Zamkati
- Mbali yoyipa ndi mbali yabwino
- Mbali yakuda ya moyo
- Landirani mthunzi wanu
- Momwe mungapangire mbali yanu yamdima
- Mawu omaliza
Kodi mudawonapo momwe mwana wanu amawonekera kukhala ndi umunthu wosiyana womwe umatuluka munthawi zosiyanasiyana?
Tonsefe tili ndi "mbali yakuda" - "mphamvu yathu yakuda," mwachitsanzo, kusintha malingaliro, mthunzi, chikumbumtima- chathu chathu Mr. Hyde. Ndipo, nthawi zina timayesetsa kuwongolera mwana wathu kugwiritsa ntchito zomwezo.
Chofunikira ndikuti muzindikire mbali yabwino ndi yoyipa ndikumbatira mbali yanu yamdima.
Umu ndi momwe tiyenera kuyesera kudzichiritsa tokha. Mwa kukumbatira mbali yanu yamdima, mudzathandizanso ana.
Uwu ndi umodzi mwamaluso ofunikira olerera omwe tikuyenera kuwagwiritsa ntchito kuti tikhale olera abwino.
Mbali yoyipa ndi mbali yabwino
Kuti tiwonetsetse kupezeka kwa munthu woipa uja, taganizirani malingaliro anu othokoza, Khrisimasi, komanso Hava Chaka Chatsopano- "sindidzadzazanso ndi chakudya ...."
Ndiye, pamene ora likuyandikira pafupi, pang'onopang'ono, mbali yathu yamdima ikutuluka, "Chidutswa chimodzi chokha cha pie a-la-mode ..". Pambuyo pake, mumadziuza chiyani?
"Mukuyipa mwakuti, (onjezerani dzina lanu posachedwa) simudzalamuliranso thupi ili!"
Ndipo tatsimikiza mtima kukhala odziletsa komanso kudziletsa tokha. Kodi mudayesapo njira iyi ndi ana anu? Sizigwira ntchito!
Vuto ndilakuti, gawo lathuli limaseka tikamenyedwa. Mwinamwake mwawona ana anu akuyang'ana mbali iyi.
Ntchito yathu yamithunzi (ndi ana athu) ndikupanduka ndikuphwanya malamulo kuti tisakhale okhwima komanso olekanitsidwa ndi lingaliro limodzi.
Kodi wolakwira uyu ndi ndani yemwe amabwera nthawi yolakwika kwambiri ndikulepheretsa zolinga zanu zolimba kuti "mukhale abwino"? Pamene mudali wachinyamata wina adakuwuzani kuti, "Ayi, ayi! Simukuyenera! ”
Potero kudabadwa gawo lanu lomwe mudati, "O inde, ndingathe! Ndipo sungandiletse! ” Pamene amakukankhirani paulendo wanu, m'pamenenso mumakumba kwambiri.
Onerani kanemayu kuti mumvetsetse bwino zimango zamdima. Kanemayo akuthandizani kuti mumvetsetse bwino kuti mugwirizane ndi mdima wanu.
Mbali yakuda ya moyo
Timasinthiratu zokumana nazo zathu zaubwana, ndipo amapanga zomwe tili tsopano. Makamaka timakhala ndi makolo athu komanso olamulira.
Makolo anu amakhala mkati mwa chikumbumtima chanu ndipo angathe akuthamangitseni. Komanso, ngati mumakankhira mwana wanu, mumalimbitsa kukana kwawo.
Tikaganiza kwambiri kuti gawo lathu (kapena ana athu) ndiloyipa, pomwe amatithamangira mosazindikira. Pali "gawo la makolo" lanu lomwe limati, "Tikudya. Palibenso maswiti! ”
Imadzutsa "gawo la mwana" wanu yemwe akuti, "Inde, ndikhoza, ndipo simungathe kundiletsa!" Tangopanga kulimbana kwamphamvu mkati mwathu.
Zimachitika ndi chakudya, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mowa, kugonana, ntchito, kulimbitsa thupi- ukangotchula, titha kuchita chilichonse kotero kuti ndi "choyipa" kwa ife.
Yankho lake ndikulimbana kotani uku?
Landirani mthunzi wanu
Choyamba, ingoganizirani kuti psyche (ndi mwana wanu) ali ngati pendulum. Tili ndi mbali yathu yoyipa komanso mbali yabwino. Tikamayesetsa kusiyanitsa machitidwe athu (kapena mwana wathu) mbali "yabwino", m'pamenenso pendulum yathu idzasunthira mbali inayo.
