Zamkati
- 1. Kufunsa mafunso
- 2. Tumizani uthenga
- 3. Chotsatira ndi kukambirana kwakukulu
- 4. Onetsetsani zomwe mwakumana nazo
Tivomerezane, patatha miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi kapena zaka 25 maanja ambiri amachoka pachibwenzi chosangalatsa ndikukhala osungulumwa. Kusakwanira. Kukhumudwa.
Nawa mafungulo anayi apamwamba okuthandizani kuwonjezera zonunkhira ndi chisangalalo kubwerera m'moyo wanu wogonana womwe mwina ukusowa kwa miyezi yambiri, komanso zaka zoyipa kwambiri.
1. Kufunsa mafunso
Ndi liti pamene mudamufunsa mnzanu zomwe akufuna pa zomwe mwakumana nazo? Kodi ndi liti pamene mudatumizira iwo imelo kapena imelo makamaka, zomwe ndizothandiza kwambiri kuposa kuyankhula pamasom'pamaso, ndikuwafunsa zomwe angafune kuchita mosiyana ndi chibwenzi? Pankhani yogonana?
Zimandidabwitsa ndikagwira ntchito ndi maanja omwe ali otopa kwambiri ndi moyo wawo wogonana, ndi angati a iwo asiya kufunsa mafunso ofunikira kwambiri omwe ndangowatchula pamwambapa.
Ndipo nchifukwa ninji zili choncho? Chabwino nambala wani, pali mkwiyo. Kusunga chakukhosi kumabweretsa chibwenzi nthawi zonse. Mabanja ambiri, ndikawafunsa kuti afotokoze zakukhosi kwawo, amatseka nthawi yomweyo. Sizochititsa manyazi. Si kulakwa.Safuna kuyankhula pamaso pa okondedwa awo zaubwenzi, komanso zomwe amafuna chifukwa amakwiya kwambiri pazinthu zomwe sanasamalirepo.
Chifukwa chake ngati muli m'modzi mwa anthuwa, ngati mungagwere m'gulu lomwe simumaganiziranso zakugonana chifukwa muli ndi mkwiyo wochuluka, muyenera kugwira ntchito ndi mlangizi, mtumiki kapena mphunzitsi wamoyo kuti muchotse kukwiya koyamba. Khwerero 1. Ngati simukuchita izi? Palibe, ndipo ndikutanthauza kuti palibe chomwe chidzasinthe.
2. Tumizani uthenga
Tsopano poganiza kuti mwagwira kale ntchitoyi ndipo mulibe chakukhosi ngati mungakhumudwe, tibwerere ku zomwe ndanena pamwambapa. Tumizani imelo, kapena lemberani mnzanu lero, osati mawa, osati Lamlungu, koma lero ndipo muwafunse zomwe zikusowa pa moyo wawo wogonana ndi inu. Tiyeni tiwone ngati angaike pangozi yotseguka komanso yosatetezeka ndikupatseni kiyi wazomwe akufuna kuti moyo wanu wapamtima ukhale wosangalatsa.
Pawekha, ndikufuna kuti mutumize imelo kapena mameseji kwa mnzanu kuwauza zomwe mumakonda pamoyo wanu wapamtima. Kodi ndimomwe amapsompsona? Kodi ndi momwe amakugwirira dzanja? Kapena amakukumbatirana bwanji pamene ukupita kuntchito?
Kuyambitsa kulumikizana kwanu motere ndikofunikira kwambiri. Mtundu uwu wa imelo kapena mawu amatsegula chitseko cha gawo lotsatirali.
Ndiye mukawauza zomwe mumakonda pazomwe mumakumana nazo, pang'onopang'ono yambani kuwafotokozera zomwe mukufuna kuchita kuwonjezera pa zomwe amachita bwino kale.
Ndipo nenani mosapita m'mbali. Musawasiye akuganiza. Osanena zinthu monga "Ndikufuna kukhala ndiubwenzi wapamtima nanu", sizitanthauza kanthu.
