Zamkati
- Kuopa kukanidwa
- Zotsatira zamaganizidwe akukanidwa
- Momwe mungathetsere mantha owakanidwa
- 1. Kugwira ntchito
- 2. Ubwenzi
- 3. Kukondana
- Kuthana ndi mantha okanidwa
- 1. Kanani malingaliro okhutiritsa okha
- 2. Kuyeserera kukhala tcheru pang'onopang'ono
- 3. Siyani kukhala wovutitsidwa
Kukana ndi mapiritsi owawa kwambiri kuti mumumeze, koma mwatsoka, ambiri aife tidamwa.
Kaya inali yantchito yomwe tidapempha osapeza kapena kukoleji tidapereka fomu yathu koma sanalandiridwe; pafupifupi tonsefe tidakumana ndi kukanidwa.
Kumva mawu oti ayi komanso osachita nawo chidwi sikumakhala bwino ngakhale mutayang'ana kwambiri mbali yowala.
Kuopa kukanidwa kuli ponseponse kwa aliyense; imaswa mitima yambiri, imakupangitsani kulira ndikupanga mantha mkati mwanu omwe posakhalitsa amakhala mabala ovuta kuchotsa.
Kuopa kukanidwa phobia nthawi zambiri amatchedwa kukana kukhudzidwa m'mabuku a psychology.
Mukamva kuti akukanidwa, zimasokoneza chisangalalo chanu ndi kupambana kwanu. Kupirira kukanidwa sikophweka.
Ndiye, mungatani kuti muchepetse kukanidwa?
Ndi zidule zina zosavuta, kuthana ndi mantha okanidwa kungakhale kosavuta kuti muchite. Chifukwa chake, werengani pansipa kuti mudziwe zonse zakanthawi kopewa kukanidwa komanso momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kuthana ndi kukanidwa.
Kuopa kukanidwa
Zizindikiro ndi zizindikilo zofunika kuziyang'anira:
- Mumazengereza kufotokoza malingaliro anu popeza mumaopa kuweruzidwa ndi kukanidwa
- Mumayesa kufanana monga mukufuna kumva kuti muli m'gulu komanso fuko.
- Mumavutika kudzilimbitsa mwamphamvu komanso sindinganene ayi.
- Mumayamba kudziona kuti ndinu ofunika chifukwa chochezeka, ndichifukwa chake mumatha kukhala osangalatsa anthu
- Mumadzimva kukhala wosakwanira
- Mumangodzinamizira kuti ndinu munthu wina kuti musangalatse ena
- Simumafotokoza mosavuta kusamvana kwanu ndi ena
- Mumadzimva kukhala osungulumwa komanso osakhazikika
- Malingaliro anu nthawi zambiri amayamba kudzida ndi kukhwimitsa, kuganizira mozama za inu nokha
Zotsatira zamaganizidwe akukanidwa
Kuopa kukanidwa ndi zenizeni.
Kukanidwa kumabweretsa zowawa zambiri ndikuwononga thanzi lathu ndikutisiya ndi zowawa zambiri pagulu.
- Kuyankhula kwamaubongo, tikakanidwa, gawo lomwelo laubongo limayamba kugwira ntchito ngati tavulala kapena kupweteka. Kukanidwa sikumapweteka kwenikweni kuposa kupweteka kwakuthupi.
- Kuopa kukanidwa kungalimbikitse kufunikira kokonza zolakwitsa zathu kapena machitidwe olakwika, pochita izi atithandiza kusintha kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino.
- Kukanidwa kumadzetsa mkwiyo mwa anthu ndipo pamapeto pake amatha.
- Kuopa kukanidwa pachibwenzi kumapangitsa anthu kukayikira luso lawo komanso kudzidalira, lkuwatsogolera kunjira yodziwononga.
- Icho zimasokoneza luso lathu lopanga zisankho ndipo kumatsitsa kwakanthawi luntha lathu.
Onaninso:
Momwe mungathetsere mantha owakanidwa
Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, kuopa kukanidwa kuli ndi zovuta zosiyanasiyana komanso mabala am'maganizo omwe amabwera, ndipo musanaphunzire kuthana ndi kuopa kukanidwa, muyenera kudziwa zochitika zitatu zomwe zimakonda kukanidwa.
1. Kugwira ntchito
Tisanayambe kudziwa momwe tingachitire ndi kukanidwa mchikondi kapena maubale, tiyeni tigwere mbali ina yofunika kwambiri pamoyo.
Tiyeni timvetsetse momwe ntchito imagwirira ntchito komanso kukanidwa komwe kumakhudzana ndi malo antchito.
