Zamkati
- Kodi kupatukana kopitilira muyeso ndi njira yoyenera m'banja lanu?
- Kukonzekera zonse pasadakhale ndikofunikira
- Kudziwa kuthekera kwa kulekana kopititsa patsogolo
- Kusunga kukhalabe ndi chidaliro komanso malire omveka
Lingaliro lodzipatula kopititsa patsogolo, kwa ena, poyamba lingawoneke lachilendo.
Kulekana ndi cholinga cholimbitsa ukwati kumamveka ngati kopanda tanthauzo. Kupatula apo, ndani akunena kuti mukalekana simudzangopita m'malo mongoyambiranso zomwe zidalipo pakati panu pomwe mudangonena kuti 'ndimatero.'
Chabwino, kupatukana kopititsa patsogolo ndi 'chinthu,' ndipo ndi njira yothandiza komanso yothandiza kuthandiza anthu kuti ayanjanenso, kukonza ukwati wawo ndikupewa kusudzulana!
Wotsogola wothandizira komanso wolemba wogulitsa kwambiri, a Susan Pease Gadoua adapeza lingaliro ili ku 2008 lomwe lakhala likuthandiza maanja kupeza njira yothetsera mavuto am'banja ndi kupatukana kopititsa patsogolo.
Nthawi zambiri pamakhala zifukwa zitatu zapadera zomwe banja lingapatukire
- Monga gawo la chisudzulo
- Kuti mupeze malo ndi malingaliro paukwati
- Kulekanitsa kopititsa patsogolo; kulimbitsa ukwati
Kodi kupatukana kopitilira muyeso ndi njira yoyenera m'banja lanu?
Nthawi zina, maanja sangakhale mosangalala kapena mosangalala pansi pa denga limodzi; mwina sangasangalale kumangirizidwa kunyumba 24/7.
Nthawi zambiri mumamva za mabanja osudzulana omwe ndi kholo limodzi, ndipo atazolowera kukhala ndi nthawi yawoyokha, amasangalala ndi malo omwe ali nawo. Zimawalola kuti akhale okha komanso kuti azitsatira pazomwe angasankhe kuchita ndi nthawi yawo.
Kulekanitsa kopititsa patsogolo kumapindulitsanso chimodzimodzi pokhapokha mukakhalabe okondana, okwatirana komanso odzipereka kwa wina ndi mnzake. Mumangopeza nthawi kuchokera muukwati ndikuphunzira kuyamikirana wina ndi mnzake.
Anthu ena amatenga nawo gawo pakupatukana kwakanthawi kochepa, pomwe ena amatha kupeza njira yochitira izi mpaka kalekale.
Mukudziwa, palibe cholakwika ngati okwatirana amakhala okhaokha, ngakhale pagulu zimawoneka ngati zachilendo kuchita.
Mawu omwe mungagwiritse ntchito kupatukana kwanu kopitilira muyeso akuyenera kuthetsedwa pakati pa inu ndi mnzanuyo ndipo akuyenera kukhala owona kwa inu monga banja komanso zosowa zanu m'malo motenga buku lowerengera kupatukana kwanu. Monga :
- Kukhulupirika.
- Kusamalira ana.
- Momwe mungakhalire limodzi limodzi ndikukhala olumikizana komanso okondana
- Momwe mungapangire gawo lazachuma pakusankha kwamtunduwu
Kukonzekera zonse pasadakhale ndikofunikira
Ngati muwonetsetsa kuti mukukonzekera zonse pasadakhale, simudzakumana ndi zovuta zilizonse zowononga banja mukamasiyana.
Onani upangiri womwe umaperekedwa pafupipafupi pa intaneti momwe mungakonzekerere kupatukana kwamtundu uliwonse, udzafotokoza zambiri zomwe muyenera kudziwa musanapatukane.
Kupatukana koyenera sikuyenera kukhala kovomerezeka kwathunthu, inu ndi mnzanu mutha kuvomereza kuti tsiku limodzi pa sabata aliyense wa inu apite kukakhala ndi abale kapena ku hotelo kapena nyumba ina yosungidwira izi ndikukhala nayo usiku pa sabata la 'inu' nthawi.
Pomwe mnzakeyo amasunga nyumba ndi ana. Maanja ena atha kusankha kupatsana sabata imodzi miyezi ingapo yomwe amapita kutchuthi kwa sabata limodzi kusiya okwatiranawo ndi banja lawo.
Mukuwona, kulekanitsa kopititsa patsogolo kumatha kukhala njira iliyonse yolekanitsa 'kwamuyaya kapena osakhalitsa osasiya ukwatiwo, ngakhale zitha kukhala zodula ndipo zikhala zabwino kwa mabanja ena.
Kudziwa kuthekera kwa kulekana kopititsa patsogolo
Nachi chitsanzo cha zifukwa zina zomwe mungaganizire kupatukana kopititsa patsogolo.
- Ngati inu kapena mnzanu muli ndi mtunda pakati panu womwe mukuvutikira kuti mubwerere, koma nonse ndinu odzipereka kuti banja liziyenda bwino.
- Ngati wina ali ndi vuto la kutopa, kukhumudwa kapena kupsinjika ndipo amafunikira nthawi yopuma.
- Ngati muli ndi ana m'banja lanu, nthawi zina mungapindule mwa kupatula nthawi yosunga zinthu zatsopano ndikukhala olimba komanso odzipereka.
- Ngati mukufuna nthawi yoganizira momwe banja lanu lilili, zindikirani izi zitha kubweretsa kupatukana kosatha.
- Ngati nonse muli odzipereka wina ndi mnzake koma muli ndi zokonda zosiyana kapena zosankha za moyo wanu.
Mwakutero, ngati m'modzi kapena onse awiri akumva ngati akusowa tchuthi komanso kupumula kwakanthawi, kapena ngati mwataya chidwi chanu komanso chidwi chanu pamoyo kupatukana kopitilira muyeso kungakhale yankho labwino kwa inu.
Kusunga kukhalabe ndi chidaliro komanso malire omveka
Kupatukana kowonjezera kumafuna kuganiza pang'ono mukamazindikira mtundu wamakhalidwe osatha kapena osakhazikika omwe nonse mungakonde kupanga koma chilichonse ndichotheka ndi kulekana kopititsa patsogolo - bola mukhalabe ndi chidaliro ndikumvetsetsa malire.
Kukhulupirirana ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pano ngati inu kapena mnzanu muli ndi vuto lakukhulupirirana, pazifukwa zomveka kapena ayi, ndiye kuti kupatukana kumangobweretsa mavuto ena m'banja kuposa kale.
Ndikofunikira ndi kupatukana komwe kumapangitsa kuti inu ndi mnzanu mukhulupirirane ndipo nonse mugwire ntchito molimbika kuti musadalire ena zomwe sizingakuyendereni bwino konse.