Muyenera kukhala pachiwopsezo kuti mupeze china chachikulu m'moyo. Chifukwa chake mutha kuwauza kuti "Ndikufuna kukhala nanu pafupi kwambiri, zomwe zikutanthauza kubwerera ku nthawi yomwe tidakumana ndikupanga chibwenzi katatu pamlungu." Tsopano mwatumiza kena kake kuti azikulunga mitu yawo mukakhala pansi kuti mukambirane zowonjezera zonunkhira m'moyo wanu wapamtima.
3. Chotsatira ndi kukambirana kwakukulu
Mukasinthana maimelo ndikutumizirana mameseji, yomwe ndi njira yabwino kuyambira kuwonjezera zonunkhira m'moyo wanu wapamtima, tsopano tiyenera kukhala pansi ndikukumana wina ndi mnzake kuti tikambirane za mayanjanowo.
Izi ziyenera kuchitika nthawi zonse kunja kwa chipinda chogona. Osati panthawi yogonana, osati atangogonana chifukwa tonse tili pachiwopsezo chachikulu munthawiyo.
Auzeni kuti mukufuna kupita kokayenda kuti mukalankhule zakukulitsa moyo wanu wapamtima. Kapena khalani kukhitchini ndi kapu ya khofi ndikungokambirana mwamwayi komwe mukufuna kupita. Musanalankhulepo, afunseni kuti akhale omasuka, chonde asakutsekereni, kuti ngati sakugwirizana ndi zomwe munganene akhoza kungonena zomwe sizikumveka, m'malo mokusekani kapena kutseka kwathunthu malingaliro omwe mungakhale nawo.
Ndapeza ndi mabanja ambiri gawo ili lazokambirana lingalimbikitsidwe kwambiri pogwira ntchito ndi katswiri. Posachedwa, ndinali ndi mwayi wothandiza banja lina ku California pa Skype lomwe linali ndi mavuto apamtima. Onse anali otopa. Koma onse adadzazidwa ndi mkwiyo. Tikachotsa mkwiyo panjira, ndipo tidakhala nawo onse awiri pa Skype pagawo lawo, anali omasuka kuyankha mafunso omwe ndidawapatsa. Izi zidachotsanso manyazi ena kuti akhale mtsogoleri pakukambirana.
4. Onetsetsani zomwe mwakumana nazo
Kodi mudamuuzako mnzanuyo kuti mukayamba kulamulira zochitika zomwe mumafuna kugawana nawo madzulo ano? Kodi mudawatumizirako foni yonena kuti "mukafika kunyumba usikuuno, ndikufuna kuti mutseke maso ndikungolowa kuchipinda? Ndikugwira dzanja kuti usalowe mumakoma aliwonse, koma ndili wokondwa kwambiri ndi zomwe ndakukonzera.
M'chipinda chodyera kale muli ndi makandulo, mwina ma silika kapena ma satin, ndi nyimbo zofewa zomwe zimasewera kumbuyo.
Tsopano pali mabanja ena omwe ayang'ana njira zinayi zomwe zanenedwa ndikunena kuti ndizoyambira kuwonjezera zonunkhira m'mabanja awo. Koma palibe chiweruzo pano. Ngati zomwe zili pamwambazi ndizofatsa, pitani mwanjira yanu.
Koma ngati mukufuna kuyambira kwinakwake, ngati mwatopetsa ndipo mukudziwa kuti mukufuna thandizo kuti mukhazikitsenso moyo wokondana kwambiri, njira zinayi izi zikuthandizani.
Ndikuganiza kuti chinsinsi ndicho kuzindikira kuti mukufuna thandizo ndikulipempha. Pali alangizi ambiri ndi othandizira ngati ine padziko lonse lapansi omwe ali okondwa kukuthandizani kuti mupezenso chisangalalo chomwe mudali nacho mutayamba chibwenzi kapena ukwati. Osadikira. Lero ndi tsiku loti mugwire dzanja lanu pamtima ndi mnzanuyo ... Ndipo muwatsogolere ku Njira yakukondana kwambiri komanso yolumikizana. ”