Zamkati
- Ukwati wogonthana motsutsana ndi ukwati wachikhalidwe
- Kodi banja lofanana ndi chiyani ndipo ndilofunika bwanji?
- Ukwati wopatsirana tanthauzo
- Kuthetsa kusamvana
Ukwati wogonana ndi womwe umati ndiwu, kufanana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ndiwo kutsutsa kwachindunji kapena ukalamba kapena ukalamba. Zimatanthawuza kufanana mofanana pazomaliza, osati mgwirizano wapabanja / kholo lomwe lili ndiupangiri.
Anthu ambiri ali ndi malingaliro olakwika akuti banja lofanana ndi pomwe wina amapanga chisankho atakambirana ndi mnzake. Ndi mtundu wofewa waukwati wofanana, komabe sunafanane kwenikweni ngati m'modzi yekha ali ndi mawu omaliza pazinthu zofunika m'banja. Anthu ambiri amakonda mtundu wofewa chifukwa kapangidwe kamene kamateteza mikangano yayikulu pomwe awiriwo sagwirizana pankhaniyi.
Banja lachikhristu lofanana limathetsa vutoli poika banjali pansi pa Mulungu (kapena molondola, atalangizidwa ndi mpingo wachikhristu) kuti apange voti.
Ukwati wogonthana motsutsana ndi ukwati wachikhalidwe
Zikhalidwe zambiri zimatsatira zomwe zimatchedwa ukwati wachikhalidwe. Mwamuna ndiye mutu wabanja komanso wosamalira banja. Zovuta zofunika kuyika chakudya patebulo zimapatsa mwamunayo ufulu wosankha zochita pabanja.
Kenako mkazi amasamalira banja, zomwe zimaphatikizapo kupangitsa zinthu kukhala bwino kwa mwamuna wotopa komanso maudindo olera ana. Ntchito yomwe mungaganizire ndiyofanana m'masiku omwe munthu amafunika kulima nthaka kuyambira kutuluka kwa dzuwa mpaka kulowa kwa dzuwa (Ntchito yokonza nyumba siyidachitike, yesani ndi ana aang'ono). Komabe, sizili choncho masiku ano. Zosintha ziwiri zofunika kwambiri mdera zimathandizira kuti ukwati ukhale wofanana.
Kusintha kwachuma - Kugwiritsa ntchito chuma kumakulitsanso zinthu zofunika pamoyo. Kuyanjana ndi a Joneses sikungatheke chifukwa chazanema. Zinapanga zochitika pomwe maanja onse akuyenera kugwira ntchito kuti alipire ngongole. Ngati onse awiri tsopano akubweretsa nyama yankhumba kunyumba, zimachotsa ufulu wabanja lakale lotsogolera.
Urbanization - Malinga ndi Statistics, kuchuluka kwa anthu 82% akukhala m'mizinda. Kukhazikika m'mizinda kumatanthauzanso kuti ambiri mwa ogwira ntchito salimanso mpaka pantchitoyi. Zidakulitsanso maphunziro azimayi. Kuwonjezeka kwa amuna ndi akazi ogwira ntchito zoyera kunasokoneza zifukwa zamabanja akale.
Malo amakono asintha zochitika zamabanja, makamaka mdera lotukuka kwambiri. Amayi akulandila zochuluka monga amuna, pomwe ena amalandira zochuluka. Amuna amatenga nawo mbali kwambiri pakulera ana komanso ntchito zapakhomo. Onse awiri akukumana ndi mavuto ndi mphotho za gawo lina la jenda.
Amayi ambiri amakhalanso ndi maphunziro ofanana kapena opitilira muyeso ngati amuna awo. Amayi amakono amadziwa zambiri pamoyo, kulingalira, komanso kuganiza mozama monga amuna. Dziko lapansi lakonzeka tsopano kuti likhale ndi ukwati wosiyana.
Kodi banja lofanana ndi chiyani ndipo ndilofunika bwanji?
Zowona, sichoncho. Palinso zina zomwe zimakhudzidwa monga zachipembedzo komanso chikhalidwe chomwe chimalepheretsa izi. Sizabwino kapena zoyipa kuposa maukwati achikhalidwe. Ndizosiyana.
Ngati mungaganizire mozama zaubwino ndi zoyipa zaukwati woterewo popanda kuwonjezera malingaliro monga chilungamo chachitukuko, ukazi, ndi ufulu wofanana. Kenako mudzazindikira kuti ndi njira ziwiri zokha.
