Zamkati
- Kutulutsa kwatsopano: Pamalo ena ovuta munkhani yachikondi
- Kukayika kumeneku si chizindikiro choyipa kapena chisonyezo chakuti ubalewo
- Kodi kukayika kumachokera kuti?
- Dzikumbutseni nokha kuti kukayika ndi yankho loyenera pamagawo ofunikira m'moyo
- Kukhala ndi kukayika nthawi zambiri kumayankha pamavuto abwenzi
- Kukayikira kwaubwenzi komwe kwatsala m'mbuyomu
- Kukayika pakati paubwenzi ndi koopsa, ndipo muyenera kuwamvera
- Pamapeto pake, kukaikira si vuto
Mwakhala pachibwenzi ndi mnyamata wabwino kwa miyezi ingapo. Chilichonse chakhala chikuyenda bwino ndipo mukusangalala kuti mwina ndi amene mungakhale naye paubwenzi wokhalitsa.
Koma posachedwapa, mwakhala mukukayika. Kukayikira zakumverera kwanu, kukayikira zomwe angakhale akumva kwa inu, ndikukayika za ubalewo. Palibe chomwe chachitika kuti asinthe ubalewo, makamaka chifukwa muli ndi mafunso ang'onoang'ono omwe akukwera pamwamba mukakhala pansi ndikuganiza zatsopanoli.
Mumadzifunsa nokha — kodi kukayika kwanu ndi kwabwino kapena kuli ndi poizoni? Kodi angakhale othandiza kusunthira ubalewo munjira yathanzi? Kodi kukayikira uku ndikuyenera kumvetsera, kapena ndi nkhani zachikale zomwe mumakhala nazo m'mutu mwanu, zomwe zikuyamba kuwononga chibwenzi chatsopanochi?
Kutulutsa kwatsopano: Pamalo ena ovuta munkhani yachikondi
Pali nthawi zofunikira kwambiri m'maubwenzi atsopano pomwe mungayambe kubwerera ndikuwunika za chikondi chanu ndi mandala ovuta. Miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ndi nthawi yoti izi zichitike. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ndi imodzi mwazomwe "zimapita patsogolo kapena kubwerera", pomwe kupita mtsogolo ndi mnzanu kuyimira kudzipereka kwakukulu.
Chifukwa chake, kufunsa momwe mumamvera za ubale wanu ndikudzifunsa nokha pafupipafupi - 'Kodi kukayika kwanu ndikwabwinobwino kapena kuli ndi poizoni?', Sizachilendo, komanso ndizothandiza.
Kukayika kumeneku si chizindikiro choyipa kapena chisonyezo chakuti ubalewo
M'malo mwake, kuthana ndi kukayika kumeneku kukutanthauza kuti mukugwira ntchito yovuta kuti mupange ubale wolimba ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Izi zitha kukhala zowopsa, chifukwa mukusintha kuchoka pachikondi choyambirira kupita pachowonadi cha zomwe zimadzipereka kudzipereka kwa winawake, wina yemwe ali ndi zolakwika ndi zofooka, monga momwe mumachitira.
Kodi kukayika kumachokera kuti?
Kukayikira kwa ubale kumachitika nthawi zosintha kwaubwenzi.
Adzadziwika pomwe zosankha zofunika zikufunika.Izi zikufotokozera chizindikiro cha miyezi isanu ndi umodzi chifukwa ndi nthawi yomwe maanja akuyenera kufotokozera ngati akufuna kuchoka pa "chibwenzi" kupita pachikhalidwe chachikulu, chodzipereka.
Nthawi zina zovuta pomwe kukayikira kungachitike ndi pomwe mungasankhe kukakhala limodzi, kapena kuchita chinkhoswe, kukwatiwa, kukhala ndi ana, ndi zina zofunika, zomwe zimakhudza moyo.
Dzikumbutseni nokha kuti kukayika ndi yankho loyenera pamagawo ofunikira m'moyo
Munthu amene amapita patsogolo mosakayika sakuganiza mokwanira. Icho sichizindikiro chabwino.
