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Mimba ndi gawo lalikulu muubwenzi uliwonse, nthawi zina imabweretsa maanja pamodzi, ndipo nthawi zina imawalekanitsa. Ndichikhulupiriro chonse kuti amayi omwe akuyembekezera amakhala ogwirizana ndi njira ya khanda pamaso pa abambo awo.
Mayi akamva za kukhala ndi pakati, amayamba kusangalala ndi kusintha kumeneku kuchokera pa nthawi yomweyi - udindo watsopano ngati mayi. Maganizo, chisangalalo, ndi chikondi zimayamba pafupifupi nthawi yomweyo, koma sizikhala choncho tikamakamba za mwamunayo.
Ndi abambo ochepa omwe amasangalala mofanana ndi mayi akadziwa kuti ali ndi pakati. Abambo ambiri amamva izi pokhapokha mwana akabadwa komanso atanyamula mwana wawo mmanja.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake abambo amaperewera panthawi yapakati ndipo amalephera kumvetsetsa zosintha zomwe wokondedwa wawo akukumana nazo. Izi zitha kuchititsa mavuto ena azibwenzi apakati.
Ubale womwe umasokonekera panthawi yapakati ndichinthu chofala kwambiri masiku ano. Amayi anayi mwa khumi omwe ali ndi pakati amakumana ndi mavuto akulu pamavuto ndi maubwenzi apakati.
Ndizovuta kudziwa chifukwa chake maubwenzi amasokonekera posintha ulendo wamabanja.
Njira zopewera ubale-kugwa panthawi yapakati
Ngati banjali likumvetsetsa bwino za momwe mimbayo ingakhalire komanso zomwe zingakhale zovuta zazikulu, mavuto ambiri amatha kuthetsedwa kale. Funso lakuti 'chifukwa chiyani maubwenzi amasokonekera' silingakhale funso. Izi zingakuthandizeni inu ndi mnzanu kuti musangalale ndi mphindi yabwinoyi pamoyo wanu mpaka kufika pachimake.
Mwana akamakula m'mimba mwa mayi, ndizachilengedwe kuti thupi limasintha zinthu zingapo kuti atsimikizire kuti ali bwino.
Mavuto amubanja omwe amabwera panthawi yapakati ndi osakhwima ndipo kuwathetsa mosamala ndikofunikira zinthu zisanayende bwino. Tinalemba zifukwa zingapo zomwe maubwenzi amasinthira.
Tikukhulupirira izi zithandizira maanja onse kunja uko kuti athetse kusamvana kwawo ndikukhala komweko wina ndi mnzake. Tiyeni tiwone.
1. Kuthandiza ndi kumvetsetsa
Zomwe zimasokoneza maubale ndikuti maanja samakhala osangalala panthawi yapakati makamaka chifukwa chakumva kukhumudwa komanso kuda nkhawa. Amayi ndi abambo sangathe kutsegulirana wina ndi mnzake za momwe akumvera komanso momwe akumvera.
Ndikofunika kuyandikira kwa mkazi wako nthawi yapakati, makamaka pamene ali ndi pakati komanso wasokonezeka chifukwa cha chibwenzicho. Pofuna kupewa funso loti 'chifukwa chiyani maubwenzi amagwa' lomwe likuwoneka pachithunzichi.
Nthawi zina amuna amapewa kulankhula ndi akazi awo kuti apewe mikangano ndipo amaoneka ngati ali kutali panthawi yomwe ali ndi pakati zomwe zimapangitsa amuna kapena akazi awo kunyalanyazidwa. Kuwona kuti wanyalanyazidwa ndi mnzake atabereka mwana kumatha kupangitsa mayi kukhala ndi nkhawa komanso kukwiya kuposa momwe amachitira kale.
Vuto lakulumikizana limayamba panthawi yomwe ali ndi pakati zomwe zimapangitsa kuti banja lithe kupatukana. Izi ndi zomwe zimapangitsa funso kuti, 'chifukwa chiyani maubwenzi amasokonekera'. Kuti mukhale ndi mimba yosalala, yopanda mikangano yesetsani kuthana ndi nkhaniyi mwachangu.
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2. Kusokonezeka maganizo
Kulimbana ndi zilakolako za m'maganizo, m'maganizo, ndi kuthupi za mkazi wapakati nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kwa mnzake. Ndi zachilendo mukawona mavuto am'banja panthawi yomwe ali ndi pakati.
Ndikofunika kuti mnzake amvetsetse kuti mkazi wake akukumana ndi zovuta zambiri motero ayenera kukhala ololera pang'ono kuposa masiku onse.
Kusintha kwamaganizidwe ndi kusokonezeka kwamaganizidwe ndizofala panthawi yapakati chifukwa chakusokonekera kwa mahomoni. Popeza mkazi wayamba kale kukumana ndi mavuto ambiri, ndizomveka kuti wokondedwa wake atha kukhala ndi udindo wamomwe angakonzere kusiyana pakati pawo.
Simungafune kuti akazi anu akhale ndi pakati komanso osasangalala pabanja limodzi, sichoncho?
Wokondedwayo ayenera kukonzekera mavuto okhudzana ndi pakati-zisanachitike chifukwa sizophweka konse.
3. Kusintha kwakuthupi mwa mkazi
Amuna amakonda akazi awo kuti azikhala achigololo komanso ovala bwino. Koma, mayi akakhala ndi pakati, chidwi chovala kapena kusintha zovala zatsopano chimatha.
Amayi ambiri amadzimva kukhala osasangalatsa komanso osatetezeka mthupi lawo. Zitha kukhala chifukwa cha kunenepa, kutopa, kukhumudwa, koma izi zimakhudza mwachindunji kugonana pakati pa maanja.
Amuna atopa ndikumva mzere womwewo 'Ndili ndi pakati' mobwerezabwereza ndikuyamba kutenga mimba ngati temberero kuposa mdalitso.
Mavuto amukwati omwe ali ndi pakati amatenga nthawi yayitali ngati sangaperekedwe nthawi, zitha kuyambitsa kusweka kwaubwenzi nthawi yapakati.
Izi zikuyenera kukuthandizani kudziwa zovuta zomwe mungakumane nazo mukakhala ndi pakati.
Simusowa kuti mufunse funso 'chifukwa chiyani maubwenzi amasokonekera' ngati mumakonda nthawi yabwino yokhala ndi pakati komanso maubale ndikutenga zovuta ngati mwayi wolumikizana ndikuyandikira limodzi.
Gwiritsani ntchito mavuto apakati ndi maubwenzi kuti inu ndi mnzanu mukhale olimba ngati gulu.