Zamkati
- 1. Pezani upangiri ndi nthanga yamchere
- 2. Lankhulani ndi katswiri
- 3. Limbaninso chidaliro chanu
- 4. Muzikhululuka zakale (ndi inunso)
- 5. Kuswa msewu ndikupita kukakonzanso
- 6. Yambirani za kudzikonda
- 7. Pangani mndandanda wa miyambo yatsopano ya tchuthi
- 8.Lota kwambiri
- 9. Musataye nthabwala zanu
- 10. Pangani chithandizo champhamvu
- 11. Muzicheza ndi anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lomweli
- 12. Musapangitse ana anu kusankha mbali
- 13. Tengani nthawi yolowera pachibwenzi mutatha banja
- 14. Osadzinyenga
- 15. Tengani chisudzulo ngati chisonyezo chatsopano
- 16. Zikondwerere kupambana pang'ono
- 17. Lowani masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe mumakonda
Kusudzulana, nthawi zina kumawoneka ngati mukuyenda mumadzi odikirira m'boti lomwe likudontha.
Komanso, ndi mdima, mwataya phala lanu, ndipo simukudziwa komwe mukupita. M'mawu ochepa chabe chisudzulo chimakhumudwitsa, kusokoneza, komanso kukhumudwitsa. Ngakhale banja lanu lidayamba bwanji, kulekana ndi mnzanu kumakhala kovuta.
Mudakhala limodzi ndipo mudakumana ndi zinthu zina limodzi. Tikukhulupirira, mudakhala ndi nthawi yopambana limodzi, ngakhale izi zingakupangitseni kuyamba kukayikira ngati kusinthaku kunali kwabwino.
Chovuta kwambiri ndikuti muli nokha m'bwatomo, ndipo inu nokha muyenera kusankha komwe muyenera kupita. Kodi mungadutse bwanji? Kodi mungatani mutasudzulana?
Mukuyang'ana malangizo ndi njira zothetsera banja? Nawa malangizo abwino kwambiri osudzulana omwe muyenera kukumbukira.
Lekani zakale
Mudzayesedwa kuti mubweretse nkhondo iliyonse, chizindikiro chilichonse, chilichonse chaching'ono m'malingaliro mwanu.
Mudzaunika ndikuwononga chilichonse pang'onopang'ono.
Mudzafunsa chifukwa chake mpaka mutakhala wabuluu pankhope. Nkhaniyi ndikuti - kumangoganizira zakale sikungakuthandizeni. Kodi mungasinthe zakale? Ayi. Kodi zakale zidzamveka? Mwina ayi.
Panthawi inayake — mwina osati nthawi yomweyo, ndipo zili bwino — muyenera kungoisiya zakale. Ndiyo njira yabwino yothetsera banja.
Izi zitha kukhala chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri zomwe mudzachite banja litatha, koma ndichimodzi mwazinthu zofunikira kwambiri ngati mukufuna kupita patsogolo.
Dzikumbutseni tsiku lililonse kuti zakale zidakhala zakale, ndipo zamakono ndizo zonse zomwe mungathe kuzilamulira.
1. Pezani upangiri ndi nthanga yamchere
Mutha kupeza kuti mumafuna kukambirana kuti muthetse momwe mukumvera ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zachitika. Mukuyang'ana kufunafuna chisudzulo.
Palibe vuto, ndipo itha kukhala yokongola ngati muli ndi mnzanu womvera. Koma padzakhala abale ndi abwenzi ambiri omwe angakupatseni upangiri.
Ingokumbukirani kuti akuchita izi chifukwa cha chikondi, chifukwa chake yesetsani kusanyalanyaza chilichonse ngati anena kanthu pang'ono. Akuyesetsa momwe angathere kuti akuthandizeni ndikuthandizani kuti mukhale bwino.
Komanso dziwani kuti ngakhale atakhala kuti adasudzulana okha, mkhalidwe wanu ndiwosiyana kwambiri. Kwa zina zake nonse mudzakhala patsamba limodzi, koma magawo ake ena azikhala osiyana kwambiri.
Makamaka ngati ana akutenga nawo mbali kapena ayi, komanso zambiri.
Chifukwa chake mwina upangiri wawo pa chisudzulo ungathandize ena, mwina sangakhale othandiza pamkhalidwe wanu. Ingomverani ndikunena kuti zikomo, koma musawone ngati mukuyenera kutsatira upangiri wawo.
2. Lankhulani ndi katswiri
Zachidziwikire, mufunika loya kuti akuthandizeni kutsata malamulo a chisudzulocho.
Nanga bwanji za moyo wanu komanso momwe mungasudzulire bwino? Lankhulani ndi wothandizira.