Pankhani yantchito, pali mitundu iwiri yakukana, kukanidwa pagulu, komanso kukanidwa ndi akatswiri.
Izi zimawululidwa mukamawona ngati kuti mwapatsidwa mwayi wokwezedwa kapena simunapatsidwe maudindo okwanira.
Kumbali inayi, mukakumana ndi vuto lakukanidwa, mutha kuvutikanso kuti mugwirizane ndi makasitomala anu ndi anzanu ndikumverera ngati sakucheza nanu kapena kukuyitanani nawo momwe amathera nthawi.
2. Ubwenzi
Mukalowa mabwenzi atsopano, mungamve ngati mukukanidwa, makamaka ngati mukuyesetsa kulumikizana kuposa munthu winayo.
Kapenanso, mutakhala ndi anzanu kwa nthawi yayitali, mungamve ngati anzanu akungokugwiritsirani ntchito zabwino ndikupezerani mwayi popanda kuwabwezera.
Kapenanso mutha kumva ngati kuti mwathamangitsidwa m'gululi kapena simukunyalanyazidwa anzanu onse atakhala limodzi. Kuthana ndi mantha okanidwa munthawi zotere ndizovuta ndipo kumafunikira kulimba mtima.
3. Kukondana
Pankhani yakuopa kukanidwa, kuthana ndi kukanidwa mukamakhala pachibwenzi kumakhala kovuta kwambiri.
Komabe, kuopa kukanidwa muubale ndizofala kwambiri.
Kaya mukulimbana ndi kukanidwa ngati msungwana kapena mnyamata, manyazi ndi kuwawa ndizofanana.
Nthawi zambiri, anthu omwe ali pamaubwenzi osangalala komanso okhalitsa amatha kufunsa mafunso monga momwe angayambitsire zogonana osawopa kukanidwa.
Munthawi yakuopa kukanidwa, mutha kukhala opanda chiyembekezo ndi moyo wachikondi komanso wosafunikira. Kuopa kukanidwa kumeneku kumatha kuchitika chifukwa chosowa kulumikizana.
Komabe, musadandaule, chifukwa zomwe zatchulidwa pansipa ndi maupangiri omwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mantha awa okanidwa mosavuta.
Kuthana ndi mantha okanidwa
1. Kanani malingaliro okhutiritsa okha
Nthawi zonse mukamangoganiza zabodza kuti aliyense angokukanani, mumakhala ndi mwayi wopanga kukanidwa.
Popanda kudziwa, mumakhala mukutumiza zikwangwani zomwe zingakankhire ena ndikuwonjezera mantha anu onse.
Kotero mmalo mochita izi, izo ndikofunikira kuti mulimbane ndi ulosi womwe umadzikwaniritsa pakufuna zisonyezo zakulandila ndipo lembani.
2. Kuyeserera kukhala tcheru pang'onopang'ono
Chomwe chimakonda kwambiri kukanidwa ndichowopsa. Anthu amapewa kuchita zowona ndi mnzake chifukwa zimawapangitsa kukhala omvera komanso osatetezeka.
Pothana ndi kukanidwa, ndikofunikira kuti musayese kupitilizabe kuyenda pamazira osakhazikika kapena kusiya malingaliro anu olakwika.
M'malo mwake, yesetsani kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu komanso malingaliro anu momveka bwino momwe mungathere mwaulemu komanso momveka bwino. Izi zithandizira kuchepetsa mkwiyo womwe ungatsatire kukanidwa.
3. Siyani kukhala wovutitsidwa
Ngati mupitiliza kudziwona kuti ndinu wozunzidwa, zochita zanu zipitiliza kuwonetsa zoyipa zanu.
Komabe, mukasiya kuti mukhale wozunzidwa, mudzayamba kuwona zinthu zabwino zikuchitika ponseponse.
M'malo mongodzimvera chisoni nokha ndi moyo wanu, yang'anani pa zomwe muli nazo; yang'anani pamakhalidwe omwe muli nawo omwe amakulolani kuti mupirire m'moyo.
Pewani kuganizira kwambiri zosankha zakale ndi mikhalidwe yomwe mudapitapo ndikuyesera kuphunzira kuchokera kwa iwo ngati njira ina.
Monga momwe mantha otchuka amakana mawu a Robert Foster Bennett "Sizimadzikana zokha zomwe anthu amawopa, ndizotsatira zakukanidwa."
Mukathetsa kukanidwa kwanu ndikukonzekera kuvomereza zotsatira zake, mudzakhala ndi moyo momasuka.