Zamkati
- 1. Wapadera chibwenzi tsiku malingaliro
- 2. Khalani osasinthasintha
- 3. Palibe chifukwa chokwera mtengo kapena chowonjezera
- 4. Konzani zopulumuka zazing'ono usiku
Mukufuna malingaliro olimbikitsa komanso okondana kuti wokondedwa wanu asungunuke? Musayang'anenso kwina!
Akatswiri amagawana upangiri wawo wazabwino pamalingaliro osangalatsa a masiku oti maanja apititse patsogolo chibwenzi.
Mosasamala kanthu kuti mwakhala ndi bae wanu nthawi yayitali bwanji, zimafunika kugwira ntchito kuti chilakolakocho chikhale cholimba. Kuti mulimbikitse ubale wanu muyenera kupanga malingaliro achikondi oti munene kuti "Ndimakukondani" ndi pensulo munthawi yamadzulo ndi anzanu ena ofunika.
Ndibwino kukonzekera madeti anu ndikuwayika pa kalendala, nthawi isanakwane kuti mupewe zopangira mphindi zomaliza.
Yatsani ndi malingaliro osangalatsa achikondi awa aukwati!
1. Wapadera chibwenzi tsiku malingaliro
Aliyense ali ndi malingaliro ake apadera pazinthu zomwe zingawapangitse kudzimva apadera.
Nazi malingaliro:
- Ena amakonda kuvala chakudya chamadzulo pamalo odyera omaliza m'tawuni.
- Kudabwitsidwa ndi china chake pamatchati monga kugona usiku kapena kuyendetsa galimoto kumatha kukopa chidwi cha ena.
- Ndipo pali omwe angasankhe zocheperako koma zolimbitsa thupi ngati pikisheni pabalaza pounikira makandulo.
- Kuyenda mochedwa masana, kudzera m'nkhalango, mozungulira nyanja kapena malo ena ndi cholinga changakhale tikiti nawonso.
Ziribe kanthu kuti deti lenileni limawoneka bwanji, zikhala zopambana ngati onse awiri amadziona kuti ndi apadera, oyikidwa patsogolo ndikusamalidwa mwanjira ina.
Kungakhale kothandiza kufunsa zomwe mnzanu kapena wokonda chidwi angakonde. Kumbukirani kuti anthu amamva kukondedwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana.
Lisa Brookes Kift, Wokwatirana ndi Wothandizira Banja
2. Khalani osasinthasintha
Ah, zachikondi, kumbukirani nthawi yomwe mudali ndi ziwirizi?
Nthawi zambiri, pakapita nthawi, timasokonezedwa ndi moyo, kukhala omasuka pamoyo wathu, kugwera pachizolowezi.
Nawa malingaliro anga abwinobwino atsiku lachikondi kwa maanja kuti abwezeretse chilakolako chomwe anali nacho pomwe anali pachibwenzi.
Pambuyo pazaka zopitilira 20 takhala limodzi, ine ndi mwamuna wanga tithandizabe kuti chikondi chikhalebe chamoyo popanga nthawi yochezera sabata limodzi kukhala patsogolo.
Nawa maupangiri anga achikondi kwa mabanja:
- Khalani ndi nyimbo: Nyimbo ndi zamphamvu. Pangani playlist ya inu nokha. Idzakhazikitsa malingaliro ndikukhala uthenga wachinsinsi pakati pa awiri anu. Nthawi yomwe mamuna wanga amasewera nyimbo pamndandanda wathu womwe ndimasewera ndimamwetulira ndikuganiza za mausiku athu!
- Tulukani mnyumba: Ngakhale atakhala ola limodzi, kamodzi pa sabata achoke mnyumba nonse. Mutagwira ntchito nthawi yayitali, ndizovuta kuyimilira ndikuyang'ana pa zachikondi kunyumba ndi zododometsa zonse.
- Bwererani kumene mudayambira: Mukakhala limodzi kwakanthawi mutha kulowa mosavuta. Pangani cholinga chanu kuti mupeze njira "zokumbukira liti" ndikubwezeretsanso.
- Bwerezani madeti anu oyamba: Mukufuna kukumbukira momwe zidakhalira kale? Bwerezani zina zamasiku anu akale ndikukumbukira za nthawi zabwino.
- Khalani alendo: Onani malo limodzi mtawuni yanu - yesani kuyenda, kupalasa njinga, ngakhale maulendo amtunda. Groupon ndi malo abwino kwambiri amalingaliro am'deralo ndi kuchotsera. Mzinda uliwonse uli ndi mbiri ndi zochitika zomwe anthu wamba nthawi zambiri amaiwala kapena samadziwa.