Mutha kumverera ngati mutha kuzichita nokha mpaka tsiku lina mukadzawonongeka. Pewani izi potengera njira yoyeserera.
Lankhulani ndi mlangizi waluso yemwe ali ndi luso lothandiza anthu kuthana ndi kusintha kwakukulu pamoyo wawo monga chisudzulo. Amatha kukuthandizani kukonza malingaliro anu munjira yathanzi ndikutuluka mwamphamvu.
3. Limbaninso chidaliro chanu
Pambuyo pa chisudzulo, chidaliro cha anthu ambiri chimatha.
Ndizomveka-musanakhale otsimikiza kuti mwakumana ndi chikondi pamoyo wanu, koma tsopano mumayamba kukayikira zosankha zanu pamoyo wanu komanso woweruza wanu wamakhalidwe.
Kapenanso mukudziwa zomwe mudachita pakuwononga banja lanu, ndipo mukuyamba kukayikira ngati mungathe kukhala pachibwenzi chodzipereka.
Ndi zachilengedwe kukayika mukamawona ngati dziko lanu lagweratu. Chifukwa chake, ntchito yanu tsopano ndikumanganso moyo wanu makamaka kumanganso kudzidalira kwanu.
Pitani mukachite zomwe mumakonda ndipo mukayamba kumva bwino za inu nokha. Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikudya bwino kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro abwino omwe amathandizira kuti chidaliro chikule. Yambani kusinkhasinkha ndikusintha mawu ena omwe angakuthandizeni kudzidalira, monga, "Ndiyenera kumenyera nkhondo.
Ndine munthu waluso. Nditha kuchita izi. ”
4. Muzikhululuka zakale (ndi inunso)
Palibe chofanana ndi kusunga chakukhosi chomwe chingakulemetseni kwathunthu.
Zili ngati chikwama chodzaza ndi miyala, koma simungodziwa kulemera kwake. Kukhululukira wakale (ndi iwemwini) kumatha kuthetsa nkhawa zomwe mumamva tsiku lililonse.
Mukakhululuka, simukunena kuti zomwe iwo kapena zomwe mudachita zinali zabwino, mukungosankha kuti zisakulowetseninso.
Mukulola munthuyo — komanso inuyo — mwayi woti mupitebe patsogolo.
Kukhululuka ndi kovuta. Pamafunika zambiri kusintha mkati. Chifukwa chake musamve chisoni ngati kukhululuka sikubwera nthawi yomweyo kapena mwachibadwa. Ipatseni nthawi.
Kukhululuka ndimachitidwe ndi chinthu chomwe muyenera kusankha mobwerezabwereza. Mpaka tsiku limodzi, mutha kunena moona mtima kuti, "ndakukhululukirani," ndikutanthauza. Tsikulo likafika, mudzamvererapo kuwirikiza zana.
5. Kuswa msewu ndikupita kukakonzanso
Kukhala muukwati woyipa, kuimitsa pambuyo povutitsa nkhondo kumatha kukupweteketsani mtima, ino ndi nthawi yoti muyambirenso kugwira ntchito yomanga nokha.
Tsopano popeza mwamasulidwa, zindikirani kumasulidwa poyesa zochitika zatsopano. Zomwe muyenera kuchita ndikutsegulira mwayi watsopano.
Pali ufulu watsopano wofufuza malo atsopano, kuyenda payekha, kusankha njira zatsopano, kukonzanso tsitsi lanu, zovala, komanso momwe mumakhalira.
Kumanani ndi anthu atsopano ndi malo ogulitsira pazenera omwe angakhale anzanu, maubale abwino, ndi ma equation. Moyo uli ndi zambiri zoti upereke.
6. Yambirani za kudzikonda
Ino ndi nthawi yoti mudzikumbatire ndi kudzidalira, ndi mphamvu zanu ndi zofooka zanu.
"Me Time" imakhala yosowa m'banja, chifukwa chake mukakhala munthawi yakusintha kwa machiritso kuchokera kuzilonda zam'mbuyomu kuti mupite patsogolo kukakhala ndi tsogolo losangalala, dzikondeni komanso kudzisamalira.
Musanalole kuti wina aliyense azikukondani, ndikofunikira kuti muphunzire kaye kudzichitira nokha mokoma mtima, ndikukondani ndikudzitsimikizira.
Sankhani kuchokera kumalo obisalako tchuthi kupita kusamaliro khungu, kuchita zachuma, kuphunzira kudalira matumbo anu, kudzigulira maluwa, kupumula kapena kukonza malo ogwirira ntchito kapena chipinda chanu.
