Zamkati
- Kudalira kwamphamvu motsutsana ndi chikondi
- Chikondi: kodi ndikumverera?
- Mafunso othetsera mwambiwo - kudalira kwamalingaliro motsutsana ndi chikondi
- Q1. Kodi ndinu okondwa mukakhala limodzi?
- Q2. Kodi mukusangalalanso ndi nthawi yanu "ine"?
- Q3. Kodi lingaliro lakusudzulana limakupatsani mantha?
- Q4. Dziko lako lakula - Kodi chikondi ichi?
- Momwe mungakhalire odziyimira pawokha pamalingaliro?
- 1. Dzifufuzeni
- 2. Pangani chisangalalo chanu
- 3. Khalani nthawi yokha
- 4. Kuyankhula modzilimbitsa
Ambiri aife nthawi zonse timakhala osagwirizana pakudziwitsa momwe akumvera.
Kulimbirana mphamvu pakudalira kwamalingaliro ndi chikondi kwasokoneza okonda ambiri kukhulupirira kuti momwe amamvera ndi wokondedwa wawo ndi chikondi pomwe, ndi nkhani yodalira mtima.
Kafukufuku akuti kudalira kwamalingaliro sichinthu china koma chiwonetsero cha machitidwe osokoneza bongo muubwenzi wapakati ndi wokonda kutengekaganizirani udindo wapansi kusunga chikondi cha wokondedwa wawo. Omwewo / anthu amatha kutaya umunthu wawo kwathunthu.
Tikayamba kukondana, timakondanso munthu ameneyo.
Tsopano, kukonda vs kuphatikana kumaphatikizapo izi ubale uliwonse uli ndi mitundu iwiri ya zomata - zolumikizira zopanda thanzi.
Koma awa zolumikizira zabwino ndi gawo la Njira yokhazikika yolumikizira chikondi, ndiyeno pamakhala zolumikizana zosayenera zomwe zikuwonetsa mtundu wodalira munthu yemwe samapanga malo abwino oti ubale wachikondi ukhale wabwino.
Tiyeni tiwone tanthauzo la kukhala wodalira pamunthu pa munthu, komanso momwe zimawonekera muubwenzi wachikondi.
Kudalira kwamphamvu motsutsana ndi chikondi
Tsopano, zimatanthauzanji tikamanena zakukondana? Pali mzere wochepa wosiyana womwe umakhalapo pakati pa kukondana ndi kudalira kwamalingaliro.
Kodi chikondi ndichotengeka? Chabwino! Chikondi chimakhudza kwambiri ndipo munthu / anthu omwe ali mchikondi amakonda kumva kukondana ndi okondedwa wawo. Kukhala wokondana ndi winawake sizikutanthauza kuti mumadalira iwo kuti akuvomerezeni.
Kudalira chikondi kapena kudalira kwam'maganizo kumachitika mukangoyamba kuzidalira kuti zikuthandizeni kudziwa kuti ndinu ndani.
Ubale wodalira pamalingaliro samawonedwa ngati mtundu wabwino wolumikizana, chifukwa mulibe kudzimva kapena kudziyimira pawokha. Mumakhala wodalira wokondedwa wanu ndipo mumachita chilichonse kuti mukhalebe pachibwenzi, ngakhale sichingakhale chosangalatsa chifukwa mumaopa kukhala nokha.
Chikondi: kodi ndikumverera?
Monga tanena kale, chikondi ndimaganizo. Chikondi chimasefukira ndi malingaliro, potero, zimamvekera pamalingaliro. Koma chifukwa chikondi chimayambira mu ubongo, pali fayilo ya chinthu cha sayansi kwa icho.
Ochita kafukufuku adayesapo kuyambitsa sayansi kumbuyo kwachikondi koma alephera kuzindikira chifukwa chomwe timakondera munthu wina osati wina. Koma amaganiza kuti timafunafuna anzathu omwe amatikumbutsa za zomwe tidakumana nazo tili ana.
Chifukwa chake ngati tidakulira m'banja losasangalala, timakonda kukopa anzathu omwe angawonetse zomwe zachitikazo, poyesa kukonza izi ngati wamkulu.
M'malo mwake, ngati tidakulira m'banja losangalala, tidzapeza anzathu omwe amawonetsa chisangalalo.
Pulogalamu ya kuyendetsa kukondana kwamalingaliro kumasonkhezeredwa ndi chisangalalo, motero mwanjira imeneyi, chikondi ndimangotengeka, chomwe chimatipatsa chisangalalo chachikulu kuti tikhale nacho. Koma musaiwale kuti pali mankhwala omwe amachititsa kusungaku, makamaka dopamine ndi serotonin, zomwe zimasefukira ubongo wathu tikamawona kapena kuganiza za zomwe timakonda.
Awo mankhwala amatipangitsa kumva bwino.