- Tengani ulendo wosangalala wa ola limodzi: Mukufuna zosiyanasiyana? Pitani ku maola osangalala kuzungulira tawuni. Yesani malo osiyana sabata iliyonse kapena pezani zomwe mumakonda ndikuitanitsa zatsopano nthawi iliyonse.
- Pitani kumisonkhano: Bweretsani chikondicho pokumbukira gulu lanu lakale. Magulu ambiri agwirizananso kapena sanasiye kuyendera.
- Pangani masewera anu: Bowling, golfing yaying'ono, dziwe lowombera, kukwera miyala, malingaliro ochepa chabe pamaulendo omwe si achichepere ndi makumi awiri okha, koma azikupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu opambana ndipo ndiabwino kulola kukambirana.
- Yendetsani ngolo ya gofu: Pali china chake chokhudza kukondana ndikudutsa pabwalo la gofu, ndiye kokongola, kotseguka komanso chete, koyenera kukondana.
Victorya Michaels Rogers, Wophunzitsa Zachikondi ndi Moyo
3. Palibe chifukwa chokwera mtengo kapena chowonjezera
Pali umboni wotsimikizira kuti kuchita zinthu zatsopano ndikugawana zochitika limodzi kumatulutsa mankhwala abwino monga oxytocin omwe amakhudzana ndi chisangalalo chachikulu komanso chisangalalo.
Nawa malingaliro:
- Kulawa kwa vinyo kapena kupanga mowa mwaukatswiri
- Kukwera mapiri, kukwera miyala, chilichonse chowonera chilengedwe chitha kugwira ntchito!
- Kuphika m'kalasi, utoto, ziwiya zadothi - sungani manja anu.
- Pitani kumsika wa mlimi kapena mumsewu mumsewu wina womwe simunakhalepo nawo.
- Zikondwerero zaulere pakiyi
Awa ndi malingaliro ochepa chabe kuti muyambe.
Cholinga ndikuti mupange nthawi yosasokonezedwa, yam'manja yam'manja yogwiritsira ntchito kukumbutsa wokondedwa wanu momwe mungakhalire osangalatsa, osangalatsa komanso mwayi uliwonse.
Sangalalani!
Chidziwitso Dana McNeil, MA, LMFT
4. Konzani zopulumuka zazing'ono usiku
Chimodzi mwazomwe ndimakonda ndikuwona hotelo usiku ndikudya ndi zakumwa zisanachitike.
Ndizosangalatsa makamaka kwa maanja omwe ali ndi ana koma makamaka kwa banja lililonse. Momwemo hoteloyo sikadakhala komwe munthu amakhala.
Izi zimapangitsa kuti azimva kuti palibe.
Maonekedwe, mawonekedwe ndi zokongoletsa za hotelo ndichinthu chosiyana kwambiri ndi nyumba imodzi kapena malo wamba.
- Kuwononga nthawi pachilichonse ndikwabwino nthawi zonse. Ngakhale tsiku limodzi kapena sabata.
- Ndimakonda zokambirana zingapo kapena zobwerera. Posachedwa ine ndi amuna anga tidakhala Loweruka ndi Lamlungu masana mu malo ophunzitsira mabanja. Masiku anali otsegulira kulumikizana komanso kukondana. Titamaliza kalasi tsiku lililonse, tinkayenda kuzungulira mzinda ndikudya chakudya chamadzulo pamalo opanda phokoso, achikondi. Zinali zabwino.
- M'nyengo yotentha, ndimakondanso kukhala ndi pikisiki m'chilengedwe, tonsefe.
- Bar yolumphira limodzi ndiyosangalatsa ndipo imatha kukhala yosangalatsa.
Irina Firstein, LCSW
Kutenga komaliza
Ngakhale malingaliro am'masiku ano amakhala abwino pobwezeretsa chisangalalo muubwenzi wanu, pamafunika kuleza mtima, kudzipereka komanso luso kuti mulumikizane kwambiri ndi mnzanu.
Kungakhale lingaliro labwino kusakanikirana modzidzimutsa m'masiku anu ausiku osalola kuti kukakamizidwa kwambiri ndikukonzekera kukusokonezeni.
Cholinga ndikuti muwonetse mnzanu nthawi yabwino ndikuwadziwitseni kuti sanasiyidwe pomwe moyo unachitikira nonse awiri!