Zamkati
- 1. Ndinkasungulumwa komanso ndinkasowa wocheza naye
- 2. Zomwe amachita ndi ntchito
- 3. Zinandipangitsa kudzidalira ndikufunidwa
- 4. Anayamba wabera
- 5. Ndinkafunika njira yopulumukira m'banja langa losasangalala
- 6. Sindinakonzekere
- Momwe mungadziwire ngati mkazi akunyenga
- Osaphunzira movutikira, chifukwa chiyani azimayi amabera
Ngati mukukhulupirirabe kuti ndi abambo ambiri omwe amabera mayeso, mukunena zowona, koma chowonadi ndichakuti masiku ano kusakhulupirika pakati pa akazi kuli ponseponse.
M'malo mwake, kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti pafupifupi 14% ya azimayi okwatiwa amabera amuna awo pomwe ziwerengero za amuna zili pafupifupi 22%. Izi zikuyankha, azimayi amabera kangati.
Ngakhale amuna ndi akazi amadziwika kuti amachita zachinyengo, nthawi zambiri zifukwa zawo zimasiyanirana kwambiri. Tiyeni tiwone chifukwa chachikulu chosakhulupirika chachikazi komanso kusakhulupirika kwa amuna.
Kwa amuna, nthawi zambiri imangoyang'ana pa zosangalatsa zakuthupi, pomwe azimayi amayang'ana kwambiri zaubwenzi wapamtima.
Izi zimabweretsa funso, nchiyani chimapangitsa azimayi kunyenga abwenzi awo?
Nkhaniyi ifotokoza zina mwazifukwa zomwe amayi amapereka pobera. Werengani kuti mudziwe zifukwa zenizeni zomwe akazi okwatiwa amabera.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake akazi amakhala ndi zochitika
1. Ndinkasungulumwa komanso ndinkasowa wocheza naye
Kwa mkazi, kukhala wosungulumwa ngakhale ali wokwatiwa kumawoneka ngati kukhumudwitsidwa kwakukulu.
Kodi simukwatira kuti mukhale ndi bwenzi lapamtima nthawi zonse, ndikuti musadzafunenso kusungulumwa?
Zachisoni sizimakhala choncho nthawi zonse, chifukwa chake ichi mwina ndichimodzi mwazifukwa zazikulu zomwe amayi amapezera chitonthozo kwina.
Pakakhala kusowa chidwi komanso kukondana muukwati ndiye njira yakusakhulupirika.
Mzimayi yemwe alibe chibwenzi amafunika kukumana nacho mwachikondi, kukhudza thupi, kusamalira m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo, amakhala pachiwopsezo chachikulu.
Ngati bambo wina wachikondi abwera ndikuyamba kumumvera chisoni, kumusamalira, ndi kumuyamikira momwe angafunire, atha kulowa nawo pachiwopsezo chomwe chitha kukhala nthawi yakuthupi.
2. Zomwe amachita ndi ntchito
Nthawi zina amuna amatha kuganiza kuti bola ngati agwira ntchito molimbika ndikubweretsa ndalama zothandizira moyo wabwino, akazi awo ayenera kukhala osangalala nazo. Kupatula apo, ndi chiyani china chomwe mkazi angafune?
Kwenikweni, zambiri!
Ngati mwamuna abwera mochedwa kunyumba tsiku lililonse ndipo watopa kwambiri kuti sangakhale ndi mayankho apamtima ndi mkazi wake, mwina posachedwa apeza kuti mkaziyo wakhumudwa, wataya ntchito komanso watalikirana.
Mwamuna akamagwira ntchito mopitirira muyeso, mwina amangogwira ntchito kuti apewe kukondana ndi mkazi wake komanso banja.
Kupatula apo, monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, kutengeka mtima ndikomwe kumakhudza mkazi. Momwemonso, amuna akamagwira ntchito nthawi zonse, mkazi amakhala chandamale chachikulu pa chibwenzi.
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3. Zinandipangitsa kudzidalira ndikufunidwa
Ndizodziwika bwino kuti amayi ambiri amavutika ndi kudzidalira komanso kusadzidalira.
Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zambiri za izi ndipo nthawi zambiri zimakhazikika muubwana mwanjira ina.