Ndi yin ndi yang, imaziphatikiza zonse chifukwa zonse ndizovomerezeka komanso zofunikira kuti munthu akhale ndi moyo. Inde inde, kumbatirani mbali yanu yamdima!
Nthabwala zakuthambo ndikuti zomwe timadana nazo mwa ena ndizo zomwe sitimavomereza mwa ife tokha.
Kuti muchepetse kusinthana kuti mukhale olimba m'moyo, nthawi zina kumakhala koyenera kuloleza zina zomwe mumadzikana nokha. Pangani mgwirizano ndi inu nokha kuti mukhale ndi chidutswa cha mkate usiku uliwonse mukatha kudya.
Ndiye simusowa kuti mupite ku "nkhumba zakutchire" (palibe chilango chofunira) mukamamwa mowa wambiri chifukwa simukudziwa kuti mudzadziloletsanso kukhala ndi pie.
Onani zosowa zoyambira kwambiri. Dzifunseni kuti, “Ndi chosowa chiti chomwe sichikwaniritsidwa mu ubalewu? Kodi ndine wokonzeka kunena kuti 'ayi' pa khalidweli, potero ndikupanga mwayi m'moyo wanga kuchita china chabwino? ”
Yang'anani mozama kuposa momwe mwana wanu amatsutsira. Ndi chosowa chanji chomwe machitidwe awo amayesera kuti akwaniritse?
Momwe mungapangire mbali yanu yamdima
Sinthani dzina "loipa" ndi dzina lolemekeza. Khalidwe lathu loipa limatilepheretsa kuwona zovuta zathu pomwe sitinakonzekere kuziona. Patsani mbali yanu yamdima dzina lokongola lachi India monga Rainbow Fires, kapena dzina lachi Greek lodziwika bwino monga Hercules.
Yambani kulingalira za mbali yanu yamdima ngati chinthu chomwe chakutetezani ku zowawa zanu. Landirani mbali yanu yamdima ngati gawo lofunikira mwa inu lomwe liri ndi choti munene.
Nkhondo yathu yamkati imatilepheretsa kuzinthu zazikulu. Ngati tikupitirizabe kulimbana ndi mawonekedwe a thupi, kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa, kugwira ntchito mopitirira muyeso, mavuto amgwirizano, kulephera, ndikuopa kuchita bwino, sitiyenera kuyang'ana vuto lalikulu.
Nkhani zazikuluzikulu zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri, ndipo aliyense wa inu ali kale ndi lingaliro labwino lazomwe ali.
Ndicho chinthu chomwe simumakonda kulingalira za zomwe zidachitika muunyamata wanu, nthawi ina kapena mobwerezabwereza monga kugonana pachibale kapena china chobisika ngati kholo losavomerezeka lomwe ulemu wanu sungawonekere, womwe ungakhale wosokoneza mtima.
Ngati muli okonzeka kuyamba kuyang'ana pazomwe zimakupweteketsani, ndibwino kuti mupeze upangiri kwa akatswiri chifukwa uwu ungakhale ulendo wowopsa komanso wosadziwika.
Mukazindikira, kukonda, ndikupanga mthunzi wanu, sudzakuthamangitsani mosazindikira kapena kutuluka m'njira zosayenera. Simungakopenso anthu kuti azikuwonetsani, monga ana anu.
Mwachibadwa mudzavomereza kwambiri ana anu, potero muchepetsa zovuta zambiri zamaudindo. Dzichitireni chifundo mukadzipeza mukuchita zoyipa "."
Mawu omaliza
Dzipatseni nokha chikondi chopanda malire ndipo tsimikizani kuti muphunzire pazolakwitsa zanu. Ikani malire oyenera pa zomwe zili zoyenera kukusamalirani, komanso ana anu.
Osadzimenya wekha! Kenako mthunzi wanu sukuyenera kubwerera mobisa ndikudikirira mwayi woti mutuluke.
Akatswiri anzeru amati kuti tikhale okhazikika, osasunthika, komanso ophatikizika, tiyenera kukonda mbali zathu zonse, "zabwino" ndi "zoyipa."
Pakadali pano, kumbukirani mbali yanu yamdima. Mulole Mphamvuyo ikhale nanu!