Zamkati
- Kuphatikiza kwa zinthu zopanga kulumikizana kwa narcissist / wosamalira
- 1. Kumvera ena chisoni kwambiri
- 2. Kuwongolera motsutsana ndi kutsatira
- 3. Kupereka motsutsana ndi kutenga
- 4. Kulimba molimbika
- 5. Kugonjera vs.
Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akakhala wopondereza, wankhanza, wodzikonda, wolamulira, komanso wopondereza, ndiye kuti muyenera kuvomereza kapena kuvomereza izi kuti mukhale okonzeka kukhalabe pa chibwenzi. Ngakhale mutalimbana ndi mnzanuyo pamakhalidwe awo, ngati zinthu sizikusintha ndiye kuti mukulekerera zomwe mnzake akuchita. Ngati mukuchita manyazi ndi zomwe akuchita koma mukuzibisa, mukumanamizira kuti sizoyipa kwenikweni, ndipo mpaka mumauza ana anu kuti avomereze, ndiye kuti mwakhala wosamalira ena. Zinatheka bwanji kuti mukhale munthu wololera, wongoganizira, wopondereza?
Kuphatikiza kwa zinthu zopanga kulumikizana kwa narcissist / wosamalira
Payenera kukhala kuphatikiza kwina kuti apange kulumikizana kwa narcissist / wosamalira. Monga ubale uliwonse wapamtima, payenera kukhala kuphatikiza kofanana ndi kusiyana. Payeneranso kuti pakhale zokopa pakati pa zosowa za munthu aliyense ndi kukwaniritsidwa kwa zosowazo ndi munthu wina.
Mwachitsanzo, Alicia anali ndi amuna ena awiri omwe anali nawo pachibwenzi ku koleji, onsewa amawafotokoza ngati anyamata abwino, osamala, koma osasangalatsa. Anamaliza ndi Matt, bambo yemwe anali "kupita malo" ndipo anali ndi malingaliro oyambitsa bizinesi yake. Anamutsuka pamapazi ake. Amakonda kwambiri malingaliro ake olamulira, koma zaka khumi pambuyo pake, amamuwona kuti ndiwodzikonda, wolamulira ndipo nthawi zonse amafuna kuti amusamalire.
David adakondana kwambiri ndi Serena paulendo wopita ku Brazil atangomaliza koleji. Serena anali wokongola modabwitsa, wophunzira kwambiri, wochokera kubanja lapamwamba, ndipo anali wokondwa kukwatiwa ndi David ndikusamukira ku United States. Iwo akhala m'banja zaka makumi awiri ndi zisanu, koma David wakwiya ndikukhumudwitsidwa kuti akuyenera kuphika zakudya zonse, kulipira ngongole zonse, ndikupitiliza zonse pomwe Serena amapita kumalo ogulitsira mabuku, amagula zovala zambiri, ndipo amalankhula kwa maola ambiri pafoni ndi amayi ake ku Brazil.
Kodi Alicia ndi David adatenga nawo gawo bwanji posamalira munthu wodziwika bwino m'moyo wawo?
Kusiyana kwa Narcissist / Caretaker
Amati zotsutsana zimakopa. Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa ochita zachiwerewere ndi omwe amawasamalira omwe amawasonkhanitsa pamodzi. Ndizomveka kuti ngati munthu m'modzi alibe maluso ena amafunafuna wina amene ali ndi kuthekera kumeneko, posinthana kuti amupatse kena kokhoza ndi mphamvu zawo.
1. Kumvera ena chisoni kwambiri
Ndikosavuta kuwona chifukwa chomwe munthu wachisoni angakopeke ndi munthu wachifundo chachikulu. Wolemba zamatsenga amakuwonani ngati munthu yemwe angamvetsetse, muganizire, mumvetsere, mumvetsere kwa iwo ndikukhala opatsa komanso achikondi nthawi iliyonse akakwiya, kuvulaza komanso kusowa. Koma nchifukwa ninji mudapeza chidwi chomvera chisoni cha wanamisili?