Zitha kukhudza aliyense, ngakhale azimayi okongola, osiririka komanso odziwa ntchito nthawi zina amadzimva osasangalatsa komanso osachita bwino.
Maganizo olakwikawa angakulitsidwe ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu yemwe saganizira kapena kufunafuna kapena kuzunza kapena kunyoza.
Kenako lingalirani ngati mnzake wokongola wogwira naye ntchito azindikira (ndikupangitsa kuti adziwe kuti akuwona) mikhalidwe yabwino ya mayi woteroyo.
Kudzidalira komanso kudzimva wosafunika kumatha kuledzera, monga chakudya chophika kunyumba kwa munthu wanjala.
Amayi ambiri amakhala ndi zochitika chifukwa zimawapangitsa kuti azimva bwino ngati kuti ndiwokongola ndikufunidwa ndi winawake, ndipo zimawonjezera chidaliro chawo.
4. Anayamba wabera
Chifukwa chake tsopano tafika pa mawu ochepa oyipa omwe amatchedwa 'kubwezera' chomwe ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zazikulu zomwe amayi amabera amuna awo.
Amuna ananyenga ndipo anazindikira.
Ululuwo unali wopweteka kwambiri, kuperekedwa, maola ndi maola obwezera chidziwitso chilichonse chomwe adachiphonya, komanso manyazi ndi kunyozedwa komwe adamva, kuti mwanjira ina samalinso okwanira.
Koma adalapa ndipo adaganiza zokhalanso patali ndikupitiliza.
Adaganiza kuti adaziika kumbuyo kwake, koma nthawi zonse zimawoneka ngati zikubisalira kumbuyo kwa malingaliro ake kenako adakumana ndi bambo wokongola ameneyu ndipo amangowoneka ngati 'dinani' kuyambira tsiku loyamba, amamumvetsetsa ngati hubby sanakhalepo.
Chinthu chimodzi chidatsogolera ku china, ndipo nthawi yonseyi amadziuza yekha, "Chabwino, adayamba wabera - ngati angathe, inenso ndingatero."
5. Ndinkafunika njira yopulumukira m'banja langa losasangalala
Amayi ena amaganiza kuti ngati ali ndi chibwenzi chidzagwira ntchito ngati njira yothetsera banja losasangalala komanso losavomerezeka.
Sitima yawo yaukwati ikumira, chotero asanadzipezere okha m'madzi ozizira osakwatira osakwatiwa, amalumphira sitimayo ndikunyengana ndi munthu wina.
Izi zitha kutha ndi cholinga chothetsera ukwati wawo koma zikuyenera kupangitsa kuti yemwe akumukondayo awone kuti wagwiritsidwa ntchito.
Chibwenzi chikhozanso kukhala kufuulira thandizo, kuyesa kuwonetsa mwamuna wosamvera momwe mavuto amakhalira m'banja, ndikuyembekeza kuti atha kusintha ndikupeza thandizo.
Pali njira zambiri zothetsera mavuto m'banja, koma kukhala pachibwenzi sikuyenera kukhala kwabwino.
6. Sindinakonzekere
Pali mwambi wanzeru womwe umati, "Ngati mulephera kukonzekera, ndiye kuti mukulephera."
Izi ndizowona makamaka pankhani yakukhala ndi banja losangalala.
Pokhapokha mutakonzekera kugwiritsa ntchito bwino ubale wanu ndi mnzanu, kuzipereka zonse zomwe muli nazo ndikusaka njira zomwe mungalimbikitsire mgwirizano wanu, popita nthawi mutha kusiya.
Ingoganizirani ngati munda: patsiku lanu laukwati dimba lanu linali lokongola komanso lopanda banga, lokhala ndi mabedi amaluwa pachimake, udzu wokonzedwa bwino komanso mitengo yazipatso yodzaza zipatso.
Koma nthawi ndi nyengo zimadutsa, munanyalanyaza dimba, munasiya udzu usaname, simunavutike kupalira kapena kuthirira maluwa, lolani zipatso zakupsa zigwere pansi.
Mwina mukuganiza kuti mvula ndi mphepo zingakuchitireni ntchitoyi? Ayi, monga china chilichonse chofunikira pamoyo, ukwati ndi ntchito yovuta.
Ndi ntchito yabwino komanso yopindulitsa, komabe imagwirabe ntchito, ndipo nonse muyenera kukhala odzipereka kwathunthu.