Mafunso othetsera mwambiwo - kudalira kwamalingaliro motsutsana ndi chikondi
Kodi tingasiyanitse bwanji pakati pa chikondi choyenera ndi kuphatikana kosayenera? Nthawi zina mzere wosiyana umakhala wosavuta. Koma ngati mukudabwa, dzifunseni mafunso otsatirawa -
Q1. Kodi ndinu okondwa mukakhala limodzi?
Mayankho. Ngati nthawi yanu yocheza yatha, Kuyankhula zamtsogolo kapena kungogwirana chanza, ndi chikondi.
Koma, ngati nthawi yanu yocheza imathera kukangana kapena kupewa wina ndi mnzake, ndipo mukupita kumutu kwanu nthawi iliyonse mnzanu akakukhumudwitsani, mwina ndikudalira.
Q2. Kodi mukusangalalanso ndi nthawi yanu "ine"?
Mayankho. Ngati mumakonda nthawi yanu kupatula mnzanu, gwiritsani ntchito Limbikitsani thanzi lanu, Kuwona abwenzi, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, onse akuganiza mwachikondi nthawi yotsatira yomwe mudzakhale ndi mnzanu, ichi ndi chikondi.
Ngati nthawi yopatukana imakupangitsani kukhala ndi mantha ndipo mukuganiza kuti mnzanuyo apeza wina pomwe mudapatukana, kukusiyani, uku ndikumadalira. Osati malo abwino oti mutu wanu ukhale, sichoncho?
Q3. Kodi lingaliro lakusudzulana limakupatsani mantha?
Mayankho. Ngati lingaliro la kutha limakupatsani mantha, kukwiya, komanso mantha chifukwa simungathe kukumana ndi moyo nokha, uku ndikudalira kwamalingaliro.
Ngati mukuyang'ana kutha kwa banja ngati chinthu choyenera kuchita chifukwa chibwenzicho sichikukwaniritsanso, ngakhale nonse mukugwira ntchito, izi zikutanthauza kuti mukugwira ntchito kuchokera pamalo achikondi.
Q4. Dziko lako lakula - Kodi chikondi ichi?
Mayankho. Ngati anu dziko lakula kwambiri chifukwa cha ubale wanu, ichi ndi chikondi.
Ngati, mbali inayi, dziko lanu layamba kuchepa — mumangochita zinthu ndi mnzanu, kudzipatula kuti musamachite zinthu ndi anzanu kapena zokonda zina — mumadalira nkhawa zanu.
Wanu ubale umakupatsani mtendere wochuluka, chisangalalo, ndi chisangalalo zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ndichikondi. Mosiyana ndi izi, ubale wanu umakupangitsani kupsinjika, nsanje, komanso kudzikayikira, ndiye kuti zimangotanthauza kuti mumadalira.
Mwadzizindikiritsa kuti ndinu odalira pamalingaliro. Tsopano mumakhala bwanji osadalira nkhawa?
Momwe mungakhalire odziyimira pawokha pamalingaliro?
Nazi njira zina kuti mukhale odziyimira pawokha, ndikukula kuti mukhale wathanzi!
1. Dzifufuzeni
Khalani owona mtima yang'anani ubale wanu wakale ndi wapano ndipo zindikirani mayendedwe.
Kodi onse akulozera kudalira kwamalingaliro? Dzifunseni nokha chifukwa chiyani mumafuna kuvomerezedwa ndi ena, chifukwa chiyani mumawopa kukhala nokha? Kodi izi zikukukumbutsani kena kake kuyambira ubwana wanu?
2. Pangani chisangalalo chanu
Yambani kuchita zinthu kunja kwa chibwenzi chanu, ndipo osapempha chilolezo kwa mnzanu.
Zilibe kanthu ngati akuvomereza ntchito yanu kapena ayi; chomwe chili chofunikira ndikuyamba kuwonjezera zochitika pamoyo wanu zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mukhale osangalala ndikukhalitsa ndi thanzi lanu. Simusowa kuyamba kwakukulu — yesetsani kuwonjezera kuyenda pang'ono panja tsiku lililonse. Nokha.
3. Khalani nthawi yokha
Anthu odalira chikondi amavutika kukhala okha.
Kotero khalani ndi nthawi yokhayo tsiku lililonse, nthawi yomwe mwangokhala mukudzizindikira. Mutha kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi ino kusinkhasinkha kapena kumangomvera dziko lanu ... ngati mungathe kuchita izi panja, ndibwino kwambiri!
Mukayamba kuchita mantha, samalani ndi kupuma kwanu kuyesa kupumula. Cholinga ndikuzindikira kuti kukhala wekha si malo owopsa.
4. Kuyankhula modzilimbitsa
Pangani mawu ena atsopano kuti muziziuza tsiku lililonse. “Ndine woopsa.” “Ndine golidi.” "Ndine wokhoza komanso wamphamvu" "Ndiyenera chikondi chabwino".
Mauthengawa omwe akudziyimira pawokha akhala othandiza kuti muthe kudalira wina kuti mukhale osangalala ndikudzidalira nokha.