Monga munthu amene amakonda kusamalira, milingo yanu mwina ndi yokwera kwambiri. Mutha kuwona kuti mumangopanga zosowa za mnzanu kukhala zofunika kwambiri kuposa zanu ndipo mwina mungamve kuti malingaliro ake ali amphamvu kuposa anu.
2. Kuwongolera motsutsana ndi kutsatira
Narcissists amakonda kukhala olamulira, kupanga zisankho, ndikuwoneka kuti ndi omwe akuyang'anira. Mwamuna wa Alicia Matt ali choncho. Amakhala ndi bizinesi yake yomanga. Amadalira Alicia kuti azichita mabuku, kusamalira nyumba, kulera ana awo aakazi atatu, komanso kusamalira nyumba zawo zisanu ndi zitatu. Alicia ndi amene amadziwa bwino zachuma, koma Matt samvera chilichonse chomwe anganene.
Alicia amamvera kwambiri ngakhale akudziwa kuti Matt akulakwitsa. Amadana ndi mkwiyo wamtundu uliwonse kapena kusagwirizana, chifukwa chake samanena zambiri. Iye anati, “Ndi zophweka basi mwanjira imeneyi, ndipo sindikufuna kumenyana naye. Mwanjira imeneyi sindikudzudzulidwa. ” Amakomera kuthekera kwake pakupanga zisankho zovuta, koma amalakalaka ataganizira zosowa zake ndi malingaliro ake.
3. Kupereka motsutsana ndi kutenga
Owasamalira amafunafuna mipata yoperekera, kugawana, kuthandizana ndi kuthandizira. Amakhala ndi chidwi chenicheni akamathandiza ena. Pomwe ma narcissist nthawi zonse amadzimva kuti amafunikira zowonjezereka — chisamaliro chochulukirapo, kuthandizidwa, kukondedwa, kumvetsetsa, komanso mgwirizano. Izi zimagwira ntchito mpaka zinthu zitayamba kukhala zopanda malire ndipo mumayamba kukwiya. Chodabwitsa, zimangotengera lonjezo la wamisili kuti aziganizira kwambiri, kukupatsani chiyembekezo komanso kufunitsitsa kupitiliza kupereka zambiri.
4. Kulimba molimbika
Narcissists amakonda kukhala oyang'anira. Ndizotheka kuti mumakonda kulolera, kusiya zinthu, ndikuyesa kukondweretsa mnzanu. Izi ndi zabwino, koma zimakupangitsani kuti muzilamuliridwa ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu wokonda kupusitsana. Ngati mukugwirizana zowona, ndiye kuti zitha kugwira ntchito bwino, koma mukafuna zinthu zosiyana kapena mumakhala ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana nthawi zambiri zimayambitsa ndewu kapena kukuperekani, kugonjera komanso kugwirizana.
5. Kugonjera vs.
Olemba ma Narcissist amadzimva kuti ali ndi ufulu wopeza zomwe akufuna ndikukhala ndi zosowa zawo ndi zofuna zawo kuziganiziridwa pamaso pa wina aliyense. Mwinamwake mwakhala mukukhala ndi chitsanzo chololera ndikutenga malo achiwiri. Kupereka mphatso kumawoneka ngati chinthu chachikondi komanso chisamaliro. Owasamalira amayang'ana kwambiri zabwino zakupereka chikondi, pomwe ma narcissist amayang'ana kwambiri kulandira chikondi chonsecho.
Kukulunga
Zotsutsana zimakopa ndipo zitha kuwonjezera mphamvu kuubwenzi. Ndipamene zinthu zimasokonekera kwambiri pomwe pamakhala vuto. Wosunga zonena akafuna kwambiri, woperekayo amapereka zambiri, komanso mosemphanitsa. Zomwe zitha kuyambika chimodzimodzi, zimawonongeka pazaka zambiri kukhala ubale wopanda malire, wopanda thanzi.
Kusiyanitsa kwakukulu kumapangitsa wamisili ndi womusamalira kukhala olumikizana, nthawi zambiri muubwenzi wokankha / kukoka. Mukuyenda-modzi komwe kumangopitilira kukwera ndi kutsika. Mukuwoneka kuti simutha kuchoka ndipo wamisalayo sasintha.