambiri zomwe akukuuzani; ndi zomwe zikutanthauza kuti inu muyenera kumvera.
Kodi simunakwaniritse chiyani?
Uwu ndi mwayi wopanga (mwina kwa nthawi yomaliza) njira yolankhulirana yoona kuti mumvetsetse momwe zochita zanu zakhudzira banja komanso munthu winayo.
Apanso, si nthawi yodzitchinjiriza kapena kulungamitsa zochita zanu koma ndi nthawi yoti "mumvetsere" zomwe munthuyu (yemwe mumakonda kale mwina akuchitiranibe) akukuuzani momwe adakhudzidwira ndi zomwe muli nazo kapena malo sindinachite.
Ndikofunika kukhala ndi zokambiranazi ndikukhala ndi nkhani zambiri momwe nonse mungathere; Apo ayi, muzibwera nawo limodzi ku chibwenzi chotsatira.
Osamasula katundu waubwenzi wanu pawu wotsatira. Kodi ndi zomwe zikuchitika tsopano?
Ndipo ndani akudziwa, mwina mupeza china chatsopano chokhudza inu pazokambirana zomwe zimakupatsani mwayi wodzizindikira.
Palibe mapu amodzi oti mutenge mukakhala panjira yolekana, koma kukambirana zenizeni za chifundo ndi udindo kudzakuthandizani pa "momwe mungakhalire" mukamachita zinthu zotsatirazi ngati chisudzulo ndichinthu chomwe nonse mukuwona kuti ndichofunikira.
SARA DAVISON
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati chisudzulo chili kwa inu?
Tikukhala mu chikhalidwe chotayika kwambiri masiku ano pomwe ngati sitikonda china chake, timasintha.
Nthawi zambiri, sitimaganizira zazitali kapena kuyesera kuti zichitike - timangosinthana ndi china chake, foni yam'manja yaposachedwa, aphunzitsi awiri, kapena ngakhale chibwenzi pa Tinder.
Masiku aukwati ndi oti moyo wapita kalekale, ndipo sitilinso mbadwo wa okhulupirira "kufikira imfa." Ndi mabanja osudzulana ku UK ku 42% ndipo ku US pafupifupi 50%, zimatsimikiziradi kuti banja silikhalanso moyo, ndipo tikakhuta, timachoka.
Zimandisangalatsa ndikuti timakhala nthawi yochuluka tilingalira za ntchito zathu ndikukonzekera ulendo wotsatira komanso momwe tingakondwerere abwana. Ponena za maubale titangokwatirana, timangokhala pansi ndikungoyembekezera kuti ziyenda bwino osachitapo kanthu!
Ndizosadabwitsa kuti mawilo amagwa penapake pamzere.
Komabe, kuthetsa chisudzulo sikophweka. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa zomwe muyenera kukumana nazo musanapange chisankho chofuna kusudzulana.
Zimatenga nthawi yayitali kuti mudzipereke kuukwati, chifukwa chake ziyenera kuganizira mozama kuti muchoke.
Ngati mukuvutika kupanga chisankho, mwina chifukwa choti mulibe chidziwitso chokwanira kuti mupange chisankho ndipo mukukokedwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana.
Kudzimva kuti ndiwe wolakwa komanso kusatsimikizika kumatha kusokoneza chiweruzo chako, chifukwa chodziwikiratu momwe njirayi ikuwonekera, umachepetsa kupsinjika ndi kupsinjika ndikupangitsa kusankha bwino.
Ndapanga njira yosavuta yotchedwa "Osadandaula," yomwe ikupatseni chidziwitso chokwanira ngati chisudzulo ndi njira yabwino kwa inu.
Pamalo oyenera, zimakhudzana kuti mukhale pansi ndi mnzanu kuti mupeze njira yogwirira ntchito limodzi kuti muchite zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mupulumutse banja kwa miyezi itatu.
Komabe, zigwiranso ntchito popanda mgwirizano wa wokondedwa wanu ndipo zikuthandizani kuti mupange chisankho chanzeru chomwe sichingakusiyeni ndikudandaula kapena kudzifunsa nokha, "bwanji ndikadachita izi kapena izi?"
Gawo 1: Pangani nthawi yoti mukhale pansi ndi mnzanu, komwe simusokonekere. Ngati mukuchita izi nokha, ndiye kuti mupeze nthawi yabata yopanda zosokoneza.
