Zamkati
- 1. Palibe kulumikizana kofunikira usiku
- 2. Musayembekezere zinthu zomwe sizingatheke
- 3. Musamadziyerekezere ndi a Insta-amayi
- 4. Kumbukirani kuti zonse ndizakanthawi
- 5. Dzisamalire wekha
- 6. Landirani thandizo
Zabwino zonse! Mwinamwake mukuwerenga nkhaniyi chifukwa muli pafupi kukhala ndi mwana kapena mutangokhala naye ndipo mukuyang'ana njira zopulumukira chaka choyamba. Anthu ambiri zimawoneka ngati kukhala ndi ana ndiye mathero-onse kumverera kukhala okwanitsidwa ndikusangalala. Zomwe anthu samazitchula kwambiri ndikuti malingaliro anu onse amakula; osati zabwino zokha. Udzasowa tulo, udzakhala wokwiya, ungamve kukwiya kwa mnzako amene akupita kuntchito kapena mnzakeyo kuti akhale panyumba. Mutha kukumana ndi Matenda a Postpartum kapena kuda nkhawa. Pali zomverera zambiri zomwe zimawonekera mchaka chathu choyamba chokhala kholo.
Chinthu choyamba kuzindikira ndikuti zomwe mukukumana nazo ndizachilengedwe. Mulimonse momwe mungamvere, simuli nokha. Kodi mumadziwa kuti kukhutira ndi banja nthawi zambiri kumatsika chaka choyamba chokhala kholo? Kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi a John Gottman pamsonkhano wapachaka wa APA mu 2011 adati pafupifupi 67% ya mabanja amawona kukhutira kwawo m'banja atatsala pang'ono kukhala ndi mwana wawo woyamba (Wofalitsidwa mu Zolemba za Family Psychology, Vol. 14, Na. 1). Zachilendo pamaso pake kuganiza kuti kukhala ndi mwana kungakupangitseni kuti musakonde mnzanuyo. Kupatula apo, munali ndi mwana naye chifukwa mumamukonda kwambiri. Koma ngati mungayang'ane zomwe zimatichitikira chaka choyamba tili ndi mwana ndikuyang'ana kusowa tulo kwanthawi yayitali, zovuta zokhudzana ndi kudyetsa, kusowa kwa mphamvu, kusowa kwaubwenzi, komanso kuti mukuyesera kugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro ndi munthu yemwe sanayambebe kulingalira (mwana wanu) zimawonekeratu chifukwa chake chaka choyamba ndi chovuta kwambiri.
Nayi mgwirizano. Palibe njira yothetsera kupulumuka mchaka chanu choyamba chokhala kholo yomwe ingathandize aliyense. Mabanja amabwera m'makonzedwe osiyanasiyana okhala ndi zikhulupiriro zosiyanasiyana kotero chinthu chabwino kuchita ndikusintha mayankho anu ku banja lanu. Komabe, pansipa pali malingaliro angapo omwe angakuthandizeni kukulitsa mwayi wopulumuka chaka choyamba. Nazi izi:
1. Palibe kulumikizana kofunikira usiku
Izi zitha kuwoneka ngati lingaliro lopanda tanthauzo koma pali nzeru zambiri kumbuyo kwake. Ndikosavuta kulowa munjira yothetsera mavuto ndi mnzanu nthawi ya 2:00 m'mawa pomwe simunagone tulo sabata lapitalo chifukwa mwanayo akulira. Komabe, palibe amene ali ndimaganizo ake oyenera nthawi ya 2:00 a.m. Mumasowa tulo, simupsa mtima, ndipo mwina mukungofuna kuti mugonenso. M'malo moyesa kudziwa momwe mungathetseretu vutoli, ganizirani zomwe mungachite pakadali pano usiku uno. Ino si nthawi yokambirana kusiyana kwakukulu pakulera kwanu ndi mnzanu. Ino ndi nthawi yoti mwana wanu agonenso kuti mugone.
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2. Musayembekezere zinthu zomwe sizingatheke
Anthu adzakuwuzani pasadakhale za momwe kusangalalira kukhala kholo ndikukhalira. Koma anthu amakonda kuchepetsa kuchuluka kwa ntchito komanso kupsinjika komwe kumachitika mchaka choyamba kuti mwana akhalebe ndi moyo. Zomwe mukuyembekezera chaka choyamba zisakhale kuti "mwana wanga azilankhula ziganizo zonse" kapena ngakhale "mwana wanga azikhala akugona usiku wonse". Awa ndi malingaliro abwino komanso chiyembekezo koma kwa mabanja ambiri, izi sizowona. Chifukwa chake onetsetsani kuti zoyembekeza zanu ndizotheka kapena zochepa. Chiyembekezo chenicheni cha chaka choyamba ndi chakuti aliyense adzapulumuka. Ndikudziwa kuti izi zimawoneka ngati zopanda pake chifukwa cha zomwe mabwalo onse ndi mabuku olera amalalikira koma ngati chiyembekezo chanu chokha cha chaka choyamba ndikupulumuka ndiye kuti mudzasiya chaka choyamba mukumva kuti mwakwanitsa ndikudzinyadira.