Kuphatikiza apo, kuti athane ndi mavuto omwe amabwera chifukwa chakusudzulana chifukwa chochita zosangalatsa kapena masewera olimbitsa thupi, yesani yoga kapena kusinkhasinkha kuti muphunzire kusintha zomwe mukumva.
Ngati mukufuna upangiri wothandizana ndi zisudzulo ndi zina mwazinthu zooneka bwino zomwe mudalemba kuti zikuthandizeni kuphunzira momwe mungadzikondere nokha.
7. Pangani mndandanda wa miyambo yatsopano ya tchuthi
Imeneyi ndi nthawi yofunika kwambiri yomwe mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wamwalira, ndipo kusapezeka kwa mnzanuyo kumabweretsa zowawa, makamaka panthawi ya tchuthi.
Mukusowa thandizo pakusudzulana makamaka ikakhala nyengo ya tchuthi ndipo mwatsala mutayang'ana zithunzi za mabanja ena pa FaceBook? Yakwana nthawi yopanga miyambo yatsopano ya tchuthi ndikusiya kukhumudwa kukhala nokha kumbuyo.
M'malo molola kuti chisudzulo chikuyendetseni mumkhalidwe wovutitsa, ingovomerezani kuti mukuvomereza kuti ndi momwe ziriri.
Landirani momwe ziliri ndikupitilira.
Osataya mtima chifukwa chakutengeka mtima ndikuyesetsa kuyanjananso nanu patchuthi. Yambani ndinu kufikira anzanu komanso anzanu akale.
Yesetsani kuyamika popeza kukhala othokoza kumasintha malingaliro anu. Mukayamba kukhumudwa ndi banja lanu lomwe latha munthawi ya tchuthiyi, pumirani pang'ono, sonkhanitsani nokha ndikuyamba kuganizira zinthu zonse zomwe mumayamikira.
Mphamvu zakubanja zimasintha banja litatha, banja lanu litha koma ngati pali ana omwe akukhudzidwa, simungathe kuthawa udindo wanu monga kholo.
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti chisudzulo chawonetsedwa kuti chimachepetsa kuthekera kwamtsogolo kwamwana m'mbali zonse za moyo, kuphatikiza maubale am'banja, maphunziro, thanzi lam'mutu, komanso mphamvu zamtsogolo.
Komabe adanenanso kuti kuchuluka kwakusokonekera kwa chisudzulo kwa ana kumasiyanasiyana kutengera momwe banja limakhalira asanasudzule komanso momwe banjali limagwirira ntchito zawo zaubanja banja litatha.
8.Lota kwambiri
Pomwe mudakhala zaka mukumanga banja losangalala, kuyesetsa kupanga mgwirizano wathanzi ndikusamalira maudindo omwe udali nawo, mwina maloto anu ndi zolinga zanu zidabwerera kumbuyo, popeza mumaopa kusintha ndipo simukufuna kusokoneza moyo wanu wabanja.
Ngati ndi choncho, ino ndiye nthawi yeniyeni yoti maloto anu akwaniritsidwe. Khalani ntchito yayikulu, yosangalatsa kapena kusamukira kumalo atsopanowu, ino ndi nthawi yoti musunthire.
Kuthandiza pa chisudzulo gwiritsani ntchito mphamvu zanu zonse kupanga mapu a tsogolo labwino komanso losangalala.
Lolani kuti tsogolo lanu likhale labwino.
9. Musataye nthabwala zanu
Moyo ukakupatsani mandimu, pangani mandimu.
Pangani kuwala kwa timatumba tating'onoting'ono ndikukhala ndi chizolowezi choseketsa pazinthu zomwe simungathe kuzilamulira.
Nthawi zomwe zisanachitike komanso pambuyo pa chisudzulo zili ndi mavuto ambiri. Limbikitsani kupsinjika kwa chisudzulo chanu mwakuseka mosazindikira vuto lanu, pomwe mungathe.
Zomwe zingakuthandizeni kupsinjika.
Chisudzulo chimakhala chosangalatsa kwambiri ndipo chimakusiyani mumavuto. Mosasamala kanthu, musaiwale chithunzi chachikulu. Mudzabwereranso, dzuwa lidzaunikiranso, ndipo mudzakhazikika ndikukula mu chikondi cha wina nthawi yoyenera ndi mwayi ukadzafika.
10. Pangani chithandizo champhamvu
Gulu la abwenzi komanso abale othandizana nawo atha kuchita zambiri pochepetsa mavuto omwe chisudzulo chimabweretsa.
Aitaneni, afikireni kuti akuthandizeni kuyika zinthu moyenera ndikusintha. Amatha kuthandizanso popanga zisankho zamakonzedwe amtsogolo ndikulimbitsa chidaliro chanu.
