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Ndi anthu angati kwenikweni kukudziwani?
Ndizovuta kunena, sichoncho? Ambiri a ife timayesetsa kupanga zokopa pagulu. Ngakhale m'mabanja athu apamtima komanso ochezeka, tili mbali ya kukongola konyenga motsutsana ndi zowonadi zoyipa.
Kudziulula tokha kwa munthu wina ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zowopsa zomwe tingachite. Ndingakhale wokonzeka kubetcha kuti anthu ambiri angasankhe kuchita chilichonse kupatula kuwonetsa munthu wina zenizeni, zosaphika.
Limbani ndi Mike Tyson kapena muwonetse mkazi wanu the zenizeni inu? Mukudziwa kuti anyamata ena angasankhe kudumphadumpha ndi Iron Mike m'malo mokambirana momasuka komanso moona mtima ndi njira ina.
Bungee kudumpha kuchokera ku Golden Gate Bridge kapena kuuza amuna anu chinsinsi chanu chakuya kwambiri, chamdima kwambiri? Mosalephera, padzakhala azimayi ena omwe adzayang'ane m'mphepete mwa chikhomo cha San Francisco mwamantha pang'ono poyerekeza.
Ukwati ndi ubale wofunikira kwambiri womwe tingakhale nawo ndi munthu wina, komabe ena aife timaleka kulola okondedwa athu kudziko lathu.
Ngati simungathe kumasuka ndi mnzanu wa moyo wanu wonse, ndiye kuti mungatsegule ndani? Ndikofunika kuti muziika patsogolo zomwe mumachita ndi wokondedwa wanu. Kudziwana bwino kwambiri kumathandizira kulumikizana kwanu ndipo kumalimbikitsa chifundo ndi ulemu kwa munthu amene mwasankha kukhala naye moyo wanu wonse.
Kukhazikika kwachikondi m'banja mwanu ndi njira yosavuta, koma sikophweka. Zitenga kulimba mtima kuti udziwonetse wekha moona mtima, koma phindu lomwe ubale wanu ungapeze kuchokera munthawi zopambanazi liposa kumva kuti mukukumana nako.
Khalani osatetezeka
Amuna ndi akazi ali ndi vuto loti akhale osatetezeka, koma ngati bambo, nditha kunena kuti tafika pamsika.
Takula ndi mauthenga osasinthasintha monga "Kulimba" kapena "Kuyamwa" omwe atiuza kuti tisokoneze chilichonse chomwe chingawoneke ngati chofooka. Palibe kulira. Palibe kudandaula. Osakwiya. Nthawi ina, ndikusewera baseball kusekondale, mtsuko uja udandimenya nthiti ndi mpira wachangu. Kenako ndinamva m'modzi mwa makochi anga akufuula kuti, "Usandipukuse!" Mwachidule, taphunzitsidwa mozindikira komanso mosazindikira kuti tili ndi malo olimba omwe sangagwadire zomwe zikuchitika patsogolo pathu.
Izi zitha kukhala zovuta m'banja. Banja lililonse lidzakhala ndi nthawi zovuta. Palibe amene amalandira chiphaso chaulere. Ganizirani izi: munthu m'modzi yekha amakumana ndi zovuta komanso zochitika zina m'moyo wawo; Ingoganizirani zomwe zimachitika anthu awiri akakhala limodzi ndikukhala limodzi moyo wawo limodzi. Ngati munthu sangataye mtima ndikulankhula zakukhosi kwake pazomwe akumana nazo, ngakhale atakhala okondana bwanji, alibe chiyembekezo chothandizidwa. Zimapangitsa ukwati kukhala ulendo wautali komanso wosungulumwa kwa onse awiri.
Amuna sanateteze kusoweka konseku, komabe.Akazi amathanso kutsekedwa. Moyo uli ndi njira yowumitsira malingaliro anu, ndipo akazi samathawa chowonadi ichi. Atha kukhala kuti adalakwiridwa muubwenzi wakale. Zitha kukhala zoyipa kwambiri kotero kuti amakana kuti wina ayandikire kwambiri chifukwa chiopsezo chakumva kuwawa chimakhala chachikulu kwambiri. Izi zimawapangitsa kusunga okondedwa awo patali, kumangowonetsa zochepa zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti azikhala amoyo kapena zomwe zimawapweteka kwambiri.