Ngati sichoncho, chibwenzi 'chitha kungochitika' ndipo munganene kuti, "Sizinakonzeke."
Momwe mungadziwire ngati mkazi akunyenga
Mukapeza chitonthozo m'manja mwa mkazi wamaloto anu, chinthu chomaliza chomwe mukufuna kuchita ndikuyang'ana zifukwa zomwe azimayi amabera kapena zizindikilo za mkazi wofunafuna zinthu.
Komabe, kuphatikiza pakuwunika pazifukwa zomwe zafotokozedwa munkhaniyi zomwe zikugwirizana, "ndichifukwa chiyani amai amabera chinyengo", ndikofunikira kuti muzidziwe bwino zomwe mkazi wanu akukunyengani ndikuwonetsetsa mbendera zofiira izi muubwenzi wanu .
Kudziwa kuti mnzanu akukuchitirani zopweteka, koma mungakonde kudziwa chowonadi m'malo mokhala mukuiwala. Kulondola?
Sitikulimbikitsani kuti mupite kwa nyukiliya kwa mnzanu, powaganizira kuti akukunyengani popanda chifukwa chilichonse. Komabe, ngati mukuwona kuti china chake chatha ndipo ubalewo ungathamange pansi, kuwerengetsa zonena kuti kubera kumatha kukhala kothandiza.
Zikuwonekeratu kuti mkazi wanu kapena bwenzi lanu akunyengani
- Ngati watuluka kunja kwa chibwenzicho, amenya nkhondo pafupipafupi
- Amasamala za chinsinsi chake chogwiritsa ntchito foni pamaso panu
- Amangokhalira kukambirana zakukhala pachibwenzi chosasangalala
- Mwadzidzidzi amada nkhawa kwambiri ndi mawonekedwe ake ndi mawonekedwe ake
- Amakuwonetsani kuti ndi wolakwa
- Amakhala nthawi yayitali kutali ndi inu
- Amapewa kucheza nanu
- Mbiri yake yapa media media sikuwonetsa zithunzi za banja lanu
- Samakuphatikizani pamaulendo ake, kulikonse
- Chibwenzi chanu chadzaza ubwenzi
Osaphunzira movutikira, chifukwa chiyani azimayi amabera
Kwa amuna omwe amawerenga nkhaniyi ndikukhala ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zambiri zakubera kwachinyengo kwa akazi, kapena chifukwa chiyani azimayi amakhala ndi zochitika zikawoneka ngati banja losangalala, malo abwino oyambira ndikumvetsetsa amayi.
Kuti mumvetsetse zifukwa zomwe zimathandizira kufotokozera zovuta zomwe amai amakhala nazo paukwati komanso kukhulupirika kwanthawi yayitali, ndikulimbikitsidwa kuti amuna awerenge Kusakhulupirika kwa Akazi: Kukhala Ku Limbo: Zomwe Akazi Amatanthauza Akamati "Sindikusangalala.
Bukuli limalowerera mkati mwamaganizidwe azimayi osakhulupirika ndikuyankha mafunso ofunika monga, chifukwa chiyani azimayi amabera, zomwe zimachitika m'malingaliro amkazi kunyenga mwamuna, komanso chifukwa chomwe akazi amabera amuna abwino omwe amapereka bata ndi kutsimikizika kwachikhalidwe kwa iwo.
Chifukwa chiyani azimayi amabera? Mzimayi aliyense ali ndi zifukwa zosiyanasiyana zakusokonekera kwake.
Funso, chifukwa chiyani azimayi amabera mayeso amadzetsa mayankho osiyanasiyana.
Chibwenzi chikasokoneza chibwenzi, nkuchisiya m'miyala, kuwonongeka kwake kumachitika kwambiri.
Koma, kuti chibwenzi chikule bwino osafa, ndikofunikira kuti mumvetsetse zomwe zimayendetsa mkazi kuti azilumikizana ndi mwamuna wina.
Osadikira kuti muphunzire movutikira, chifukwa chiyani azimayi amabera.
Khalani othandizana naye pachibwenzi yemwe angatengepo kanthu kuti asinthe nkhaniyo pongokumbukira chifukwa chomwe amai amabera mayeso komanso zomwe angachite kuti athetse kusakhulupirika m'banja.
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