Gawo 2: Yambani polemba zomwe mumakonda za wokondedwa wanu ndi zomwe mumakonda pa chibwenzi chanu.
Ndikofunika kuyang'ana mbali zabwino poyamba; Komabe, ndizovuta izi mwina ngati mwakhala mukuwonetsetsa kuti mukuwona zoyipa zokha. Kambiranani izi modekha ndi wokondedwa wanu ngati alipo ndipo afunseni kuti achite chimodzimodzi.
Gawo 3: Lembani mndandanda wa madera omwe akufunika kuwongolera komanso omwe simukusangalala nawo.
Ngati mukugwira ntchito ndi mnzanu, yesetsani kunena izi mosagwirizana. Ndikuvomereza kuti musadzudzulane ndikungoyang'ana pazotsatira zomwe ndikupeza njira yopulumutsira ubale wanu.
4: Tsopano wonani zinthu zisanu zomwe mukugwirizana zomwe zingathandize kukonza chibwenzi chanu.
Ngati mukugwira ntchito limodzi, vomerezanani kuti musonyeze kukoma mtima pazinthu zanu zisanu ndikuchita zomwe mungathe kuti muzitsatira kwa miyezi itatu yonse.
Ngati mukugwira ntchitoyi panokha, muyenera kunena zowona za udindo wanu pakutha kwa banja lanu ndikulowa mu nsapato za mnzanu kuti muwone momwe mungathetsere mavutowo.
Ndawona kangapo kuti m'modzi wayamba ntchitoyi yekha, ndipo pasanapite nthawi, wokondedwa wawo wawona kusintha kwabwino kotero kuti nawonso ayesanso kuyesetsa.
Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti pali zinthu zambiri zomwe mungachite kuti mupulumutse banja lomwe likuyenda bwino, ngakhale munthu m'modzi yekha ali wotsimikiza kutero. Tweet izi
Malangizo anga apamwamba ndi awa:
- Khalani oganiza bwino ndikuchitapo kanthu tsiku lililonse kuti mnzanu adziwe kuti mumawakonda. Ntchito zokoma mtima, ngakhale zazing'ono, zitha kutanthauza zambiri ndikukumbutsa wokondedwa wanu kuti mumawakonda.
- Pitirizani kukondana. Ndikosavuta kutengera chizolowezi cha tsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo moyo umayamba kusokonekera.
Yesetsani kukhala achikondi pogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yabwino nokha, opanda ana komanso mafoni. Kaya ndi usiku kapena tsiku losangalatsa, ndikofunikira kukumbukira chifukwa chomwe mudakondera poyamba.
- Khalani okondana wina ndi mnzake komanso okonda kwambiri! Khalani othandizira mnzanu, alimbikitseni, ndipo musanyadire akapambana. Khalani ndi nsana wawo ndipo muziwathandiza nthawi zonse kuti akhale opambana momwe angathere.
- Lankhulani bwino. Ndikofunika kuti muzitha kuyankhulana momasuka ndikupangitsa kuti mawu a wina ndi mnzake amveke. Khalani omasuka ndi kuwadziwitsa momwe mukumvera.
- Khulupirirani mnzanu. Kudalirana ndi maziko aubwenzi wosangalala komanso wathanzi. Muyenera kukhala omasuka kukhala nokha ndikukondedwa chifukwa cha momwe mulili.
- Musalole mavuto kukula. Ngati pali zovuta zilizonse, akwezeni ndi mnzanuyo ndipo gwirani ntchito limodzi kuti muzithetseretu kuwonongeka kosatheka.
- Yesetsani kuyang'ana mozungulira mnzanu. Zachidziwikire, amakuwonerani chinthu choyamba m'mawa komanso muma comfies anu - koma onetsetsani kuti mumanyadira mawonekedwe anu munthawi yapaderayi ndikusungabe miyezo yanu.
- Chitirani zinthu limodzi. Ndikosavuta kupatukana ndikupanga zinthu zanu muubwenzi, onetsetsani kuti mwapeza zinthu zoti muchite limodzi ngati banja. Ngati mungapeze zosangalatsa zomwe nonse mumakonda kuchita nthawi yanu yopuma, izi ziwonjezera chidwi. Ngakhale kugula zinthu limodzi kapena ntchito zina kumathandiza kuti kulumikizana kwanu kukhalebe kwamoyo.