11. Muzicheza ndi anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lomweli
Kumbukirani kuti simuli nokha pankhani yamabanja omwe asokonekera komanso kusweka kwa maukwati. Ndicho chifukwa chake palibe amene angakumvereni chisoni monga momwe bwenzi losudzulana lingathere.
Mukalumikizana ndi wosudzulidwa, yemwe adakumana ndi mayesero ofananawo, atha kukhala gwero lalikulu la kuphunzira. Atha kukuthandizani kudzuka, kufumbi, kunyamula zidutswazo ndikuphunzira kukhalanso ndi moyo.
Kuyang'anitsitsa ulendo wawo wosudzulana kumatha kukuthandizani kuti muwone zovuta zanu mosiyana ndikuti musakhale mumkhalidwe wowawa kwamuyaya.
12. Musapangitse ana anu kusankha mbali
Musaike ana anu m'malo ovuta ngati amithenga. Osamenyetsa mnzanu pamaso pawo ngati mukufuna kuwawona akutukuka ngakhale kusakhazikika kwa banjali ngati gawo limodzi.
Yesetsani kupanga njira yoti ana azitha kumasuka kuchoka kwa kholo kupita kwa lina popanda kumva kuti anazulidwa. Kukhazikika nthawi zonse kumatha kukhala kovuta kwambiri ndipo kumathandizanso kukulitsa modekha kuchokera kwa makolo onse, ngakhale zitakhala padera.
13. Tengani nthawi yolowera pachibwenzi mutatha banja
Kulowerera kwambiri pachibwenzi mutangotha banja ndi lingaliro loipa.
Ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi inu nokha ndikudziwitseni momwe tsogolo lanu lidzakufotokozereni pano pakusintha kwamphamvu.
Kubwerera kwanu pambuyo pa chisudzulo kumatsimikizika kuti kumayambitsa mavuto am'mimba ndikusiya kulawa pakamwa panu.
Dziloleni nokha kuti mulire poyamba ndikulimbana ndi malingaliro anu. Onetsetsani kuti mwakonzeka ndikuonetsetsa kuti mukudziwa chifukwa chomwe mukuchitira.
14. Osadzinyenga
Osatengeka ndi zovuta za "zomwe zikadakhala". Ndimalingaliro olepheretsa pomwe simungathe kuganiza zopitilira zomwe mulibe komanso zomwe simungathe kuchita.
Lekani kudzimenya chifukwa cha zomwe mukadachita mosiyana kuti muteteze chisudzulo. Khalani moyo tsiku limodzi ndikuvomereza chisudzulocho ndi lingaliro lomaliza.
15. Tengani chisudzulo ngati chisonyezo chatsopano
Mosasamala kanthu zomwe zidapangitsa kuti banja lithe, osapitilira kudzimvera chisoni komanso kudzimvera chisoni moyo wanu wonse.
Ganizirani zachisoni pambuyo pa chisudzulo ngatiulendo.
Ngakhale mukumva kuwawa tsopano, pambuyo pake mudzasintha gawo latsopano la moyo momwe mudzakhazikitse maubwenzi atsopano, kuchita bwino pantchito yanu, ndikukula panokha.
16. Zikondwerere kupambana pang'ono
Chitani ndi mtima wanu wolapa ndi moyo wanu mokoma mtima.
Dzilimbikitseni ndi kilogalamu imodzi yomwe yatayika, kapena mphamvu yochulukirapo yomwe yachita kuti mutulutse keke yodzadza ndi kalori. Pindani kumbuyo kwanu mukasonkhanitsidwa munthawi yovutikira kuntchito ndikusankha kuti musachoke pamtengowo.
Dzichititseni ndi diresi yatsopano kapena konzani tsitsi lanu nthawi iliyonse, mukuzindikira kuti mwayenda bwino ndikukhala osangalala.
17. Lowani masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe mumakonda
Musalole kuti chisudzulo chikulepheretseni kukwaniritsa maloto ndi zolinga zanu. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumakweza serotonin muubongo wanu ndikukweza malingaliro anu.
Zingatenge nthawi kuti muzolowere chizolowezi chochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, koma mukakhala ndi chizolowezi chochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, mudzapindula, mwakuthupi komanso mwamaganizidwe.
Mukamawonetsa kupita patsogolo pokwaniritsa thanzi labwino komanso kulimbitsa thupi, mudzalimbikitsidwa kutulutsa thukuta.
Kusudzulana kumachitika koma sizotheka kuti anthu apeze kutseka ndikupezanso chisangalalo m'moyo. Ngakhale kutha kwaukwati kuli chinthu chenicheni kwa inu, musazengereze kutembenuza tsamba latsopano m'moyo wanu ndikuchiritsa kuti muwone tsogolo labwino.