Zamkati
- Zovuta zakusakhulupirika m'maganizo
- Kodi nchifukwa ninji kusakhulupirika m'maganizo kuli ponseponse?
- Palibe 'kubera' chifukwa palibe 'kugonana'
Kusakhulupirika ndi lingaliro losavuta. Wina amasankha kuchoka pachibwenzi chawo choyambirira. Kusakhulupirika kwamaganizidwe sikumveka bwino chifukwa kulakwitsa sikungogwira ntchito pamaubale amunthu. Osati izo zokha, koma nthawi zina kusakhulupirika kwamaganizidwe sikuwoneka ngati kulakwa konse.
Lingaliro la kusakhulupirika m'maganizo lingagwire ntchito pamaubwenzi apabanja-kaya ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha-komanso zochitika, ntchito, ma exs, abale, abale apabanja, zosangalatsa komanso ngakhale ana. Pali gulu lonse la okwatirana ku East Coast omwe amadzitcha kuti Wall Street Widows kapena Widowers. Ichi ndi chitsanzo chosakhulupirika pakati pawo pachimake.
Zovuta zakusakhulupirika m'maganizo
Kusakhulupirika m'maganizo ndi mkhalidwe uliwonse pamene kusowa kwa chidwi kwa m'modzi mwaomwe kumasokoneza kukulitsa gawo lina laubwenzi woyamba. Kutalikirana kumeneku kumalepheretsa mnzakeyo kupezeka. Zimakhudzanso mtundu waubwenzi wonse.
Mwachidziwikire, mawonekedwe owonekera kwambiri osakhulupirika amakhudza munthu wina. Kaya ali pafupi, kapena ali patali, munthuyo amalimbikitsa kapena amadzipereka kuti achite zachinyengo kapena zogonana ndi munthu wina. Kwenikweni, ndikuphwanya komwe kumabwezeredwa, koma osachitapo kanthu.
Kodi nchifukwa ninji kusakhulupirika m'maganizo kuli ponseponse?
Zinthu zochepa ndizowona: choyamba, kusinthika kwa kulumikizana komanso kuthekera kolankhulana ndi pafupifupi aliyense, kulikonse kwalimbikitsa kwambiri mwayi wosakhulupirika pakati pa anthu. Chachiwiri, chikhalidwe cha anthu ndichoti, osasiyidwa osayang'aniridwa ndipo akapatsidwa mwayi, mwayiwu, ungagwiritsidwe ntchito.
China choyenera kulingalira ndi lingaliro lonse lakusowa, kapena, kupanga mawu oti, 'kusakhalapo kumapangitsa mtima kukulira kukondwere'. Pankhani yakusakhulupirika pakati pamunthu, zili ngati, 'kupezeka kumapangitsa nkhani yabodza, yachikondi yomwe mtima umagula'. Kukhazikika kwa kulumikizana kwamagetsi kumalimbitsa ubale wamtunduwu ndikulimbikitsanso kusokonekera kwake. Chodabwitsa, pomwe kusapezeka kwa wokonda kumakulitsa chikhumbo, kulimbikira kwa wokonda-patali kumamusandutsa mankhwalawo.
Chifukwa chake pali njira, kuchulukitsitsa kwa kuthekera kulumikizana, ndi mwayi, womwe umayendetsedwa, mwanjira ina, ndikulumikizana kochulukirako.
Kupatula pazomwe zikuwonekeratu kuti munthu angakhale pachibwenzi chake choyambirira, pali zinthu zitatu zomwe zimawoneka ngati zofunika kwambiri pakukhala wosakhulupirika:
- Mantha
- Chitetezo
- Mulingo womwe amachitirana wina ndi mnzake
Manthawo ndi mantha osafuna kugwidwa 'akuchita china' atagona mwachinyengo pachitetezo chomwe chimapangidwa ndi osachita 'chilichonse'.
Kuyika pamalingaliro awa, kusakhulupirika kwamalingaliro kumamveka bwino. Palibe chowopseza kugwidwa ndi wogwira naye ntchito, wolera ana kapena womanga kontrakitala, mosiyana ndi zibwenzi zosaloledwa. Kuphatikiza apo, mwayi wocheza ndi munthu amene mwakumana naye pa intaneti mutatha kucheza ndi mnzanu, ana anu, ntchito ndi ntchito zapakhomo nawonso ndizochepa. Chifukwa chake, ubale wa cyber umangokhala womangika pamalingaliro osati china chilichonse.
Mukafika pomwepo ngakhale mutakhala ndi zifukwa zomveka, kusakhulupirika pamalingaliro ndi chisonyezero cha kufunika kapena kufunitsitsa kuti musakhale pachibwenzi, pomwe simukuchokapo. Chodabwitsachi chili pamtima pa nkhaniyi, ndipo ndizomwe zimatanthauzira kusakhulupirika m'malingaliro ngati chinthu chosafanana ndendende, koma pagulu lofanana ndi, kusakhulupirika.
Palibe 'kubera' chifukwa palibe 'kugonana'
China chomwe chimapangitsa kuti zinthu zikhale zovuta kwambiri ndikuti, kwa mnzake wosakhulupirika, palibe tanthauzo lililonse la kulakwa chifukwa, m'malingaliro ake, palibe chomwe chikuchitika. Mwachidziwikire, palibe 'kubera' chifukwa palibe kugonana.
Kusakhulupirika kosakhala pakati pa anthu kumatha-ndipo nthawi zambiri kumakhalako-kumalingalira ngati kuli kofunikira: maola ambiri, kupumula, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndi zina zambiri.
Zonsezi zimamupangitsa mnzake kukhala ndi chidwi chofuna kuthana ndi mkwiyo, kupwetekedwa ndi kukanidwa zomwe zachitika chifukwa cha chibwenzi, pomwe winayo amangokhalira kunyoza omwe akumva chisoni ndipo samapeza zomwe zili vuto lalikulu. Kupatula apo, taphunzitsidwa kuyambira tili achichepere kuti tikamasewera, pamakhala zotsatira. Ambiri aife timamvetsetsa izi, ndi momwe chonsecho 'ngati ndikuchita zinazake, koma sindikuchita kalikonse, vuto ndi chiyani ndipo mukuchita mopitilira muyeso' kukangana kumatenga miyendo yake.
Kusakhulupirika kwam'maganizo kumachotsedwa pazotsatira zakukhudzika chifukwa chomwe timatengera zinthu zaulere kuofesi. Timachita izi chifukwa sizimapweteka aliyense. Koma izi sizikusintha kuti ndikuba. Momwemonso kusakhulupirika kwamalingaliro komabe kumatha kuwonedwa koma ndikunyenga.