Zamkati
- Nchifukwa chiyani kukhululuka kuli kofunika?
- Kukhululuka sikuli kwa iwo, koma ndi kwa inu
- Musayembekezere kubwezeredwa chilichonse
- Mphamvu zakhululuka
Mphamvu zakhululuka m'banja sizingafanane. Mukalembetsa mgwirizano wamoyo wonse ndi munthu wina, ndizosapeweka kuti mudzasokonezana wina ndi mnzake. Anthu awiri opanda ungwiro atakhala zaka zambiri ali limodzi, mikangano ina yovuta imadzakhalapo.
Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti kukhululukirana si njira zina zotsika mtengo zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito pofuna kupulumutsa banja lanu. Ziyenera kukhala zenizeni. Iyenera kukhala yeniyeni. Iyenera kukhala yopanda zingwe. Mukamakhululukirana nthawi zonse, chikondi chanu chimakhalabe cholimba ndipo simudzasungira chakukhosi mnzanu. Mukakhala ofunitsitsa kwambiri kukhululukira ena patsogolo pa momwe mumagwirira ntchito, banja lanu lidzakhala labwino m'tsogolo.
Nchifukwa chiyani kukhululuka kuli kofunika?
Tivomerezane: aliyense amalakwitsa. Mudzachita. Adzatero. Ngati mungayambe ndikuvomereza izi, kukhululuka kumakhala kosavuta komanso kosavuta. Ngati mukudziwa kuti mukufuna kukhululukidwa komweko, mudzakhala achangu kuzisiya pomwe anzanu atazembera.
Ngati ubale kapena ukwati wamangidwa pamaziko omwe alibe malo okhululuka, sipadzakhala zambiri zomangapo kuchokera pamenepo. Ndikulakwitsa kulikonse, padzakhala kutsutsana. Ndi mkangano uliwonse, vutoli silingathetsedwe. Ndiye nkhani yomwe mukuganiza kuti mudutsa kale imabweretsa mutu wake pomwe simukuyembekezera.
Zitha kukhala chaka, zaka zisanu, kapena zaka 10 kutsika ndipo mkwiyo womwe ukukula ungadziwonetse nokha mwaukali, kusakhulupirika, kapena kusagwirizana.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake kukhululuka ndikofunikira. Popanda izi, mikangano ing'onoing'ono iliyonse ndi kusagwirizana m'banja lanu zimangokhalira kungoyambira pansi pa ubale wanu womwe ukuwoneka ngati wabwinobwino. Zidzangotsala kanthawi kuti wina ayambe kugunda komwe kumapangitsa kuti mkwiyo wosakhazikika uyambe.
Kutha kukhululuka kumakuthandizani kuti muchepetse mkwiyo muubwenzi wanu ndikukula ndikumasemphana kulikonse, m'malo mokhalabe okakamira pazinthu zilizonse kapena mikangano yomwe yakusiyani mukupsya mtima.
Kukhululuka sikuli kwa iwo, koma ndi kwa inu
Mukhululukire ena, osati chifukwa choti akuyenera kukhululukidwa, koma chifukwa mukuyenera kukhala ndi mtendere. ”
-Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Anthu ambiri amawona lingaliro lakukhululuka mwanjira ina kuposa momwe amayenera kuwonera. Timaganiza kuti pokhululukira winawake timamulekerera kapena kumulola kuti apititse mtendere m'banjamo. Kunena zowona, kukhululuka ndikodzikonda.
Nthawi iliyonse mukasunga chakukhosi chifukwa cha zomwe winawake wakuchitirani- kaya ndi mwamuna wanu, mkazi wanu, kapena munthu wina aliyense amene mumakhala ndi diso loipa-inu Ndiye amene akukakamira kumangokhalako. Amatha kumva kupweteka, koma inu nthawi zonse kumva koipitsitsa. Mukuganiza kuti mapewa anu ozizira kapena mawu owawa akuwapatsa gehena oyenera, koma mukudzitchinjiriza nokha pamoto wanu.
Posankha kukhululuka mnzanu, mukuyika pansi katundu yemwe mwakhala mukuyenda kwakanthawi.Mukusankha kuti muchepetse nkhawa zanu ndikudzipulumutsa pantchito yanu.
Ponena kuti, "Ndakukhululukira," mumayenera kusiya mkwiyo, mkwiyo, kapena kunyoza mnzanu, ndipo mutsegule malo amalingaliro kuti musadutse. Mukakhalabe pamenepo, wopenga inu adzamva. Kumvetsa kuti kukhululukidwa ndi kwanu kudzakupangitsani kukhala kosavuta kuti muyambe njira. Mukadziwa kuti mukuthetsa nkhawa kuchokera yanu world, mudzakhala okonzeka kukambirana nawo.
Musayembekezere kubwezeredwa chilichonse
Ngati mutenga msewu wapamwamba ndikusankha kukhululuka mnzanu, muyenera kutero mulibe zingwe. Simungagwiritse ntchito ngati sewero lamphamvu kuti mubweze kena kalikonse. Ngati mukusankha kuti muwakhululukire, muyenera kukhala okonzeka kuzisiya ndikupita patsogolo. Ngati aiwala tsiku lanu lokumbukira ndipo mwasankha kuti muwakhululukire, simungathe kuwabwezeretsanso pachikumbutso chawo chamawa.
Ngati anakunyengani ndipo mwasankha kuti muwakhululukire ndikukhala paubwenzi, simungasewere khadi yomwe mwandinyenga nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukufuna kuchita zomwe mukufuna.
Kukhululuka koona kumatanthauza kuzindikira zomwe zidachitika ndikusankha kukonda munthuyo ngakhale atachita zoipa. Chitha kukhala china chachikulu kapena chaching'ono, koma ngati mungakonde kukhululuka, simungayang'anenso mphindi imeneyo mobwerezabwereza, ndikupita ulendo wolakwa wa "Mukukumbukira pomwe ndidakukhululukirani chifukwa cha chinthu choyipachi chomwe mudachita?" nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukufuna. Zatha. Mukusuntha. Mukamazigwiritsa ntchito ngati ammo motsutsana nawo, ndizochepa kuti mumawakhululukiradi.
Mphamvu zakhululuka
Tsopano popeza takambirana chifukwa chake kuli kofunika, ndani amapindulapo ndi kukhululuka, komanso momwe tingakhululukire wina, ndi nthawi yoti tifike pamadzi a nkhaniyi: the mphamvu kuti kukhululuka kungabweretse inu ndi mnzanu. Pamene inu ndi mnzanu mwasankha kukhululukirana ndi kuthetsa mavuto anu mwachifundo, mukusankha chikondi. Ndicho cholinga cha ukwati; kusankha chikondi tsiku lililonse, ngakhale zitakhala zovuta.
Mwina mudalimbana moyipa kwambiri kwakuti simungayime kuyang'ana mnzanu, koma mumawakonda kuposa kumangowakwiyira. Mutha kusagwirizana mwanjira yoti simufuna kumva iwo akuyankhula, koma mukudziwa kuti mumawakonda koposa kulola kuti mkanganowo uchoke.
Mukasankha kukhululuka ndikuthana ndi kusiyana kwanu, ndiye kuti mukusankhabe chikondi. Maukwati omaliza ndi omwe amabwereranso ku chifukwa chomwe adayambira poyamba: chikondi. Khululukirani mwachangu. Muzikhululuka nthawi zambiri. Pitirizani kusankha chikondi nthawi zonse momwe mungathere.