Zamkati
- Momwe makoti amathandizira kuchiritsa mtima wosweka
- Kusudzulana kumamugulira
- Kusudzulana kumamupatsa iye
Mtima wathu ukakhala wosweka timatembenukira kunyimbo kapena kutembenukira ku ndemanga zabwino. Kwa iwo omwe tsopano akuganizira ngati angafunike kutha chibwenzi chawo kapena ukwati wawo, chitonthozo chanu chongokhala zisudzulo zomwe zingakhudze mtima wanu.
Momwe makoti amathandizira kuchiritsa mtima wosweka
Mutha kudabwa momwe kusudzulana kumangotchulira kapena kungotenga mawu ambiri kumathandiza kuchiritsa mtima wosweka. Kodi mawu amodzi angatanthauze bwanji momwe angatanthauzire zomwe mukumva panthawiyi ya moyo wanu ndikumveka bwino?
Pakhoza kukhala yankho limodzi pa izi, ndichifukwa choti mawu awa adapangidwa ndi malingaliro ndi anthu omwe adalimbikitsidwa osati ndichisangalalo chokha komanso ndichisoni, kutayika ngakhale kutha.
Iwo ndi angwiro chifukwa ndi achidule, okhutira mtima, ndipo ali ndi mawu oyenera kutanthauzira zomwe tikumva pakadali pano.
Chifukwa chake tiyeni tipitirire kuwerengera zina mwazinthu zofunikira kwambiri pamabuku osudzulana omwe amamulembera komanso za zomwe zimasudzulana.
Kusudzulana kumamugulira
Nthawi zambiri sitimawona bambo akumanyinyirika kapena kutulutsa zakukhosi kwake. Mpaka pano, tidakali ndi malingaliro oti amuna ndi achimuna ndikulira kapena kutuluka kuwapangitsa kukhala ocheperako amuna. Koma chabwino ndikuti pali ma quote pomwe, zikawapanikiza kwambiri, munthu amatha kutembenukira ku mawu osudzulana kuti apereke tanthauzo kwa zomwe akuganiza.
“Kutha kwa banja ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zopweteka kwambiri zomwe mungakumane nazo. Ndalama zomwe timagwiritsa ntchito pokalipa kapena kubwezera zimawononga ndalama. ” Richard Wagner
Kodi sizowona? Kusudzulana kumatitengera ndalama zambiri, ndalama zomwe tingagwiritse ntchito kale kugula galimoto yatsopano kapena kuyambitsa bizinesi yatsopano koma mungaganize kuti anthu amasankhabe chisudzulo chifukwa ndizofunikira.
"Kusudzulana sikumangokhala munthu yekhayo, koma zonse zomwe zimachitika - ana anu, kusintha, chilichonse." Peter Andre
Kusudzulana sikophweka konse; simusudzula munthu. Pambuyo pake mumakhudza chilichonse chomwe mudali nacho kale. Sikuti tikuchita izi kuti tisangalale. M'malo mwake, zimasokoneza mitima yathu kuwona momwe chisudzulo sichingakhudzire ife komanso ana athu.
“Kutha kwa banja mwina kumakhala kopweteka ngati imfa.” William Shatner
Palibe mawu ena omwe angalongosole chisudzulo kuposa imfa. Imfa yaukwati wamaloto ako, kumwalira kwa banja lathunthu komanso gawo limodzi la inu imangofa limodzi ndi chisudzulo. Amuna nthawi zambiri amakhala obisika momwe akumvera koma chisudzulo chimapweteka ndipo ndichowonadi.
“Kusudzulana kuli ngati kudulidwa chiŵalo; mumakhalabe ndi moyo, koma alipo ochepa ”- Margaret Atwood
Banja lirilonse lidzapulumuka chisudzulo, ingotenga nthawi yayitali koma mutha kupulumuka. Komabe, gawo lanu, ngakhale mutamasulidwa bwanji chisudzulo chanu chikhala ngati chidamwalira limodzi ukwati wanu utatha.