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3. Musamadziyerekezere ndi a Insta-amayi
Social media yachita ntchito yayikulu yolumikizira ife ndi ena. Makolo atsopano nthawi zambiri amakhala otalikirana kuposa ena, amakhudzidwa kwambiri kuposa ena, ndipo amakonda kuyerekezera. Chifukwa chake ndikosavuta kugwera mu dzenje lamdima lomwe ndi malo ochezera. Kumbukirani kuti anthu pawailesi yakanema amawonetsa mtundu wawo wabwino ndipo nthawi zambiri zanema sizowona. Chifukwa chake yesetsani kuti musadzifananitse ndi amayi a Insta omwe akuwoneka kuti ali nazo zonse ndi chovala chake chofananira, zokolola zakomweko, ndi mkaka wa m'mawere wa Stella.
4. Kumbukirani kuti zonse ndizakanthawi
Ziribe kanthu zomwe zimachitika chaka choyamba, ndi zakanthawi. Kaya mwana sagona usiku wonse, mwanayo ali ndi chimfine, kapena mumamva ngati simunakhale kunja kwa nyumba yanu masiku angapo. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zovutazi nazonso zidzadutsa. Kenako mudzagona usiku wonse, ndipo pamapeto pake mudzatha kutuluka m'nyumba. Mutha kudzakwanitsa kuti tsiku lina muzidya chakudya chamadzulo ndi mnzanu pamene mwana wanu adakali maso akusewera mwakachetechete pabalaza! Nthawi zabwino zibweranso; muyenera kungokhala oleza mtima.
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Lingaliro lazinthu zakanthawi limagwiranso ntchito munthawi zabwino ngakhale. Mwana wanu amangokhala khanda kwakanthawi. Chifukwa chake yesani kupeza zinthu zokondwerera mchaka choyamba. Yesetsani kupeza zinthu zomwe mumakonda kuchita ndi mwana wanu ndikujambula zithunzi zambiri. Zithunzi za nthawi zosangalala zidzakondedwa m'zaka zikubwerazi pamene mwana wanu sadzakufunsaninso. Zithunzi izi zidzasangalalanso ngati simunagone usiku wonse chifukwa mwanayo akumenyetsa mano ndipo mufunika kuti munditenge kuti ndidzikumbutse kuti mukugwira ntchito yabwino.
5. Dzisamalire wekha
Kudzisamalira tokha kumasintha tikakhala makolo oyamba. Miyezi yoyamba ija, kudzisamalira sikuwoneka ngati momwe zimawonekera kale ndi masiku a spa, usiku, kapena kugona. Kudzisamalira kumasintha mukakhala kholo latsopano. Ngakhale zinthu zofunika kwambiri monga kudya, kugona, kusamba, kapena kusamba kubafa zimakhala zosangalatsa. Chifukwa chake yesani kuchita zinthu zofunika izi. Yesetsani kusamba tsiku lililonse, kapena tsiku lina lililonse ngati zingatheke. Gonani pamene mwana wanu amagona. Ndikudziwa kuti uphungu uwu ukhoza kukwiyitsa chifukwa umadziuza wekha "chabwino ndikatsuka liti, kudya mbale, kukonzekera chakudya". Chinthuchi ndikuti miyezo yonseyi imasinthika mukakhala kholo latsopano. Palibe vuto kukhala ndi nyumba yosokonekera, kuyitanitsa chakudya chamadzulo, kapena kuyitanitsa zovala zamkati zatsopano ku Amazon chifukwa mulibe nthawi yochapa zovala. Kugona ndi kupumula kudzakhala ngati mpweya womwe mumapuma kuti mupeze nawo momwe mungathere.
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6. Landirani thandizo
Upangiri wanga womaliza ndikuvomera thandizo. Ndikudziwa kuti polankhula pagulu simukufuna kuti mukhale ngati olemetsa kapena osowa koma chaka choyamba chokhala kholo ndichosiyana. Ngati wina akufuna kuthandiza, ingonena kuti "inde chonde". Akafunsa kuti "tibweretse chiyani" akhale owona mtima! Ndapempha anzanga kuti ayime ndi Target kuti agule pacifiers, banja kuti libweretse chakudya chamadzulo ngati akubwera, ndipo ndidafunsa apongozi anga ngati angangokhala ndi mapasa anga kuti ndikasambe mtendere. Tengani chilichonse chomwe mungapeze! Sindinamvepo wina akudandaula za izi kwa ine. Anthu amakonda kufuna kukhala othandizira kwa inu; makamaka mchaka choyamba chija.
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Ndikukhulupirira kuti malangizowa angakuthandizeni inu ndi mnzanuyo kupulumuka chaka choyamba chokhala kholo. Monga kholo la mapasa a anyamata / atsikana azaka ziwiri, ndikudziwa kuti chaka choyamba ndi chovuta bwanji. Mudzatsutsidwa m'njira zomwe simunaganizire koma nthawi imadutsa mwachangu ndipo pali zinthu zazing'ono zomwe mungachite kuti muzikumbukira chaka choyamba mosangalala. Pokhudzana ndi kukhala kholo, masiku amatha kuwoneka ngati amakhala kwanthawizonse, koma zaka zimadutsa.