- Pitirizani kukondana. Nthawi zambiri, izi zimasowa patatha zaka zambiri tili limodzi. Choncho kambiranani momwe mungasungire mbali iyi ya ubale wanu kukwaniritsa kwa nonse. Kumbukirani momwe zimakhalira ndikupanga nthawi yopanganso mphindi izi.
- Khalani osewera. Moyo nthawi zina umakhala wovuta kwambiri. Onetsetsani kuti osewerayo ali amoyo ndi banter ochezeka, zodabwitsa, ndi kuseka kambiri.
Ngati muli ndi ana, padzakhala zina zambiri zoti muganizire momwe mungaganizire momwe iwonso angawakhudzire. Ndine wokhulupirira kwambiri kuti chisudzulo sichiyenera kuwononga ana, koma zimatengera makolo ndi momwe amachitira.
Nthawi zambiri amakhala olimba mtima kuposa momwe mumaganizira, koma zimatengera zaka zawo komanso umunthu wawo; palibe mwana m'modzi yemwe angayankhe chimodzimodzi, chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuyesetsa momwe mungawathandizire kuthana ndi kutha kwa banja lawo.
Musapusitsidwe ndi chithunzithunzi chaku Hollywood cha "kuzindikira zopanda pake" kapena kupita kwa mnzanu wina mkati mwa mtima wosakhala wosakwatiwa.
Sizingachitike monga choncho kwenikweni. Chowonadi ndichakuti kusudzulana ndichinthu chachiwiri chosautsa mtima kwambiri pambuyo pa imfa ya wokondedwa.
Ndiwodzigudubuza mwamphamvu ndipo ali ndi vuto lalikulu m'miyoyo ya anthu, zomwe zimakhudza thanzi lam'mutu ndi thanzi, moyo, kachitidwe katsiku ndi tsiku, ana, moyo wantchito, abwenzi, komanso abale.
Malangizo anga nthawi zonse amangogwira ntchito paubwenzi osataya mtima. Komabe, pali nthawi zina pamene mumafunika kulimba mtima ndikukumana ndi mfundo yakuti sizikugwira ntchito.
Ngati muli ndi mnzanu yemwe samakukondani, zikuwononga kudzidalira kwanu komanso kudzidalira. Ngati sakufunanso kukhala nanu, kuwakakamiza kuti azikhala sangakupatseni chimwemwe.
Kusudzulana si njira yosavuta, ngakhale malamulo asinthidwa ndikusinthidwa. Ziyenera kuganiziridwa mosamala, ndipo mwa lingaliro langa, ndikofunikira kuti musachoke ndikudandaula. Chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mupulumutse banja.
Ngati mutachita izi, ndiye ngati zitha, mutha kupita mutakweza mutu ndikudziwa kuti mwachita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muupulumutse. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwina mutha kusudzulana, maupangiri anga apamwamba amomwe mungayambire mwanjira yabwino kwambiri ndi iyi:
- Pezani gulu lanu lothandizira. Ndikosavuta kukhumudwa ndi chisudzulo kuchokera pazachuma, zalamulo, komanso momwe mukumvera, pomwe mukuyesetsanso kuchita zomwe mumachita tsiku ndi tsiku.
Chifukwa chake pezani akatswiri okuzungulirani omwe angakuthandizeni kuyankha mafunso onse omwe muli nawo ndikukupatsani upangiri wabwino kwambiri. Izi zimathandiza kuteteza zokonda zanu ndikuchepetsa nkhawa zanu, podziwa kuti mutha kuyankhidwa mafunso anu.
- Dziwani bwino zomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito mwezi uliwonse kuti mumvetsetse momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito ndalama.
Pangani pepala lamapulogalamu azomwe mungagwiritse ntchito sabata iliyonse komanso mwezi uliwonse. Muyenera kukhala ndi izi, kuti muzimva kukhala odziyimira pawokha pazachuma komanso oyang'anira.
Gwirizanani ndi mnzanu zomwe mukanene kwa ana za kutha kwa banja.
Nthawi zonse zimakhala bwino kukhala pansi limodzi ngati zingatheke ndi kuwauza limodzi. Kutsimikizira kuti amakondedwa komanso kuti sindiwo vuto lawo ndichofunikira.