"Ndikudziwa zomwe ndimabweretsa patebulopo ... Chifukwa chake ndikhulupirireni ndikanena kuti sindikuopa kudya ndekha." - Osadziwika
Nthawi zambiri, chisudzulo chimatha kudziona ngati chodzipatula ndipo chitha kupangitsa kukhumudwa koma kwa ena omwe amadziwa kuti adadzipereka ndi kupereka zonse zomwe angathe - chisudzulo sichidzagwedezeka chifukwa amadziwa kufunika kwawo.
"Chisudzulo ndi imfa ya loto lomwe umaganiza kuti lidzakwaniritsidwa." - Osadziwika
Tonsefe tinalakalaka ukwati womwe udzakhale moyo wawo wonse. Ndicho chifukwa chake tinakwatirana poyamba, sichoncho? Komabe, moyo ukamachitika, chisudzulo chimatichitikira komanso maloto omwe tidamwalira kale.
Kusudzulana kumamupatsa iye
Amayi amadziwika kuti amatha kutenga ululu ndikupilira nawo. Akazi amadziwika kuti ali okhudzidwa kwambiri kuposa amuna.
"Anthu awiri akaganiza zothetsa banja, sizitanthauza kuti 'sakumvana,' koma chizindikiro choti ayamba.” - Helen Rowland
Nthawi zina, titawona umunthu weniweni wa munthu amene tinakwatirana naye, timazindikira chifukwa chake kusiyana kwina sikungathetsedwe.
“Kusudzulana si vuto la mwanayo. Musanene chilichonse chosonyeza kuti ndinu wokondedwa kwa mwanayo, chifukwa mukungopweteketsa mwanayo. ” - Valerie Bertinelli
Ndikumva kuwawa kwambiri, nthawi zina njira yokhayo yobwezera ndikuwuza ana zomwe zidachitika komanso zomwe zidapangitsa kuti banja lithe mosazindikira, sikuti tikungobwezera mnzathu koma tikupwetekanso ana.
“Kutha kwa banja si vuto lalikulu. Tsoka likukhalabe m'banja losasangalala, kuphunzitsa ana anu zinthu zolakwika pa chikondi. Palibe amene anamwalira chifukwa cha chisudzulo. ” - Jennifer Weiner
Ndi chiyani chomvetsa chisoni kwambiri? Kusudzulana ndikukhala kholo limodzi kapena kukhalabe muubwenzi wozunza komanso wowopsa? Nthawi zina, kusudzulana ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri.
“Anthu amasudzulana, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta. Nthawi yomweyo, anthu akakhala limodzi zitha kukhala zoyipa kwambiri. ” - Monica Bellucci
Kusudzulana kumapweteka koma palibe chomwe chingapweteke kuposa ukwati wokhala mumdima komanso wopanda chimwemwe.
“Kulekerera sikutanthauza kuti ulibenso chidwi ndi munthu wina. Ndikungodziwa kuti munthu yekhayo amene muyenera kumulamulira ndi inu nokha. ” - Deborah Reber
Nthawi zina, ngakhale pangakhale chikondi pakati pa anthu ngati winayo sangasinthe kuti ateteze ubalewo palibe chifukwa chomenyera chikondi kapena ukwati womwewo.
Palibe kupweteka kapena kulephera monga kusudzulana. ” - Jennifer Lopez
Ngakhale kusudzulana ndi njira yoyambira moyo watsopano komanso wosangalala, pamakhalabe kumva kupweteka ndi kutayika wina akaganiza zothetsa banja.
Zonsezi, chisudzulo chimakhala chotsitsimula komanso chomvetsa chisoni nthawi imodzi. Ndicho chifukwa chake mawu osudzulana ali ndi chidwi chochuluka mwa iwo. Ngakhale banja lanu linali lachisoni bwanji, pali zopweteketsa zomwe zimadza ndi chisudzulo makamaka ngati pali ana omwe akutenga nawo mbali. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti mukhale olimba pantchito yonseyi chifukwa ndi zomwe zidzachitike mtsogolo mwanu.