Ngati tingalingalire kuti maphunziro awo ndi momwe amapezera ndalama nzofanana, palibe chifukwa chomwe zingakhale zabwino kapena zoyipa kuposa maukwati achikhalidwe. Zonsezi ndizofunika pamalingaliro a awiriwo, onse okwatirana komanso aliyense payekha.
Ukwati wopatsirana tanthauzo
Ndizofanana ndi mgwirizano wofanana. Onse awiri amathandizira chimodzimodzi ndipo malingaliro awo ali ndi kulemera komweko pakupanga chisankho. Palinso maudindo oti achite, koma sikuti amangotengera magawo azikhalidwe, koma kusankha.
Sizokhudza maudindo amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma mphamvu yakovotera pakupanga chisankho. Ngakhale banja litakhala kuti limapangidwa mchikhalidwe ndi mwamuna wopezera banja chakudya komanso mkazi wokhala pakhomo, koma zisankho zonse zazikulu zimakambidwa limodzi, lingaliro lililonse ndilofunika monga linzake, ndiye kuti limakhalabe pansi pamalingaliro ofanana okwatirana.
Otsatira ambiri amakono aukwati wotere amalankhula za maudindo a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, atha kukhala gawo lawo, koma sikofunikira. Mutha kukhala ndi mphamvu zosintha ndi mkazi wopezera banja chakudya komanso gulu la nyumba, koma ngati zosankha zonse zikuchitikabe ngati banja lomwe lili ndi malingaliro ofanana, ndiye kuti ukwatiwo ndiwofanana. Ambiri mwa omwe akuthandizira masiku ano amaiwala kuti "maudindo achikhalidwe" ndi njira yogawana maudindo chimodzimodzi.
Maudindo a amuna ndi akazi ndi ntchito chabe pazinthu zomwe ziyenera kuchitidwa kuti banja liziyenda bwino. Ngati muli ndi ana okulirapo, amatha kuchita zonsezi. Sizofunika monga momwe anthu ena amaganizira.
Kuthetsa kusamvana
Chotsatira chachikulu cha mgwirizano wofanana pakati pa anthu awiri ndikuthetsa chisankho. Nthawi zina pamakhala mayankho awiri anzeru, othandiza, komanso amakhalidwe abwino pamavuto amodzi. Komabe, chimodzi kapena chimzake chitha kuchitidwa pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana.
Yankho labwino kwambiri ndi loti banjali likambirane nkhaniyi ndi katswiri wachitatu wosalowerera ndale. Angakhale bwenzi, banja, mlangizi waluso, kapena mtsogoleri wachipembedzo.
Pofunsa woweruza wabwino, onetsetsani kuti mwakhazikitsa malamulowo. Choyamba, onse awiri amavomereza kuti munthu amene akumufikira ndiye munthu wabwino kwambiri woti amufunse za vutoli. Akhozanso kutsutsana pa munthu wotere, kenako pitani mndandanda wanu mpaka mutapeza wina wovomerezeka kwa nonse.
Chotsatira munthuyo akudziwa kuti mukubwera ngati banja ndipo mufunse "katswiri" wawo. Iwo ndiwo Woweruza womaliza, Jury, ndi Woweruza. Alipo ngati mavoti osalowerera ndale. Ayenera kumvera mbali zonse ndikupanga chisankho. Katswiriyu akamaliza kunena kuti, "Zili ndi inu ..." kapena china chake, aliyense adataya nthawi yawo.
Pamapeto pake, chisankho chikapangidwa, chimakhala chomaliza. Osakakamira, palibe khothi lamilandu, komanso osakwiya. Khazikitsani ndikusunthira ku vuto lotsatira.
Ukwati wopatukana umakhala ndi zotsika ndi zotsika monga maukwati achikhalidwe, monga ndanenera kale, sizabwino kapena zoyipa, ndizosiyana. Monga banja, ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi banja loterolo, banja lanu likumbukire kuti zimangofunika pamene zisankho zazikulu ziyenera kupangidwa. China chilichonse sichiyenera kugawidwa chimodzimodzi kuphatikiza maudindo. Komabe, pakakhala mkangano pa amene ayenera kuchita, chimakhala chisankho chachikulu ndiyeno malingaliro a mwamuna ndi mkazi amakhala ofunika.