Muzilemekezana komanso kukomerana mtima. Mudzavomerezana nthawi ina, ndipo ngati muvomera kuchitirana bwino, mutha kuusunga mwamtendere momwe mungathere.
Musaiwale kuti musangalale m'moyo wanu. Itha kukhala yoyenda modekha, onetsetsani kuti mwapeza njira zosekerera ndikulumikizana ndi omwe mumawakonda.
Osalankhula zakupatukana kwanu kwa aliyense amene mungakumane naye.
Gawani zakukhosi kwanu ndi abwenzi apamtima kapena abale, koma osayamwa dziko lomwe chinthu chokha chomwe mumalankhula ndi kugawanika kwanu.
Kudya bwino komanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro olimba ndikuthandizani kupanga zisankho zabwino.
Lembani mndandanda wazinthu zonse zomwe simunasangalale nazo muubwenzi wanu mukamachotsa magalasi okhala ndi rose. Ngati mukusweka mtima ndipo zikukuvutani kusiya wokondedwa wanu, uku ndikulimbitsa thupi kwakukulu.
Tikakumbukira za anzathu, ndizosavuta kuyang'ana pazabwino zonse ndikukonda zinthu. Koma izi zikuthandizani kuti musasokonezeke m'mbuyomu, ndipo sizowona monga momwe mndandandawu uwonetsera.
Funsani thandizo. Ngati mukulimbana ndi zovuta, onetsetsani kuti mwapempha thandizo. Anthu ena zimawavuta kufikira, koma pali mabuku kunja uko omwe angakuthandizeni kuti mupite patsogolo mukatha, komanso akatswiri omwe amakhazikika m'derali.
Pangani mapulani olimbikitsa ndikuwathandiza. Ngati mukufuna kuthandizidwa ndi kutha kwanu, ndiye kuti buku langa latsopano, "The Split - masiku 30 kuchokera pa Kuphulika mpaka Kuyambika," likupezeka tsopano ku Amazon.
Idzakupatsani gawo lanu panjira ya Tsiku la 30 kuti muthane ndi kutha kwanu ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mukupitilizabe patsogolo.
Kusudzulana sikuyenera kukhala kuthetsa mwamphamvu ngati mutachitapo kanthu kuti muganizire momwe mungathandizire aliyense musanapange chisankho.
Kukhala wachifundo ndikuchita zabwino kudzakuthandizani m'kupita kwanthawi. Ngati muli ndi ana ndipo mukumva kuti ndinu olakwa, ganizirani uthenga womwe mukuwaphunzitsa pokhala mu banja losasangalala.
Kumbukirani kuti ndinu chitsanzo chawo, ndipo adzakutsogolerani.
Pali kuwala kumapeto kwa ngalande, komabe, ndipo ndizowona kuti timangokhala kamodzi, ndiye kuti palibe chifukwa chokhala m'banja losasangalala.
Ndikukhulupirira ndi mtima wonse kuti chisudzulo ndi chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe sichinachitikepo kwa inu chifukwa chimakupatsani mpata wokonzanso moyo wanu momwe mumafunira.
Ndizowona kuti nthawi zina, zinthu zabwino zimasokonekera kuti zinthu zabwinobwino zizigwirizana.
Pansi
Kaya mungasankhe kupatsanso banja lanu kapena kupita patsogolo ndi kupatukana kapena kusudzulana, kufunafuna chithandizo kuchokera kwa anzanu ndi abale anu, limodzi ndi mlangizi wodziwa bwino za upangiri wosudzulana, ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino.
Ndikofunika kuti musaiwale cholinga chachikulu. Inuyo ndi mnzanu wapabanja mukuyang'ana chisangalalo ndi malingaliro.
Chisudzulo chanu kapena kuwawa kwaukwati zikakuyenderani, pang'onopang'ono mudzatha kusankha zidutswazo ndikupanga moyo wachimwemwe. Pamodzi kapena payekhapayekha.
Osatengeka ndi chisankho chofuna kuchita zinthu mopupuluma, ganizirani mozama, ndikutsatira upangiri woyenera ndi njira zomwe zingapangitse kuti chisudzulo chithe kuyendetsedwa bwino kapena kuyambitsanso ukwati, mukaganiza zoyanjananso.
Pangani chiweruzo choyenera.