Zamkati
Pali zabwino zambiri zomanga mfundo. Kuchokera ku inshuwaransi yazaumoyo kupita kumisonkho, anthu okwatirana amasangalala ndi zinthu zina zomwe anthu omwe si okwatirana samasangalala.
Koma pali phindu lina labanja lomwe lingakhale lofunika kwambiri kuposa ndalama: Mapindu azaumoyo.
Ukwati nthawi zambiri umanenedwa kuti ndiwothandiza paumoyo wako, koma kodi izi ndi zoona? Ndipo kodi amuna ndi akazi amapindula mofanana?
Amuna okwatira athanzi
Inde, pali chowonadi china kumbuyo kwa lingaliro loti ukwati ungakupangitseni kukhala wathanzi - koma ndiwodziwika kwa amuna okwatira. Kafukufuku wina waku 127,545 wachikulire waku America adayang'ana momwe ukwati ungakhudzire thanzi ndipo zidadzetsa zodabwitsa. Malinga ndi kafukufukuyu, amuna okwatira ali ndi thanzi labwino kuposa amuna omwe adasudzulidwa, amasiye, kapena osakwatiwa. Zowonjezera zowonjezera zidaphatikizapo:
- Amuna okwatirana amakhala nthawi yayitali kuposa amuna opanda okwatirana
- Amuna omwe amakwatirana atakwanitsa zaka 25 amakhala ndi zabwino zambiri kuposa amuna omwe adakwatirana osakwana 25
- Kutalika kumene mwamuna ali wokwatira, mpata waukulu wopitirira amuna ena osakwatira
Vuto ndilakuti, ndizovuta kudziwa ngati banja lokha ndilo limathandizira izi. Zikuwoneka kuti pali kulumikizana kowonekera bwino pakati paukwati ndi thanzi labwino kwa amuna, koma zinthu zina zitha kukhala zikugwira ntchito.
Mwachitsanzo, amuna okwatira sakonda kukhala osungulumwa kuposa amuna osakwatira, ndipo kusungulumwa kumatha kuwononga thanzi.
Ndikothekanso kuti amuna okwatira azikhala achangu kwambiri komanso adye bwino kuposa amuna osakwatira, zomwe zitha kuthandizanso kukhala athanzi.
Mukakwatirana, okwatirana amalimbikitsana kuti azipita kuchipatala pafupipafupi, ndipo sizingatheke kuti wina azikangana chifukwa chodwaladwala.
Khalidwe loopsa nthawi zambiri limatsika amuna akamangiriza mfundo, ndipo okwatirana nthawi zambiri amapindula ndi moyo wapamwamba kuposa momwe angakhalire osakwatira.
Amayi okwatiwa mopanda thanzi
Kodi akazi okwatiwa amasangalalanso ndi amuna okwatiwa? Tsoka ilo, kafukufuku akuwonetsa zosiyana. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi University College London, London School of Economics, ndi The London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, azimayi okwatiwa sakupeza madalitso ofanana ndi omwe ukwati umawonekera kwa amuna.
Kafukufukuyu anapeza kuti kusakwatira sikuwononga kwambiri amayi kuposa amuna.
Azimayi azaka zapakati omwe sanakwatirane amakhala ndi mwayi wofanana ndi omwe ali ndi akazi okwatiwa.
Amayi osakwatiwawa anali ndi chiopsezo chotsika kwambiri chokhala ndi mavuto ampweya kapena mavuto amtima kuposa amuna osakwatiwa.
Nanga bwanji banja?
Kafukufuku amene watchulidwa pamwambapa adapeza kuti kusudzulana sikunakhudze thanzi lamtsogolo kwa amuna kapena akazi omwe asudzulana malinga ngati apeza mnzake wina wazaka zambiri. Ngakhale kafukufuku wakale adapeza kuti amuna adayamba kuchepa atasudzulana, kafukufukuyu watsopano akuwulula kuti thanzi la amuna kwanthawi yayitali likuwoneka ngati likubwerera momwe analili asanasudzule.
Ponena za maukwati osasangalala? Amatha kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zoipa paumoyo wanu. Kafukufuku waku Britain aku 9,011 ogwira ntchito zaboma adapeza kulumikizana pakati pamaukwati opanikiza ndi 34% kuwonjezeka pachiwopsezo cha matenda amtima.
Zomwe izi zikutanthauza banja
Kodi zotsatirazi zikuyenera kukuthandizani posankha kukwatira? Osati kwenikweni. Kumbukirani kuti palibe amene amadziwa zenizeni zakukhala m'banja zomwe zimakhudza thanzi. Ndipo ngakhale maubwino azaumoyo adawonedwa mwa ambiri omwe akuchita nawo kafukufukuyu, pali anthu ambiri omwe samapeza zabwino zomwe zimawoneka mwa omwe akuchita nawo kafukufukuyu. Zaumoyo siziyenera kukhala gawo lolamulira posankha kukwatira.
Ngati mukufuna kukwatirana, maubwino monga kukhala ndi bwenzi lokhalitsa kwa nthawi yayitali komanso kudzipereka kwa wina ndi mnzake zimaposa mfundo yoti banja lingakhudze thanzi lanu.
Kukwatira chifukwa mumakonda wokondedwa wanu, ndikutsatira zifukwa zanu zokwatirana ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Zomwe muyenera kuchita, komabe, ndikuyika patsogolo thanzi lanu. Izi sizikutanthauza kungoyang'ana pakudya pang'ono kuti muwoneke bwino paukwati - m'malo mwake, khalani ndi cholinga chanthawi yayitali. Kuyambira pazakudya komanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kupita kwa dokotala pafupipafupi ndikulimbikitsidwa, pali njira zambiri zomwe mungakulitsire thanzi lanu ndikuchepetsa chiopsezo chaumoyo wanu monga mavuto amtima.
Ukwati ungakulimbikitseni kukhala wathanzi popeza mudzakhala ndi mnzanu pambali panu. Onetsetsani kuti mnzanuyo akuchita nawo izi, kaya mumadalira iwo kuti akulimbikitseni kapena asankha kusintha moyo wanu wathanzi.
Mukapeza bwenzi loyenera, ndiye kuti banja limatha kukhala chosangalatsa ndikusintha moyo. Kubetcha kwanu kwabwino kwambiri? Osangoganizira zaubwino wathanzi kapena zabwino zina zomwe mungapeze m'banja. M'malo mwake, mukwatirane chifukwa zikumveka bwino komanso chifukwa inu ndi mnzanu mukufuna kukwatirana.