Ziribe kanthu kugonana kwanu, muyenera kudziwa makoma omwe mumamanga mozungulira inu. Ngati mudzakwatirane ndi wina, ndikuwakonda ndi zonse zomwe muli nazo, makomawo akuyenera kugwetsedwa. Nonse muyenera kulowetsana, chifukwa mudzakhala njira yothandizirana wina ndi mnzake moyo wanu wonse. Kuyanjana ndi wokondedwa wanu weniweni ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yothandizira zosowa zawo ndikuwathandiza kuthana ndi mantha awo.
Malo otetezeka
Kukhala ovuta ndi kovuta, koma kuchita izi pamalo otetezeka kumapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kwambiri. Ichi ndichifukwa chake anthu ambiri amasankha kufunafuna upangiri kapena othandizira nthawi zovuta. Amadziwa kuti, mosasamala kanthu za kuzindikira kapena upangiri uliwonse, ndi malo otetezeka kugawana momwe akumvera.
Poyesa kuyika banja lanu pachiwopsezo ndi kutseguka, yambani ndikupanga malo abwino oti mugawane momasuka. Khalani pansi ndi mnzanuyo ndi kuwadziwitsa kuti chilichonse chomwe adzagawana sichingakumane ndi chiweruzo kapena mosiyana. Kukambirana koyambaku kwa malo otetezeka komanso osaweruza kukambirana kumakupatsani mwayi wokhala okondana wina ndi mnzake. Kukhazikitsa izi ndiye maziko azokambirana zakuya komanso zopindulitsa zaka zikamapita.
Yambani ndi mitu yosavuta
Mukakhala ndi malo otetezeka oyankhulirana ndipo mutha kumva kuti ndinu osatetezeka, inu ndi mnzanu mungaone kufunika kotsegulira zipata ndikulola kutengeka kwanu konse; zabwino ndi zoipa. Tengani pang'onopang'ono. Yambani ndi mitu monga zokonda zanu komanso zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mukhale amoyo. Osangodumpha kuzinsinsi zakuya komanso zakuda. Gwiritsani ntchito mitu yopepuka ngati njira yabwino yoyendetsera zokambirana zomwe mumakhala nazo ndi mnzanu.
Kenako funsani mafunso ovuta
Tsopano popeza mwakhazikitsa kudalirana ndi chitetezo chofunikira kuti muzimasukilana wina ndi mnzake, yambani kufunsa mafunso omwe nthawi zonse mumakhala mukuopa kuyankha. Osamachita ngati kuti ndinu mtolankhani wofufuza, kuyesa kuyika mnzanu pakona ndikufunsani. Izi zimathetsa kwathunthu cholinga cha zokambirana zakuya izi.
Ngati pali chinsinsi chabanja, afunseni za nkhaniyi mwanzeru. Ngati pali gawo lakale lomwe samawoneka kuti akulankhula, adziwitseni kuti mungakonde kumva za izi ngati ali okonzeka kuzikambirana.
Osangowanyalanyaza kapena kuwagunditsa, ingowadziwitsani kuti ndichinthu chomwe mukufuna kudziwa. Pamapeto pake, nonse mukamabweza kumbuyo kwanu, akugawana nanu zomwe akufuna kutero.
Kukondana kwamaganizidwe ndi kovuta kubwera m'dziko lino pomwe ambiri aife sitifuna kulola anthu ena kulowa nawo. M'banja mwanu, kusatetezeka ndi kumasukirana kumene kumafunika chifukwa cha kukondana ndimomwe mungakhazikitsire banja lolimba ndi lachikondi.
Gwetsani makoma anu. Tsegulani nokha. Lolani wokondedwa wanu alowe. Ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yokondera ndi kukondedwa.