Palibe lingaliro lomwe limakhala lakuda kapena loyera, makamaka zikafika pachibwenzi.
Ndi mnzanu, onani zifukwa zonse zomwe mukukayikira, ndipo njira yabwino kwambiri yomwe ingadzadziwikire kwa inu pamapeto pake.
Kukhala ndi kukayika nthawi zambiri kumayankha pamavuto abwenzi
Ichi ndi chinthu chabwino, ngakhale zitakhala zovuta kuthana ndi kukayika.
Zovuta paubwenzi zimatha kuphatikizaponso mafunso ngati - Kodi tizisuntha limodzi? Ndimamukonda, komabe ndimakopeka ndi amuna ena. Chifukwa chiyani ndimaganizirabe za wakale wanga? Sindikudziwa ngati zipembedzo zathu zosiyanasiyana ndizogwirizana. Zoyendetsa zathu zogonana ndizosiyana.
Awa ndi mitundu ina chabe ya mafunso omwe amayenera kukayikitsa chifukwa amafunikira kuyankhidwa, osanyalanyazidwa.
Kukayikira kwaubwenzi komwe kwatsala m'mbuyomu
Ngati mukuwona kuti mukubwereza "kukayikira kwakale" ndi ubale wanu watsopano, ichi ndi chinthu chomwe mungafune kuchitapo kanthu kunja kwa chibwenzi ndi othandizira.
Zitha kukhala kuti machitidwewa amawononga ubale wanu wonse. Izi ndi nkhani zanu, popanda ubale uliwonse womwe mungapange. Amabwera kuchokera mkati mwanu ndipo sanakwiyitse kunja. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukupeza kuti mukukayika momwe mnzanu akumvera zomwe sizinakhazikike pachilichonse, izi zitha kubukanso chifukwa cha zinthu zomwe sizinasinthidwe kuyambira ubwana wanu.
Mutha kukhala ndi mantha okondana kwambiri chifukwa cha zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu. Izi ndizoyenera kuyankhulana ndi wothandizira kuti muthe kupita mtsogolo, opanda katundu.
Kukayika pakati paubwenzi ndi koopsa, ndipo muyenera kuwamvera
Ndikofunikira kuzindikira kusiyana pakati pa kukayika komwe kumathandiza (kumakulimbikitsani kuti muwone bwino zinthu zina ndikupita patsogolo moyenera) ndi kukayikira komwe kuli chizindikiro chodziwikiratu kuti ubalewu uli ndi mbendera zofiira.
Kukayikira kwa poizoni ndikosavuta kuzindikira -
- Amabisala pazomwe amachita pomwe samakhala nanu
- Nthawi zambiri samapezeka pafoni, mameseji kapena imelo, ndipo amapsa mtima mukamamupempha kuti alowemo mwachangu
- Amakwiya mosavuta ndipo mukuwopa kuti atha kukhala wankhanza
- Amakhala ndi mavuto osokoneza bongo
- Chilichonse ndi vuto la wina
- Amatsutsa anzanu komanso abale anu ndikukuwuzani kuti amakukondani, palibe wina amene amakukondani
- Amanena zinthu ndi cholinga chokupangitsani kudzimvera chisoni
- Amakwiya mukamasowa nthawi yoti "inu"
Zonsezi ndizizindikiro zakukhumudwitsidwa kapena kuthupi - simuyenera kuzinyalanyaza kapena kuzichotsa.
Pamapeto pake, kukaikira si vuto
Bweretsani kukayika kwanu kwa mnzanuyo ndipo mvetserani kuyankha kwake. Zingakhale kuti nayenso ali ndi kukayikira komweko, nayenso.
Zokambirana zomwe zikutsatira izi ndizofunikira, chifukwa zikuwonetsani momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito nthawi zovuta izi, ndikukhulupirira kuti zingakuthandizeni kukulitsa ubale wanu womwe ukukula.