Nthawi zambiri timakwatirana ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi machitidwe ofanana ndi makolo athu. Ngakhale mutha kuganiza kuti ichi ndiye chinthu chomaliza chomwe simukufuna kuchita, chimadza ndi chifukwa chabwino ndipo chifukwa ichi chingakuthandizeni kukula, muukwati wanu komanso mu ubale wanu wonse.
Timaphunzira tidakali achichepere mitundu yosiyanasiyana kuchokera kwa makolo athu, kenako nkuyeseza limodzi muubwenzi wathu. Kaya ndondomekoyi ndi yathanzi kapena ayi, ndizomwe zimakhala zachilendo komanso zabwino. Mutha kukhala kuchokera kubanja lomwe limalankhula kwambiri, kapena mwina banja lanu lidapatukana komanso linali kutali. Mwinamwake makolo anu anakulamulirani zoposa zimene inu mukanakhoza kupereka ndipo mwinamwake iwo analibe nazo ntchito zomwe munachita. Ndikosavuta kukwiyira mnzathu pobwereza izi, koma kumbukirani kuti mwasankha mnzanu ndipo tsopano ndi ntchito yanu kusintha momwe mumachitira. Mukaphunzira kusintha zomwe mumachita, machitidwe amnzanu samakhala ovuta kwenikweni kapena amatha kutha.
Tonsefe tili ndi mwayi wosankha wokwatirana naye yemwe ali ndi machitidwe ofanana ndi makolo athu chifukwa izi ndizotheka komanso zabwino
Ngati abambo anu samatha kudzilankhulira okha, mutha kukwatiwa ndi munthu yemwe amavutika kuti adzilankhulire yekha. Mfundo siyikudziwika, nthawi zambiri timasankha othandizana nawo omwe ali ndi makolo athu, ngakhale timadana nawo.
Koma, pali nkhani yabwino. Zomwe zimakhalira mumtima mwanu ndi chifukwa chakuti pamene mudali mwana simunachitepo kanthu koma osachita chilichonse kupatula kutengera chitsanzo cha makolo anu. Monga ana, timakakamizidwa kuchita monga makolo athu amayembekezera, kapena timangokhala pamzere chifukwa ndi zomwe tikudziwa. Mukakula, mudzakwatiwa ndi munthu amene ali ndi makhalidwe ofanana ndi makolo anu ndipo mumawachitira chimodzimodzi momwe mudachitira ndi ana. Mukazindikira kuti ndinu wamkulu tsopano ndipo mutha kusintha momwe mungachitire, mutha kuyankha m'njira yatsopano. Sizingakhale zophweka chifukwa mutha kukhala ndi zaka 30+ poyankha mwanjira inayake. Kuyankha m'njira yatsopano sikophweka koma ndiyofunika ntchitoyi.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati amayi anu kapena abambo anu amachoka pakukangana, mungapeze kuti mnzanu ali ndi chitsanzo chomwecho, kubwereza lingaliro lopewa. Mukasintha mawonekedwe ndikulola mnzanu kudziwa kufunika kokhala mchipinda, kapena kuzindikira kuti mumakuwa kapena kulira pamene akuchoka, uwu ndi mwayi woti muwone zomwe mumachita. Amayi anu kapena abambo angafunikire kuwonetsa kuti ali mu mkangano ndipo mupeza kuti mwakwatirana ndi munthu yemwe amachita zomwezo. Kodi chingachitike ndi chiyani mutasiya kupikisana ndikuchitanso mwanjira yatsopano? Mwina mutha kungoyang'ana, kapena mungaganize zosakangana kapena kungonena zomwe mukudziwa. Kodi mungakhale achimwemwe muukwati wanu komanso mu ubale wanu wonse? Tonse taphunzira momwe timachitira munthawi zosiyanasiyana ndipo pokhapo ngati tingachedwe ndikuyang'ana momwe tingachitire m'pamene timatha kulingalira za njira yatsopano yothetsera zomwe zingasinthe ubale womwe ukulimbana. Chifukwa chake, inde, tikhoza kumangodziona ngati titakwatirana ndi wina wofanana ndi makolo athu, komabe tikangophunzira njira yatsopano yochitira izi tidzazindikira kuti zotsutsana zambiri ndizophatikiza kwamakhalidwe ndi zomwe timaphunzira.
Lingaliro lomaliza kukumbukira. Ngati mnzanu akubwereza njira zokhumudwitsa zofanana ndi makolo anu, izi zimakupangitsani inu kuchitapo kanthu chifukwa mwakhala mukukhumudwa ndi khalidweli kwanthawi yonse. Pomwe mukukonzekera njira zatsopano zomwe mungachitire mnzanu, kumbukirani kuti mwina mukuyang'ana kwambiri pazomwe zimakhumudwitsani mobwerezabwereza. Zikuyenera kuti mnzanuyo alinso ndi machitidwe ambiri okondana ndi achikondi omwe muyenera kuwaganizira.
Ngati mungasinthe zomwe mumachita kwa wokondedwa wanu, zingakhale zotani?